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Moz22:
it took me a while contemplating whether I should comment on this or not.. however I'm gonna drop my token..

Ever since I saw a post saying "you've been unlucky with relationships, why not channel your energy into taking you and your family out of poverty and leave love alone" I had a mind shift... I maybe wrong but the truth of the matter is that true love doesn't exist no more.. the love u see people exhibit these days comes with expectations and when those expectations aren't met, that's when they'll say they fell out of love etc.. True love is a beautiful thing and I sincerely hope that I get to experience it before I exit this world, However I'm not looking for it.. this world is just too bleeped up, unbalanced and full of fuckery, but apparently there isn't much u can do about it. I have a thing that works for me anytime I feel some sorta affection for any girl which I don't wanna entertain.. I'm gonna be very single for a long time to come.

You can't get what you can't give and vice versa.Whatsoever you wish to have,be will to give.Be the person you want another person to be.

Selah

debbydams:
hmmmm... Wish some men can be straight with their intentions,like ' babe let's be hitting ourselves' but instead some men will promise you marriage and waste your time at the end of the day, they will leave, same applies to some ladies

OluwabuqqyYOLO:
"If you are in a serious relationship with someone who's goin to marry you, you are very luck lucky."

Wey divorce dey sup everyday?

HitSong:
You are a HYPOCRITE!
That's why I detest most of you with passion.
You will claim to be dating one guy for like two years, yet your bodycount will be around 3-5 within that two years.
YET, YOU'LL CLAIM NOT TO BE A RUNS GIRL OR PROSTITUTE... But you get "favour" from all the other affairs... THEN WHAT ARE YOU??

You do unto others what you won't like them to do to you, yet you want peace, happiness and commitment...
You will never find those things until you become honest with yourself first.

YOU CAN NOT PLANT CASSAVA AND EXPECT TO REAP MANGO...

Senomi:
That's y I've over standardized myself, I already hv high expectations for the kind of person I'm going to date, if ur not cut out for it or I don't observe at least 60% of those standards then I'll just ghost, I now get angered unnecessarily whenever a guy stops me in my mind I'm like wetin dis one wan talk again, nairaland has made me understand how nigerian men reason and and their thoughts about women so I don already make up my mind anything wey anybody wan do make dem carry on but as for me I'll just keep observing from afar and for a long time make the bullshit and tears no reach me, I already hv a lot of goals and what is giving me sleepless nights is how to execute them, anything relationship matter na till they kingdom come I don leave dat one for all of una

Manlikechoba:
Me that is looking for a serious relationship and ready to be committed

I don dey find woman for almost 6 months, na insult I just dey recieve left,right and center.. some say if I'm willing to take care of their Bill's that they are ready....

I don weak

RedpillAnalyst:
Enjoy the decline guys.

Many folks are messed up and damaged to be in functional and fulfilling relationship.

I wish I could unsee the decay that's yet to come.

Kingozymandias:
1. It's so hard to find someone real these days .. I mean it's so hard to find someone who genuinely wants to get to know you just for knowing you...

2. Most people are near yet so distant...we in crowdy buses, streets and neighborhoods yet craze for that touch that's real...
We are the most isolated generation yet. Do we blame social media or do we blame materialism?
Either one, the first fault starts with self..

The rate of depression and suicide is gonna get higher with the years

JustcallmeFavou:
There are still a few good men out there. Even women too. But there are so rare to come by.

Love is a beautiful thing, most times a partner who will be there for you, who will love you genuinely, and truly means what he or she says most times seem difficult, seem not real enough to deal with.

But when you are patient and not too hasty or not so undisciplined. You'd realize that some good men and women still exist.

Kobojunkie:
1. You want someone "real" but are you yourself "real"? Or is it that you feel you are entitled to "real" while the other is not entitled to having the exact same from you?

2. This isn't about being isolated. If you grew up in the 80's and 90's , you would better understand then that the word isolation does not even begin to apply to the generation and time where people are connected 24/7 and with near no borders.

MrBroke:
Fear and doubt is why many go into marriage, relationship and love as they call it. Those things ain't necessities, one can live on earth without having to marry or go into a relationship, it is not a must. If you want to have sex you visit a brothel or woo any girl and tell her your intention, if she accepts you do your thing and it be. You want to have kids, you look for someone who also wants to have kids that you like if he or she accepts you can have your kids. Life is easy we make it complicated with our desire for external power.

JustcallmeFavou:
There are still a few good men out there. Even women too. But there are so rare to come by.

Love is a beautiful thing, most times a partner who will be there for you, who will love you genuinely, and truly means what he or she says most times seem difficult, seem not real enough to deal with.

But when you are patient and not too hasty or not so undisciplined. You'd realize that some good men and women still exist.

czarr:
You women are funny, if a guy walks up to you are says let's just be fvckmates you'd probably insult him, you make it seem as if most girls would be down for it when that is not the case, just say you don't want to be taken advantage of.

Kingozymandias:
You didn't understand my comment at all, but it's alright

Datikwerreboi:
It's still this same wokeness that gave rise to broken women and men , babe mamas everywhere without any feeling . Each has its consequences

Kobojunkie:
Wokeness never gave rise to any of what you claim. Your claim is simply absurd.

The brokenness you speak existed long before people decided it was time to abandon the bullsheet of the past which has proved meaningless to society as a whole, in search of better ideas that would cater to them even in their already broken state.

debbydams:
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess. If you are already married, God has saved you. If you are in a serious relationship with someone who's goin to marry you, you are very luck lucky.

A lot of us are in relationships but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you. I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become, how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish?

"I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?

Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'

You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside, you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when you are not even ready to change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return. Isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla

Datikwerreboi:
It sha contributed

debbydams:
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess. If you are already married, God has saved you. If you are in a serious relationship with someone who's goin to marry you, you are very luck lucky.

A lot of us are in relationships but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you. I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become, how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish?

"I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?

Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'

You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside, you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when you are not even ready to change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return. Isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla

kepstone:
You just discribed my Ex just now... bitch is selfish, ungrateful it's all about her, pride, ego etc... bitch that has not giving me a dime after much sacrifice bitch is telling me nonsense. There are good guyz like me and we end up meeting bad girls who are so selfish
.. bitch want me to tell her I love you but has never told me she loves me... wasted my time and money on this selfish ungrateful heart. Relationship is difficult this days. I was sincere, honest committed, bitch valued what she can benefit more than the relationship.
quote author=debbydams post=107748111]Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess if u are already married, God has saved you, if u are in a serious relationship u with someone who's goin to marry you are very luck lucky, alot of us are relationship but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you, I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become,

how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish? "I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?
Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'
You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside,you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when u are not even to ready change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla

Kobojunkie:
No it didn't. Wokeness is a clear push against the foolishness of our past, and a push for more sensible future for all, not simply some.

Datikwerreboi:
Wokeness is actually doing whatever you like without taking responsibility.

Kobojunkie:
Your post didn't consider the OP at all....this isn't a meant as a thread for you lot to come whine about how the world does not agree with your view but to consider why it is you feel entitled to that which you aren't willing to give back in relationship, that being a major reason for the level of Immaturity that is visible to all in Nigeria.

OneCandleAway:
Please heal before you jump into any new relationship. You are still in pains.

Kingozymandias:
It's so hard to find someone real these days .. I mean it's so hard to find someone who genuinely wants to get to know you just for knowing you...
Most people are near yet so distant...we in crowdy buses, streets and neighborhoods yet craze for that touch that's real...
We are the most isolated generation yet. Do we blame social media or do we blame materialism?
Either one, the first fault starts with self..

The rate of depression is gonna get higher with the years

Kingozymandias:
You are being emotional, relax and read my comment again