May God not give you a Kpekus that men will not Bleep or see and run away...

Amen.

Preshieben:

Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

You're not a relationship material. However, low-quality men must cure konji, that's where you come in.

You can either accept it and enjoy all the dîcks that come your way now or become desperate when you hit the wall.

Either way

Preshieben:
ain't picking again till further notice,
Make I rest with relationship abeg

Is alright, at times women do go on break

samwash:
You have that mentality because all you think relationship is all about is sex, nothing but sex.
No other things to offer/contribute again in a relationship other than sex

You are spot on, girls who thinks all guys want from them is are who has nothing offer apart from her body

The same thing goes with guys who thinks all girls want from them is money

Preshieben:

Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

ooh, I remember I read from one of your comment..what happen when you went to visit a guy you met online, I don't want to go into further details.

I think what happen then has affected your psychology. Just try and work on your mindset, read books about positive mindset

Candidlady:



You made sense with you post


But sir how many real men do we have?

Ihave seen like ten threads this year alone if not more than.. How they met Jan asked her out same Jan and smash same month... Na wa o

All in the name of love!! Kai

Not all men are interested in sex, talking from experience. The same thing not all women are interested in money talking from experience too. When it comes to the issue of life partner, wait on God for it. If you wanna do it ur own way, then be ready to face whatever comes from it. Nobody is perfect remember that. Even when the guy is not willing to have sex or romance, the same woman who is shouting 'all that a man want is sex' will still be the one to initiate romance that will lead to sex.

Preshieben:

Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

is there honey in your pvssy

Really

Zonefree:
But, there's nothing special about your kpekus na

Hahahahhahah Why are you like this

Blunttruth:


Don't change it. That's pretty much how guys are, it's safer to assume the worse then be pleasantly surprised. Just keep it at a friendship level until you are convinced that the guy wants something serious. You should
be able to differentiate a f.u.q. k boy and a serious minded mind.

Just leave her jare they can differentiate between bad boy and good boy at once

It may sound lame but I will suggest that you pray about it and ask God for the Spirit of Discernment. That way you can actually build the ability to be led by the Holy Spirit. This will help.

Preshieben:
Drink responsibly.

Lol

Zonefree:
But, there's nothing special about your kpekus na

Wehdone sir.

Wuminity:



Wehdone sir.

Gracias mi amor

Candidlady:


After insulting me on the other thread !!! You try!!

Most men all they think bout is sex and sex all day all week all month all year

Oya no vex. I just found your response too sentimental...

Preshieben:

Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

first of all, let go of your past and try to refresh. don't chare men away because there are actually good men looking good gals. Set new standards for your relationship life and sex should be completely out of it.

Preshieben:

Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

it's good u admit it that the first step

Hold on to it and move your mind to marriage
You be fine at least

Preshieben:

Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

First of all ask yourself this question.. have you dated all men if no then trust me there are lots of genuine men outside all it takes it's taking the risk b4 u can meet the right man. Another thing is remove the thought of you feeling pussy is all you got to offer too cuz that's why u feel incoming are just for Pussy fist also

Zonefree:
But, there's nothing special about your kpekus na

OMG
One of the best thing I've read so far
Thanks alot sis,
I appreciate

Palema007:
Tsk tsk tsk so many shallow comments here, I miss the old days one can really learn from Nl posters.
Well I'd try my best here and hope it's not too late.

Dear Preshieben, you are a special being. Wonderfully made and your body should be jealously guided because from your post, it is very much attached to your mind and soul. Unlike many ladies out there whose vjays are long detached from their minds that these vjays can go on journey with any companion without necessarily getting approval from the mind. Yours isn't like that, that is why you still value it and you are cautious of who or what goes down there. That's very commendable and you are very right to treasure it.

However I see you are beginning to lose a balance here, you are being too overly subconscious of your body. You are making it the center of your being, this isn't quite advisable. You should value other things about your self, your sanity, your mental health, your personal development, your goals, your career, your achievements etc should be your paramount things to guide against intruder i.e "exploring your pussy" shouldn't be the reason to reject guys but "disrupting your life" pussy comes last for a woman of value. Her mind, soul and body must be all guided.

Now, regarding your fear.... It's a good thing you know there is a problem now the solution. Once you have worked on your mind to realize pussy comes last, you will subconsciously offer it last. This way whoever is coming into your life will get the memo and either stay or leave. There are guys out there who want more than sex, they will look beyond your physical attractiveness to find more. If you don't offer sex, a guy who wants only sex will go. That way you filter them. Honestly, a guy who see more in you will never leave you for sex (speaking from experience).

Presh, you attract what you think about. If pussy is all you think there is to you, others will only see you that way. Be a lady with great value and watch good and valuable men come along. Just work on yourself, make friends and select the one who comes into your empire.

Youngpo413:
you are not even a virgin,so being stingy with your pussÿ is your lose...las las na hunger go finish you,cos you and gender always depend on men for food and material things.

Abeg getaaaat

You don't have anything to say

Thanks dear
You're much appreciated

wealthtrak:

@Preshieben...
Set boundaries, be approachable and relax your mind. Create a clear mental picture of the kind of life and family you want to have. Just close your eyes, open your mind and meditate.

Do not have any fears or you will lose focus and attraction.


Book Tip:
Read the book: "Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent
Pearle.

coolk:


First, I want to apologize on behalf of all gentlemen, for the unruly behavior and responses. They do not represent most men, just a few misguided delinquents.

Now, to changing your mindset... I understand that it comes from a place of hurt, and it's is a psychological defense mechanism against any further heartbreak.
My advice for you is to give love another shot, this time choose wisely who you will love, forsake physical qualities like handsomeness or riches, and focus on your spiritual connection. Pray over it. Be guided by the spirit of God.
Importantly, takeaway the option sex. Anyone that doesn't stay without sex is not the one for you.

Remain Ever Blessed.

thank you sir
I appreciate

Iyaebe:
Which value man wey no get money dy get?abeg carry your motivational talk komot for here,please don’t quote back.

this one loud ohh

pocohantas:


That is a troll anyway. He has always had the attitude of creating useless topics that the mods keep removing.

ohh really

I didn't know I was a troll Poco
That's so cool

Preshieben:
Abeg getaaaat

You don't have anything to say

Abeg getat too,who your overused pussÿ epp? Akpara inô!

Palema007:
Chai!! I come dey type epistle, dey form counsellor.

Do ladies do this thing too?

This is not true sis
If you doubt,we can video call

I'd like to be your friend anyway

YES, it's true. We must fvck you first, before considering a relationship that may lead to marriage.

You must surrender your vagina to be fvcked first by we guys.
You don't have a choice about that fact, except you no wan marry for this life.

It's a reality and a fact of life in today's world. Get used to it immediately.

Preshieben:
Thanks dear
You're much appreciated

Aha! @Preshieben
You're welcome dear.

I like your boldness in asking the questions that were bugging your mind in your first or original post.
Some young ones here on the
thread tried to distract you with negative posts, but I saw how
you responded to some of them
without letting them put you
down.

When you "ask," the Universe will send positive answers to you if you are willing to "receive" them!


In addition, if you can't easily buy or lay your hands on the hard copy of the book by Norman Pearle that
I recommended to you in my last post in your city of residence, just
copy the full book title into the
search box of => Pdfdrive.com and see if you can download a free PDF copy of the book on your laptop or mobile device.

Keep in touch, let me know how things go with the book and I can share more solid tips with you
later.


Cheers.

FuckDModz:


You can either accept it and enjoy all the dîcks that come your way now or become desperate when you hit the wall.

Either way

Guy, you beat me to it.

You have said it all. This is the truth and the op knows it, but she wants to be in denial.

By the time she becomes an evening newspaper, and all her friends don marry finish, reality would have done on her that she should have surrendered her pussy to be fvcked by the potential husbands that came her way in the past.

Even her so-called friends here will scorn her if she is remains unmarried by the time she is an evening newspaper.

Op, if guys are fvcking your pussy and after ghosting you, then check yourself because you may be at fault.

It means that your pussy is not sweet.