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I really feel your pain. So sorry. Put yourself together, look up to Jesus ur perfection. He will make all things new again at the right time. The guy does not deserve you.

DM me let's talk more. I'll make it up to you and make you happy.

Jmarjr:
Some guys are just heartless. Haba d Lord is ur strength

Some People.
Being hearthless is not a gender thing.
If guys also tell you what they pass thru with few ladies u will be amazed.

My Advice for OP, Stop looking for love. Love yourself and develop yourself.
True love will definitely find you.
But when it does find u, such guy may likely not be your taste 100%.
Just remember where you are coming from and things will work out naturally.

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

Sorry for your experience but let me tell you if he told you the truth it will make your heartbreak worse. It is obvious he was was merely using you or at the very least took advantage of your naivety. It is OK to cry but it is better to finish crying and get on with your life, it is not over yet.

immortalityk:
Well that's life
If u are ready for another relationship,im single
U don't have to worry about me cheating as Ive never had a girlfriend
So it's your choice,it's either u keep on crying or move on
But one thing I'm sure about is that u cant keep on crying forever
Here's my number 08101405937
Call if u are Interested

have you tested your thing to know if it's working

Painful!!
Especially when addressing you as a wife to be.

I advice you to fell relax and be a free minded, God fearing, good looking babe.


A guy that will value you will beg you to marry him.

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

You do not need to despair. He was never your husband.

The signs are always there. They say love is blind. But I always say love is NOT blind. The person in love is the blind person.

Sometimes I hear people saying “I brought her from Kano, Benin, Abeokuta, etc to marry her and she followed another man”. I would always respond that she was never yours. You were the pipe that connected the lady and her husband, irrespective of how many times you had sex together.

When you meet the right man, there are no too many words. Sometimes it may delay for marriage to happen, but it must happen. Everything is action about it and not words.

So steady your mind, stay on the queue, be a good girl, face your work, pray and certainly your own husband will get to you in due course.

Cheers.

Dis guy is just so heartless and wicked,no conscience at all take heart d best is out there for u ok

czarr:
That guy has been detaching himself emotionally from you little by little and you failed to notice it. It's not easy for a guy to move on to another lady if he is emotionally invested for up to 5 years.

Here is what I believe, he is paying you back for something you did to him in the course of your relationship, he felt hurt and betrayed, he may even have discovered something you did behind his back and chose not to confront you but just to waste your time as revenge. Did you cheat on him in the 5years period and thought he won't find out, after all what he doesn't know won't kill him.

It's easy to be an angel when you are 31 what about when you were 26 and you still had market value, did you do something that you thought he may have forgiven you because he can't do without your hot body.

Think hard and well, nobody is that terrible of a person,it's just that some people don't forgive betrayal.

Exactly what’s in my mind.
Apart from the cheating thing self, ladies of nowadays lack emotional intelligence to know what level they’ve hurt their male partners and how to go about appeasing them, they always expect them to “man-up” and deal with their sh*t without showing sufficient remorse to heal their partners’ emotional pains. And with time, they are consequentially dumped for the next empathetic girl while the dumped keep wailing “I was good to him”.
Are you sure you took time to understand his nature , what he likes or what he detests?
Are you sure you showed remorse when needed, or you just always expected him to swallow your shit and man up cos you are a “queen and more”?

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

I sent you a DM

Its better you are single than with such heartless human

God forbid

The Lord is your strength.
Chopping breakfast at 31 can be so hurtful but look towards the brighter side. It's better he leaves you single than marry you but you still feel single and rejected.

Pray. Prayer helps

Never judge anyone base on just a sided story.....there's more to dis than dis cooked up story

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

I sympathize with you, however, you need to protect yourself in a relationship. That someone calls you my wife to be is no indication that you are the one, talk is cheap.

You need to make marriage a requirement in your relationship by having a timeline, your guy cannot keep getting what he wants and you getting being called a wife to be. Be straight to the point about what you want, if he is not cutting it, he is not the one, break the relationship and move on. Ensure you are not the fish caught for sports but the golden fish put in the aquarium at home.

Stop giving out the cookie too easily, if the milk is free, men will never buy the cow. Over familiarity breeds contempt, 5 years without commitment will sure end up in heartbreak. In your next relationship make it clear that you short term goals will be getting married in 18 months, if he is not leaning towards the direction after 6 months, you know he is not the one.

Well, i know it hard to forget because have gone through that b4. Giving chance to someone else who value u better than him. Am lonely and seriously search for the right girl, I do meet the wrong ones who dont know what relationship and marriage mean.u can whatsapp me on 07054643519 am single and searching

Alexis11:
Please be reasonable and don't drive the young lady into depression.

Iffa slap you!

Men dey go thru worse for their hand on a regular.
Aside emotional loss, men dey suffer financial loss for these useless women hand on a regular. So why women own heartbreak kon dey special.
She can go into depression if depression dey hungry her.

If she dey 22-24 she for come out kon cry. Na when dem don dey approach menopause dey go dey find mumu man wey go marry dem.

You just dodged a bullet.! Count your blessings and move on. You will eventually meet the guy that you deserve.

Chat me up, 09073000890

Sorry my daughter life can be hard, but let me tell you another thing - he may have been the worst thing that ever had to you and your spirit rejected him even though you are not physically aware yet. I bet you move on with your life, get a bigger dream than seeking marriage or partner or all those crap things you hear our people say, work towards your dream with all your might and see where it would lead you. Funny enough all the things you ignore usually come chasing you as you work your dreams to reality. The biggest problem we have in this primitive clime is that people don't have dreams beyond mundane things like having 'lovely' kids and sending them to the 'best' schools where they will take 'first' position all the time till eternity! Hahahaha, black people are toast

Hi @Graceihotu,

I have been heart broken before but this level of hear break it’s just a whole new level, so I can’t even say I understand how you feel because if I felt terrible then you must be feeling same x10.
I’m sorry you had to go through this, considering your age and all. I’m going to encourage you to pull yourself up and move on. It’s not going to be easy, might take months for you to get over this but you will eventually do so by God’s Grace.
All you need now is the God factor: Get closer to God, stay away from relationships that requires you to fornicate, be a better person, work on your flaws, focus on things that makes you happy and keep praying daily!

The year is still very young and God can still connect you to your God ordained spouse and yes you can get married this year too. Just submit yourself to God, have faith in Him and He would surprise you.

I had similar issue but God came forth for me, God gave me the very best after I surrendered all to Him. If God can answer my prayers, He will surely answer yours.

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

Lolzzzz you probably deserve it....no guy breaks a girls heart unless she deserves it.

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

Chai uwa nkea sef ( this life sef )

Graceihotu,go and remove urself from d marine world and u wil stop complaining. thats all i have to tell u.if u like,ignore

Hi dearie. Read through your story. Thou I don't know you, but I try every time I have the opportunity to say something when it comes to issues of breakups, especially to females. If your partner leaves you and gets married, dearie the best thing to do without thinking twice is to let him go, and go for real I mean, never to look back. Its a different ball game if he's just moving on to continue a new relationship or dating. Dearie for your own Sanity and peace of mind, please just move on and do whatever it takes to get yourself back on joyful moods please.
I must tell you I had similar experience also, someone I loved so much and never thought we could live apart, but somehow today she's married to someone else,( I happened to find out on her WhatsApp status) but you know what I told myself, for my own sanity and health I have to move on and put it behind me completely because she's gone, and I believe she made her decision with a sound mind, same as your case to. Yes the feeling it's overwhelmingly heartbreaking, but trust me dearie, your man is definitely happy with the decision he has taken. So why should you be suffering in pain and heartbreak. Dear, you worth the whole world, you a woman and I believe a unique one at that. So pickup yourself and move on with more serious schedules in your life. ( Your better half) will locate you someday, its a must. Just keep been you.

Heart matter no concern me abeg I no care ..let's discuss serious naija issues.. dollar don turned # 600 o

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

Take hearts n make sure you don’t hurt yourself
I would like to reach you if you don’t mind?

kunlebt:
Well, i know it hard to forget because have gone through that b4. Giving chance to someone else who value u better than him. Am lonely and seriously search for the right girl, I do meet the wrong ones who dont know what relationship and marriage mean.u can whatsapp me on 07054643519 am single and searching

Lol!
This one wan smash pussy kon pick race.

Ashawo!!!

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

Sister trust me u dont need his explanation..

Just try and lock up on many tot in ur mind,
Tho u re old enough to be married but pls take ur mind of marriage
Sometimes we get tins easily wen we decide not to attach too much importance to it.
If u believe in prayer den continue praying with genuine hrt

U dont have to wail or cry, what has bn done can not be undone, know this and have peace
U dont have to break down as well, just know that karma know how to play its game

See am not cursing ooh, but wat gives you the impression that if u marry him ur marriage would be perfect, and without blemishes?

Wat gives u the notion that his marriage with his cousin will stand the wave of tym??
Wat give u the notion that wat he did to u, he wont repeat it with his cousin?

E b like say u no dey tink grace!!
U dont even know that na one bullet u escape so.



See sister, goan bath and play out jare...(but dont give ur pussy put on a platter of emotions in this moment ooh, cus i know u re not balanced emotionally. Some guys wil want to take advantage...get that pls)

For a long time i felt touched because I could genuinely feel your pain. So sorry you had to go through this, God almighty will compensate you with a better man.

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

Oluwatobike:
I really feel your pain. So sorry. Put yourself together, look up to Jesus ur perfection. He will make all things new again at the right time. The guy does not deserve you.

DM me let's talk more. I'll make it up to you and make you happy.

shun fornication

Hello OP,may God comfort you.But note this giving a guy your body will not make a guy marry you and also your money too.Don't give any guy sex and money and you too should work in God's way.You will soon meet your own man.You are not old,your own man that will love you without deceit will show up soon.

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram I COMPRISUN ur CAPRISUN!


So SORRY MAN!


U have to hold tight and be strong..


E fit be sey God de TRY save u from something!


BETTER days ahead bro...


D PESIN u want might NOT really be for U!


I believe God is trying to SAVE u from something!


I have dat STRONG BELIEVE!


We humans don't really UNDERSTAND de ways of God or d wayz of d SPIRITUAL!


make I no too CAPRISUN MUCH..


just take HEART and be strong.. MAN wey deserve U, go JAZZ in ur Life..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

It has to be the weed

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

Chai, this one touched me; this one no dey good I must confess! If the guy knows that he will play you he for let you know on time so that you will focus elsewhere. This life eeh! Na people dey make person dey hardened. Innocent (not yet proven till I hear from your former boyfriend) girl like this, you just scattered her life, if she come dey hardened now, guys will be wondering "why. " its well with you Nne!