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Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Allisgud: 11:52pm On Jan 24, 2022
Am very sure if this guy is not that pocketly gallant,and stay in an estate u for no waste time dey consult nairaland for advice
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Varidan: 11:54pm On Jan 24, 2022
fikayormi:
That guy is a real player grin

When he is done lashing your pussy , smoke will come out of it
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Mypeople2(m): 11:55pm On Jan 24, 2022
Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks
Rita let me summarize for you, after like three to four intercourse he will leave for another fresh meat.Nor be today all these things dey happen

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Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by November24(f): 12:00am On Jan 25, 2022
samdavjustin:


I don’t believe all that script he gave you, there are three sides to a story. You are working in a bank, you’re confirm wife material surely you can do better than that so why rush.

So ur own criteria for good wife na banker.
SMH at NLs o
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Starz825(m): 12:03am On Jan 25, 2022
Rita005:
Thanks a lot. I really like him but his marital status is troubling. I sure will be careful about it. His mom is so interested in him getting another woman cuz she was never in support of his decision to marry his wife. I appreciate your advice.
I just hope say him mama go like you too!!...
I dey pity you Sha...
Sha expect the worse as you don already dey date am for your mind..
And why would he want to have sex with you as you claimed you already seeing the signs....you both are not married yet na...but he wants to get in between your legs shaperly..
Shey you no see say your egungun don dey go express...i pity you

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Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Nobody: 12:07am On Jan 25, 2022
helinues:
embarassed embarassed



Very popular lyrics line used by guys

Next, he will tell her his wife is a witch. Lol
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by chenny360(m): 12:12am On Jan 25, 2022
My dear sister.. that man is our member. But unfortunately i have changed from my old ways. Men are so cunny.. if you have the mind to marry that guy .forget about it.. he's not for you. He's a coded guy.. u kow he's married .. guess what he's deceiving you.. so if you wish to keep going forward. Open your eyes. Hear, nose and armpit together so u can senses very well.. to all those men in the same shoe with the man.. stop stop stop. I won't tell you the problems I'm facing just stop . It ends in tears and gnating of teeth at last.

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Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Westernequinox: 12:15am On Jan 25, 2022
The bible says the decision of men brings them to ruin but at the end of day they place the blame on God. Adultery would only leads to pains that might take you, your entire life trying for fix, it looks so perfect and i can assure you that it is a contraption that every mechanism starts to set in place they day you have sex with him, And it is only a one sided story, a man that cannot fight to keep his own home cannot keep you. If you adhere to this wise words, you would end up being wiser, there is no criticism here i only brought light, and light is life
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Nobody: 12:20am On Jan 25, 2022
Candidlady:
Aunt rita/ritad


No sense for you ma... Same story he told bet he must have used it on so many mumu like you...


You have young men who are legit single but no you chose to fall in love with a married man ...cuz he rich has a ride.. Sure a regular hustling dude must have approached but you turned him down ...



Husband snatcher.... Keep Chasing Gold till you get swallowed in the mine. angry




Modified- so smellysperm get sense like this... This year must be nice
Wise woman . So much love for you
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by DaveJacuzie: 12:25am On Jan 25, 2022
be wise! leave that relationship!
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by fortunechy(m): 12:26am On Jan 25, 2022
My dear, u ain't in love with him rather u are in love with his wealth...

Meanwhile, try and get a hint of his version to avoid ending in premium tears in nearest future...
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by tit(f): 12:27am On Jan 25, 2022
Madam, if he is good in bed, no leave am ooo.
Enjoy yoursef
Second wife is still good position
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Hinoone: 12:38am On Jan 25, 2022
Me i just read it to make sure it is not my Husband grin

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Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Newboss(m): 12:38am On Jan 25, 2022
Na the mumu man wey dey deal with this mumu girl I dey vex for.

How she keep talking about his nice life. When he get better life, why you no go like am? Comot for here! Na to give you belle throwaway sure pass. Kpomo
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Hardquy(m): 12:41am On Jan 25, 2022
everywhere good. go right ahead, just be careful and watch your back
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Poleski: 12:42am On Jan 25, 2022
Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

If he really went through what he claimed to have suffered at his wife's hand, he wouldn't still be married to her. I'm not accusing him of lying, but he's the only person you know now who really knew what happened.

He may be truthful or may not be forthcoming with the real truth of what really happened. Ignore the shiny stuff (beauty, cars, houses) and be very careful. 

Investigate him and his story secretly and keep your emotions under control until you truly know the guy. Good luck.
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Lexusgs430: 12:42am On Jan 25, 2022
Should we tell her or just mind our business........ wink


Lyrics lori gongon....... wink
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by bitingcool: 12:43am On Jan 25, 2022
fikayormi:
That guy is a real player grin

When he is done lashing your pussy , smoke will come out of it

shuuuu, that means say he go burn the engine grin grin
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Nobody: 12:46am On Jan 25, 2022
A single lady wants to complicate her life with a married/divorced/supposedly married/supposedly divorced man.

Go ahead. It may turn out good or bad. But whatever it turns out, you bear it, whether good or bad. It's your life!!!

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Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by bitingcool: 12:48am On Jan 25, 2022
blamingthedevil:
He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

grin grin

comrade, make we tell her. mama don see golden boy she wan follow am lay egg. na men are scum go end am las las grin cheesy shocked grin
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Blessedassuranc(f): 12:52am On Jan 25, 2022
Rita005:

Even though I hate to say this, I've spoken with his mum on the phone. He's not a cheat and I'm a smart woman to know that. The issue is just about his marital status.


Just now now ? Madam, naa busy body dey worry you... you ho wound ooh

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Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Blessedassuranc(f): 12:56am On Jan 25, 2022
Rita005:
Thanks a lot. I really like him but his marital status is troubling. I sure will be careful about it. His mom is so interested in him getting another woman cuz she was never in support of his decision to marry his wife. I appreciate your advice.

It's obvious you love complications

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Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Blessedassuranc(f): 12:58am On Jan 25, 2022
ParpahSeventy:

I thought I left this page already, and my browser is returning me to this refreshed story and I had to read all over again, it's obvious you have made up your mind, you can't imagine losing him, after all we are all judging him because we don't know him, and your reason for posting is for people to strengthen your resolve in chasing after him, you are a banker and doing simple logic is difficult for you?
How difficult is it to divorce in Nigeria?
I agree he is good, his attributes and achievements are quite commendable but
If he wanted a divorce he will kick her out a long time ago, what if he was only giving d woman time to put herself together and then using you to keep body and soul together?
It's easy for a successful guy to play around with Nigerian girls, I am talking from experience, you can camp I'm Enugu and flex repected babes and move to Akwa Ibom (my most preferred destination) and when you are done you move on, he has built a castle in your head, I advised a lady that was close to me like this sometime ago and she had d audacity to tell me life is a risk, when she was weeping, I simply told her life is a risk.
Be wise!!!

Lol.. i really love this
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by huntamania(m): 12:59am On Jan 25, 2022
Myexdisturbs:

I think you should add modify to op and add this to keep new readers updated .thanks
If I don’t have time for nonsense was a person. Can’t stop laughing at this comment
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Blessedassuranc(f): 1:01am On Jan 25, 2022
lereinter:


26yrs old banker not contract staff lolzzzzz

Na you get bank, Abi your parents are major share holder

Well

Just know you are second wife, he has money to accommodate both of you


Hahahhahahaha!!! You no go kill me with laugh ooh... anyways you re on point shaa
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by simplesearch: 1:01am On Jan 25, 2022
My sister if you're truly a Christian you should know the path you're threading negate the teachings of Christ, except you're a nominal Christian. You shouldn't for whatever reason accept a proposal from a divorcee as a Christian, not to talk of being the brain behind some one divorcing his wife.
Mark my word, if you proceed with that man God will never go with you into such a relationship and I suppose you know the implication of disobeying God even in the afterlife. Speaking to you as a sister who is wise, knowledgeable and have been helped by God to attain the level you are currently; don't disappoint God because of mundane things of the world for which mere sexual intimacy and satisfaction is the epicenter and the main point of call. Remember when life begins to deal with you even the 400k you make in a month won't be enough to replace your lost peace of mind. Live a flourishing life by obeying God, rather than get yourself entangle!
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Blessedassuranc(f): 1:13am On Jan 25, 2022
dominique:


I wouldn't even bother advising her cos she is ready to learn the hard way. The guy could even be a sham for all we know. They target working class ladies of marriageable age and start enticing her with gifts and marriage. By the time, he strikes she would have been "deeply in love" and would gladly empty her account to support her husband to be. That mother she thinks loves her so much might put a distress call through crying they were attacked by armed robbers or had an accident, na their format be that. How convenient is it that the so-called estranged wife called begging while she was there? Or the mother she has not met is showering her with praises and supporting their relationship? The whole thing is looking planned. Before she knows it, the guy will tell her that he need millions to clear his goods or his mother is dying in the hospital and he doesn't have access to his account. Like I said, people like her end up learning the hard way.

Lol.. This guy you really sabi dem... naa so dem do my friend wey be medical doctor.. infact the guy no show up on wedding day
Dem claim say one of their brothers get accident die on him to the wedding... las las truth come out, nothing like that happen.. The guy don chop my friwnd money tire ,come run follow... Now my friend no send anybody as per marriage again. Infact she no wan use ear hear am.. lol
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Germi9: 1:15am On Jan 25, 2022
Hmmm Something about that guy
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Blessedassuranc(f): 1:16am On Jan 25, 2022
specialmati:
cool cool coolwaooh you meet him in church means you are a christian,now let me ask some question that will help you.
1.have you prayed about it knowing that he is still legally married,2.have you ask God what His will concerning this situation,because you can meet someone that makes butterfly to grow in your stomach but the person wont be the will of God for you.3 what makes you think his going to divorce his wife for you since he is yet to do that.4.pray oooh i get why

That one Christian by religion not at heart. Imagine the nonsense wey she come here dey write
Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by calcal: 1:17am On Jan 25, 2022
ASAP, start fucking him otherwise you gonna lose your chance

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

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