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Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

But, there's nothing special about your kpekus na

You've overcome it already. Since you've observed the pattern, you can watch your habits more closely moving forward.

Explore

Is ur pussi that deep and wide as the grand canyon

Try going to a relationship counselor

You have that mentality because all you think relationship is all about is sex, nothing but sex.
No other things to offer/contribute again in a relationship other than sex

You need to do away with that mindset and give love another shot. You'd be fine.

Preshieben:
Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

maintain an open mindset... mingling doesn't mean you will end up in anybody's bed.

Be patient and reserved...wait till the guy makes moves regarding to sex...don't be too judgemental...just wait...and while mingling also bring up issues pointing towards "NO SEX".. and see the guy that would stay and the ones that would leave...

Preshieben:
Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

Your mind can never deceive you... You wanna change from peace to trouble/wars/problem etc!!

Na wa.. They all wanna smash you
Not just smash they wanna ruin you.. Chop you clean mouth then tell you bye bye!!! Mr dbanj words!!!

Better comot for sun enter shade sister!!

Preshieben:
Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

Don't change it. That's pretty much how guys are, it's safer to assume the worse then be pleasantly surprised. Just keep it at a friendship level until you are convinced that the guy wants something serious. You should
be able to differentiate a f.u.q. k boy and a serious minded mind.

The problem is with you.

1. You keep choosing such guys and overlooking decent guys who value you.

Or

2. You do things that make guys get tired of you.

I feel it’s both.

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Preshieben:
Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

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Asking a woman to change her mentality is like asking gays like henrydion to stop sucking dick

You have the answers and yet you still want to sample our opinions. How do you get there when you don't try
Bia, don't disturb our airspace again. Na you first get heartbreak 99% of people experience heartbreak at a point in their life and it is applicable to both gender.

Preshieben:
How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

You change your mindset by first regaining your self confidence, gaining understanding of what it is you really want in a man and out of a relationship, seek therapy or counseling if your have to. So that when you eventually get back out there, you are confident you have your chips in order to help you maneuver the game without getting unnecessarily played.

rickpat:
maintain an open mindset... mingling doesn't mean you will end up in anybody's bed.

Be patient and reserved...wait till the guy makes moves regarding to sex...don't be too judgemental...just wait...and while mingling also bring up issues pointing towards "NO SEX".. and see the guy that would stay and the ones that would leave...

Eventually the guy will still make the move.. So why waste time with him... Sandra didn't lie in her book that all men want sex while women want love!!!

OP all they want is FORK like someone who bout to eat spaghetti !!



RUN SISTER

OP, U need to come to terms with d fact that No man is completedly perfect! He either a smoker, drinker, womanizer, porn addict, hypocrite, etc! So stop over expecting and manage any good brother dat woos you!

Candidlady:
Eventually the guy will still make the move.. So why waste time with him... Sandra didn't lie in her book that all men want sex while women want love!!!

OP all they want is FORK like someone who bout to eat spaghetti !!



RUN SISTER

So how then do people marry if it doesn't begin by friendly beginnings. Please educate naive me

Candidlady:
Eventually the guy will still make the move.. So why waste time with him... Sandra didn't lie in her book that all men want sex while women want love!!!

OP all they want is FORK like someone who bout to eat spaghetti !!



RUN SISTER

well,that's not true..not all guys,the ladies should set the bar a little bit high when it comes to sex...if you want it,cool...if you don't spell it out...I can say..I have seen people date without sex...generalising is not too good..it's a case of decision and discipline


no disrespect to the OP or the ladies but any LADY THAT FEELS ALL A MAN WANTS FROM HER IS SEX,JUST PROVES SHE HAS NOTHING TO OFFER...real men looks beyond sex

Zonefree:
But, there's nothing special about your kpekus na

okay

I'm allergic to bad energy

illicit:
Explore

Is ur pussi as deep and wide as the grand canyon

Drink responsibly.

Candidlady:
Eventually the guy will still make the move.. So why waste time with him... Sandra didn't lie in her book that all men want sex while women want love!!!

OP all they want is FORK like someone who bout to eat spaghetti !!



RUN SISTER

You want her to become an Old Spinster, abi? If u dont want husband, Leave other ladies to hustle for diers! OverSabi pundit!

samwash:
You have that mentality because all you think relationship is all about is sex, nothing but sex.
No other things to offer/contribute again in a relationship other than sex

what are you even saying??

Ahmed0336:
You need to do away with that mindset and give love another shot. You'd be fine.

Never!!

All of ya just want to phuck and run

AfroKnight:
The problem is with you.

1. You keep choosing such guys and overlooking decent guys who value you.

Or

2. You do things that make guys get tired of you.

I feel it’s both.

blood of Jesus

ProDigitals:
So how then do people marry if it doesn't begin by friendly beginnings. Please educate naive me

Really ?

How many of you wannna "begin friendly beginnings" that might lead to marriage without sex?

Omoh...I'm not heart broken like this abeg

Cadamlk:
You have the answers and yet you still want to sample our opinions. How do you get there when you don't try
Bia, don't disturb our airspace again. Na you first get heartbreak 99% of people experience heartbreak at a point in their life and it is applicable to both gender.

Candidlady:
Really ?

How many of you wannna "begin friendly beginnings" that might lead to marriage without sex?

When you begin to entertain guys to explore the counts, you can find out the figures yourself

I'm so surprised this is coming from the specie who's got nothing to offer to any guyman apart from her pot of beans wey go don exceed it's breaking limit

Like someone above me rightly pointed out, there's nothing special about you or your pussy but you can continue ghosting guys without first knowing their intentions till you find yourself in Shiloh 2040, shouting I RECEIVE GOOD HUSBAND!!!

rickpat:
well,that's not true..not all guys,the ladies should set the bar a little bit high when it comes to sex...if you want it,cool...if you don't spell it out...I can say..I have seen people date without sex...generalising is not too good..it's a case of decision and discipline


no disrespect to the OP or the ladies but any LADY THAT FEELS ALL A MAN WANTS FROM HER IS SEX,JUST PROVES SHE HAS NOT TO OFFER...real men looks beyond sex

You made sense with you post


But sir how many real men do we have?

Ihave seen like ten threads this year alone if not more than.. How they met Jan asked her out same Jan and smash same month... Na wa o

All in the name of love!! Kai

There's nothing special about your pussy!
You only have that mindset because you felt your pussy was the only thing you could offer a man in a relationship, which of course is 100% true!

So continue until you turn to evening newspaper and then start attending Shiloh yearly looking for husband!

Meanwhile the lady above my comment is a complete foool. Make sure you ignore her!