Kisico:
Also make sure you don't lay your hand on another guy's sis.

I don't do that

VIKTO83:
U didbt call off any wedding as long as im concerned. From ur story he had paid bride price so he had married u. D wedding u are talking about is oyibo wearing white ceremony.
Anyways we are happy u have divorced. But please whatever u do to him to make him best u I beg don't do it to d next man biko. So u don't end up demonizing lot of men out there.

See, the above only applies as far as those of you who have submitted yourselves to your bride pride scam. Marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman and since the woman does not believe herself married even after the payment of bride price. It means there is no agreement, and since there is no legal document to prove a marriage, she is correct.

BluntTheApostle:

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. (Ephesians 5:22-23)

Submission in Marriage is God's curse on marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16..

It is one of the same curses that God sent Jesus Christ to redeem mankind from, that whosoever will believe in Jesus Christ(instead of the curse) will not perish as stipulated by the curse - Genesis 3 vs 16 - 22 - but have everlasting life instead - John 3 vs 16 - 21

You can't bow to the curse and belong to Jesus Christ as well.... that is antiChrist in all formats.

Talk true... u don get better option lol. The guy looks broke and poorer than the lady. Talk true. I don't know where these anecdotal domestic violence cases exist cos I have not experienced these things in my family.

Skidee:


You're just a mad man..
May every bad thing in life happen to you. Oloriburuku somebody.

Avoid women like these ... the abusive foul mouthed ones that curse you out and emasculate you till you lose it... then she starts running around screaming domestic violence. These types are the ones that take your car keys and lock the door when you try to leave. The foul mouthed angry women.

If a man beats his partner during courtship, what will he do to her when they are married? or when she has had two or three kids? Women should stop believing that they can change a man. Courtship should be the sweetest part of a relationship.

May God punish you if you later mend things with him, and marry him ..

Stay true to your decision!

May God punish him too for the abuse he has made you go through...

Remag666:

Calm down anty we haven't even heard the man's side of the story and we all know your gender like to blow things out of proportion

Women provoke men a lot knowing fully well when the man reacts society would take pity on the girl
Where prison follow enter discussion abeg

What he did (domestic violence) is punishable by the court of law

The earlier, the better

Kingcalls:
Women always think they are right ... what did u do?? Men don't show emotions when they are abused , they can't cry , so they rather will hit, its in our nature ...so y do women think they can just insult men and get away with it... as long as the world dont preach that women should also respect men and dont insult men, men will continue to hit women... they wise women will dodge confrontation to avoid violence , the foolish ones will think they can insult men and expect no reaction....

Domestic violence against women has increased since feminists started preaching that a woman should not be hit even if she abuses the man to the point where he is pushed to the wall... just look at the last 2 big brothers... look at how those women insulted those guys to the point that one of the guys started crying... women like that will easily get hit by a man cis men respond with violence when angry....its in a man's nature and women should understand it... this is y most men don't wanna even get married again...

Your assertion that it's in a man's nature to respond with violence is not true. It's a decision not a nature. The same men will be insulted and chided by military persons or even their bosses and remain calm but choose to respond with violence to their partners.

Violence is a choice. Choose correctly. If it's becoming uncontrollable, seek help fast.

A whole lot of comments here are portraying the fact that men are beasts, animals, etc. Have you looked at the abuse a woman causes to a man? Now, this is not to side men who beat women, no! Far from it! But women, have you actually looked at your character? Women too abuse men not by the use of their hands or fists or whatever of that sort but by the leakage of their mouths and by the very actions they take to demean men. Now the irresponsible men they end up with who can't control themselves against the things the ladies do and say, end up using their hands to suppress their anger that never quenches.
I'm saying this to say that, women too should work on themselves, work on their character and try to follow their man as it is. Not that there aren't bad men around who just love domestic violence though, but be your best and hopefully, a good man who will cherish and adore you for what you're worth will definitely come...

Kobojunkie:
Submission in Marriage is God's curse on marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16..

It is one of the same curses that God sent Jesus Christ to redeem mankind from, that whosoever will believe in Jesus Christ(instead of the curse) will not perish as stipulated by the curse - Genesis 3 vs 16 - 22 - but have everlasting life instead - John 3 vs 16 - 21

You can't bow to the curse and belong to Jesus Christ as well.... that is antiChrist in all formats.

But pains during childbirth is also one of the curses.

So, women who go through labour pains are under the curse, and are thus unredeemed?

manuel0523:
A whole lot of comments here are portraying the fact that men are beasts, animals, etc. Have you looked at the abuse a woman causes to a man? Now, this is not to side men who beat women, no! Far from it! But women, have you actually looked at your character? Women too abuse men not by the use of their hands or fists or whatever of that sort but by the leakage of their mouths and by the very actions they take to demean men. Now the irresponsible men they end up with who can't control themselves against the things the ladies do and say, end up using their hands to suppress their anger that never quenches.
I'm saying this to say that, women too should work on themselves, work on their character and try to follow their man as it is. Not that there aren't bad men around who just love domestic violence though, but be your best and hopefully, a good man who will cherish and adore you for what you're worth will definitely come...

That is what I have been advocating.

People think domestic violence is all about physical abuse.

In fact, society makes excuses for rude and abusive women by claiming that the power of a woman is in her mouth.

We need to stop enabling bad behavior. A woman who can't control her tongue when angry is no better than a man who can't control his fists.

As long as we continue to ignore addressing domestic violence holistically, we will continue to have domestic violence.

BluntTheApostle:
But pains during childbirth is also one of the curses.

So, women who go through labour pains are under the curse, and are thus unredeemed?

Yes, it is as written, and every child born into this world is born into a cursed existence as a result.

For this reason, Jesus made mention that God permitted some to live even as Eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of God.

Kobojunkie:
Yes, it is as written, and every child born into this world is born into a cursed existence as a result.

SMH...

BluntTheApostle:
SMH...

Indeed, God doesn't want your children in His New Covenant.. what He wants is you. He instead promises that when you abandon all, including, father, mother, children, etc., for His sake, He will reward you with numerous times more in this life and the next.

You can read it all right there in Matthew 19 and 2 or 3 other places in the Gospels.

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Also, anyone who sweats for perishable food is cursed aka not redeemed from the curse as well. - Genesis 3 vs 19 and John 6 vs 25 - 33

Wise decision..let the beast go and look for another woman..

You had already made yourself his wife long beforehand enjoying all kinds of benefits you were not entitled to! I wonder what you expected

Ishilove:

I get your point and I totally agree with you that verbal abuse is unacceptable, but my point is you should handle provocation in your home the way you would normally handle it outside your home. There are ways you can deal with a woman with diarrhea of the mouth that will even be more effective than using your fists on her.

for sure. Thanks for the contribution.

Kingcalls:
Women always think they are right ... what did u do?? Men don't show emotions when they are abused , they can't cry , so they rather will hit, its in our nature ...so y do women think they can just insult men and get away with it... as long as the world dont preach that women should also respect men and dont insult men, men will continue to hit women... they wise women will dodge confrontation to avoid violence , the foolish ones will think they can insult men and expect no reaction....

Domestic violence against women has increased since feminists started preaching that a woman should not be hit even if she abuses the man to the point where he is pushed to the wall... just look at the last 2 big brothers... look at how those women insulted those guys to the point that one of the guys started crying... women like that will easily get hit by a man cis men respond with violence when angry....its in a man's nature and women should understand it... this is y most men don't wanna even get married again...

And what exactly are you trying to say? What's your point

FutureIsFemale:
What he did (domestic violence) is punishable by the court of law

How do we even know he did what she's accusing him of
For all I care she could have found a wealthier man and now she's trying to go him a bad name so they can separate.
All I'm saying is don't draw conclusions until you hear from both parties it's obvious you're bias you're already talking about prison time after hearing from one person naso them dey judge case

[quote author=Yankee101 post=111926228]Don't marry anyone who uses you as a punching bag

Even if he is rich....especially of he is rich[/

revolt:
Talk true... u don get better option lol. The guy looks broke and poorer than the lady. Talk true. I don't know where these anecdotal domestic violence cases exist cos I have not experienced these things in my family.

You're lucky you've not experienced it, doesn't mean it doesn't happen

[quote author=IdreamOfUnicorn post=111953232][/quote]

Build yourself independently


The reason most women are abused is due to dependence on the abuser for money, validation or emotions.

She gladly dogged a bullet and I am glad for her.

Any man that beats a woman that he claims to love is worse than an infidel. A bloody coward that is emotionally immature and is not fit to be in any sort of relationship or marriage.

TotoGame:


And who be that?

Ebubu is a miscreant from Ezzamgbo, Ebonyi skirt

Seredebe:


Ebubu is a miscreant from Ezzamgbo, Ebonyi skirt

And you know I am a miscreant how?

Listen, I’m using an iPhone and I’m richer than you think.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Your sanity and happiness is non-negotiable.

Seredebe:


Ebubu is a miscreant from Ezzamgbo, Ebonyi skirt

Ok ...but I don't have any shit with him

FutureIsFemale:
Nice move.
If I have my way I'd stay single forever.
These animals don't worth it.

He should be arrested and no refund of the bride price unless he has not had sex with you.

@ the bolded, why?

Parisian:
Go and wake Osinachi up and ask for her side of the story.

https://www.nairaland.com/7080676/aborted-marriage-sandra-obi-man

The man is out with his own side of the story

SunMusk:
Which side of the story,.... So if ur wife insult you what you will do is beat her. No other side of the story from the animal deserves beating [

So because you be woman you will be insulting your huseband anyhow abi?

quote author=Ezebinaugwu post=111924812]Better for her, but we still need to hear your ex side of the story. Me no dey conclude with one sided story

https://www.nairaland.com/7080676/aborted-marriage-sandra-obi-man

Read the man's story before you judge