NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

A useless thread like this should not be on Frontpage

Johnsown1:
Its a crime and I will never forgive you if am in your sister's shoe.

What if OP doesn't give a hoot because she was previously betrayed by her and they are mortal enemies??

Toks2008:


A useless thread like this should not be on Frontpage

What makes it useless? Care to elucidate?

infogenius:


The little boy made a relationship work and making his marriage better.
Which one big girl u don make work?

Iknow very well that all the trash u spill here has not helped u to get a steady relationship.

Work on a relationship, get married then possibly ur sense will make sense but until then keep gallivanting here and talking like a kid that can't reason.

Bros u will not make heaven

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

no b u say ur bf moved in ur place u begin vex

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

You have been fvcking him already, oloshi

How can you even process this sh1t in your head

E no go betta for you

[quote authora=Michelle70 post=109582426]How did it even cross ur mind that u should even contemplate on accepting or not is to be studied.

The fact that he even proposed "marriage" means both of u have been doing something

Omo, where ona deh see these feelings weh ona deh develop for ona sisters husbands sef[/quote] She has been banging the guy behind, hence the collaps of her sister's marriage. Op, you're wicked.

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

You both can f**k him u know??!

Munzy14:

You always feel you are more male than most males here...Anyway if it makes you sleep.

Two can work together if they agree...If she finds a Life time partner in him, she should go on...If you don't gerrit, fogerrit...

Nobe simple question him ask you? Is like u bn dey get akpor for him.Him wan Bleep your woman mariangel ni?

Which kind oloshi question be these
So u have been eyeing him
Wow

PoliteActivist:


What makes it useless? Care to elucidate?

Read the title again and tell me if this is not a stupid question?

I actually thougt the sister in question is late.

Congratulations baby girl on destroying your sister's marriage. Accept the proposal. Happy married life.
What do they say again about 'what goes around.....'

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

Exactly my thought too. Until I saw it was just 2months old separation and they are already having strong feelings. Nansense

Toks2008:


Read the title again and tell me if this is not a stupid question?

I actually thougt the sister in question is late.

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

You should already know the answer - NO! A capital NO, it will end badly between the two of you and will make your own family turn against you. It is not worth it because, you will be going against God's laws and against good judgement.

I also think the guy is either immature or just *.....*, how can you go to propose marriage to the sister of a woman you have not divorced? It's even a slap on your family and your parents in particular, is he expecting that your parents will agree anyway or that he will take you away if they don't? He wants to marry twice from the same family, the guy has serious problems! How does he plan to get through the barrier of your family? Someone they are begging who refused is then thinking he will go ask the same people for another of their daughter's hand in marriage? You better perish the thought and tell him not to come see you again except you as well have issues!

Toks2008:


Read the title again and tell me if this is not a stupid question?

I actually thougt the sister in question is late.

You have a point. The title makes no sense. But we know she means her sister's soon to be ex

Wait! Wait!! You don't have culture in your village abi or you be American? How on earth would you want to accept to marry a man who was one time your sister's husband. If you do it, is an abominable act. Meanwhile your parent are they aware. Let them speak sense into you and that man is a devil for even thought of proposing to u.

Ndi Ara every
Nonsense

When i saw the Title at first, I presumed your sister is Dead, which i will understand if you contemplate marrying her husband but in this case your sister is still alive and barely separated from her husband 2 months ago and you are contemplating this? my sister what happened to black pot, may happen to white pot soon, if precaution is not taken. but this time you will not only shame urself, you will be enemy to your family members and everyone will see you as the problem. they will always look at you as a betrayal and someone no one will ever trust again with personal issues

Well in Africa � if you are one its morally wrong... Ur supoose to support your sister reunion back. The marriage looks Young.. But if you are oyinbo, say America... U need to let ur sis know that u like the guy, if she loves the man back it will propel her to improve and take his man back... If ur sis don't care, latch in the dude and sign a prenup and marry him.
Everything is wisdom and being proactive.

PoliteActivist:


What if OP doesn't give a hoot because she was previously betrayed by her and they are mortal enemies??

But once she has beat you to the game before then forget it

saasala:


You have been fvcking him already, oloshi

How can you even process this sh1t in your head

E no go betta for you

That's really harsh. Just advise her and let it go

My contribution in one word

Munzy14:

So eshi ahu ngwara gi ya, i chere na o wu just mere talk okwaya? Smh

M like haa la mmadu, I don't hide the truth at all..

Umunne nwaanyi abuo, nwere level of envy na anoro between them, ma ya fodu kwa ndi wu just friends.

OP and the In-law are in for it...Anyways happiness is key thing..They might be the right partners for each other.

Nwa m datiri last si na ya achohu onye Catholic, I ma ihe umu nne ya ndi Nwaanyi o toro gwara ya? Na ya chee kwa eche ofuma...That it isn't a big issue ma ya fokwa nke i wu deal breaker...Reason am na..

I feel the sis is not showing value to the man, And you know there is always that sister that will be calm and coordinated marakwa ihe ochoga...

The man is good, if he isn't OP Won't look his way twice not to even develope feelings for him...Biakwa choro ilu ya sef...She has capitalize on her sister's flaws to improve and become the best woman for the man....These things happen naturally everyday...

Umu nwoke achohu kwa nwaanyi na awa ha ishi ugbu a...As long as he has something doing...Better and nice ladies will admire and hook up...

Nwoke ole lugakwanu nwaanyi ugbu a...Even with the comfortable earnings.

I've typed it here before; I consider men who do such as evil minded beings.
They do so out of spite.

Olosho

Mariangeles:


I've typed it here before; I consider men who do such as evil minded beings.
They do so out of spite.

Lol..

This should be how you see it...though.

The attached in this post, was a status a friend posted on his timeline last night..It came up immediately i left here after replying one efulefu trying so hard to get even.

These things are deeper than what we see, hear or talk...

Ihe gi na partner gi mege, should be between you guys and very private...Who you tell may develope feelings without you being aware...E messia up, the dynamics will change without stress.

Women do spite more than men now...

You break up with her, next she make a video with another guy having fun, and post with cryptic message.. I believe it is not spite abii?

The only way to pepper a woman is being with who she doesn't rate...Anyways it could be spite or genuine love...

My own is peace of mind is priceless in this life..

Munzy14:

Lol..

This should be how you see it...though.

The attached in this post, was a status a friend posted on his timeline last night..It came up immediately i left here after replying one efulefu trying so hard to get even.

These things are deeper than what we see, hear or talk...

Ihe gi na partner gi mege, should be between you guys and very private...Who you tell may develope feelings without you being aware...E messia up, the dynamics will change without stress.

Women do spite more than men now...

You break up with her, next she make a video with another guy having fun, and post with cryptic message.. I believe it is not spite abii?

The only way to pepper a woman is being with who she doesn't rate...Anyways it could be spite or genuine love...

My own is peace of mind is priceless in this life..

A good woman is not easy to find too you know?
Can a man steal a good woman from his brother who doesn't value her?
How would you see such a man?

This is not about scoring points, this is about looking at it from another perspective.
Like you said, karma is real!

NovesaTillie, go find your own man!
There are other good men out there. Why him?
That man was never and will never be yours!
As long as he married your sister, he'll always be her husband before God Almighty, till death parts them.

Mariangeles:
NovesaTillie, go find your own man!
There are other good men out there. Why him?
That man was never and will never be yours!
As long as he married your sister, he'll always be her husband before God Almighty, till death parts them.

Put yourself in my shoes. I'm almost 30, this man is really nice,my mom has given her consent. His marriage with my sister didn't work because she was always career minded and never cared about having children too.
I'm just a little confused

NovesaTillie:

Put yourself in my shoes. I'm almost 30, this man is really nice,my mom has given her consent. His marriage with my sister didn't work because she was always career minded and never cared about having children too.
I'm just a little confused

What does your sister think about the arrangement?
Do you not care what she thinks?
How is your relationship with your sister?
What if she wants her marriage to work?

Do not allow desperation lead you to make a grave mistake.

NovesaTillie:

Put yourself in my shoes. I'm almost 30, this man is really nice,my mom has given her consent. His marriage with my sister didn't work because she was always career minded and never cared about having children too.
I'm just a little confused

Sis calm down nah. We all understand how you feel, that road is a no-no.

Most of us are telling you the same thing. Do you want to get married or you want to marry him?

You have condemned your sister just like that? Wow! Just wow.

The human family is longer a safe haven for troubled times.

Your mum is even worsening matters.

Do you want to get married or you want to marry him?

Mariangeles:


Do not allow desperation lead to make a grave mistake.

My exact thoughts. Any man willing to jump ship at the sight of a rough sea, won't hesitate to jump ship on the op too.

Out of all the MEN on earth, it is your sister's husband that you want to marry . How can such a thought even cross your mind? How can a sane man propose to his wife's sister? At 30yrs you didn't involve in a fruitful relationship that led to marriage in the past, you were probably jumping from one married* man to another, now, now your eyes are on your sister's husband. Would any sane parent support such a marriage? This story can't possibly be real.

Mariangeles:


A good woman is not easy to find too you know?
Can a man steal a good woman from his brother who doesn't value her?
How would you see such a man?

This is not about scoring points, this is about looking at it from another perspective.
Like you said, karma is real!

Of course!
What is destined to be, will be...

We can cheat on anything, but not nature..

This same thing you asked, happened in a village that borders mine....The man was not even having issues with his wife sef, just a riffraff kinda man,a brother started dating her and before you could know what is happening, the brother is planing to go pay another dowry on her head..Heaven didn't fall..

This is not a case of scoring cheap point, it a case of facing reality..Nothing is new here, this things recycle from generation to generation..If it is destined to happen, it will happen...


Prevention is best compared to cure...But people won't listen...They prefer what they are doing now..cursing her and other irrelevant things.. Someone here will still do the same mistake tomorrow and create a thread on how he/she caught the partner with she/he...And the cycles continues.

That day what I told you was prevention...Good you witnessed this..No be nollywood...it happens for real...

Again, nobody on earth will still your wife nor your husband if truely they are...If it happens, he is not your husband, she is not your wife..Simple and deep.