My husband and I have not had the best relationship. The past two years has been really tough for us, we've had to struggle to make this marriage work. Although we have two kids, My husband talks down on me all the time.

He calls me an ordinary female, a useless creation and believes he owns me. He believes women should not have a freewill and are properties to their husbands. He calls himself my Alpha and omega. I sometimes wish he would hit Me rather than say all sorts to me.
Last week he started as usual. He called me names and Went on to talk about how he would teach me a lesson someday. I really don't know what came over me. I slapped him.

I s.wear it wasn't intentional, I didn't mean to hit him. I thought he would hit me back but he did not. It's been a whole week and he acts like nothing happened. He goes about playing with the kids , he greets me and makes sure we have food to eat too , but it is so unlike him.


My husband always reports to my parents. He tells them everything I do wrong and they always end up calling a meeting. But this time he's silent , he doesn't want sex too which Is so unlike him. I don't know what to do , I feel like he's planning to hurt me really big. I want to call my parents but everyone would blame me. How do I tell the world I slapped my husband?

Yawa..

Now that you have shown him that you are not an ordinary female and that you can slap why do you feel like you just signed your death warrant? You should be happy you have measured your masculinity with his.
Leave that environment before your family discovers your dead body.

sthar:
My husband and I have not had the best relationship. The past two years has been really tough for us, we've had to struggle to make this marriage work. Although we have two kids, My husband talks down on me all the time.

He calls me an ordinary female, a useless creation and believes he owns me. He believes women should not have a freewill and are the properties to their husbands. He calls himself my Alpha and omega. I sometimes wish he would hit Me rather than say all sorts to me.
Last week he started as usual. He called me names and Went on to talk about how he would teach me a lesson someday. I really don't know what came over me. I slapped him.

I s.wear it wasn't intentional, I didn't mean to hit him. I thought he would hit me back but he did not. It's been a whole week and he acts like nothing happened. He goes about playing with the kids , he greets me and makes sure we have food to eat too , but it is so unlike him.


My husband always reports to my parents. He tells them everything I do wrong and they always end up calling a meeting. But this time he's silent , he doesn't want sex too which I'd so unlike him. I don't know what to do , I feel like he's planning to hurt me really big. I want to call my parents but everyone would blame me. How do I tell the world I slapped my husband?

Better go kneel down and apologize to that man. Since he doesn't hit you, you didnt have to hit him. Na mouth he dey use yab you, you sef go use mouth yab am back until e turn stalemate. You said he likes having sex with you, that means he doesn't hate you. All what he says is just probably the way he was brought up to see women. It lies on you to correct his notion and not to slap him.

sthar:
My husband and I have not had the best relationship. The past two years has been really tough for us, we've had to struggle to make this marriage work. Although we have two kids, My husband talks down on me all the time.

He calls me an ordinary female, a useless creation and believes he owns me. He believes women should not have a freewill and are the properties to their husbands. He calls himself my Alpha and omega. I sometimes wish he would hit Me rather than say all sorts to me.
Last week he started as usual. He called me names and Went on to talk about how he would teach me a lesson someday. I really don't know what came over me. I slapped him.

I s.wear it wasn't intentional, I didn't mean to hit him. I thought he would hit me back but he did not. It's been a whole week and he acts like nothing happened. He goes about playing with the kids , he greets me and makes sure we have food to eat too , but it is so unlike him.


My husband always reports to my parents. He tells them everything I do wrong and they always end up calling a meeting. But this time he's silent , he doesn't want sex too which Is so unlike him. I don't know what to do , I feel like he's planning to hurt me really big. I want to call my parents but everyone would blame me. How do I tell the world I slapped my husband?

Madam chill, sometimes slaps reset brain na

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He calls you names
He reports you to your parents
You slapped him
You bring it to Nairaland.

If he was the one who mistakenly slapped you I'm sure you would have burnt the house down.

Seems you are the one with the problem here.
Just apologize very well. You can involve an elderly family member he respects.

sthar:
My husband and I have not had the best relationship. The past two years has been really tough for us, we've had to struggle to make this marriage work. Although we have two kids, My husband talks down on me all the time.

He calls me an ordinary female, a useless creation and believes he owns me. He believes women should not have a freewill and are properties to their husbands. He calls himself my Alpha and omega. I sometimes wish he would hit Me rather than say all sorts to me.
Last week he started as usual. He called me names and Went on to talk about how he would teach me a lesson someday. I really don't know what came over me. I slapped him.

I s.wear it wasn't intentional, I didn't mean to hit him. I thought he would hit me back but he did not. It's been a whole week and he acts like nothing happened. He goes about playing with the kids , he greets me and makes sure we have food to eat too , but it is so unlike him.


My husband always reports to my parents. He tells them everything I do wrong and they always end up calling a meeting. But this time he's silent , he doesn't want sex too which Is so unlike him. I don't know what to do , I feel like he's planning to hurt me really big. I want to call my parents but everyone would blame me. How do I tell the world I slapped my husband?

He’s just feeling less than a man after you hit him...he can’t tell anybody becos of shame...he ddnt see the slap coming.....he knows he has been pushing you naaa..

Initiate a one on one with him... cook his best food and apologize to him that it won’t happen again.

Express your feelings that he has been abusing u emotionally... and your are not happy...

You've been expecting him to hit you which never happened so, you ended up doing the hitting.

The power of the subconscious mind.

Whatever we harbour and nurture in our subconscious, does surely come to fruition in one way or the other.

Let's learn to condition our minds to always think positive.

Your husband is still obviously in shock or the slap did reset his brain to default settings.

Now, you got yourself a brand new model husband.

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He’s just feeling less than a man after you hit him...he can’t tell anybody becos of shame...he ddnt expect it... he knows he has been pushing you naaa..

Initiate a one on one with him... cook his best food and apologize to him that it won’t happen again.

Express your feelings that he has been abusing u emotionally... and your are not happy...

Well put.

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Women..
Can you swear that you haven’t been abusing him too?
You just penned down everything here to justify whatever reason you have in mind for slapping him

Not my business.

A single man is a happy and healthy man. No woman will beat or sleep you in your house.

You both need to work on the relationship, you are both abusive towards each other. My advice is that you call him and genuinely ask for forgiveness,whether he forgive you or not is his to decide.
Then go ahead and tell your family, they cant kill you they will only reprimand you but he will know they are aware of the slap ,incase he tries to play funny.

Lastly control your anger dont let anybody have that type of strong hold/effect on you.

With all d physical and emotional abuse dat i av gone through,i have never raised my hand on a man.hitting a man no matter how far he pushes you is very very wrong.pls leave d relationship jejely if u know dat u cant cope.as it is now,go and BEG your husband!

Even though slapping him was wrong, the fact that you are scared of him tells me that you don't have a husband but live with your enemy.

You two need professional counseling. Your family is highly dysfunctional. He is verbally abusive and you have resorted to violence. Your kids deserve better.

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He’s just feeling less than a man after you hit him...he can’t tell anybody becos of shame...he ddnt see the slap coming.....he knows he has been pushing you naaa..

Initiate a one on one with him... cook his best food and apologize to him that it won’t happen again.

Express your feelings that he has been abusing u emotionally... and your are not happy...

You get sense well, well. @ OP, follow this advice

sthar:
My husband and I have not had the best relationship. The past two years has been really tough for us, we've had to struggle to make this marriage work. Although we have two kids, My husband talks down on me all the time.

He calls me an ordinary female, a useless creation and believes he owns me. He believes women should not have a freewill and are properties to their husbands. He calls himself my Alpha and omega. I sometimes wish he would hit Me rather than say all sorts to me.
Last week he started as usual. He called me names and Went on to talk about how he would teach me a lesson someday. I really don't know what came over me. I slapped him.

I s.wear it wasn't intentional, I didn't mean to hit him. I thought he would hit me back but he did not. It's been a whole week and he acts like nothing happened. He goes about playing with the kids , he greets me and makes sure we have food to eat too , but it is so unlike him.


My husband always reports to my parents. He tells them everything I do wrong and they always end up calling a meeting. But this time he's silent , he doesn't want sex too which Is so unlike him. I don't know what to do , I feel like he's planning to hurt me really big. I want to call my parents but everyone would blame me. How do I tell the world I slapped my husband?

Lower ur Ego and apologize to him.

You don reset his brain to factory settings

Anyways, let me tell you something ma'am....if he has never rejected your sex b4 n now he's doing that, please be careful when you sleep!

The guy is a real Alpha male, you slapped him and you are the one still scared .

Cook good food for him, go on your knees and ask him to fo give you.

He control your mumu remote

When you have a redpiller as a husband

In summary u gave him factory reset slap


Did it sound gwoah?

you got yourself a good husband....if not you will be telling us another different story...


go and apologize..



.

Oga is planning something huge.

You know how predators play with their preys before devouring them?


Something huge dey come.
Something something huge dey come.

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He’s just feeling less than a man after you hit him...he can’t tell anybody becos of shame...he ddnt see the slap coming.....he knows he has been pushing you naaa..

Initiate a one on one with him... cook his best food and apologize to him that it won’t happen again.

Express your feelings that he has been abusing u emotionally... and your are not happy...

You sure hit the nail on the head, OP should do this and see how it goes. He'll probably be looking at the OP and trying to process how & where she got the liver to slap him. I'm sure she didn't do that intentionally, acted on impulse.

Don't waste time to apologise to him. Anever listen to those saying, run for your life.

If you're scared to approach him, you can drop a heartfelt message for him via SMS or possibly WhatsApp. When he's back from work just watch his reaction, if he didn't say anything as early as possible in the morning just go on your knees and beg him and make sure you also tell him how he makes you feel when he do talk you down.
I know he's an intelligent man, he will definitely have a rethink.

austine4real:




In summary u gave him factory reset slap


Did it sound gwoah?

More like kpa but I think it went like tawa!


To the Op just come forward with a sincere apology, he is your husband , you should know what makes him tick.

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He’s just feeling less than a man after you hit him...he can’t tell anybody becos of shame...he ddnt see the slap coming.....he knows he has been pushing you naaa..

Initiate a one on one with him... cook his best food and apologize to him that it won’t happen again.

Express your feelings that he has been abusing u emotionally... and your are not happy...

Best advice
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Apologize to him, but not with food or sex or anything. Just a sincere heartfelt apology should do.

Call him to the room & apologize with tears on your face, if not one day he will just poison your drink & move on with another woman.

But you get mind ooo slapping ur husband. Ur own slap is coming soon.

sthar:
My husband and I have not had the best relationship. The past two years has been really tough for us, we've had to struggle to make this marriage work. Although we have two kids, My husband talks down on me all the time.

He calls me an ordinary female, a useless creation and believes he owns me. He believes women should not have a freewill and are properties to their husbands. He calls himself my Alpha and omega. I sometimes wish he would hit Me rather than say all sorts to me.
Last week he started as usual. He called me names and Went on to talk about how he would teach me a lesson someday. I really don't know what came over me. I slapped him.

I s.wear it wasn't intentional, I didn't mean to hit him. I thought he would hit me back but he did not. It's been a whole week and he acts like nothing happened. He goes about playing with the kids , he greets me and makes sure we have food to eat too , but it is so unlike him.


My husband always reports to my parents. He tells them everything I do wrong and they always end up calling a meeting. But this time he's silent , he doesn't want sex too which Is so unlike him. I don't know what to do , I feel like he's planning to hurt me really big. I want to call my parents but everyone would blame me. How do I tell the world I slapped my husband?

O boy this one is strong o. You're in a very toxic relationship that could end up hurting one or both of you and possibly the kids

You sound like you both have religious and traditional values so let me start by summarizing that your marital vows seem to have been broken. Your husband was given so much authority over you but he was also commanded to love, cherish and be kind to you but instead he's being emotionally abusive. Emotional abuse is as bad or could even be worse than physical abuse because victims often suffer long term consequences without even recognizing it due to absence of physical harm.

To be fair to you at this point, what led to the emotional abuse doesn't matter (for example if you were being rebellious) because you're a victim of domestic abuse. The only place that it matters is during therapy which I strongly advise since it appears you still want to make your marriage work. I also think you both need to be separated for a while so you both can breathe and reflect on yourselves. That toxicity is probably affecting you so much that you had to let it out on his face.

I suggest that you reflect on the situation, and talk to your parents about it by yourself. When you talk to them, take responsibility for your actions and let them understand you were being emotionally abused, they understand what that means and their love for you will help them support and mediate for you even if to them you did "the abominable".

For more information about what constitutes domestic abuse to the UN, read this page: https://www.un.org/en/coronavirus/what-is-domestic-abuse

Finally, I will leave you with these quotes below from the bible that touch on the duties of a husband and the wife. I do advise women, marriage is optional, don't marry a man who can't lead you, especially if you have religious and traditional values. Getting married with those values, you surrender authority to your husband, and how can he lead if he's very insecure, controlling and abusive? If you can't submit to him, don't marry him, simple.

1 Corinthians 7:3-4
[3] Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
[4] The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

Ephesians 5:22-25, 28-29
[22] Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
[23] For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
[24] Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
[25] Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
[26] That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
[27] That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
[28] So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
[29] For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church