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Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Hathor5(f): 10:32am On Jan 08, 2022 |
vickydevoka: What will happen? 2 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by FERNANDEZISBACK: 10:32am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Benprass:Ok |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Pimine: 10:32am On Jan 08, 2022 |
signature2012:Aswearugaaad It's not a Naija thing brah. She can tour the world for all I care. No young, successful man will look at her twice except to smash. The best she can get is older divorced men with Children but she has to compete with other women like her for them too. Anyway you look at it, she shouldn't get her hopes up cos it's not looking good. Madam, I'll keep it real with you: If it's still possible, do all you can to fix it with your husband cos the world's no longer your oyster. Make you no dey sing had I known at 55. 5 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Didi2d(m): 10:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
sisisioge: But you didn't tell her not to repeat whatsoever she did or what she was doing that made her husband filed for divorce 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by FERNANDEZISBACK: 10:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
komodapson:Ok |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by obembet(f): 10:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Do you still want the marriage? We can work it out if you want. Trust me 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by PEPPERified: 10:36am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: I honestly feel your struggles. I understand how bothered you are about your children, their future and how your life would turn out. I honestly wish I could speak with you personally. My parents got divorced in 1996. My mom had five sons for my dad as at that time. We all turned out well despite all what they say about broken homes. As a matter of fact there was no way we would have turned out the way we did if they were together. All professionals at the top of our fields. I hope the court makes an order of maintenance for your kids and that the arrangements would be carried out. It would definitely be different and difficult, but I assure you, all hope is not lost. You can leave a message for me so I can speak with you. 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by 2loadedguy: 10:38am On Jan 08, 2022 |
efficiencie:It is because marriage has outlived its usefulness in the modern day society and we are not ready to face the reality. I am in a marriage already and it's less than a year old and I can tell you it's a scam. I don't see us doing a second year anniversary in this sham we call marriage. Let me give you an analysis, before marriage I a single happening guy and full of life, I had several women at my beck and call and I had a cleaner to clean my flat weekly, someone that cooks for me and deliver it to my doorstep and that's excluding the several women willing to do same function without any cost, I had someone that comes to wash my clothes every weekend and I was also able to save a considerable chunk of my 7 figure monthly pay. I have gotten married now and that situation remains unchanged except that of course I no longer have access to other women and a major part of my finance is going into taking care of another human being in the name of a wife while she's constantly saving her own money or spending it on frivolities. Now tell me why I won't feel shortchanged and scammed in this union of fantasy called marriage that has taken everything away from me but given me nothing. The very least I should be getting is a woman to cook for me but all those basic domestic issues are still being outsourced to vendors as it was before I got married hence the woman had added no single value to my life but has taken away so much from me. This is the very reason men are running from marriage now and if I want to advise any single man out there I'd tell him to stay away. The union called marriage is no longer relevant in today's world since women have started forming feminism and we will keep seeing more divorces once people realize they have been scammed into it by the society. 10 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by topboss: 10:39am On Jan 08, 2022 |
THE KIDS WILL BE FINE, AS LONG AS THEY ARE WELL RPOVIDED FOR AND THEY GET TO SEE BOTH PARENTS ON HOLIDAYS. HOWEVER, IT IS BEST NOT TO TELL THEM ABOUT THE DIVORCE. FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO TELL THEM, LIKE YOU GOT A NEW JOB AND HAVE TO MOVE CLOSER OR SOMETHING. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by GREATESTPIANIST: 10:39am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Tejumola856:hmmmmm, I like your reply, I love you bro, sorry I talked harshly, na cruise oooo, happy new year bro, this year go better for us, how Re you doing? |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Johnsown1(m): 10:39am On Jan 08, 2022 |
You will be fine dear, just know that it is not easy because you have to be both parent at same time, you will double your hustling so that you can provide and be strong for them. If possible change environment different state from where your soon to be ex lives and enroll them to a school with a lesser tuition fees with a good teaching standard then last but not the least ensure that the court mandate him to be paying for upkeep. Always pray for him for health, change of heart and God's guidance and protection. Divorce is not the end of the road in my world, endeavor to ask for forgiveness ( both the one remembered and the one that you didn't remember) on or after the judgemen and make him your friend if possible. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by topboss: 10:39am On Jan 08, 2022 |
obembet: NA YOUR TYPE THEY STAY MARRIAGE UNTIL THEM KILL PERSON. BACKWARD AFRICAN MENTALITY. MARRIAGE THEY END AND E FIT NO REACH TILL DEATH. 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Didi2d(m): 10:42am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Seriously, nobody knows tomorrow. It can only be in two ways, either it favors you or it doesn't favor you on the long run. What am trying to say is, you might end up getting a better man or you might end up just like some divorced women regretting their actions One thing is certain, remember the day of konji will come and ......... But seriously, I will like to know what caused the divorce |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by OwenJesse27(m): 10:42am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Watin u do tell us |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by BTGbenga: 10:42am On Jan 08, 2022 |
God loves you and He hate divorce Malachi 2:16. Deep down in the heart of your husband he loves you and your children but he can not compromise some basic things "RESPECT". All men are the same on this. Why not find your way back to his heart just like the same way you started. Swallow the pride, do this for God, your children, and your dignity as a woman. Don't go public after 3 children and be messed up, your husband is your crown and protection. Pray, swallow the pride, call him and even beg him if possible. I know deep down in your heart you still love him too. Disregard all those that their marriages have failed trying to welcome you to where God has not made you to belong. " Your Home Will Not Fail" And you will have testimonies in this new year. God bless you and your home ma. We hope to hear your testimony soon. 3 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Amumaigwe: 10:42am On Jan 08, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK: Have you spoken to her husband? Very daft and emotional Nairalanders taking sides on matters they have limited information on. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by kunkelhanspeter(m): 10:42am On Jan 08, 2022 |
madone:Who want to marry a lady with 3 kids ? Believe me the kids will suffer if the man can’t take care of them and they will never forgive you that trust me. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by topboss: 10:42am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Pimine: THIS TRASH YOU WROTE HERE IS TO WHAT END? HOW MANY YOUNG SUCCESSFUL MEN ARE REALLY OUT THERE? MORE LIKE YOUNG STRUGGLING MEN. THERE IS NO COMPETITION, SHE IS A FREE AGENT AND HER KIDS ARE HER PRIORITY ALONGSIDE HER UP KEEP. THE MAN THAT LEFT HER MAY LATER LIVE TO REGRET IT, AFTER SEEING HOW WELL SHE IS DOING. SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS IS THE BEST REVENGE. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 10:43am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Kokoebapluse:Tash,if na the husband fault nkoor instead of you to advice them both to work it out,madam should beg her husband that doesn't want to be begged when he served her a divorce paper. She doesn't necessarily need a man let her stand on her own first and change her circle you will be surprised at the number of men willing to wed a divorcee with kids that won't be in her custody alone so why then should it affect her and not the husband when they would likely get joint custody. 5 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by FERNANDEZISBACK: 10:44am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Amumaigwe:Ok.. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Sent87: 10:45am On Jan 08, 2022 |
You have been given the best answer already, live for Jesus, simple, every other thing will fall into place. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Hassanmaye(m): 10:47am On Jan 08, 2022 |
HacheNoire:True |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Hassanmaye(m): 10:48am On Jan 08, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK:Haha |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Hassanmaye(m): 10:49am On Jan 08, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK:So being a single mother is now a virtue? |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by alizma: 10:50am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Spherical77:I already knew you were going to trap yourself in the process and you just did. Going by your post, how would you take a man who stands before a group of youths and tell them not to worry much about being successful because success is not for everyone? Over to you Mr Sabinus |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by babajeje123(m): 10:51am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Evidenx:What would you say to a lady that was divorced after 8 years because she couldn't give birth? All medical tests show they were both okay |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Signum(f): 10:52am On Jan 08, 2022 |
ednut1: This is the best words here. Make ur marriage work. 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Victoryalways: 10:53am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: OP, if you are a christian, divorce is not a good option for you, even your husband. Have you(you and your husband) explored all other options of settlement outside court? I know, most marital issues can be resolved with understanding, humility, love and patience. Remember that divorce comes with eternal consequence! That is what scares me about it! This could also directly affect the children. try and explore possible resolution outside courts. It is possible!!! |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by PrinceMajestic: 10:53am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Smelling dirty ashawoh ladies too full nairaland with their smelling loose over fhucked bodies |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by topboss: 10:55am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Signum: NDIARA! THEY SERVE YOU DIVORCE PAPERS AND YOU ARE TALKING MAKE MARRIAGE WORK. MARRAIGE THAT DID NOT WORK, WILL NOW WORK AFTER SERVING OF DIVORCE PAPERS. OR U DEY WAIT FOR ONE PERSON TO DIE FIRST, BEFORE YOU MOVE ON? WEREY! 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by eguarojeona: 10:56am On Jan 08, 2022 |
obiekunie01:Lol,you went to check out her profile |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by vpaymoney(m): 10:57am On Jan 08, 2022 |
When u finally outside wedlock, you should know the right from left. It's just a pitiable situation that you have been in before you learn. You will learn and have practical experience now that you are outside. You can then start a motivational biz to advise ladies to do all within their powers to make their marriage work. |
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