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Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by maxti: 8:03am On Jan 08, 2022 |
You will be alright. Nothing to be ashamed of, neither should you worry about any mockery. You need to discuss the terms of divorce properly to accommodate needs of the kids. Staying financially stable is one important factor. You might be vulnerable at this point, dont allow anyone take advantage of you. Lastly, life isn't a competition. Don't be moved by what happens next on the life of your ex. A Neighbor got divorced with 4 kids, because he ex remarried, she rushed to get married too. She paid for everything by herself and it didn't end well. Live your life, you will be fine. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by jamesversion: 8:27am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: I can be there for you sexually if you are beautiful. And occasionally help financially. If you're interested. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by OZAOEKPE(f): 8:27am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Advise you do UK and go with your kids if you have the funds 2 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by tempex88(m): 8:27am On Jan 08, 2022 |
It's the husband and wife separating not the father and the children 7 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by anonymous1759(m): 8:28am On Jan 08, 2022 |
HacheNoire: Abegi make una stop this nonsense “psychological effect“ It’s better to be fatherless than to have a useless father it’s vice versa . Kids with both mum and sad still end up useless. Kids from a single parent still do well. The most important is to have either a good father or mother the kids will be good. My advice to the lady . Don’t remarry for now. If you don’t want your children to suffer. You can remarry when they’re grown and can fend themselves. There’s a reason God gave us 2 kidneys but only one is functioning. Madam OP you can do it alone . 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Quality20(m): 8:29am On Jan 08, 2022 |
just go out there and get a man far better than him to marry 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by petsey(m): 8:29am On Jan 08, 2022 |
That stuff no easy o but if there's a way of settling it I think its good. I feel the bad side of it dis days as another woman maltreat my baby cos she's not d mother. Court will share the children n it will never favour any of u two. Raising a child is hard most especially if d real mother or father is not available 4 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Trustedpronet: 8:30am On Jan 08, 2022 |
madone: Marry a divorcee with 3kids...who wan pay their school fees. E no easy o. 8 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by tempex88(m): 8:31am On Jan 08, 2022 |
signature2012: The man is not dead na. Why are we all making it look like the kids is 100% the woman's responsibility? 5 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by DWJOBScom(m): 8:31am On Jan 08, 2022 |
madone: Yes but not immediately She may also need to see a trained counselor to detox She has to stay friendly with the kids' Dad for the children's sake. It is not an easy thing from one man to another man with another brand of wahala incubated 8 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by RodgersAkpafu: 8:31am On Jan 08, 2022 |
BigDawsNet:Which kind talk be this one 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by tempex88(m): 8:32am On Jan 08, 2022 |
HacheNoire: The father is not dead. The kids will still have a father. 2 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by kingthreat(m): 8:32am On Jan 08, 2022 |
There's nothing there. You're just going to be living the life of a matured single girl with children and lots of responsibilities. You will cope through. If you're still beautiful, intelligent and with a good attitude, good possibility you will be married again. 9 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by DeepSight(m): 8:32am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Perish the thought of these irrelevancies and focus on your happiness. There is no shame in being divorced. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by colestephan86: 8:32am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:Really sorry about the situation. You will do much more than you are doing now to care for them. A divorced woman an one whose husband died are the same for my eye 3 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by kponkedenge(m): 8:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: You won't be taking care of the kids alone.... the kids are also his responsibility. The court would make him pay child support for them..... while the kids would be rotated amongst the both of you. 9 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by hedonido: 8:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
This is the end result of too much strong head. I'm sure you will cope quite well as a bitter, divorced woman. There are many of you these days. 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by coolfredo(m): 8:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
U said u wer sapareted for some months, that is how it will be. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Realdeals(m): 8:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
You need to become real with your new life and move on, if need be change location. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Angelfrost(m): 8:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
HacheNoire: What are you even talking about?!! They are getting divorced not dying! A divorced man can still be a great father if he chooses to be. The same way a married man can decide to be an absentee dad all through his marriage till the kids grow up and away from the home. Besides, widows raise amazing kids all by themselves. We have seen this severally. Many of us think merely being married and answering father or mother means that the person is truly parenting... Lol! By the way, a fatherly figure can be anyone who is available to mentor those kids: could be their mum's ever present male companion, brothers, grannies, etc. 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by MARKone(m): 8:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: There is no shame in it, and anyone that mocks you because you are a divorcee, is just being petty. Like I've always said marriage is not do or die, if a couple finds it hard living together and temporal separation doesn't resolve it, then the union Should be dissolved. 6 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Kokoebapluse(m): 8:34am On Jan 08, 2022 |
You don't tell why your husband want you guys divorce. But whatever it may be my sister leave pride aside beg your husband and ask his family to beg him. Outside is not funny. Be a single mum is not easy. Don't follow advice from some women here, women are the enemy of women. Women don't like each other they will want you to be like them in regret. Tell me how many man ready to accept you with 3kids? Madam beg your husband and be more hard working later you won't get time to fight your husband. 37 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Asidiq: 8:34am On Jan 08, 2022 |
You are intelligent egbon. davidadenrele: 2 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by IamANigerianMan: 8:34am On Jan 08, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK:Op, what she needs is Jesus, people that divorce have a very stupid reason. No marriage is perfect on earth including my own but we continue to learn everyday, before, I would never tell my wife sorry but today I have learnt to say sorry immediately I am wrong.. I know a couple that divorce because the man did not give her what you people call head, ego , pride are all reason for divorce, that is why she needs Jesus. 4 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by aikyg(m): 8:34am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Still better than killing yourselves one day all in the name of marriage. 5 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by tempex88(m): 8:34am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Eddygourdo: It takes two to tangle. It's the husband that divorced her and not the other way. 6 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Bubblewitch: 8:35am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:Let him take two kids and you keep the last born, that way he doesn’t leave you to be at his mercy even after divorce. Trust me, men know nothing about what women go through during marriage, let him have a taste of it after divorce. You also get to pick up your life and bounce back immediately 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by TheGift: 8:35am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Life out there for you will depend on you and what you make of it, not what anyone here or elsewhere tells you it will be like. The shame is only there when you care too much about what people think. They have not walked in your shoes. The mockery is only there if you are listening to judgers and haters, or imagining what they may be saying to mock you. STOP IT! Coping with kids: I hope your husband will be contributing significantly to their upkeep. Still you will need to get a steady source of income. Be patient with your kids, as even they are dealing with the separation/divorce and they didn’t ask to be born by you both. Find periodic times for rest and to take care of your own self. Daily, weekly, monthly , yearly. If you are feeling stressed, stop and rest and find a way or someone to which you can express. Nothing wrong with seeing a therapist like the emotionsdoctor. Believe that you can have a whole new life full of love , fulfillment and happiness. Your Divorce does not define you!!! May God grant you strength, courage and wisdom for this new season and beyond. �� 3 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by boxypane(m): 8:35am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:Whatever led to all of these mess, I hope the family do understand that he doesn't have excuses when it comes to making sure the upkeep of the children is his responsibility? All of these irreconcilable differences, most na I'm sorry dey solve them but marriages these days na wa. My dear favour is yours, pay attention to people that shall give u positive energy and give the right advise. And to hell fire with those who shall mock. (in mummy GO's voice). It won't be easy, but in a bit, all shall be smooth. 6 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Skyehigher1: 8:35am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:what is the courses of your divorce so we need to advise you into to before your marriage finally collapse if you tell the roots of the courses even if you heed the advice you can settle everything amicably and your home will be sweet forever because the full meaning of marriage is manage each other 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by lomprico(m): 8:36am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: 3 more emotional imbalance young adults will be released in the next decade. Divorce is not good for young kids. 1 Like 2 Shares |
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