I will only advice you to ask the guy to define your relationship with him. The way he is treating you is not different from the way prostitutes are being treated. You have already made the mistake of allowing the guy to sleep with you several times which is not what our parents normally teach us from home but what we decide to do while we are away from them. If you ask the guy about his relationship with you and he is not assuring you of getting marrying to you. Then call the relationship a quit.

something wey una discuss for December 23 Naim una push come here almost a month later. Something dey worry whoever push this thing come front page. madam abeg leave ur boyfriend alone mk e dey enjoy him fantasy. Na too much of porn dey worry am.

From your narrations, I see you're a well trained lady and in love with your boyfriend but please do not let emotions and love cloud your judgement.

Meanwhile he's a perv and a jackass, please do not give in to his demands when next he asks you to go to the hotel with him.

I wouldn't rule out those things you mentioned viz, ritualist, seeing you as a hoe etc. He's about to lose a very nice lady and that's his loss.

Next time he tries such rubbish, bounce and stay your hand.

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

How do people even start a relationship self.

Kriss216:
But, are you a prostitute?

Haha please be merciful to her can't you see she is crying

I had a girlfriend just like this - she preffered having sex in a hotel! At home she's prim and proper, doesn't get turned on, but in a hotel she's WILD!

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

you forgot to tell us that he is a Yahoo boy and the native doctor told him not to have sex in his house else the juju will fail

It's written clearly that he's taking you for a hoe

SmellySperm:

Op answer this simple question. Are you?

Dude so smart. He treats you like a Farm tool coz he knows you're one. He doesn't wanna wife a hoe. Bitter truth.

Haha another one have mercy on her Na, why calling her...

Bundle002:
Ashewo u wan con turn house wife
D ashawo part still dy head

Bundle002:
Ashewo u wan con turn house wife
D ashawo part still dy head

Make una calm down with this young lady na.

She is just expressing an issue and needs mature counsels.

Truth is both of you are cheating on each other. . But you love him more than he loves you.

If you are thinking of marriage with him, I think you are very wrong.

That's my take.

OP, you already know NL is full of extreme sexists who never sees anything wrong in whatever a man does, so I'm hoping the insults don't get at you.

That said, your boyfriend shouting "God forbid" when you brought up the subject isn't really a response and you shouldn't let it stop at that. OK, God has forbidden, so what are his reasons? Is he hiding something? Does he need psychological help? Are there religious reasons? What if you insisted on no sex outside? Would that be a deal breaker for him? The purpose of courtship is to address all these possible differences in lifestyle or opinion. It's the time to know our deal breakers and the compromises we can make. Please, don't ever ignore the red flags.

Hamzaaaaaaaa:
Well, if the first intimacy takes place in his place before opting for hotel in other subsequent ones, that means the styles you gave him during the sex indicate that you are a bloody hoe

Haha

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

that guy is wicked. He does not see you as you see him. Run for your life

That is the way human beings are, You are setting unrealistic expectations of other people. Increase your love towards him if you still love him. tell him to his face that he is not a loving person. If he continues, leave him but not with a broken heart..

So you don't even know you are a prostitute.are you married to him yet and he is fucking u.and he knows the last guy u dated also bleeped u without being married to u.

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

Then you stay the f**k way from Nairaland. Don't you have any sense? You were f**ked severally in a hotel, please who are you? Dindinrin. You're just a f**k buddy to him. He is begging you cuz' he stiol nedd that p***y for now, soon you wilo be left and blocked.

daddytime:
Those 5-6-year-old kids in the neighbourhood definitely know something you don't know about brother-hotel.

By the way, what does this boyfriend do for a living? Im just asking oh.

I'd advise you to buy some lollipops plus some "knockouts" for them this season and seat them down for a gist. Believe me, they'll fill your ears up with original gists about your guy in their innocence.

Follow my suggestion and come back here to update this thread.

Check my siggy...

The first sensible comment. Bar man! One guider for this guy.
Op, truth is, your boyfriend is either married or in a strong relationship

The way you guys are frequenting hotel, make we no see new of missing person here oo. Abi him no be skull miner?

Please my dear don’t end the relationship some make a vow to themselves that any women they will have sex in his house will be the person he will marry,maybe he is the type that made such vows.

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

Maybe, just maybe he is married or someone else is the madam of the house and you are the side chick. So he is not comfortable with you staying at his house, something is not right.
See, the only way to know is if you make friends with his neighbors but he doesn’t want to that is why he takes you out. Just maybe! My 2 cents.

Bamzyriches451:
It's written clearly that he's taking you for a hoe

Not necessarily. Some people have strange
moral codes and superstition. I bet he believes having sex in his house would bring bad luck!

Prostitute because of hotel and car sex? See flex.

This one wan create problem. Na the mumu wey dey call you 16 times dey vex me. Na just to give you belle and kick you out sure pass.
Yeye.

PoliteActivist:
I had a girlfriend just like this - she preffered having sex in a hotel! At home she's prim and proper, doesn't get turned on, but in a hotel she's WILD!

Did you end up using her for rituals?

Please sister would you listen to me, I want to believe that you're riped enough to marry why allowing him to toy with your destiny, your body is a temple of God that you need to be respected. Now what the man needs to be strongly get and enjoy on the weeding day he's no more value it again.
Ladies should try to be having a concrete agreement with men why approaching and you want to seal your contract either as a wife or girl friend but if your level is more than girl friend you will let him knows that you can't because you want to settle too.
Again You said you're raised up by godly parent what of your uncle you work in company or your parent's friend saw you in hotel with somebody you've not introduced to them what would they say

Hmmm.....
He takes you out to have fun all because of the community,respect,bla bla bla but he is a gentleman,calm,smart..... He does not need to take you anywhere to knack,he own a apartment so y wasting money unless he don't want to lose d respect everyone give him(see da broda him sef dey knack) u knw all dat stuff go be topic and maybe his a shy type,or maybe his hiding something
but a gentle guy he is your bf not husband and i dont think they have those types of relationship(maybe u'r relationship T&C) or his bcoming somethingelse(i think so) so you giving him sex anywhere is bad
maybe u shud remember him your like's and dislike's,if he did not change: sorry for u

He court you cheating on him but he didn't want to tell you, he want to show you the kind of life you needed, but serious in relationship if you don't find it serious with someone as a lady you find your way out of it, some people are been control with charm this days, try to pray header

Stop disturbing him. His money belongs to him, his decision to waste it also lies on him. Who even tell you that you're the chosen one? Somebody dey spend money na another person e dey pain. Maybe your coworker don dey eye you sef

He is reserving the house for a lady that would say 'HAIL NO' to sex until after marriage.

You gave it to him in a hotel... continue there!!

Try somewhere else or better still transform today and stop giving...If he treasures it, he would come for it...then you can now negotiate where it takes place.

blackaxe78:


Did you end up using her for rituals?

A total prayer warrior?

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Danielaka:
He court you cheating on him but he didn't want to tell you, he want to show you the kind of life you needed, but serious in relationship if you don't find it serious with someone as a lady you find your way out of it, some people are been control with charm this days, try to pray header

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PoliteActivist:
I had a girlfriend just like this - she preffered having sex in a hotel! At home she's prim and proper, doesn't get turned on, but in a hotel she's WILD!

haaa.......shora