Dominion791:
I've been seeing this girl for the last few months, since early January of this year. Not an official relationship and we haven't really talked about what we are. Not sure exactly how to describe her so I'm just going to use her as a friend in benefit as the description.

There was some emotion in our relationship but it was mostly sexual. I've always been really, really good about using condoms and this is the first time I've ever been in this pregnancy situation.

I'm pretty unsure if I am the father. We had sex about twice a week for the last three months. So I have no clue who she saw or was with nor do I really care to be honest. There is more than a little doubt in my mind if I am the father.

For what its worth she insists I am the father but I don't know. She learned she was pregnant on March 22nd. She Told me on 24th. I immediately encouraged her to get an abortion I've offered to cover it all cost . She said she would think about. Its been almost 2 weeks and no abortion.

I spoke to her this morning and its becoming kind of clear that an abortion probably isn't happening. She is starting to get kind of tired of me pushing the abortion. I don't know what else to do. I'm starting to really get scared I am only 21 and I don't even have a job. I can't afford to raise a child right now and I certainly don't want a family right now. I'm thinking of telling her to reconsider the abortion or take care of the baby alone.

What do I do now?

If you don't have a job,then get one or you expected people on this forum will tell you congratulations...Face your responsibility and stop disturbing us,nobody cares.

Dominion791:
I've been seeing this girl for the last few months, since early January of this year. Not an official relationship and we haven't really talked about what we are. Not sure exactly how to describe her so I'm just going to use her as a friend in benefit as the description.

There was some emotion in our relationship but it was mostly sexual. I've always been really, really good about using condoms and this is the first time I've ever been in this pregnancy situation.

Oh

I'm pretty unsure if I am the father. We had sex about twice a week for the last three months. So I have no clue who she saw or was with nor do I really care to be honest. There is more than a little doubt in my mind if I am the father.

For what its worth she insists I am the father but I don't know. She learned she was pregnant on March 22nd. She Told me on 24th. I immediately encouraged her to get an abortion I've offered to cover it all cost . She said she would think about. Its been almost 2 weeks and no abortion.

I spoke to her this morning and its becoming kind of clear that an abortion probably isn't happening. She is starting to get kind of tired of me pushing the abortion. I don't know what else to do. I'm starting to really get scared I am only 21 and I don't even have a job. I can't afford to raise a child right now and I certainly don't want a family right now. I'm thinking of telling her to reconsider the abortion or take care of the baby alone.

What do I do now?

I was in your shoe exactly a month ago.


I promise never to do Raw again because I can’t imagine how she become pregnant because I always use removals methods. But am sure am the one that impregnate her.

She was the one that suggested abortion, where as I was forming let keep the baby but in my mind I want the abortion like no one else.

We did the abortion in a local chemist but unfortunately, it was incomplete abortion, after some days she started bleading that she almost gave up. I have to find money to go to private hospital to complete the abortion (evacuation)

Why am telling you this is that, abortion is not easy and can take her life. But unfortunately if you succeed doing abortion. Always protect your self. I have learn the hard way:

I pray you find lasting solution to your predicament

Sex sex sex everywhere Nawa oo.

Children of nowadays sef, you are just 21 and you have been having regular sex twice a week for about 3 months now, what were you expecting, married people don't even have sex as regular as you and you expect not to get her pregnant, my friend go and prepare for pampers and fatherhood, so you were born 2001 here and already enjoying regular sex like this, what do you want us to do about it na, when you were actually enjoying the ride, you did not ask for our opinion whether or not you should continue, time for responsibilities you are running helter skelter, you must be a very unserious fellow.

Dominion791:
I've been seeing this girl for the last few months, since early January of this year. Not an official relationship and we haven't really talked about what we are. Not sure exactly how to describe her so I'm just going to use her as a friend in benefit as the description.

There was some emotion in our relationship but it was mostly sexual. I've always been really, really good about using condoms and this is the first time I've ever been in this pregnancy situation.

I'm pretty unsure if I am the father. We had sex about twice a week for the last three months. So I have no clue who she saw or was with nor do I really care to be honest. There is more than a little doubt in my mind if I am the father.

For what its worth she insists I am the father but I don't know. She learned she was pregnant on March 22nd. She Told me on 24th. I immediately encouraged her to get an abortion I've offered to cover it all cost . She said she would think about. Its been almost 2 weeks and no abortion.

I spoke to her this morning and its becoming kind of clear that an abortion probably isn't happening. She is starting to get kind of tired of me pushing the abortion. I don't know what else to do. I'm starting to really get scared I am only 21 and I don't even have a job. I can't afford to raise a child right now and I certainly don't want a family right now. I'm thinking of telling her to reconsider the abortion or take care of the baby alone.

What do I do now?

Bro accept the responsibility of the child,when u were busy grinding the hole the didn't remember that u are only 21.

tee59:
And so what? We should fry plantain? When you were sagging her, are we there? Abeg carry your wahala go jare.

He only seek for advice na don't get upset. If you want to shag u should have said that na

Have the child with benefits...

You can't force her to have an abortion. This is your reality, so deal with it.
Next time zip up, if you can't bear the consequences of your actions...... In bed.

Johnhug66:

Person talk say e no get job, u dey talk of paternity test. Na #2500 dem dey use do the test?? �

Hahahha but to be sure of the struggle ahead. It is fine to borrow money and ensure you’re taking care of your responsibility

averageguy:


My brother, it's the way nature is set up oh. The man has a say at the point of conception and beyond that, the baby is growing inside the woman and not the man.

In general, I think many people will agree bodily autonomy makes is wrong for us to force adults (male or female) to go through surgeries of any kind since they are the ones bearing the risk. I just don't think abortion is any different.

Exactly.

Dshocker:


If you don't have a job,then get one or you expected people on this forum will tell you congratulations...Face your responsibility and stop disturbing us,nobody cares.

bless your soul, my thoughts exactly

You are 21, jobless but you do friends with benefits, so how do you pay her abi u no know meaning of the phrase friends with benefits?. U better ask ur preek what to do and stop asking us.... We weren't there wen u were busy forking her 2wice a week

At dt age I was in 200L in Uni, was always thinking how to better improve on my GPA, n nt d opposite. Ogbeni finish watin u start

Ammishaddai:
Oga, do yourself a favor and demand that you do a paternity test to verify if you are the real father of that child. If the results come out to be true, then discuss the terms and conditions you're willing to accept for child support .

And lastly, you running or denying that you're not ready to be a "father " won't change the current reality that you've gotten yourself into a mess . Most especially if it turns out that you're the child's biological father

I'm not sure you read the part where he said he's only 21 and doesn't have a job.

BTW @op that lady is not pregnant, don't ask me why

I wonder why idiots like this OP come to Nairaland for advice after they do stupid stuff.
Is Pastor Adeboye on Nairaland?
Ask your grandfather for advice nah.
Anu mpama.

mokoh:


He only seek for advice na don't get upset. If you want to shag u should have said that na

hsahahaha . Na funny people full here I swear.

Which one be if you wan to shag

Dominion791:
I've been seeing this girl for the last few months, since early January of this year. Not an official relationship and we haven't really talked about what we are. Not sure exactly how to describe her so I'm just going to use her as a friend in benefit as the description.

There was some emotion in our relationship but it was mostly sexual. I've always been really, really good about using condoms and this is the first time I've ever been in this pregnancy situation.

I'm pretty unsure if I am the father. We had sex about twice a week for the last three months. So I have no clue who she saw or was with nor do I really care to be honest. There is more than a little doubt in my mind if I am the father.

For what its worth she insists I am the father but I don't know. She learned she was pregnant on March 22nd. She Told me on 24th. I immediately encouraged her to get an abortion I've offered to cover it all cost . She said she would think about. Its been almost 2 weeks and no abortion.

I spoke to her this morning and its becoming kind of clear that an abortion probably isn't happening. She is starting to get kind of tired of me pushing the abortion. I don't know what else to do. I'm starting to really get scared I am only 21 and I don't even have a job. I can't afford to raise a child right now and I certainly don't want a family right now. I'm thinking of telling her to reconsider the abortion or take care of the baby alone.

What do I do now?

You're 21 and without a job, yet you were having more sex than married men with jobs eekwa?
Ngwanu! O ruola n'omume! Buru!

You said you're "friends with benefits" right? Well, the pregnancy is part of the "benefits".
Congratulations!

Seventy year old man....dem tear gas am; dey tear gas him.

Dear Dominion,

As a lawyer I would provide you with the views of the law to your situation.

According to the law in most states, Lagos inclusive, children are owned by the state. where individuals refuse to keep a child, they can either give them up for adoption or to an orphanage. There is no law that forces a couple or friends with benefits or one partner to keep a child he/she doesn't want to keep. The long and short of this is that you shouldn't be bothered about raising the child if you do not want to and if you do not have the resources to do so. When she gives birth to the child, simply look for an adoption agency or home or the Lagos state government children board, I am sure there is someone out there praying to be a parent to your child; this would solve the problem.

Please note, my advise is predicated on the fact that the female partner intends to deliver the baby and doesn't want to keep it. If she chooses to keep it, you cannot go on with the above.

Thank you.

Best regards,
RichDaniels.

Ammishaddai:
Oga, do yourself a favor and demand that you do a paternity test to verify if you are the real father of that child. If the results come out to be true, then discuss the terms and conditions you're willing to accept for child support .

And lastly, you running or denying that you're not ready to be a "father " won't change the current reality that you've gotten yourself into a mess . Most especially if it turns out that you're the child's biological father

Person wey nor get job, where e wan see money do paternity test

The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.
The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.
Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life.
If life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor.

stinflame:


when bois of him agree no the Sleep all to gain Benefit money, you busy the Shag a girl for friends with Benefit. Now Benefit Baby don show...

exactly the baby name go be Benefit

Dominion791:
I've been seeing this girl for the last few months, since early January of this year. Not an official relationship and we haven't really talked about what we are. Not sure exactly how to describe her so I'm just going to use her as a friend in benefit as the description.

There was some emotion in our relationship but it was mostly sexual. I've always been really, really good about using condoms and this is the first time I've ever been in this pregnancy situation.

I'm pretty unsure if I am the father. We had sex about twice a week for the last three months. So I have no clue who she saw or was with nor do I really care to be honest. There is more than a little doubt in my mind if I am the father.

For what its worth she insists I am the father but I don't know. She learned she was pregnant on March 22nd. She Told me on 24th. I immediately encouraged her to get an abortion I've offered to cover it all cost . She said she would think about. Its been almost 2 weeks and no abortion.

I spoke to her this morning and its becoming kind of clear that an abortion probably isn't happening. She is starting to get kind of tired of me pushing the abortion. I don't know what else to do. I'm starting to really get scared I am only 21 and I don't even have a job. I can't afford to raise a child right now and I certainly don't want a family right now. I'm thinking of telling her to reconsider the abortion or take care of the baby alone.

What do I do now?

You are a wicked boy.

I hope the girl’s parents are well connected and they teach you some lessons.

You want her to take care of the baby alone?

Was that how your mum took care of you alone?

You are now doing further maths, calculating date, trying to paint the girl in a bad light.

So it is is now that you know you are 21.

And this muffin would have a Julius Berger phallus o. Grading the girl’s highway twice a week.

Sell your phones and laptop and take care of the girl. Get a bricklayer job if you and the people who own you dont have money.

If the girl should die from abortion, this post would be used against you in the court of law.

akoi bura ba hankali

"I'm starting to really get scared I am only 21 and I don't even have a job. I can't afford to raise a child right now and I certainly don't want a family right now".
When you were fucckering her and she was scream 'harder, harder, woohaawoohaaa'. You did not seek our opinion, now the result is out u dey bother us. I always tell any man or woman that have sezx without protection that they are actually praying to God for a baby and being a loving God, will almost always grant it.
So, pls dont abort. At 21, you are strong and matured enough to do any kind of work to raise your child well. It may seem hard to you now but as u go into it you will be amazed at how easy it becomes.
If many men and women who had abortion for the same reason that u are proposing are given the same position again, they would elect to have the babies and damn the consequences.

Victoria938:
man up and take care of your responsibilities.

I go like give you belle

AmazonTopaz:


When the man is the one carrying the pregnancy then he will have a major say.

Then the woman should also have a major say about the finances of the baby.

But when you have were enjoying it,u did not know u don't want to be a father.
Anyway your name is Dominion.. you have taken dominion already by putting her in Belle with Benefit..
Why not continue to father the child with benefit too?
Immoralities everywhere
Please help me look for knife to cut off that thing.

Anyway when is the naming ceremony coming up?

Dominion791:
I've been seeing this girl for the last few months, since early January of this year. Not an official relationship and we haven't really talked about what we are. Not sure exactly how to describe her so I'm just going to use her as a friend in benefit as the description.

There was some emotion in our relationship but it was mostly sexual. I've always been really, really good about using condoms and this is the first time I've ever been in this pregnancy situation.

I'm pretty unsure if I am the father. We had sex about twice a week for the last three months. So I have no clue who she saw or was with nor do I really care to be honest. There is more than a little doubt in my mind if I am the father.

For what its worth she insists I am the father but I don't know. She learned she was pregnant on March 22nd. She Told me on 24th. I immediately encouraged her to get an abortion I've offered to cover it all cost . She said she would think about. Its been almost 2 weeks and no abortion.

I spoke to her this morning and its becoming kind of clear that an abortion probably isn't happening. She is starting to get kind of tired of me pushing the abortion. I don't know what else to do. I'm starting to really get scared I am only 21 and I don't even have a job. I can't afford to raise a child right now and I certainly don't want a family right now. I'm thinking of telling her to reconsider the abortion or take care of the baby alone.

What do I do now?

Shouldn't you be more concerned that you could catch a life threatening STD? Na wa o

Lol congratulations bro. 21 years old boy, having sex twice a week for the past 3 months, not married but now scared because he's so young without a job and can't father a child. Bro what we're you thinking when u were having sex twice a week for months? Don't abort, stick to the plan and have your babies peacefully. Congratulations once again

Welcome to being a father

Dominion791:
I've been seeing this girl for the last few months, since early January of this year. Not an official relationship and we haven't really talked about what we are. Not sure exactly how to describe her so I'm just going to use her as a friend in benefit as the description.

There was some emotion in our relationship but it was mostly sexual. I've always been really, really good about using condoms and this is the first time I've ever been in this pregnancy situation.

I'm pretty unsure if I am the father. We had sex about twice a week for the last three months. So I have no clue who she saw or was with nor do I really care to be honest. There is more than a little doubt in my mind if I am the father.

For what its worth she insists I am the father but I don't know. She learned she was pregnant on March 22nd. She Told me on 24th. I immediately encouraged her to get an abortion I've offered to cover it all cost . She said she would think about. Its been almost 2 weeks and no abortion.

I spoke to her this morning and its becoming kind of clear that an abortion probably isn't happening. She is starting to get kind of tired of me pushing the abortion. I don't know what else to do. I'm starting to really get scared I am only 21 and I don't even have a job. I can't afford to raise a child right now and I certainly don't want a family right now. I'm thinking of telling her to reconsider the abortion or take care of the baby alone.

What do I do now?

And U sleeping with a woman.

Guest911:
That girl is not pregnant, things are hard she just want money

Make OP tell the chimma to go born the child jare. Say after na to do DNA test before you go accept the child . But make she no commot am , say you no fit collect the child until you see prove

U said u used condom,y worried