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UyaiIncomparabl:
Once a man gets married, his loyalty must be to the wife. It's not a tussle. Mothers-in-law should also know when to draw the curtain. If they so please, they can marry their sons. I will never become unnecessarily emotionally attached to my sons and wouldn't want them to either.

the issue is not loyalty to wife after marriage that's the problem with most ladies, their problem is for the guy to cut off from everybody he has ever known before he married the lady and let him be worshipping her. If the guy wants to send money to he's parents, that's when the wife will start demanding for a new car or house so the man shouldn't even help he's siblings. She wants the man to do for only her and her family. You guys should try and have conscience ooo when you may all these decisions.

lookingfly:
I await the day you call your father to his name or your mother to her name or maybe your boss at office or professor in school in this part of the world. That day you will smell your ny.ash with all these liberation thing from the west. You've not learny the hard way yet, that pride wing/uncultured nature you still have will be broken very soon except if you're not from Africa. These I've seen!

Why would I call my parents by their names? Are you that slow? My parents are my parents. My boss is my boss.

On this thread, did I ever tell women to disrespect their men? Please, ehn. Don't indulge me again. I'm beginning to lose active brain cells indulging you.

lookingfly:
the issue is not loyalty to wife after marriage that's the problem with most ladies, their problem is for the guy to cut off from everybody he has ever known before he married the lady and let him be worshipping her. If the guy wants to send money to he's parents, that's when the wife will start demanding for a new car or house so the man shouldn't even help he's siblings. She wants the man to do for only her and her family. You guys should try and have conscience ooo when you may all these decisions.

This is a different topic on its own.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Once a man gets married, his loyalty must be to the wife. It's not a tussle. Mothers-in-law should also know when to draw the curtain. If they so please, they can marry their sons. I will never become unnecessarily emotionally attached to my sons and wouldn't want them to either.

time will tell, it's not now aunty. You don't know the sacrifice some of these parents put in their sons, then a wife now comes from somewhere to come turn her son against her. You'll grow old one day and you'll understand. For now, it's easier said.

Kobojunkie:
Pay attention to what is being said. I said you will find male_whores even on your university campuses. I didn't say they are only found there.

Your Yahoo Boys, many of who are not even close to being rich, are in the minority on your college campuses, so I don't understand why you even bring their mention up in this.

Again, male_whores exist out there even on the streets, majority of them without a dream of being even 1/1000th as rich as Elon musk, yet content living as parasites on the women they bed.

Yup, you're probably female, you would not understand what I'm trying to say...

Yahoo boys are not a minority, the ones that make money are...
Even if they are, my point still stands: A Yahoo boy will get more BITCHES than a normal university dude
I don't get why you're not willing to accept this fact as it is common sense. Like I'm telling you the fact as a dude, you're a girl and you're telling me what you feel not what it is...

Your last paragraph, I cleared it before when I said those men aren't getting laid with normal girls, they're either prostitutes or village girls who also don't have no ambition. Any dude can sleep with those types of girls, but it's not any type of dude that can sleep with "normal girls"
IS IT SOO HARD TO COMPREHEND??

Think4Myself:
Yup, you're probably female, you would not understand what I'm trying to say...

Yahoo boys are not a minority, the ones that make money are...
Even if they are, my point still stands: A Yahoo boy will get more BITCHES than a normal university dude
I don't get why you're not willing to accept this fact as it is common sense. Like I'm telling you the fact as a dude, you're a girl and you're telling me what you feel not what it is...

Your last paragraph, I cleared it before when I said those men aren't getting laid with normal girls, they're either prostitutes or village girls who also don't have no ambition. Any dude can sleep with those types of girls, but it's not any type of dude that can sleep with "normal girls"
IS IT SOO HARD TO COMPREHEND??

Again, male_whores exist and a majority of them aren't rich. Many instead mooch off of the ladies they bed.

Personally, i wouldn't be sweeping the house when a guest is around but, if it's an older person I'll definitely offer to help out. It's not even because it's a mother in-law thing. I'll do that for any older person, save for some situations.

Can a Man visit your house seeing your mum wash a car without any help and not help to do it? Can he get to your house and see y'all scream about a rat and not offer to help you guys kill it?.

Many more duties a Man can do in your own house and you would say ooo... My dream Man all because it suite your selfish thinking.
We have cultures, norms and values.

Africans were raised to respect elderly ones and offer help in some little way.

A man wouldn't see your mum carrying firewood or a snake chasing her without offering to help.

Children from broken homes, failed parents who refused to instill the right values in their kids like you would definitely raise a leg when an elderly person is sweeping.
Get yourself a life sis!

lookingfly:
time will tell, it's not now aunty. You don't know the sacrifice some of these parents put in their sons, then a wife now comes from somewhere to come turn her son against her. You'll grow old one day and you'll understand. For now, it's easier said.

Were sacrifices made for the sons only? Do you know the sacrifices made for the girl? What's my business with that? See, everyone should just respect themselves. And why are you making it sound like a privilege? As long as they decided to give birth to you, they owe you that. So, it's not my business what sacrifices were made for you. Mine made sacrifices for me too. If you think you can comfortably be a mama's boy, I can comfortably be daddy's girl too. Then let's all get crazy together.

Looking at the op u will notice nothing but frustration. If u don't understand the message that the twit was trying to pass through u keep quiet

No be him break ur hrt nor dump u

That's the problem here, the more a woman becomes wild the more she becomes a treat to her husband

From the creation of this earth both in culture and religion and normal human senses

Women are virtuous when having or showing high moral standards and respect to her partner or suitors

First impression matters alot

MoneyMustBMade:
Looking at the op u will notice nothing but frustration. If u don't understand the message that the twit was trying to pass through u keep quiet

No be him break ur hrt nor dump u

That's the problem here, the more a woman becomes wild the more she becomes a treat to her husband

From the creation of this earth both in culture and religion and normal human senses

Women are virtuous when having or showing high moral standards and respect to her partner or suitors

Define "frustration". You are possibly a juvenile. I won't engage you in talks.

Kobojunkie:
Culturally, he didn't disrespect his own mother by watching her sweep but an outsider disrespect his mother by doing exactiy what he did?
So he is right in imposing on others standards which he himself refuses to live by and you fail to see the foolishness in that?

See why I pointed out that it is essential Africans abandon the foolish elements of their culture and traditions for commonsense instead.

The western world has there own culture you can't use theirs to change ours.

I did not say the girl disrespected the woman but for not showing concern when the woman got close to where she is sitting is wrong. She wouldn't have raised her legs, she would have shown humility and say mama let me sweep it or help you then the woman would have insisted don't worry my daughter and she would have mind her business, and not by raising up her legs and show no concern all.

This is just like what happened between Jesus and his disciples when he was washing their feet but Peter refused Jesus from washing his feet because he felt that it is not ethical for Jesus to wash his feet so he showed some humility but Jesus insisted and told him to allow him wash his feet and Peter kept quiet and allowed him to do so. That is how that girl would have done rather she raised her legs up and showed no concern that is not right in eyes of an older woman.

We should try to learn from every thing not to be pouring out our angers on things that will help us to relate with one another in peace.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Well, it can't be me.

so u saw nothing wrong in what the lady did..wow, imagine such insolence...women of these days eh, God forbid!...Kai...so u mean there's nothing wrong in what the lady did,smh.

I love my wife. I don't play with her which she knows, but I always remind her of who she is, is very important

If u want a man to love u without limit, show him some respect remember not only him but also people around him. Simple

LINTUNE:
so u saw nothing wrong in what the lady did..wow, imagine such insolence...women of these days eh, God forbid!...Kai...so u mean there's nothing wrong in what the lady did, smh.

To add salt to the injury, I would have walked out if I were her.

Nazgul:
The pic you uploaded has nothing to do with standard, it's all about how the girl was brought up.

We're Africans not Americans, African culture demands that when an elder is doing a chore or carrying something, you should offer to help.

I've gotten up for a pregnant woman to sit down during my NIN registration, I didn't know her from anywhere, but I felt since she's pregnant she ought to sit while me the agile young man should do the standing...that's the way I was brought up. Even on the ATM, if line is long and I see an elderly person at the back, I'll go behind him/her as ask him/her to take my position and withdraw before me.

Like I said, it has nothing to do with standard, it's just about how you were brought up. The girl on that pics you uploaded, has no respect for elderly people and one can easily conclude that she has little regard for her parents at home. The guy's mom did right by walking her out of her house, such behavior is not part of our culture.

dude, ignore that stupid girl,she's just too proud and unintelligent to understand this comment.

MoneyMustBMade:
I love my wife. I don't play with her which she knows, but I always remind her of who she is, is very important

If u want a man to love u without limit, show him some respect remember not only him but also people around him. Simple

Not only men need respect, hello. The way you men go about this respect thing like it's your birthright nauseates me. Like mine loves me lesser. Abegii.

We are trained in different homes, by different parents

LINTUNE:
dude, ignore that stupid girl,she's just too proud and unintelligent to understand this comment.

Better to be proud than be a slowpoke like you.

An addendum, maybe a momma"s boy.

Las las, na men comment still plenty for here pass women own. Shows how much they are pained and riled up by my topic. Sweet tears.

Raychee:
Personally, i wouldn't be sweeping the house when a guest is around but, if it's an older person I'll definitely offer to help out. It's not even because it's a mother in-law thing. I'll do that for any older person, save for some situations.

May be the visit was unannounced.

UyaiIncomparabl:
To add salt to the injury, I would have walked out if I were her.

Kai...this is just pure insolence...u are not a good person,and remember something,your own Future son's wife would treat u the same way,then u will understand how it feels.... normally the son would have collected the broom from the mother to sweep,but I'm sure he just wanted to observe and test u....u won't understand,but I dare u, ask any male in your family and get response from them.

NEXT TOPIC; SIMPS make better husbands than AlFA MALUU mails (my opinion).

UyaiIncomparabl:
Not only men need respect, hello. The way you men go about this respect thing like it's your birthright nauseates me. Like mine loves me lesser. Abegii.

The way u re replying to everyone quote shows how nagging u will be

Let me advice u young lady
A nagging wife is like a cancer in the bone of the husband hope u know...a talkative

Divorce is now common because of all this end time wey full everywhere

ChuksHills:
1. I did not say the girl disrespected the woman but for not showing concern when the woman got close to where she is sitting is wrong. She wouldn't have raised her legs, she would have shown humility and say mama let me sweep it or help you then the woman would have insisted don't worry my daughter and she would have mind her business, and not by raising up her legs and show no concern all.

2. This is just like what happened between Jesus and his disciples when he was washing their feet but Peter refused Jesus from washing his feet because he felt that it is not ethical for Jesus to wash his feet so he showed some humility but Jesus insisted and told him to allow him wash his feet and Peter kept quiet and allowed him to do so. That is how that girl would have done rather she raised her legs up and showed no concern that is not right in eyes of an older woman.

3. We should try to learn from every thing not to be pouring out our angers on things that will help us to relate with one another in peace.

1. Did the woman's own son not raise his own legs so his mother could continue sweeping too?,

2. Assuming your argument for ethics even holds, why then did none of the other disciples not resist having their feet washed by Jesus Christ as Peter did? Why didn't Jesus Christ make an issue of their so-called lack of ethics?

Look, stay away from that which you don't understand and stick only to that which you do. Your ethics means nothing where Jesus Christ is concerned as He instead told you to abandon the ideas and traditions of men if you wish to be His follower.

3. There is no anger just a cry against what is unjust treatment we dish out to others where we ourselves fail. The mother was wrong for judging the gal by standard even her own son could not live up to.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Better to be proud than be a slowpoke like you.

An addendum, maybe a momma"s boy.

you are actually not wise...am actually not a momma's boy, I believe women have their place in society so me being a momma's boy will be an insult to my ego....I'm no sexist,but I don't have any iota believe in femism...so momma's boy issue is out of it....being stupid proud and disrespectful is different from being real.

ChuksHills:
May be the visit was unannounced.

Your house should be clean at all times.

MoneyMustBMade:
The way u re replying to everyone quote shows how nagging u will be

Let me advice u young lady
A nagging wife is like a cancer in the bone of the husband hope u know...a talkative

Boy, BYE! Do the right things, women won't nag.

LINTUNE:
you are actually not wise...am actually not a momma's boy, I believe women have their place in society so me being a momma's boy will be an insult to my ego.... I'm no sexist ,but I don't have any iota believe in femism...so momma's boy issue is out of it....being stupid proud and disrespectful is different from being real.

So it is OK for you to have an ego and brag about it but not equally OK for a woman to do same?

LINTUNE:
dude, ignore that stupid girl, she's just too proud and unintelligent to understand this comment.

Isn't that what it means to be sexist?

LINTUNE:
Kai...this is just pure insolence...u are not a good person,and remember something,your own Future son's wife would treat u the same way,then u will understand how it feels.... normally the son would have collected the broom from the mother to sweep,but I'm sure he just wanted to observe and test u....u won't understand,but I dare u, ask any male in your family and get response from them.

Who cares. Whatever, abeg. Men in my family aren't small minded and archaic like you.

Kobojunkie:
Again, male_whores exist and a majority of them aren't rich. Many instead mooch off of the ladies they bed.

I didn't say they don't exist, you're argument is giving me small brain cells vibe

Kobojunkie:
So it is OK for you to have an ego and brag about it but not equally OK for a woman to do same? Isn't that what it means to be sexist?

u are really a dull person,what has ego have to do with total disrespect and pure insolence...u are not wise at all...do u know if I come to your father's house and find him changing his car tire , instinctively I'll help him out....if I see your mum trying to lift heavy load, as ur hubby to be, instinctively I'll help her out....note the word "instinctively"
...incase u don't understand that word, it means doing something without thinking, cos u are so used to doing things that way, such that such character is almost considered a reflex action.........I'm just trying to educate u here...what is bad is bad and should be condemned.