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Kingjames:
My beautiful Racheal...dont end the relationship !

Your guy is my carbon-copy. I vowed never to sleep with anyone that is not officially my wife yet in my room.

every corner of my room is an Altar of prayers.

I either sex you in your house or we use hotel. Its a personal decision which i believe is what the guys is.

so dear take heart. Your boyfriend is not a cultist. You are not a prostitute either.

With time ...you will start enjoying the moaning and the heeeee..huuuuu ..shaaaa ooooo in his room

And your body that should be the main temple/altar for God is now what Pls you guys should stop all these yeye behavior, God can't be mocked

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

Apparently... he doesn’t feel that way. He probably has a fetish for it

daddytime:
Those 5-6-year-old kids in the neighbourhood definitely know something you don't know about brother-hotel. Dem go just dey look you like "aunty wey mumu" with corner eye.

By the way, what does this boyfriend do for a living? Im just asking oh.

I'd advise you to buy some lollipops plus some "knockouts" for them this season and sit them down for a gist. Believe me, they'll fill your ears up with original gists about your guy in their innocence.

Follow my suggestion and come back here to update this thread.

Check my siggy...

She is only 23. Little experience i guess.

She came for advice and she expect ur honest opinion. Dis way u r judging isn't helping. U know if we had psychotherapist in dis country she won't need ur advice. Pls do well to put ur advice in a well composed and non insultive way

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

please quit that relationship. That guy is something else

BigBashiru:
Well said. Men hv encouraged this boyfriend/girlfriend bullshit for too long and I'm blaming men here.... there's nothing like boyfriend and girlfriend if you both like urselves get married.... u can get married in the dining table no need for elaborate events.


I take issues with husbands collecting left overs of boyfriends yet expected to be men and cater to the women financially life long as they often demand.

A woman's bf should marry them. Husbands shouldn't be collecting left overs and still be expected to cater to the ladies as husbands financially and in all other ways.

Many of you men can never be truthful to yourselves and start the change you guys are clamoring for. The husband that is collecting leftovers also dumped leftovers for others. The day men tame their manhood may probably be the day Nigeria will be morally upright. Most women live to please some men and this is what is instituting nuisance all over Nigeria. This is why I don’t pity some ladies because they live their life around men, begging for crumps up and down.

And many of you are hypocritical, if you have slept with different girls then you have dumped leftovers to your fellow men.

Why can't Nigerians give advice in a candid non insultive way?? Nigerians need a reorientation....

RUN

nnenwa5:
Many of you men can never be truthful to yourselves and start the change you guys are clamoring for. The husband that is collecting leftovers also dumped leftovers for others. The day men tame their manhood may probably be the day Nigeria will be morally upright. Most women live to please some men and this is what is instituting nuisance all over Nigeria. This is why I don’t pity some ladies because they live their life around men, begging for crumps up and down.

And many of you are hypocritical, if you have slept with different girls then you are have dumped leftovers to your follow men.

I agree with you actually. Men are a big part of the problem and yet keep blaming thr girls.

Also it's not good/fair how they insulting the op. This means nairaland isn't the best place to ask for advice as ppl seldom give candid/caring compassionate advice.

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

this is just the right time for u to make amend to his life style. If he cannot stand with that let him go.

My sister you have a good point noticed that he doesn't want to have sex in his house
If I'm in your position either I will end the relationship or continue, I will do my findings and get to the point where he refused what of if he didn't want to do that on his bed because of story he may be heard before or experienced
Not picking his calls is another serious issue which would have give you avenue to do your findings

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

No man will place value on you unless you place value on yourself. If you feel you can’t date a man that takes you to hotel for sex. Then end the relationship. No human is indispensable. In today’s world men do not value women anymore. So if you want to be used as a piece of trash by a man, place no value on yourself.

Ese4u:
She came for advice and she expect ur honest opinion. Dis way u r judging isn't helping. U know if we had psychotherapist in dis country she won't need ur advice. Pls do well to put ur advice in a well composed and non insultive way

The forum has become toxic! The moderators need to act urgently....

SmellySperm:
But you gave him reverse cowgirl in hotels?

Baba don't be a fool

Sis so sorry but he have another which is the main..u are just a side dish... Same thing happen to my boo. If I come visit I'm only limited to his bedroom �..but now I know his brothers, cousin and sister and yeah if I need anything he will be like pegi u know your way round this house na get it your self u are not a stranger..and if I'm like I'm a guest he will be like u ain't ready to drink water oo once u are ready go to the fridge and get a water .yeah they all know me now even his work colleagues... So my dear if u want the relationship stand your ground and let him know u ain't a prostitute and pls be loyal to him also.

That house might not be solely his..
Maybe somebody else comes home at night.

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

Well I will advice you to stop having sex with whoever you haven't got married to.
God said so -I know it's difficult but stay in Christ .

If you continue the relationship and end up getting pregnant for him you might not like what the out come would be .

How far..


Are you guys still together Rachel98

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

This might be a psychological problem for your boyfriend.
Do you squirt heavily on bed? I know guys that can't sleep on damp beds even if you invert the mattress. Then there is a condition called Hyperosmia where one can experience strong discomfort and even illness from certain smells such as body sweat, pussy juice and even certain deodorants etc. So maybe any of these OR maybe it is one of the conditions he was given to by one baba he met in a shrine.

Ladies should stop sleeping wait a guy that have not married to you,must you sleep with him,that is why he take you as a prostitute.

Rachel98:
Pls stop it. I'm not a prostitute. My parents trained me well.

Oh! But the 'training' did not include "Never open your private part to he who is not your husband"?

Young people these days think premarital sex is a normal thing... The reason marriage is rare and the few that wedded don't last in marriage!
You wasted all the spice in the meal before serving the table...

BigBashiru:
I agree with you actually. Men are a big part of the problem and yet keep blaming thr girls.

Also it's not good/fair how they insulting the op. This means nairaland isn't the best place to ask for advice as ppl seldom give candid/caring compassionate advice.

The people insulting the OP are just frustrated, either by hardship they are facing or heartbreaks from ladies. But do I blame them? No, I blame the mods that are not moderating these sections maturely.

Successfulben:
You stated that he is handsome, lives in a comfortable apartment, owns a car amongst many others. Your relationship is almost a year. You did not state that he is planning to go see your parents. You give him good sex and he gives you money for up-keep and transport. He does not see a wife material in you. He is chopping you. You told us that you are not a prostitute, but from the look of things, it is either you are a prostitute or an ashawo.




#successfulben

Sex I exchange for money or material gain is called _________

honestly i think he is married and doesn't want to defile is matrimonial bed,or he has a serious girl he wants to marry but definitely not you.take your time look around,you will definitely find some evidence.

nnenwa5:
The people insulting the OP are just frustrated, either by hardship they are facing or heartbreaks from ladies. But do I blame them? No, I blame the mods that are not moderating these sections maturely.

I doubt the moderators are even doing their jobs sha... i guess too many posts and too little time to moderate. I think they should set up rules and also increase permanent bans on accounts.

Every side chick. Dem dey knack em for ous.
Something not adding up sha

Hmmmmm Ogbenutan.
Iroyin a gbọ ṣe haaaaa


You caused it, you should have rejected him when he took you to the hotel in the first place.

Kriss216:
But, are you a prostitute?

stop being childish for likes here kid


Op that dude had gone far in life, instead of worrying about dumping him, seek spiritual cleansing with no delay and go for serious spiritual consultation



I'm disappointed you dont have instinct to see the strange things on time, I just hope you're spiritually complete presently

Go your way and don't look back.

Thank God you're in 2022; become the better you by using more of your head and not your heart

To me the guy is just trying to protect his good image in the community he lives, he doesn't want them to know him as someone who brings in woman to sleep over... this is my opinion though and also the idea of been intimate out of wedlock is not okay at all, to some guy since you have yield to his request of sex not at his home but at an hotel in the first instance will surely means you can allow him anywhere and which prove you ........ .... I am so sorry if am rude but sex outside of marriage cannot keep a man, if he love you he will wait

Ormorlehwah:
Hmmmmm Ogbenutan.
Iroyin a gbọ ṣe haaaaa


You caused it, you should have rejected him when he took you to the hotel in the first place.

Reject what?

From the write up, you can infer that the lady likes the guy more. . She would easily give in. .

When ladies like guys much, they don't engage their brain and reasoning, but use emotions to approach everything.

When d balloon burst, they start crying and fighting without any major ground.

Senomi:
Op next time no create any thread like this for this site, no be normal men wey dey here most of dem na human skin stuffed with animal faeces I don talk my own, carry ur complaint go Twitter

Very bad mouth