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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Nobody: 4:40pm On Mar 14, 2022
Kobojunkiee:
Nah! I am used to the breeds that litter nairaland. undecided
grin grin grin grin
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Crafteck1: 4:51pm On Mar 14, 2022
Abyounghammed:


Because na wetin dey easy kill human being physically, mentally, spiritually etc

Naaa... Na all this posting it up and down de give am relevance, been there, done that, understanding that feelings are dynamic, they change due to circumstances, hormones etc, the only person you truly know is you, know this and know peace

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Magnoliaa(f): 5:07pm On Mar 14, 2022
AfroKnight:
She get small yansh. I thought I could go ahead since she was pretty and well spoken, but no, I had to tell myself the truth: yansh is very important.

Cc: Magnolia

That one concern you o. cheesy Shey you've taken my name to babalawo and he's confirmed that we're meant to be together for life? Ehen. No shaking. Go and respond to me inside where I mentioned you, maifren. I say you shu buy bag for me cry.

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by masui(m): 5:10pm On Mar 14, 2022
FindX:
One round no dey do her.

How person pikin go dey fvck for 3 straight hours?


grin grin grin grin cheesy grin

You dey drill for crude oil.
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by OdenKelechi(m): 5:14pm On Mar 14, 2022
Edipet:
how did you get to tell her your earning

I've never has issues telling people close to me or someone i like how much i'm earning. But that day, i understood why most people don't tell anyone how much they earn.

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by OdenKelechi(m): 5:15pm On Mar 14, 2022
Ebubu:
disgusting

Gutter behavior really...She was comparing what i earn with her ex instead of comparing what i earn with what she earns grin

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by princejohnard(m): 5:48pm On Mar 14, 2022
Izprince:


NL go shock you... Believe what you read at your own peril... Lol


I'm shocked fr...
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by dlordy100: 5:59pm On Mar 14, 2022
Atimjessy:
He kept over-pricing everything like a stingy man.


You could have thought him how to be generous by footing the bill when you noticed that.

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by dlordy100: 6:03pm On Mar 14, 2022
Lalami3232:
Dem plenty ooooo grin.
Immediately you tell a 9ja babe say get feelings for her, E be like say you dey owe her instantly.
Funny enough, 99.2% no get anything to offer aside that toto wey everybody don chop before you. Even the toto wey majority of dem dey offer isn't even tight.
Na we go still use our own money to buy enlargement pump and cream before we fit enjoy the wide canal wey many of dem dey carry. I doubt if this generation of girls go stay labour room pass 2mins sef. The pikin go swim out with ease grin


I don talk am before and I go talk am again, "a single mother for Europe tight pass our average 9ja babe"


Comrade off mic....you love vawulence

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by WycliffeSMB(m): 6:06pm On Mar 14, 2022
mployer:
She knew all the hotels within the vicinity. Even our hangout spot had a lodging acommodation. I didn't know, she told me embarassed
Akuko
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Saynoomore: 6:08pm On Mar 14, 2022
mybiz234:


It is cotton ball, not cotton board

Teacher, DON'T teach me nonsense!

I meant what I wrote!

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by placeofallure(f): 6:18pm On Mar 14, 2022
moralex:
meet someone like that too, doesn't know who Elon musk is and Tasla

This particular one is a huge turn off for me. Being female isn't an excuse to be incapable of holding an intelligible conversation. WTF!
I like to pride myself that I know a lil bit of everything. I don't want to fade into oblivion in any conversation or gathering. Future is female!

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by bigcee(m): 6:34pm On Mar 14, 2022
Wittyduchess:
Not True , they are everywhere ,in your family, work place, church, as your neighbor , anywhere and everywhere.


And don't make this about me, i know it gives you and your kind adrenaline rush to find ways to blame the victim and even more so if it's a woman. No disrespect, but just shut up.
I don't give a f**k if they are everywhere. I repeat work on yourself. That's the bitter truth alot of narcissist victim don't want to hear(the way you insulted me, you might be the narcissist claiming to be the victim).

There is nothing I don't know about Narcissm(covert and overt).

Stop putting all the blame on the narcissist. Take responsibility too and work on yourself. They targeted you for a reason and it worked well for them and now you're complaining.

Imagine a yeye narcissist trying to target me, lol grin grin grin. I am not a wimp grin

Work on yourself and stop crying about narcissistic abuse.

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by OvertheTop(m): 6:38pm On Mar 14, 2022
Beedude:
Met online, claimed to be a big girl. Came with a Lexus on first date. I ordered something of 3k but she order 15k. I paid and we move.
2 days later, she made a disress call that she forgot her ATM at home while going to work and she already filled up her car with fuel of 13k in the station. So i should bail her out with 15k. She wanted to send the fuel attendant account. I told her bluntly, why cant u do the transfer from your own account since you only forgot your cards and not your phones.
She hissed and hung up immediately.
I helped her by blocking her on every platform she can reach me on.
Some ladies are just mad

You should have pegged her Order Amount!
if She vex...It could have all Ended there....
15k just like that.....
SAD
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by OvertheTop(m): 6:57pm On Mar 14, 2022
DimIsaac10:
The shit saved my name with Low Battery

grin grin grin
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by invinzible1: 6:57pm On Mar 14, 2022
Atimjessy:
He kept over-pricing everything like a stingy man.

That's why your brother is caging you. Midteen already following bmann undecided undecided embarassed
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Nikkymagg(f): 7:35pm On Mar 14, 2022
I be woman but I like d way u revenge ooo. The gal dey dubious.
nurez305:
The first red flag was when she started ignoring my calls.

I went to her house to know what is going on and I met a guy there but he excuse us immediately, later she went to take her bath and drop the phone on the sofa. I was with her phone when the text message from that guy that left enter with only "OK" . then I open the message and I saw the previous conversation between them.

The guy said : when you know your boy-friend is coming to your house today, why did you invite me also to come

My fucking GF replied : he is not my boyfriend, he is only a friend


After reading that, I started sweating inside their house after I have spent on the idiot.

I bought her the phone,
Pay her school fee,
Give her money whenever she ask
When her father died, I paid her trip to and fro and also give her change to hold to her village.


I felt like a loser and was very heartbroken. I summon courage and told her to return back my phone after telling her what I saw in her inbox, she accuse me of checking her messages without her consent and she refuse to give me the phone.

I threten her that if she refuse to return my phone that I won't take it lively with her. She reported me to police and they set a trap for me, she told me to come to somewhere to collect the phone, on getting there, I was arrested and the police force me to write a statement that I will never disturb her because of this phone again. I did and they told me to call one of my relatives to come and bail me and be my witness. I did that and I was granted bail and told us to come the next day.

The next day, the police woman try to settle the issue between us and she said we should not fight each other again and continue our relationship. And the police officer told her to delete all the threat messages I sent to her which he did.


NOW IS MY TURN TO REVENGE
After about 2months that will depart, she taught I have forgotten everything she does to me not knowing that I'm only waiting for the best time to strike her back. I went to area command to hire police, the man charged me 30k and told me not to worried that what she does was very bad. I lead the way to her house and she was shocked to see me again, she quickly call her mum and to tell her, we arrested her in her shop then and the police put an allegation on her that she hire tug to beat me up because I requested for my phone from her. She started crying that is a lie. The police ask for the receipt of the phone from her and she told them that I bought it for her, they collected the phone and detained her until her family show.

I later tell the police to allow her to go but I need to collect the phone. The man said it is important I do that.... After everything, I collected the phone and leave them in the station.


Foolish olosho


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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by SAMTOBIJU(m): 7:46pm On Mar 14, 2022
mployer:
She knew all the hotels within the vicinity. Even our hangout spot had a lodging acommodation. I didn't know, she told me embarassed
Na legend she be ...tuale
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by abdullahiaminu3: 7:48pm On Mar 14, 2022
No any man ever lie to a lady, na only girl dy do bad bad thing abi. Guys you are all fake..
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by DonroxyII: 8:35pm On Mar 14, 2022
Offpoint1:
She doesn't know who Einstein or Isaac Newton was, couldn't held any intelligent conversation.
Flee grin
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by AfroKnight: 9:39pm On Mar 14, 2022
Magnoliaa:


That one concern you o. cheesy Shey you've taken my name to babalawo and he's confirmed that we're meant to be together for life? Ehen. No shaking. Go and respond to me inside where I mentioned you, maifren. I say you shu buy bag for me cry.

I’m not aware of any such mention or any such babalawo. grin
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Aaay: 10:05pm On Mar 14, 2022
Asking for money and she didn’t visit
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Kirkman: 10:10pm On Mar 14, 2022
Bestcreamreview:
I was so shocked, like how can someone be so unreasonable? Or [b]maybe he assumed I was lying about having exams to avoid seeing him [/b]which is also stupid
You have said it all. grin cool
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Gkemz: 10:25pm On Mar 14, 2022
She asked me to pretend to be her brother when her ex approached us. Lies and dishonesty is her hobby when it comes to handling my finances.

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Magnoliaa(f): 10:28pm On Mar 14, 2022
AfroKnight:
I’m not aware of any such mention or any such babalawo. grin

Ehhhhh. Abi e ri ise Olorun. Ewo ise omo eniyan. Boda Afro, ya denying that you went to do charm for the two both of us. That you were even dedicating a romansing song to me o. Kai. Just because I'm asking you to bai something for me now. To put your money where your mouth is. Fear human beans, in this life, even if you fear no other tin. cry cry *inserts broken heart emoji*
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Nobody: 10:30pm On Mar 14, 2022
Beedude:
Met online, claimed to be a big girl. Came with a Lexus on first date. I ordered something of 3k but she order 15k. I paid and we move.
2 days later, she made a disress call that she forgot her ATM at home while going to work and she already filled up her car with fuel of 13k in the station. So i should bail her out with 15k. She wanted to send the fuel attendant account. I told her bluntly, why cant u do the transfer from your own account since you only forgot your cards and not your phones.
She hissed and hung up immediately.
I helped her by blocking her on every platform she can reach me on.
Some ladies are just mad

You lost 18k shaa.

Some days are like that...
Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Beedude(m): 10:44pm On Mar 14, 2022
LagosInter:


You lost 18k shaa.

Some days are like that...

I can actually afford to lose that amount. Atimes the money u spent isnt the issue. But someone playing smart is the issue.

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by kullozone(m): 10:50pm On Mar 14, 2022
nurez305:
The first red flag was when she started ignoring my calls.

I went to her house to know what is going on and I met a guy there but he excuse us immediately, later she went to take her bath and drop the phone on the sofa. I was with her phone when the text message from that guy that left enter with only "OK" . then I open the message and I saw the previous conversation between them.

The guy said : when you know your boy-friend is coming to your house today, why did you invite me also to come

My fucking GF replied : he is not my boyfriend, he is only a friend


After reading that, I started sweating inside their house after I have spent on the idiot.

I bought her the phone,
Pay her school fee,
Give her money whenever she ask
When her father died, I paid her trip to and fro and also give her change to hold to her village.


I felt like a loser and was very heartbroken. I summon courage and told her to return back my phone after telling her what I saw in her inbox, she accuse me of checking her messages without her consent and she refuse to give me the phone.

I threten her that if she refuse to return my phone that I won't take it lively with her. She reported me to police and they set a trap for me, she told me to come to somewhere to collect the phone, on getting there, I was arrested and the police force me to write a statement that I will never disturb her because of this phone again. I did and they told me to call one of my relatives to come and bail me and be my witness. I did that and I was granted bail and told us to come the next day.

The next day, the police woman try to settle the issue between us and she said we should not fight each other again and continue our relationship. And the police officer told her to delete all the threat messages I sent to her which he did.


NOW IS MY TURN TO REVENGE
After about 2months that will depart, she taught I have forgotten everything she does to me not knowing that I'm only waiting for the best time to strike her back. I went to area command to hire police, the man charged me 30k and told me not to worried that what she does was very bad. I lead the way to her house and she was shocked to see me again, she quickly call her mum and to tell her, we arrested her in her shop then and the police put an allegation on her that she hire tug to beat me up because I requested for my phone from her. She started crying that is a lie. The police ask for the receipt of the phone from her and she told them that I bought it for her, they collected the phone and detained her until her family show.

I later tell the police to allow her to go but I need to collect the phone. The man said it is important I do that.... After everything, I collected the phone and leave them in the station.


Foolish olosho



Oga, the truth is... Na you still lose.
Imagine everything you spent, including paying to collect the phone back.

Don't feel happy with yourself because you paid althrough the whole shii tongue

Ntoor!!! tongue

If you like find another one to train through school again ehn... Fuckup Niqqa!

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by texasux: 10:56pm On Mar 14, 2022
OdenKelechi:
Comparing my salary to that of her ex

1st mistake on your part was telling her how much you earn

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Re: What's The Biggest Red Flag You Ever Spotted At The Start Of A New Relationship? by Temi2468: 11:09pm On Mar 14, 2022
Cti28:

It is

Cti28:

It is

I have faith. But, some lives will have to go for it. In fact, this inherent corruption is so hard to separate like rice and garri so much that many lives will give way for that separation and for a new Nigeria.

Imagine someone conniving with authorities through false allegations in order to get back at a lady and the authorities who are supposed to protect citizens through right interpretation of the law decided to allow themselves to be used to settle scores! I was telling someone today that too many people in this nation have seared and silenced their conscience and the moral decadence in Nigeria is immeasurable!

Some 30yrs ago, this guy would never have the confidence to do such, let alone coming here to say this irritating thing!

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