I believe everything is up to you, you can't find all you are looking for in a lady. Find one you are comfortable with even if she has some crazy character or lifestyle. Talk to her, teach her, play with her... marriage no easy my guy

#OP, eve was Adam's bone of bone and flesh of flesh, but she contributed greatly to his down fall. He even blamed God for giving her to him.
It's not just finding a wife, but staying married. And that depends on you to a large extent. Work on yourself and you will attract who you are

That's why I no wan leave my girl ooo, i go try pay her bride price next year, before guy wey get money go collect am from my hand

nkemdi89:
Same thing I am passing through as a woman , I was turning down proposals because I wasn't financially ready to settle down and I was aiming for a particular level at work , now I am ready but the choice of men I am seeing it's not what I was expecting.

What could be your expectations?

fluffybaby:


Exactly. Same thing I tell women these days too. Serial daters, serial romantic tourers and Bleep boys are plenty in naija so I advise ladies to date as many men as possible Incase one mad man just decides to move on she won't have heart break.dating doesn't have to do with having sex.

Exactly, not necessarily involve s*x, but just to protect one's self from fatal heartbreak. Alot of people out there waiting to take advantage in the name of dating

EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

Art houses , Public library, at your work place and parties ..Tell your guys with babe to hook you up ..Their girlfriends might have nice lady friends or sisters that might be wife material. Secondly,have you ask yourself if you Did not raise the bar too high for your expected woman ,?

NOETHNICITY:
Sharpino
Na so I do am year o, but even now I feel like going back to that time

I did too and it worked

Norabay:
No one is 100% perfect but if you still want a perfect woman create her yourself.

Ain't you ladies out there in search of already "created" man? So why the shifting now?

The truth is the culture we practice here in Nigeria makes ladies what majority of you have wrongly become today.

A Responsible Wife Material Lady MUST ACCEPT THAT SHE MUST BE AS WELL FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE DURING COURTSHIP TOWARDS HER HUSBAND MATERIAL FIANCEE UPTILL MATRIMONY. There must be Balance or else, the lady would be seen as "olosho".
Or a lady who uses what she have to get what she wants. And she will have less say in her matrimonial home.

A lady who is not trained to know those facts can never mutates into A Wife Material at all.

Most hilarious post I've seen today.
Sire, sort yourself and you'll definitely find a wife.

TRADELYN:

What could be your expectations?

Not an high expectation , just something not out of normal.

Skyfornia:
Omo..when a man is ready for marriage...you will know good woman is scarce

Good women are not scarce.Tge only thing is that you men rather go for the flashy & bling bling ladies with Brazilian hair rather that the Ned looking babes that dress modestly and less flashy. The problem is that you don't see them at parties or clubs .

Parisian:
You're the problem. You're not husband material yourself.

Imagine breaking up with a woman you dated for two years only to go gallivanting around town frolicking with different other women . Shey if this story was written by a woman you'd be here bashing her and calling her olosho but you want us to praise you right?

Keep searching.

He was likely in the relationship that long waiting for the Girl to change. But He as forgotten that it is not His duty to give the lady a finishing touch so to speak.

Who stay in front of an empty A. T. M?

SOME GUYS SHAY!!!

2yrs?

oh
sequel to the last thread you created before this
the babe truly stole those things
damn

nkemdi89:

I don't think so , I was planning my life the way it will suit me in order not to inconvenience anyone or take some actions I may regret executing.

You don't think so? Where is your husband?

I will advise you read to comprehend rather than read to respond. You played yourself means you are not getting your desired outcomes because of certain decisions made. You decided to turned marriage proposal for a high paying job. That was a choice based on your decision and now you are finding it difficult to land a husband.

You don't have sense

Continue your search but pray and ask God to give you your own wife....

samwillyco1:


That's why I no wan leave my girl ooo, i go try pay her bride price next year, before guy wey get money go collect am from my hand

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U fit break up with am small
Use dat test if she loves u

Look out for the lady that loves you. If she loves you , you will be able to Mould her to your taste.
I think you need to be accommodating too because nobody has all you are looking for in a lady.
Take the good side and manage the others while you try to work on the negative characteristics. But if you can't bear it don't go into it.

Boss13:


You don't think so? Where is your husband?

I will advise you read to comprehend rather than read to respond. You played yourself means you are not getting your desired outcomes because of certain decisions made. You decided to turned marriage proposal for a high paying job. That was a choice based on your decision and now you are finding it difficult to land a husband.

You are not getting it, not that they are not coming , I am ready to settle down, unfortunately I am having issues with choice .

debbydams:
marriage is not everyone

Stamped!

colestephan86:

You dated her for 2 years , and broke up with her when it's almost marriage time cos of her character. Hmm.
You shagged her to your satisfaction and dumped her.
You deserve to be punished

Any lady who in a relationship ony have SEX TO OFFER IN EXCHANGE FOR WHAT SHE GETS FROM THE GUY IS USELESS. SHE DOES NOT DESERVE TO BE A MOTHER.

SEX IS FOR LOVE NOT MONEY MAKING.

A PROSTITUTE IS WHICH KIND OF WOMAN OR MAN?

You’re the problem

EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

Why do you need a wife? If it is sex, I am sure you have been straffing before now. If it is money, well by your admission you are doing well...so if sex and money is covered what really do you need a wife for?

nkemdi89:

Not an high expectation , just something not out of normal.

Just curious to know.
What are the basics for you?

nkemdi89:
Same thing I am passing through as a woman , I was turning down proposals because I wasn't financially ready to settle down and I was aiming for a particular level at work , now I am ready but the choice of men I am seeing it's not what I was expecting.

Hmm
Turning down proposals then, now you are ready but haven't seen the type you want.

What are the qualities you are looking for in a man you would like to settle down with ?

toujurs:
This is what i told guys earlier, a good woman with a good heart and character is very very hard to find, most of the ladies we have now are hungry lazy gold diggers or either very selfish. Look beyond physical beauty, its a scam. The beauty lies beneath, Ladies you see unmarried at 40, Bro check well its her bad character and selfishness that made her still single at such age, No guy will see a good hearted lady and keave her, guys have their own issues. But women own are worst. You cannot be a liability and still come into a man's life to dictate what happen.

God bless u for saying the truth.

omoharry:
Good women are not scarce.Tge only thing is that you men rather go for the flashy & bling bling ladies with Brazilian hair rather that the Ned looking babes that dress modestly and less flashy. The problem is that you don't see them at parties or clubs .

It's not true... personally I don't fancy flashy woman. Be educated, industrious, have a good character...and most especially, a decent background/history.

Many girls nowadays has done threeesome and sxx in public places.

cococandy:
You’re the problem

Could you please explain.

nkemdi89:
Same thing I am passing through as a woman , I was turning down proposals because I wasn't financially ready to settle down and I was aiming for a particular level at work , now I am ready but the choice of men I am seeing it's not what I was expecting.

OH MINE!!
NKEM, YOU ARE THE REAL DIAMOND AMONG SEVERAL WOMEN ON NAIRALAND.

"I was turning down proposals because I wasn't financially ready to settle down and I was aiming for a particular level at work"

Now THIS IS ONE OF THE MAIN DEFINITIONS OF A WIFE MATERIAL!!

That you believe a lady too must be Financially Okay Before Ever Thinking Of Getting Married Sets You Apart From The Park.

You are Rare Gem!!!

Yeah You Ain't Perfect, But You Are A Wife Material Readily.

You know what, An Husband Material Shall LOCATE YOU IN JESUS NAME AND BLESS YOUR UNION IN VIEW.
AMEN.

Vinnie2000:


Your issue is DESPERATION!

You are too Desperate and Anxious and it's probably affecting your relationship with Ladies! :

A Friend of mine falls in dis category! He meets a lady, minutes later, he is asking whether she can Pound yams, cook egusi soup and Strapp babies on her back!

His Body Language is NEVER relaxed! And ladies get scared because most of dem likes some coolness and Nastiness in a Guy!

So I suspect you are like my Friend! I always tell him
Just be Free when u meet a Girl.
Act like a Potential Boyfriend, not a Class Monitor or Journalist!

She will open up Naturally and from there, you guys decide what you want from the relationship!

This is as true as it gets EkehPraise.

I was taken aback when you said you invited a babe to your house and she was acting lazy when she noticed you are comfortable.
For goodness sake, do you really expect a first or second time guest to start acting like a wife in your house? Really? You are desperate.. You need to take a chill pill and allow things unfold.

Also, you are too expectant. More or less a perfectionist. People will have their flaws. You definitely have your flaws from the little you have described. You need to make a list of the main qualities that matter to you and things you can overlook cos you MUST overlook some things.

EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

You need to break up with your spirit wife first b4 any physical marriage can work for you.

AsomArchitectNG:
Give up no join. Continue ur search in 2022

Simple and short