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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by bigpicture001: 5:22pm On Jan 03, 2022
dingbang:
you are welcome bro. See just find woman wey her salary start from 150k. It will ease up things for you a bit. Trust me

Bro it's not easy... The more a lady's wage the more difficult she becomes...

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by dingbang(m): 5:22pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:


Bro it's not easy... The more a lady's wage the more difficult she becomes...
i understand bro. If you need recommendations, i can assist. Are you in lagos?

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Mariangeles(f): 5:26pm On Jan 03, 2022
dingbang:
yes i understand marriage without vacay will be boring but you also need to understand her salary cannot afford that 20k deduction monthly. I suggest you tune it down a bit , say 5k .. You know women's daily needs are expensive..

Hair is expensive to make

Sanitary pads and make up

Women clothings such as lots of bra, pants, high heels.

Perfumes etc.

So her salary will not accomodate that 20k deduction..you sef try understand.

God go bless you.

You see why I said he's not yet ready to marry?
What does he even know about a woman's needs?
A pack of common sanitary pad now is about #500. I bet he doesn't know that.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by dingbang(m): 5:30pm On Jan 03, 2022
Mariangeles:




God go bless you.

You see why I said he's not yet ready to marry?
What does he even know about a woman's needs?
A pack of common sanitary pad now is about #500. I bet he doesn't know that.
cheesy Lol. Well the lady's income doesnt suit their financial plans so he has either two options

Tune down their financial budget

Or find another woman who earns higher.

Just simple.


They should not go for expensive house for rent else that will be their biggest mistake.

If he wants to proceed with marrying the girl, he should set up a provision shop that she can as well be managing.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Tobijays: 5:43pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:
.my girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

bro she is not supposed to spend more than 30 percent of her salary to run a home that end in your surname. She will spend on her looks and try to sort her parents out every month plus tithe and offering , money don finish . Bro reduce her her bills for now and try pay for her professional exams for her to earn big too and you too so that 30 percent of both of you income go pass the summation you guys have now !!! Please bro if she is good woman try keep an ooo discuss better with her, ask her much she go drop or want to drop if it is too small try reason her to up her bill because you get lot of engagement wey you dy do wey go benefits una 2 . Please bro it is takes massive wisdom and patience to to run a home ooooo.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by freddie009(m): 5:48pm On Jan 03, 2022
SaveMeLord:
98% of Nigerian women are looking for a Messiah that will carry all their load without them having to do anything. Op the type of lady you are looking for to marry in Nigeria. There are only 464 of them. 350 are already married and have been married for long, 60 have travelled abroad and most have been taken by reasonable men there and the remaining 54 are here in Nigeria scattered across the Country i.e at least 1 or 2 per state.

Now Op the probability of you meeting the type of woman that will want to be a partner and sacrifice in the marriage is the same as the probability of winning the USA Powerball lottery which is very unlikely.

You can decide to be single and unmarried nobody will kill you and preserve your peace of mind. Just look at the first entitled leach that commented above. That is how most of them are. Leave her by the time she start to old she'll come back they always have this useless overconfidence that they are too fine and another better guy is coming for them until reality dawns on their frail brains
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Opeyemiextra(f): 5:58pm On Jan 03, 2022
This looks to me like a great deal but she would probably have her reasons.
bigpicture001:
.my girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Beblessedbaba: 6:03pm On Jan 03, 2022
When is your Thanksgiving service.

You have just been saved from future problems

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Kaido: 6:11pm On Jan 03, 2022
Looks great

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Nobody: 6:12pm On Jan 03, 2022
A woman who cannot finance about 25-30% of her home budget has no bussiness getting married, no matter how able her husband may be. A takes a little wind to bring down a great man. You were created to be a help meet. Helping him meet his goal. Family support from a woman is not an option item.

As for Op, the vacation budget was way off, from your budget 30k already gone for education/vacation. Atleast another 30k will supplement feeding as you pointed you would only buy major food items. So you expect 20k to cover her transportation, hair, cosmetics, airtime, clothing, sanitary etc in a month? Trimming that vacation to 5k pending an increase in her earnings should be a fair bargain. But all thesame, I love your planning!

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Biggie2000(m): 6:16pm On Jan 03, 2022
posty56:
lol 99 percent of Nigeria women will run when it comes to financial responsibility, but if na to shout equality up and down them go do am , OP you try any woman wey no agree with your plan move on to the next, remember no be only Nigeria women dey, you fit try Ghana our neighbors, or you join #teamwhite like us.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by DrFunmisticGlow: 6:34pm On Jan 03, 2022
Biggie2000:

So, you didn't read the part where the OP is earning 300K abi? You want a man that is earning 300K to drop 50k for vacation, pay rent, 40K for contribution, pay rent, pay for health insurance, buy and also maintain the family car? It's still the same man that will still fuel the car, fuel the generator, she will still ask
the same man for money to make hair, money for data, money to send to her family members, etc So, where do you expect the man to see money to take care of himself. Abi, you feel that men enjoying looking haggard? You think he will not like to spend on himself? Most of you females always make plans for yourself only; you don't care about your boyfriend. You don't care if your boyfriend is looking tattered, as long as you females are looking fine. Most of you females are just entitled and stingy people. Any woman that doesn't earn enough money to handle atleast 30% of the family responsibilities, should kindly get the fvck out. Please, don't allow the door hit you on your way out.
stay single or find a sugar mummy, because you as a man, are not ready for marriage and the responsibility of being the head of the household

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by DrFunmisticGlow: 6:36pm On Jan 03, 2022
Mariangeles:




God go bless you.

You see why I said he's not yet ready to marry?
What does he even know about a woman's needs?
A pack of common sanitary pad now is about #500. I bet he doesn't know that.
if her period is now heavy, she'll use 2-3 a month

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Bonjovi13: 6:40pm On Jan 03, 2022
I'm sorry man. You are not ready to be a husband.
The first rule of a successful marriage is that you don't plan with your wife's money. A woman's money is her money. Your money is the family's money.

Have that mind set and don't let fear of being stressed or broke rule you.

Before a woman will trust you with her money,you must have earned that trust based on how well you take care of the family and being financially prudent and responsible.

You cannot just expect her to submit her money to the common purse when you have not proven yourself.
Besides look at the pressure you are putting on her even before you have married her. All those bills inside 80k. She has to even buy her clothes. LMAO!!!

Guy,chill out. Next time when you get into a serious relationship with a woman,let her see you being responsible and generous to her and then allow her to decide what she would do with her funds to help out. But never plan on her money or worse still suggest what she would bring.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Mariangeles(f): 6:44pm On Jan 03, 2022
DrFunmisticGlow:
if her period is now heavy, she'll use 2-3 a month

Exactly. cheesy
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Nobody: 6:50pm On Jan 03, 2022
Lol..The only thing wrong with this arrangement is that it's not balanced. Try balance the ratio.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Tloc(m): 6:55pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:


Do u know I removed health insurance cover which only me will open an account for and it will cover every member of the household including herself .?

300k is not a big money

Don't bother explaining much dude, the financial weight of running a home is now so heavy with bills coming from all angles. It takes a really heavy earner to pull his weight, contemporary rimes demand both couple to bring something to the table to enable the family live above waters. The man handling all the financials is a no no and might bring in a lot of disrespect to the other gender sooner than later.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Biggie2000(m): 6:57pm On Jan 03, 2022
DrFunmisticGlow:
stay single or find a sugar mummy, because you as a man, are not ready for marriage and the responsibility of being the head of the household
So, being the head of the family means i should kill myself with responsibilities, simply because a woman has refused to contribute to the affairs of the family? You females are always focused on your own needs; never concerned about your man's needs. You feel that because men don't talk, that it means we don't know how to spend money?
DrFunmisticGlow:
if her period is now heavy, she'll use 2-3 a month
Boo hoo!
So, because you're buying pad and some other products, is that why women of nowadays don't want to contribute to the family welfare? So, if she's not married or dating, does that mean she won't buy all these things from the 80k she's earning? We have other women that also contribute to the affairs of the family, does that mean they don't buy these same pads and other products you're buying??
The OP's girlfriend is simply a stingy, entitled, and tight-fisted individual that does not want to handle responsibilities.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Lawly: 7:12pm On Jan 03, 2022
Nyascobar1414:


Na just because of marriage you want to turn to a donkey(beast of burden).. Guy you came to this life alone, and alone you will japa..


Exactly the point. I have met 2 elderly men that warned me about trying to please my future wife and children and displease myself. They advices me to take care of myself and my future first before my family cus time will come when those children on the manipulation of the woman will love their mother and treat you the father who provided them everything with all your life as nothing. They adviced me to do this if I don't want to suffer at old age.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Lawly: 7:24pm On Jan 03, 2022
DrFunmisticGlow:
if her period is now heavy, she'll use 2-3 a month

And you realise that is 1k - 1,500 a month right? If you remove that sum a month from 80k, will she die? She's simply an entitled idiot not ready for marriage. She just want to ruin the guy and stiffle his future prospects with unfair selfish demands and needs.

I have heard of women that married their men earning 30k only and they helped their men to manage and use the money to grow financially and achieve things that those that feel they earn much have not achieved.
A woman is there in a man's life for either 2 things: to build a man or to run the man down. That's why we really need to hear from GOD before venturing into marriage. Don't just marry a lady bcs she gives you erection.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Connected1: 7:26pm On Jan 03, 2022
That's how one girl was telling me that we would share the cooking and other domestic house chores that she also needs to relax and she can't kill herself.

I can do these things perfectly but the fact that she had to tell me these things made me upset and went home.

That's not setting or planning a family financially, you are just being a dictator, it doesn't matter if you are also providing.

The best way is to ask her politely, babe if we get married tomorrow, how much from your salary will you drop for the family upkeep then her decisions will tell you who she is.

Don't use your own hands to chase away a good lady.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Bliss955(m): 7:28pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:


Thanks man.. heard from her friend that sh said am too stingy,.

Honestly I didn't make her spend up to 50k from her wage.. 300k is not big and can be exhausted soon..

The weight will be too much if I form the normal Nigerian guy who likes to carry load on their head
my brother you did well, thank God it's happening now other than later.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by ExudeLoveToAll: 7:35pm On Jan 03, 2022
Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin? undecided
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?

Abeg! Carry your wahala go front!
You only look at her expenses without looking at the guy's expenses, this is ridiculous. The guy has the major chunk of the expenses when compared to hers, she is expected to bring just 12.5% of her monthly income for child care trust fund amounting to 10 0000k while the guy brings in 13.33% of his monthly income for child care trust fund. Looking at that list the young man will incur more than 70% per cent of the cost to run the family.

I really don't understand why a lady will attend an institution of higher learning, pay school fees just like their male counterparts, shout gender equality and equal career opportunity between both genders. Then she gets the career boost and then expects one party to foot her bills single-handedly, it's better she resigns and files for a housewife position, to whom much is given much is expected.

The same scenario happened with my friend's elder sis, she decided to quit because she does not want to be financially responsible for her would be family, she wants to be an adult baby 'my money is my money and yours is our money'. If not the mum who educated her on how she should build her family with her husband both financially and otherwise she would have quit the relationship because she thought she found a MUGU WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF HER AS AN ADULT BABY.

The better you folks accept financial responsibility the better, if you don't get married won't you pay your house rent, buy a car for your self and take care of all your expenses.

These are issues that needed to be discussed before marriage.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Jeferious: 7:44pm On Jan 03, 2022
Op, if you like, believe me, if you like, no believe....the truth be say that girl no love you at all. Even love wey small like mustard seed, she no get for you. If na me be you sef, I no go bother myself.

Even my own girlfriend contributes her quota to our financial upkeep, and she does it without complaints. Most times she does it without being reminded. Occasionally I would ask her to keep her money so that I would solely foot the bill. Even though I would take the lion share, she also has to be involved. And she's ok with it. Sometimes, she would even try to outdo me. Trust a man's ego. Once she gets "competitive" with the spending, then I will be moved to break bank for her sake. My "dorime" must pass her own by two times at least grin grin

This my babe is not totally perfect, but I comot hand for her when it comes to generosity and understanding what mutualism is all about. And that's exactly what love is all about. You can't claim you love a person and you can't give to them freely. God bless you Ezinne.

In conclusion, find another woman. This one no be your own

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by BlackyOne: 7:50pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:
.my girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?



This is commendable, and she doesn't deserve a progressive and visionary man like you.

Also kindly forward me the complete template so I can modify and use for my own relationship grin

No SIMPing in 2022

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by SenecaTheYonger: 7:54pm On Jan 03, 2022
All I can say is that the first girl to comment on this thread is not wife material.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by jimmychang: 8:07pm On Jan 03, 2022
Life grin
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by LotaTee: 8:10pm On Jan 03, 2022
In all honesty, in my opinion the proposal isn't too bad.You carried the lion's share of the family's finances, but you know your girl better than we do.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by oshonwambada: 8:13pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal... cooked up story

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Nobody: 8:14pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

She did not only ran away but omolomo JAPA as in OJAPA

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Oluwakiddy: 8:16pm On Jan 03, 2022
Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin? undecided
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?

Abeg! Carry your wahala go front!
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Cchuks27(m): 8:16pm On Jan 03, 2022
It's good she contributes to the family but don't make it her duty.

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