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Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by komodapson(m): 10:01am On Jan 08, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK: You sound contradictory. Go through your write up again without biases. However, being a Single mum is not something we all should be rejoicing about, the impacts, consequences are there staring in our faces. Shouldn't be a lifestyle we should be advocating for, it must be discouraged. In conclusion, they (single mum) still deserve a niche in Society and should be well integrated. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Spherical77(m): 10:03am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Blakjewelry:You are absolutely right bro. Alot of women are willing to dump the ass of their husband long time ago. Sadly, they are stuck in there due to their poor finances. Women are really going through a lot in the name of marriage and they can't move out. Not because they love their husband that much or what people would say. Rather, the monetary part of it makes them remain in that messy marriage I have them in my neighbourhood and i really feel for them. Some men cheat and rubb it to their wives face claiming she can't do nothing. Women needs to be educated and empowered before marriage. It's very very neccesary seriously. Especially in this our naija where nothing absolutely works 3 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by GhostWisperer: 10:04am On Jan 08, 2022 |
HacheNoire:a divorced woman, especially with kids, is never fine in Africa and even in many instances in the West. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by od501: 10:04am On Jan 08, 2022 |
afrika: Chai...see maturity. Biko iyam single, are you? |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by anonymous1759(m): 10:09am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Myexdisturbs: Qualified literate can one survive with one kidney or not? If Yes then you’re talking nonsense ,you’re the illiterate here in question. If you can’t get the context of my message. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by hammer567: 10:11am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: MY ADVISE TO YOU IS SIMPLY TO ENJOY YOUR LIFE AND FORGET ABOUT ANYTHING TO DO WITH MARRIAGE. ALSO, DO NOT TURN YOURSELF INTO HIS BABY SITTER, EVERYBODY MUST CONTRIBUTE THEIR FAIR SHARE. GO OUT AND GET A LIFE, IF IT IS BUSINESS TRY TO SET IT UP OR EDUCATION STUDY. BETTER, YET YOU NOW FREE TO ENJOY ALL THOSE RELATIONSHIP OPPORTUNITY YOU PASS UP AS A MARRIED WOMAN. BET AVOID HAVING ANY FURTHER KIDS, AS 3 IS ENOUGH. LIVE AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE. 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Spherical77(m): 10:11am On Jan 08, 2022 |
alizma:This your last statement shows how myopic you are. No doubt, you must have really been brainwashed to think you are way better than any single person out there. Take this from me man. Hell No! No one is better than anyone Please wake up and stop being dellusion 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Tejumola856: 10:12am On Jan 08, 2022 |
GREATESTPIANIST: Don’t judge me by what you’re going through in your life, no be everyone is from poor background like you boss. Get sense this is 2022 catch cruise and enjoy your life, understand a joke when you see it, me comment on nairaland doesn’t mean I don’t have what to do with my life, it’s just a cruise don’t take it personal and don’t die of hypertension… I come in peace boss |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by anonymous1759(m): 10:13am On Jan 08, 2022 |
jornwhite: Humans can survive on one kidney that’s the context of my message. Having two kidneys is good . Just like having a partner but if life goes the other way round then you’ve to adjust and survive with one. That’s a typical lesson the kidney teaches us as humans . |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Sammy101111(m): 10:13am On Jan 08, 2022 |
You will be fine my sister just take care of your kids and package your self a man that will love you more than your ex husband will come once you honest and please any man that comes your way be truth to him always tell him your intentions so if he is in you will know and if he is out you will know .There is no shame in having 3 kids and being a single mother |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by rhames(m): 10:14am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Are you in favour of the divorce or you want to explore arbitration? It's not easy being a divorcee irrespective of gender. Do me a favor. Don't discuss their fathers negative sides with and don't call him names in your children's presence. Don't even insult him if he exhibits his negatives and advise him to do same. Give him the maximum respect you gave him while married. Let the kids be your connection and their welfare your main concern. Let him see them regularly and make sure they see him periodically. But I believe both of you can explore settlement and I pray so. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Benprass(m): 10:15am On Jan 08, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK: Even if you aint a Christian that doesn't mean you will write of Jesus from this situation! Christ is not interested in making situation bad but making them good. I sense you are a Muslim or a non believe, even if you are not what I just mention allow her involve Jesus because they are some situation that is only Jesus that can fix it. It is the Spirititual that control the physical. Who knows? The husband might not be in his right sense so with prayers and good advice things might work out. Having a devoice in Nigeria is not a joke especially when is not in the western world. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by abimic(m): 10:17am On Jan 08, 2022 |
It is very disheartening to hear that as much as you wanted the marriage, the man wants otherwise. You just have to re-program yourself to move on. It is always always good when couples have a bible believing church they attend, where when they have issues that all in-house methods cannot resolve, they meet with their pastor and counsel both parties on way forward and help resolve the issues. we cannot take the house of God away from instilling proper guidance in some homes where they seem to be going astray. I hate hearing divorce when both parties can applicably table their matters together to each other, make a workaround and resolve it selflessly. As a woman, you have many tools at your disposal when you start noticing some derails at the point the tiding was still good. I am sure the house of God would have helped in this regard also if you both had a church you are deeply rooted in. The kids would not be happy to hear when they grow that their parents separated when both parties can put behind their interests and make things work. Anyway, if the divorce finally happens, please give your kids a very sound moral upbringing, and talk to them about the words of God, do not paint their dad bad( as everything happens for a reason), move on, do not be shameful as divorce is not the end of life, change environment, hang out with your kids and sometimes alone, chop life, get married again if you so desire and see you cannot handle the loneliness. Enjoy! |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Myexdisturbs: 10:18am On Jan 08, 2022 |
anonymous1759:You just changed your stance , learn to pass across the correct info. Bye |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by cpu2006(m): 10:21am On Jan 08, 2022 |
madone: She have boy friend that normally help her grease her pussy before whenever her husband that wanted to divorce was not around 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by alizma: 10:21am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Spherical77:Mumu, where did you wake up from today, did you read the post I quote or you just want to be noticed? You don't go about giving people advise that you aren't praying for. Why would someone tell a woman who is looking for advise on marital issues that marriage is not for everybody, If the woman think and believe so, would she be looking for advise on marriage? |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by worldclass68(m): 10:21am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Welcome to oloshosm..... 3 under 10 kids wtf......... Them plenty for our street...4 kids , 4 dads and so on....them plenty and nah small small boys they knack them , some boys wicked sef, they knack the mother and the child join... Me too get one sha...make I no lie If you can still find a way to make the marriage work...try harder...try harder try harder..not 1 kid but 3 under 10 wtf..... |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Basher8583: 10:21am On Jan 08, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK: Which one is your own. He gave his opinion how e take disturb you. And by the way his opinion seems to be the best so far. All the rest are just decieving the lady. For the man to want divorce and not the lady speaks a lot about the lady. Men dont ask for divorce unless there has been multiple marital infractions from the lady that can no longer be tolerated. If you are not ready to play by the rules of marriage why get into it. It's that simple. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by hammer567: 10:21am On Jan 08, 2022 |
abimic: THE LAST PARAGRAPH IS TRASH. SHE SHOULD MAKE SURE THAT MAN KNOWS THAT HE WILL FULFIL HIS FAIR SHARE OF RESPONSIBILITY TO HIS CHILDREN AND MAKE FINANCIAL CONTRIBUTIONS AS WELL AS HELP WITH CHILD MINDING. I HATE WAYO MEN, THAT USE WOMEN AND PLAY ON THEIR KIND HEART. NOW U SAY IT IS HER KIDS BECAUSE YOU WANT TO TURN HER TO HOUSEGIRL. RUBBISH! 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by hammer567: 10:24am On Jan 08, 2022 |
WHY DO WE HAVE SO MANY WAYO MEN? THEY ACTUALLY PLAY ON WOMEN INTELIGENCE AND TALK DOWN ON THEM. THE RESPONSIBILITY IS 50/50. GO AND PREACH YOUR GOD FEARING TO HER HUSBAND AND HIS MANY CONCUBINES. 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Amumaigwe: 10:25am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: You will be free to run your life any way you choose. No more accountability to any one, just like most today wives want it. Ladies must be liberated from this shackles called marriage. Congratulations!!! 2 Likes |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Adlac(m): 10:25am On Jan 08, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK: The Baddest! |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by MrQuadri: 10:26am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:I would have advise to try settle things amicably but for a man to serve you divorce notice, that means he has made up his mind. From the single female parent I have related with, life ain't easy especially the emotional and financial aspect. Alot of men will be coming to your DM now claiming to accept you with your children, believe me most just want a share of your body. HOW I WISH IT HASN'T GOTTEN TO THIS DIVORCE STAGE, BUT THE TRUTH IS, IT IS ONLY GOD THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR HUSBAND MIND NOW. 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by LordIsaac(m): 10:26am On Jan 08, 2022 |
There was no "divorce notice" in the vow she took on the altar....it is for better for worse. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by hammer567: 10:27am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Amumaigwe: WE ARE THE MODERN MEN.... NA WE DEY HERE! |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Basher8583: 10:27am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Sammy101111: Lol. It's the man seeking for divorce not the woman. You can ask the woman why the man is seeking for divorce instead. What if the man discovered that the kids were not his? Never can tell |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Blackbishop(m): 10:29am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: One thing both parties will deny in this case is EGO, Madam you will be alright but get it straight that the kids will bare the brunt. From personal experience. If you want we can talk at length |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Spherical77(m): 10:29am On Jan 08, 2022 |
alizma:And What makes you think marriage is truly for everybody Mr. Married man? If you have this mentality of marriage is for everybody, then everybody ought to be rich na? Why must we have much more poorer people than the rich ones? Since you've made one particular institution in the society mandatory for everyone I know you have been brainwashed. Na God go deliver you 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Godstime234: 10:29am On Jan 08, 2022 |
I will like to hear the complete story from the OP. Yoruba wil say. Ise ki dede se. Something must have happen to warrant the divorce. Also, OP said they have been separated for a while before the divorce summon came up. What did she do to stop the divorce when she saw it coming? Did she explore all option seeking for peace or she too is as stubborn as my wife? Pls try n give us the full story. What really happend . A man cannot just wake up and say he is filling for divorce . I pray God will intervene. 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by hammer567: 10:31am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Blackbishop: WHO WILL TELL THE KIDS NAU? THEY CAN FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO TELL THE KIDS. I' M MOVING CLOSER TO MY NEW JOB BUT YOU CAN STILL SEE DADDY EVERY WEEK OR MONTH. |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by Hathor5(f): 10:31am On Jan 08, 2022 |
easzypeaszy: If your care and love for your kids depends on the relationship with their mother then you are a shitty father. 1 Like |
Re: So I Am Getting A Divorce... How Do I Adjust? by FERNANDEZISBACK: 10:31am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Basher8583:Now get off.. |
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