EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

oke2018:
Yes ready to marry him but story long ooooo

Mixty:


This is as true as it gets EkehPraise.

I was taken aback when you said you invited a babe to your house and she was acting lazy when she noticed you are comfortable.
For goodness sake, do you really expect a first or second time guest to start acting like a wife in your house? Really? You are desperate.. You need to take a chill pill and allow things unfold.

Also, you are too expectant. More or less a perfectionist. People will have their flaws. You definitely have your flaws from the little you have described. You need to make a list of the main qualities that matter to you and things you can overlook cos you MUST overlook some things.

olamoses75:
To even get original charger hard for this country, not to talk of a wife material

jclassiq:
Chill.
*In Davido's voice* Better rest, better rest, better rest... You don try, e no gree, better rest...
Chill, bro. I'm in the same boat as you. But I'm chilling. Just living my life normally.
Iyanya say, "Hold on. When e enter, you go feel am."
Relax your mind.

Pharaoh4rin:
If you can pay 20k, I'll connect you to two wife materials.
One of them is my cousin. The second one was a colleague.
There too good to earn a husband. I'm not kidding!

Email me on talktoxerxes777@gmail.com

Vinnie2000:


Your issue is DESPERATION!

You are too Desperate and Anxious and it's probably affecting your relationship with Ladies! :

A Friend of mine falls in dis category! He meets a lady, minutes later, he is asking whether she can Pound yams, cook egusi soup and Strapp babies on her back!

His Body Language is NEVER relaxed! And ladies get scared because most of dem likes some coolness and Nastiness in a Guy!

So I suspect you are like my Friend! I always tell him
Just be Free when u meet a Girl.
Act like a Potential Boyfriend, not a Class Monitor or Journalist!

She will open up Naturally and from there, you guys decide what you want from the relationship!

Nicepoker:
God is working so hard to delay your premium tears.

FunnyDude:
Op if you looking to settle down, you don't date one lady alone. You game alot of them at the same time.

You should have keep dating alot of women at the same time so that you will have access to pick from, and not starting all over each time dissappoint you.

As when one fvk up, u upgrade the next suitable lady asap. That's how to do it

Penboy:

How old is she?

Pedrogreg:
Op am exactly in your issues, even worse for me cos i work from home, infact this lagos is even hard….especially this lekki,,runs girls everywere..ma lagos people,, were una de see wife marry,,,i don tire

Jesterinjay:
Chill bro,sometime in the future u would want to be single or feel single. Relax

Boss13:


You keep shifting the goal post. Initially, you were turning down proposal to get a good job. You have the job now. What is stopping you if the proposals are still coming?

I think you are lying. These proposals are not marriage proposals. If you do want to get married, accept one of the proposals.

FunnyDude:
Op if you looking to settle down, you don't date one lady alone. You game alot of them at the same time.

You should have keep dating alot of women at the same time so that you will have access to pick from, and not starting all over each time dissappoint you.

As when one fvk up, u upgrade the next suitable lady asap. That's how to do it

sheyshey1:
This life is not balance, the feelings is mutual

Kirkman:

OK. As you have gotten to the desired position of where you need to be financially and career wise, chat up with them, hangout with the good ones amongst them and see where the ship sails.

Denique:


Look who we have here I've missed you but don't ever modify jawalis name. That is a sin


Is it only yam I'll be eating. Jawalis has a poultry. I'll be getting chicken, kriss216 should be able to provide Egusi (at least I'm not asking him for urgent 2k ), then you with the yams...and we would live happily ever after. I got this, guys. Lol

Please be safe in the North.

MsCassano:


None sense
if this is how ladies do it won't you term them oloshos?

Topeonline24:
30yrs

nkemdi89:

Thank you very much.

nkemdi89:

I never turn down a proposal for a job , I wasnt unemployed I have been in the same job for years , but I wanted to reach a level in the job where my financial status would have increased to take care of myself and my family, irrespective of if my husband has or not . The quality of life i want to my kids is important to me , I am a salary earner and not a business person.

nkemdi89:

I never turn down a proposal for a job , I wasnt unemployed I have been in the same job for years , but I wanted to reach a level in the job where my financial status would have increased to take care of myself and my family, irrespective of if my husband has or not . The quality of life i want to my kids is important to me , I am a salary earner and not a business person.

Topeonline24:
Everybody with their stories, i am married with kids but my sister is single and searching. Am desperate to see her married this year which make me do series of things. 1. Write to a neighbour if he will be interested to marry my sis 2. Create matchmaking platform 3. Join nairaland purposely because of her (am a guest of over 5yrs) 4. Fast and pray for her and more. I believed she is 92% wife material. Plzz if you are God fearing,mature mind,graduate,understanding, Muslim, AA, loving,37(age limit) and you have marriage goals. Message me on 09062174780

EkehPraise:
Go to libraries !

Boss13:


Taking care of a family is a MAN's job. That is why I said you are acting as a man. Your job is to nest what the man has provided. I am not saying getting a job is a bad thing, but I am saying putting off marriage proposals for a job is not the ideal thing a woman should be doing. You are not going to be the leader of the family or is that your intention - to be the leader and breadwinner of your home. If this is the case, then you are not a wife and I will strongly advise men to avoid you.

You have prioritise a job above marriage yet wondering why you are single.

nkemdi89:

Na so ! So a man should die early because he has to provide for his family, I don't belong to that school of thought, I believe in sharing responsibilities for happiness and wellbeing of all, that doesn't mean I will disrespect or disregard my man , two of us will put our head together to build our family . Don't blame me , my growing up contributes a lot to me having that sense of financial independence, I have never demand money from any of my boyfriend, neither do I believe in " make I chop man money " . It gives me joy when I assist or render assistance to people, I don't want to be redundant in my relationship.

Juliearth:




Heh .

nkemdi89:

Na so ! So a man should die early because he has to provide for his family, I don't belong to that school of thought, I believe in sharing responsibilities for happiness and wellbeing of all, that doesn't mean I will disrespect or disregard my man , two of us will put our head together to build our family . Don't blame me , my growing up contributes a lot to me having that sense of financial independence, I have never demand money from any of my boyfriend, neither do I believe in " make I chop man money " . It gives me joy when I assist or render assistance to people, I don't want to be redundant in my relationship.

Boss13:


Not demanding money from your boyfriend is the normal thing to do. He is not your husband and should not take up your financial responsibilities. You are still misplacing priorities. That is why you are still single.

Your husband's job not boyfriend - is to provide for his family. When you are married, this is the demand you should make. If he is not capable of providing, he should work towards this rather than get married and bring financial difficulties to his wife and children.

Your priority should be focusing on the many marriage proposals you claim are coming your way and screen the offers on the premise of financial capability.