TOPCRUISE:
Be careful that the 3 months should not become years. Also what both you were doing while studying each other even if it is within a space of 2 years should be consequential enough to be focused on marriage. It doesn't mean you should accept within 3 months.

Freethinker87:


I don't understand the romance section. Everyone seems combative, both men and women.

Alpha male, feminist, simps and all sorts of weird nomenclatures they call each other in anger. You guys should drink some water and chill so that we can discuss and learn from each other .

cooooooks:
Come, Bia,

What work will you do in the abroad?

If you guys have not discussed you career there, that may be what is making him think that you will milk him.

Even if he is one of those "Alfa Mails" who say that their wives won't work. For your own good, get a career, healthcare is one.

Naija girls who travel have insane work ethic. They almost always earn good money, even udner table (food, hair).

SERIOUSLY consider healthcare related work if you have nothing planned.

cooooooks:
Lool.
You are absolutely right. People are blind when they want to be.

Also, all these Alfa Mails with their rules are laughable. Any lady (and ladies are smarter than men in this relationship thing) can easily play them, tick all their boxes, and still control the relationship. Especially in the abroad.

These Alfa Mails are setup to fail.

People need to come correct: males & females.

Shey this is what I am always saying... y'all that are very impressionable.

One small breast, sex, food, rebranding... and you are falling all over yourselves already.

siofra:


You're a very insincere person. I told you to show me where I insulted you and you're bringing up another thing.

My beef is with you. I have never reported you when you insult Nigerian girls I ignore but when you insult me directly, that's the only time I report.

So because the breast is not big, that's why it's okay to cybersexually harass me. I swear this you people's mentality ehn, very disgusting!

I'll continue mentioning you when you type rubbish.

cooooooks:
"Emancipate yourself from mental slavery".

begoniaa:

Shey this is what I am always saying... y'all that are very impressionable.

One small breast, sex, food, rebranding... and you are falling all over yourselves already.

cooooooks:
Come-on, let's not act like beginners.

People, of various self-ascribed "identities", have done these things you mentioned.

Magnolia comes to mind, but I haven't interacted or seen her (if the handle is really female) in months. There are others. There's another lady who is a bit older and purposefully bitter, I forget her username now.

All these gender fights are super stupid.

Iamyemmie:

I am a pharmacist,I have a job and I am ok

yemmie:

Why did you choose this particular dude
Look in the mirror .. within the 2years of not being with the guy .. how many dudes have you had sexual intercourse?
Was this dude your option A /main guy you loved?
What are you bringing to the union?
Do you truely want to build a future /home / generational wealth for unborn kids with this dude ?
Are you emotionally and mentally ready for marriage and it’s upheavals?
Are you finically independent or have a means for financial independence?
What is the added value you are offering to the guys life for him to appreciate and respect you

Sit down and ask yourself questions be truthful and real to your soul !

Ire oo

Freethinker87:
Calm down. You're sounding agitated and that's the combativeness I was speaking of. Your aggression is misplaced and totally unnecessary.

You didn't understand my text in context. I was speaking generally about the name calling in the romance section. I don't venture into the romance section, only when a thread is moved to the frontpage ...and everytime I've noticed that the commenters are usually combative and I wonder why that is.

begoniaa:


Shall we address this now... So tell me... a self-described identity that has done one or two things there... how? Which things? How have I been bitter?

cooooooks:
I can see someone proposing marriage to someone they hitherto knew but only DATED for 3 months. Especially if they're older than 27.

If it is someone completely new, that is crazy. I personally think at least 2 years.

I would point out that some other conditions could hasten marriage. E.g: I know of at least 1 couple that met in a group for single people planning (seriously) to japa. They met ~ 2019 in Nigeria, married late 2019, japa-ed in 2020 and already have 2 kids.

Michelle55:

Lol... What did I do biko? Ain't doing that LDR thingy again. It's either we are living together as couples or we ain't doing the commitment thingy at all.

Iamyemmie:
Hi everyone, so me and my bf have been dating for 2years + now, no issues. He’s in the states and I am in Nigeria.

The problem started when I started talking about marriage cos I want to settle down.
Now he told me he feels I want to use him to travel abroad, that statement really pissed me off because at the beginning of the relationship he was the one that wanted to marry like 3months after we started but I told him I wasn’t ready and I didn’t know him enough.

So which one is I want to use him to travel now??

I feel like maybe because I keep talking about the marriage stuff, that’s why he thinks it’s because of traveling.

I’m thinking it’s only break up that can solve the issue. Cos if it comes from me, then that’s a clear message I’m not dating for abroad
Or how do I solve this issue??

Ps he has been U.S citizen from the beginning of our relationship.
Just didn’t accept cos he might be a serial killer or woman beater or something, I didn’t know him well enough.

Zonefree:

You wasn't ready then cos he was broke and poor.

Now levels don change, you are ready. Lol


Ma'am, the Bobo is not ready now , go and look for who's ready. Madam ready!

cooooooks:
Magnolia swallows Western "men are inherently bad and have priviledge" talking points hook, line & sinker.

Poco, seemed to think that Nigerian men are just bad. Like she had given up on Naija men (due to her experiences), hence the "bitter".

These are what I recall from my interactions with both monikers.

Are magnolia & pocohontas (& begoniaa) the same person

Yes. The two both of us be deemons residing inside one body. One can manifest at any time. Different traits, etc., but cut from the same cloth.

So look at this now... imagine what you are accusing us of... she thinks Naija men are bad because of her experiences, ba... okayyyyy, because say you dey her life or na from comments here wey you dey read?

Me, I have swallowed men are inherently bad and have privileges... oh. That's all? That's the only crime Magnolia has committed? Mtcheeww. E no even vex me reach Poco own. I thought you had more damaging facts against me ni o. All the I'm a lesbian, a baby mama that has been serially* used and dumped no feature?

Because these are things y'all say about us, but when we come for their heads, we suddenly become the troublemakers.

No, you, you do not think this character misrepresentation and being spread by others as facts - all glimpsed from our comments - is not enough to make one angry?

I see now...

begoniaa:


Am I holding your blokos from not responding to me?

Goan rest if you want; I will drag you and stop whenever I wish to, nigga.

Win? Win what?

Cutehector:
come let us hug... enter uber come my side make i buy you wine.

Nkwobi follow the palmy ni?
Make we do am for weekend cos this I no fit stand this island traffic

Zonefree:
K

My obidient, putty, bitch dog on a lease. I think say you go like rest before ni?

Iamyemmie:
Hi everyone, so me and my bf have been dating for 2years + now, no issues. He’s in the states and I am in Nigeria.

The problem started when I started talking about marriage cos I want to settle down.
Now he told me he feels I want to use him to travel abroad, that statement really pissed me off because at the beginning of the relationship he was the one that wanted to marry like 3months after we started but I told him I wasn’t ready and I didn’t know him enough.

So which one is I want to use him to travel now??

I feel like maybe because I keep talking about the marriage stuff, that’s why he thinks it’s because of traveling.

I’m thinking it’s only break up that can solve the issue. Cos if it comes from me, then that’s a clear message I’m not dating for abroad
Or how do I solve this issue??

Ps he has been U.S citizen from the beginning of our relationship.
Just didn’t accept cos he might be a serial killer or woman beater or something, I didn’t know him well enough.

Michelle55:

Nkwobi follow the palmy ni?
Make we do am for weekend cos this I no fit stand this island traffic

NoToPile:
I just don't understand all these romance section boys.

She marries him within 3 months wahala they will call her a gold digger

She says she doesn't know him well enough to marry within 3 months she also get blamed for it.

Iamyemmie:

No he has been abroad from the beginning
When we met he came home for Christmas

CHoccolaTE:


Who told you guys are asking her out and she is ignoring them?
How do you people reason sef?

Just typing nonsense everytime to bash women.

Iamyemmie:

No he has been abroad from the beginning
When we met he came home for Christmas

begoniaa:


Yes. The two both of us be deemons residing inside one body. One can manifest at any time. Different traits, etc., but cut from the same cloth.

So look at this now... imagine what you are accusing us of... she thinks Naija men are bad because of her experiences, ba... okayyyyy, because say you dey her life or na from comments here wey you dey read?

Me, I have swallowed men are inherently bad and have privileges... oh. That's all? That's the only crime Magnolia has committed? Mtcheeww. E no even vex me reach Poco own. I thought you had more damaging facts against me ni o. All the I'm a lesbian, a baby mama that has been seriously used and dumped no feature?

Because these are things y'all say about us, but when we come for their heads, we suddenly become the troublemakers.

No, you, you do not think this character misrepresentation and being spread by others as facts - all glimpsed from our comments - is not enough to make one angry?

I see now...

KristaPretty:



Move on o, stop waiting for abroad man. Better still work hard and go to abroad by yourself