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Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by vickydevoka(m): 9:21am On Jan 08, 2022 |
ednut1:Most women have resorted in using vibratora n cucumbers, they are all masturbators |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Awoleesu(m): 9:22am On Jan 08, 2022 |
It's sad! But as your monicker reads... I'll encourage you to be optimistic about your new status. So, talking about the downsides (shame, mocking etc) you mentioned, I wouldn't know your particulars i.e age, level of education, profession etc, but if you have these things to your advantage, I'll suggest you consider checking out of the country to where you'll not have to suffer the scourge you fear. May God take you up from where you were dropped off... |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Bignuell(m): 9:22am On Jan 08, 2022 |
kansoboy:Omo na only you spit facts for here. But the "cheating, womanizing and sleeping outside is not enough reason to leave a man" dey do me one kind for body But truth be told, if it is something that can be settled, let sleeping dog lie. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Nobody: 9:22am On Jan 08, 2022 |
NaWa4Lyf: mybiz234: Religion takes away your spirituality. Making a false god to take away your sins ain’t going to save you. The universal law is Karma, and you must reap what you sow. 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Tustrange: 9:23am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Trust me it's going to hard for now. Just try to focus on your kids and whenever you need someone to chat up, Will be here Optimistic4life: |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by vickydevoka(m): 9:23am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Hathor5:Lie. When he marries another wife. What do you think will happen. Unless the man is Rich |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Judolisco(m): 9:24am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Beg ur husband Pls... Except e dey always beat u... Why bring 3 innocent kids into dis world then divorce 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by FERNANDEZISBACK: 9:24am On Jan 08, 2022 |
vickydevoka: |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by greggng: 9:25am On Jan 08, 2022 |
madone: How can she remarry with 3 kids ...that will worsen the kids condition. After the divorce, the should do co-parenting ..with this arrangement, the kids will ve the presence of their father around them most of the times . They might even start fucking occasionally to see if miracle will happen back in their marriage . I once met a man that divorced the wife...two years later the still Bleep each other and the kids don't even know their parents ve issue .They where still fucking untill another belle enter ..one day the kids asked their mum ...how she got pregnant since their dad doesn't always sleep in the house . I know some of you gullible people would want to know the final story ...but unfortunately I am no longer giving it for free Una go pay for it . 3 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Tejumola856: 9:26am On Jan 08, 2022 |
atarapa: Werey it’s all cruise don’t take it personal, don’t be annoyance, you sef Go and work hard. I have my own money. Waka pass 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Tradernaija1: 9:26am On Jan 08, 2022 |
ednut1: This is the Naked truth. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Nobody: 9:26am On Jan 08, 2022 |
kokanepyramid: You’re so right. Madam started the story from the middle. We don’t even know whose fault it is. Btw the way she thinks she’ll get the custody of the children is funny too. I suspect infidelity sha 4 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Heavance(m): 9:26am On Jan 08, 2022 |
MansoryMX:Learning from you too |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by abigailstar: 9:27am On Jan 08, 2022 |
You will be fine. Move on with your life |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Dreytonisback(m): 9:27am On Jan 08, 2022 |
You didn't tell us what led to such And from your write-up you're not bothered about losing the man but the shame that comes with being divorced . If you know there's something you're not doing right that pushed your man into filling for a divorce then you better work on it So many men out there are looking for single or divorced women to fvck with drugs If them use trams nack you or Fekomi , you go know say to be single na frustration. Remember your kids won't have a fatherly figure like they used to, it will now be half way relationship And before you find another man to marry you, Omo them go don fvck you tire. Lights up my kpoli in peace 6 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by younggcfr(m): 9:28am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Well for me, the question that comes to mind is... WAS THE CAUSE OF THE DIVORCE YOUR FAULT? Because if it's, I then see why you make mentioned of SHAME and MOCKERY. Another thing is, try and teach your kids how to love (I mean teach them that woman or man you'll one day wish you had as a spouse). Don't use your experience to bring them up. Because the truth is, that's what they'll grow up to be. Lastly, in as much as you and your husband had differences, please and please don't shoot him out of the kid's life. It's very important. I wish you all the best... Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Heavance(m): 9:29am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Spherical77:You are really funny. That means you have seen too many movies and believe that is reality.. Reality will shock you bitterly |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Kobicove(m): 9:30am On Jan 08, 2022 |
MajesticKris: What type of assistance are you talking about here? |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Nobody: 9:30am On Jan 08, 2022 |
redstaarx:The scenario is she bleeped up and she knows( I don’t want to jump to infidelity though most likely) husband requested for space to think. Despite begging, husband didn’t reconsider. After several months she already knows divorce is inevitable. If the man was at fault, say she left cos he beats her or she caught him cheating she would have mentioned it in her post. 9 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by vickydevoka(m): 9:31am On Jan 08, 2022 |
davidadenrele:Y must she take all the kids with her. Emeka Ike tooka all his kids and his a man. She should leave one for him. They can be visiting from tym to tym |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by limcar: 9:31am On Jan 08, 2022 |
abeniagbon:she need to dey service her toto every month |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by komodapson(m): 9:32am On Jan 08, 2022 |
obiekunie01: You no well. Eh sir è gbàdun. If you do not have anything meaningful to type, why not keep your itchy fingers off keypad. If you don't know, your submission ridicules Christ. Is this what apostle paul or christ himself teaches about Divorce, Adultery, fornication and the likes? So by your assumption, she hasn't been living for Christ all this while? Èh Sir.. È gbádun.... |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by President2001(m): 9:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Coming to social media and ask this kind of question shows you are delight in divorce which you don't know your faith |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Heavance(m): 9:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
RPG2020:Leave that one, her reply shows she is a baby mama, never married, so she doesn't understand what OP is trying to remedy. (promiscuous life wey Dem rename to baby mama... E get name yoruba dey call such kids).. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by mathesco(m): 9:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
You said......."You saw it coming" is it that you are not a good wife to your husband? A marriage that produced 3 kids; A man cannot just wake up and serve you divorce letter. There is something you did to man that you are yet to tell us. However, the Court will seek for your both consents if they should continue or you are still interested in the marriage, so advice you to settle with your husband Cos it might not be easy with 3 kids under 10. 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by kansoboy: 9:34am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Bignuell: Yes is the truth...most times we blame our parents for not doing many things or having built mantions , but now I am married and have just only one wahala baby boy....it then done on me what my own parent have done to provide for 4 boys going up....some days I want to get mad at my wife, then my child will come in and start crying...I will swallow d pains and go out or just luck up, why? I want my child to be happy....so think of Ur children before divorce oo Ehen heh..u that want to cheat, think of the cost implications (bear, pepper soup, human hair, extra bills, t .fair, hotel bills and condom bills) all this money and u never buy Pampers finish ooo. Buhari still be president/economy hard ooh. U garRIT?...if u don't garRIT, forget abouRIT. Loll 5 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by DarkJeddi(m): 9:35am On Jan 08, 2022 |
obiekunie01:The majority of suffering.. Dimwitted Nigerian Christians.. Can attest to that.. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by ikenna44: 9:36am On Jan 08, 2022 |
There's nothing to be ashamed about! It happens! Be optimistic... Life will turn out better! However, for the sake of your sanity and your kids... Make sure you have a husband figure and a father figure for your kids... You'll be needing that... If you're lucky to meet a single guy... Beautiful! If not...look for a widower or a divorcee and remarry or cohabit... Just make sure there's a man there for you! Optimistic4life: |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by mkakin(m): 9:37am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Dear OP, Life would not be exactly the same again... but trust me - life can be better after divorce. You need to make up your mind you are going to be a better woman and mother after the divorce. That's the first thing - your mind! So, you need to be intentional. Secondly, check your finances. How well were you doing with your finances during marriage? Do you make your own money? You must find a way to make your own money - and to increase it. Thirdly, do not be unreasonably hard during the divorce proceedings. Prepare your mind to take the benefits you can take and just leave the rest. How? There is something called 'Maintenance' in divorce. There is another concept called Custody. Do not out of anger refuse any offer that would help you. The issue of maintenance is dependent on who has custody of the children. Did your husband ask the court for custody? If yes, it is not likely the court would grant custody of three children under 10 years to a man, except the man proves to the court that you are not 'responsible enough' So, we can safely assume you will be granted custody of the children. Get as much money as possible for the maintenance of the children from the man. And dont let it be lumpsum.Let it be monthly, quarterly or yearly. As your husband become richer, it can be increased Make sure the man undertakes to be responsible for the 'education of the children of the marriage'. Once you do this, a heavy load is lifted from your shoulders. I repeat, don't walk away from offers/benefits - out of anger or bitterness Also, don't try to keep the children away from their father. It would make the whole thing easier for you. If he wants to see them, allow him. It would make it easier for him to release money for their welfare. On what people would say - don't give a damn! You would be better for it. Take care of yourself and your children. If you need to relocate, don't be ashamed to beg him to help you with the rent. I repeat, prepare to take care of your children and yourself. People will see it. And it would shut their mouths. And don't forget to leave your heart open. Love may still come your way. Peace! 3 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by flexyrule(m): 9:38am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:You won't be divorced. Give the marriage another push. It will work! God bless you. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Spherical77(m): 9:38am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Blakjewelry:She needs not to be financially ok since it's the man who served her divorce notice. The man would definitely be responsible for the kids upkeep, education and whataview She only needs to be financially ok for her wellbeing and support her kids. Especially if she doesn't plan to re-marry 1 Like |
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