I'm a young hard work guy who's planning to settle down someday. I have a girlfriend whom I have gone to see her family with my own family , as in, we have done our introduction, what was remaining was for us to fix a date for our wedding.

But this girl started showing some nasty attitude. There was a day she came to spend weekend with me and I gave her some money to buy some food stuffs to cook, that day i received the greatest shocke of my life , my fiancee warmed me never to send her message like that again that she is not my slave.

As if that was not enough. Another day she came to spend some days with me but when she got to my house I was not at home that day. She went to the bathroom to get some shower but unfortunately there was no water running in the bathroom because we didn't had light for 2days so we couldn't pump water. Normally when there's no water like that we usually fetch from the next compound. Though I live in a room and parlour self contain with water running in my kitchen and bathroom.

To cut the long story short, my fiancee refused to fetch water for herself to take her shower. She had to call me on phone to come home and fetch water for her to take her shower. When I eventually got home at late hour, I took the bucket went to fetch water for her to bath just for peace to rain. I later asked her why she had to call me to come and fetch water for her to bath knowing fully well that I was not around. She said in her house, she does not fetch water that her dad usually call Aboki's and buy water from them. She told me that she can't leave a suffering life of having to fetch water, she can never do it.

Please nairalander is this a good sign or bad sign to watch out for?

Let us hear her own side too...thank you!

It's a bad sign.

You sef, why would you accept such treatment from her? She does this because she knows you'll succumb. How is cooking slavery ? Won't she cook her own food? If you cook for her, does it mean she is enslaving you ? Since you brought the money, why can't she cook? Isn't marriage a teamwork anymore?

Well, if I were you, I'll pause everything. Introduction can go to hell, just pause. Then make sure you get this cleared before carrying over. But its a bad sign. But work on yourself man. If she know you won't take this, she won't do it. The way people treat you is a mirror to your standard.

That's how they pretend to be nice. Once u propose,boom they show u their Jezebel side.

She couldn't even pretend till after wedding.
Big red flag...

When we warn you Men not to Ever Be unfortunate enough to get married,you won't listen. You are lucky you haven't married her YET. You have now experienced first hand, what men Face in marriages today,a Modern Feminist non-vigirn woman who would sit on The couch like an over sized elephant,cross her legs and watch Africa magic channel all day while the Foolish husband is slaving himself away at work for him to be able to provide for her and HER CHILDREN.
Those Men chose their cross,and they are still carrying it till today and probably until the day they Die.

Do you want to carry such a Cross? Or are you Joseph of Arimathea? Be a smart man and stay single, develop yourself Physically and financially. Take care of your BLOOD RELATIONS. Look out for your friends who had your back when you were down.

And as for children,look at Davido,is he Married

Dpsychologist:
Nairaland
Why are men of this generation like this, they just allow women to undermine and downgrade them till they be become emasculated then come here and complain that their partner emasculated them.

What ever you permit no matter how small will persist.

Like seriously! Women have almost succeeded in "Castrating" The men of This Generation. Take for example,A Nairalander woman here Named Mercychen who wanted to Literally "Castrate" her husband after their first child, because of Family planning. She brought up the idea of only having one kid,then she proceeded to ask her Fiancee to have his manhood rendered obsolete After the first child.

The men of this Generation are in for a Long ride

funshint:
Let us hear her own side too...thank you!

Wetin you wan hear again, she's too pompous to fetch bathing water for herself or go to market and prepare food she will eat.
It's clear enough

Your case is simple.
If you buy the food stuff, cook it and invite her and make sure she do not eat from the food. This is how you let her know you get sense.
If she can't fetch water, why are you disturbing yourself, let her be. When she is ready to bath she will call aboki to fetch the water.
This issue na small issue. She is acting like a child, act like an adult instead of whyning

Richdoh:
I'm a young hard work guy who's planning to settle down someday. I have a girlfriend whom I have gone to see her family with my own family , as in , we have done our introduction , what was remaining was for us to fix a date for our wedding . But this girl started showing some nasty attitude . There was a day she came to spend weekend with me and I gave her some money to buy some food stuffs to cook, that day i received the greatest shocke of my life , my fiancee warmed me never to send her message like that again that she is not my slave. As if that was not enough. Another day she came to spend some days with me but when she got to my house I was not at home that day. She went to the bathroom to get some shower but unfortunately the there was no water running in the bathroom because we didn't had light for 2days so we couldn't pump water . Normally when there's no water like that we usually fetch from the next compound . Though I live in a room and parlour self contain with water running in my kitchen and bathroom . To cut the long story short, my fiancee refused to fetch water for herself to take her shower . She had to call me on phone to come home and fetch water for her to take her shower. When I eventually got home at late hour , I took the bucket went to fetch water for her to bath just for peace to rain . I later asked her why she had to call me to come and fetch water for her to bath knowing fully well that I was not around . She said in her house , she does not fetch water that her dad usually call Aboki's and buy water from them . She told me that she can't leave a suffering life of having to fetch water , she can never do it.
Please nairalander is this a good sign or bad sign to watch out for .

bro think twice, introduction doesn't mean marriage o,,, before you come back with remix after marriage ,,, pause all activities for now ,if possible watch her over a spade of 6 months again,never reward bad behavior as a man ,that statement has helped me

Lol you have not done any thing introduction my brother stop joking babe way you do introduction go they tell you say you she no fit fetch water or buy food stuff and cook for you na lie she would have been coming constantly na lie . na your girlfriend no be say you engage am or do introduction na lie . So you want to tell me you dont know her are attitude before you went to her family with your family for introduction lol

Nairaland issues never finish. Similar cases happening in different forms.

Why are men of this generation like this, they just allow women to undermine and downgrade them till they become emasculated then come here and complain that their partner emasculated them.

What ever you permit no matter how small will persist.

More men need to be redeemed from simping

You are planning on getting married to the daughter of the devil himself, well congrats. Your fiancee is an overpampered bitch. You will suffer in that planned marriage of yours that you will wish for death to come to your doorstep, be warned.

Pussy juice don choke ur sense.

Come on these red flags are very glaring. If you know u can't put up with these shits long term, then u no what to do. Remember, marriage can never change a person's behavior, it only amplifies it.

Why did you do introduction with someone you don't know her stupid behavior before
Why the hell does she has to call you to come and fetch water for her
Your problem start with you bro

1. She warned u never to send her to buy things in the market and u kept quiet. 2. She disrespectfully instructed u to fetch water for her and u foolishly fetched the water. I swear! If i were ur father, i would have slapped u. Now, it's high time u took the position as the man of the house because u have lost it. Whenever she misbehaves discipline her. How? rebuke her, caution her, deliberately ignore her, including her food until she comes back to her senses, then u can now embrace her back in love.

Richdoh:
I'm a young hard work guy who's planning to settle down someday. I have a girlfriend whom I have gone to see her family with my own family , as in , we have done our introduction , what was remaining was for us to fix a date for our wedding . But this girl started showing some nasty attitude . There was a day she came to spend weekend with me and I gave her some money to buy some food stuffs to cook, that day i received the greatest shocke of my life , my fiancee warmed me never to send her message like that again that she is not my slave. As if that was not enough. Another day she came to spend some days with me but when she got to my house I was not at home that day. She went to the bathroom to get some shower but unfortunately the there was no water running in the bathroom because we didn't had light for 2days so we couldn't pump water . Normally when there's no water like that we usually fetch from the next compound . Though I live in a room and parlour self contain with water running in my kitchen and bathroom . To cut the long story short, my fiancee refused to fetch water for herself to take her shower . She had to call me on phone to come home and fetch water for her to take her shower. When I eventually got home at late hour , I took the bucket went to fetch water for her to bath just for peace to rain . I later asked her why she had to call me to come and fetch water for her to bath knowing fully well that I was not around . She said in her house , she does not fetch water that her dad usually call Aboki's and buy water from them . She told me that she can't leave a suffering life of having to fetch water , she can never do it.
Please nairalander is this a good sign or bad sign to watch out for .

You are a mumu man

Majority of our men are becoming too soft, Imagine you can't take control of relationship or marriage.
You will still see the red flag but will go ahead with the wedding.

Hmm...
I made a decision to not insult people here, buh I'm seriously considering making an exception for the OP ...
Either ways...
I'll try to keep it civil...

OP...
Break the engagement now...
Like call her now and break that engagement...
That girl is not worthy to be a maid, talk more of a wife...

Is ur name SIMPson?

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ehya
kpele
which kain girl be this
you better report her to her parents
imagine
she can't even cook
this your tori dey vex me walahi
dump her stubborn, arrogant, manipulative ass

I go just drive her comot for my kaba instantly.Is that a slave or a house chores?

You came home to fetch water for her?

Me will extend my stay for two days. If she's still talking about her papa house and the kind of life she has/had there, she's not ready for marriage. And your biggest mistake in life marrying who doesn't want to get married. It will absolutely ruin you.

Kindly note that all I did was point out errors and NEVER asked you to or not marry her. That decision is entirely yours

[b][/b]bros, you know say normally, the girl so no be wife material and she go dey lazy well we'll if you probably marry her, she don show you signs of a lazy wife but you still carry the case come nairaland make we help you judge am ... [/i]Love they say is truly blind o just imagine a matured man seeing the wrong thing and asking another person whether it's wrong or right.. [i][/i]if you feel comfortable with her, go ahead and marry her but if you don't , tell her to go and marry her father this is as simple as ABC[i]

This has nothing to do with the girl
You're the one at fault for not putting some sense into her head

Women like men they can control but love men that control them , spot the difference
From your write up despite your grammatical blunder , you seem to care about her much

No be person dey marry rich man pikin , yet the rich man pikin go they follow am live inside single room and respect am join

Check that girl WhatsApp archived messages , she go tire you immediately.

Lights up my kpoli in peace

Richdoh:
I'm a young hard work guy who's planning to settle down someday. I have a girlfriend whom I have gone to see her family with my own family , as in , we have done our introduction , what was remaining was for us to fix a date for our wedding . But this girl started showing some nasty attitude . There was a day she came to spend weekend with me and I gave her some money to buy some food stuffs to cook, that day i received the greatest shocke of my life , my fiancee warmed me never to send her message like that again that she is not my slave. As if that was not enough. Another day she came to spend some days with me but when she got to my house I was not at home that day. She went to the bathroom to get some shower but unfortunately the there was no water running in the bathroom because we didn't had light for 2days so we couldn't pump water . Normally when there's no water like that we usually fetch from the next compound . Though I live in a room and parlour self contain with water running in my kitchen and bathroom . To cut the long story short, my fiancee refused to fetch water for herself to take her shower . She had to call me on phone to come home and fetch water for her to take her shower. When I eventually got home at late hour , I took the bucket went to fetch water for her to bath just for peace to rain . I later asked her why she had to call me to come and fetch water for her to bath knowing fully well that I was not around . She said in her house , she does not fetch water that her dad usually call Aboki's and buy water from them . She told me that she can't leave a suffering life of having to fetch water , she can never do it.
Please nairalander is this a good sign or bad sign to watch out for .

Omo eh which other sign u dy find again na, run bro run for your life.

Only introduction her brain don explode already,

What happens when u tie the knot?

Op Why you like "some"

With all these signs, you still need advice ehh. Like someone said earlier we now have weak entities parading them selves as men