bdon123:

Did u see where she wrote he has been a us citizen frm d beginning of relationship

Zonefree:

You wasn't ready then cos he was broke and poor.

Now levels don change, you are ready. Lol


Ma'am, the Bobo is not ready now , go and look for who's ready. Madam ready!

begoniaa:


Oh. So you believe a woman be studied in 3 months now?

SunMusk:
Nawa oooo some one ask for advice as turn to evening newspaper, some of us act as if we don't have sisters at home. We insult ladies anyhow in this forum . Like thy re not human beings. Even if you have disdain for some gender pls control urself. It is shameful. Guys u can be Alpha male with respect. If a man comes to marry any lady in your house or family d first thing we Nigerians ask is what is ur source of livelihood to know if he can feed our daughter or sister. This is what we teach our ladies at home. The guy get job. That will be question we will ask. Everyone do it. Y re people hypocrite. If you can't give advice just rest.

TOPCRUISE:
A prudent man can make up his mind after a prudent search in just 3 months if performance obligation has been satisfied. And our minds are sensitive. If you say you no do again you delay in occupying that space, a lady much better and presentable than you can occupy that space. And that is game over.

Iamyemmie:
Hi everyone, so me and my bf have been dating for 2years + now, no issues. He’s in the states and I am in Nigeria.

Ps he has been U.S citizen from the beginning of our relationship.
Just didn’t accept cos he might be a serial killer or woman beater or something, I didn’t know him well enough.

Freethinker87:
I don't understand the romance section. Everyone seems combative, both men and women.

Alpha male, feminist, simps and all sorts of weird nomenclatures they call each other in anger. You guys should drink some water and chill so that we can discuss and learn from each other.

Zonefree:

Kunle Ikorodu is not even ready to settle down. He's still busy with agbo and Chelsea dry gin. I'll suggest she try Kareem Mushin.

Iamyemmie:

No he has been abroad from the beginning
When we met he came home for Christmas

chatinent:
She added that part later when criticisms started coming. It wasn't in her original post.

Okay, and you certainly know that the guy WAS in Nigeria? She said he's a US citizen at the time they started dating. Even in the initial post before she modified, she never mentioned that the guy was struggling and broke and whatnot in Nigeria...

syntekelite:
The day wey siofra and zonefree go hookup ehhhnnn.. i for like dey there.. two of them be like all those simpy america romance movies,we all know how it ends...

rickleye:



Ok so here’s my 2 cents.
If you love someone and want to be with them and the issue of marriage comes up isn’t travelling automatic? I mean he’s there and you are here. Aren’t you travelling to meet up with him.
Now, for the fact that he is mentioning “ you want to use him for travelling “ appears to me that your conversation or relationship was not defined from the start and then evolved to something and now you have assumed it to be at that level when he hasn’t ( yet) .
Some personal questions
- when last did you see him ?
- did you guys date before he left the country ?
- has he been back home to see his family etc?
- has he sent you things or money ?
- frequency of your video calls ?
- were you introduced or met any family members.

I won’t lie as someone who’s been abroad, he very likely has a gf there but may prefer someone who is more homely and cultured ( maybe you) the issue here is that the tables have turned and now he thinks you see him as a way out of the country than wanting a committed relationship.

My advise would be for you to have a no holds barrel conversation with him.
- Tunde what am I to you ? A friend or something more.
- I am ready to take this “relationship” to the next level aren’t you ?

I have 2 personal stories but I’ll share one.
I have a Cuz who studied at OAU ( he didn’t finish ) left for Canada. He dated but always had in the back of his mind he wants to marry 9ja. So he asked someone in the family to find someone. They were introduced by phone and they talked almost every day ( frequency) . She met my uncle + aunt ( family knew about her )
and he came home every year to see her ( commitment, when last did you see him) when they were apart.
They are now together inCanada , have 4 kids and the rest is history.

I guess what I am saying is as painful as it is. You have to cut him lose if he is not pursuing the relationship as you are. Put him in the friend zone . He should be the one to drive the relationship status because he could submit the papers for you guys to get married etc etc.

Goodluck .

begoniaa:


Ehen? And does that also change all I've said? Continue repeating it from 'til tomorrow...we go see who go taya na. An incel smoker and beggarly alcoholic always coming online to pour his frustrations on women. Mumu oshi. Oya agree like the robot that you are.

fman:
you go don do sex video skata
For this pal

Iamyemmie:
Hi everyone, so me and my bf have been dating for 2years + now, no issues. He’s in the states and I am in Nigeria.

The problem started when I started talking about marriage cos I want to settle down.
Now he told me he feels I want to use him to travel abroad, that statement really pissed me off because at the beginning of the relationship he was the one that wanted to marry like 3months after we started but I told him I wasn’t ready and I didn’t know him enough.

So which one is I want to use him to travel now??

I feel like maybe because I keep talking about the marriage stuff, that’s why he thinks it’s because of traveling.

I’m thinking it’s only break up that can solve the issue. Cos if it comes from me, then that’s a clear message I’m not dating for abroad
Or how do I solve this issue??

Ps he has been U.S citizen from the beginning of our relationship.
Just didn’t accept cos he might be a serial killer or woman beater or something, I didn’t know him well enough.

TOPCRUISE:

A prudent man can make up his mind after a prudent search in just 3 months if performance obligation has been satisfied. And our minds are sensitive. If you say you no do and you delay in occupying that space intended for you, a lady much better and presentable than you can occupy that space. And that is game over.

Oh, I have also learnt today that if a US-based guy asks for my hand in marriage, three months after our first meeting, accepting it is PRUDENT of me.

That doesn't make me a desperado beech looking for a green card to japa and milk him.

Iamyemmie:
Hi everyone, so me and my bf have been dating for 2years + now, no issues. He’s in the states and I am in Nigeria.

The problem started when I started talking about marriage cos I want to settle down.
Now he told me he feels I want to use him to travel abroad, that statement really pissed me off because at the beginning of the relationship he was the one that wanted to marry like 3months after we started but I told him I wasn’t ready and I didn’t know him enough.

So which one is I want to use him to travel now??

I feel like maybe because I keep talking about the marriage stuff, that’s why he thinks it’s because of traveling.

I’m thinking it’s only break up that can solve the issue. Cos if it comes from me, then that’s a clear message I’m not dating for abroad
Or how do I solve this issue??

Ps he has been U.S citizen from the beginning of our relationship.
Just didn’t accept cos he might be a serial killer or woman beater or something, I didn’t know him well enough.

chatinent:


Cool down.

You didn't read her first post.

She edited the posts and even added that he's always been in the US so as not to look like a gold digger.

Always verify.

Alfabest07:

Guys dey reason go far o, and truth fit dey am sef

Iamyemmie:
Hi everyone, so me and my bf have been dating for 2years + now, no issues. He’s in the states and I am in Nigeria.

The problem started when I started talking about marriage cos I want to settle down.
Now he told me he feels I want to use him to travel abroad, that statement really pissed me off because at the beginning of the relationship he was the one that wanted to marry like 3months after we started but I told him I wasn’t ready and I didn’t know him enough.

So which one is I want to use him to travel now??

I feel like maybe because I keep talking about the marriage stuff, that’s why he thinks it’s because of traveling.

I’m thinking it’s only break up that can solve the issue. Cos if it comes from me, then that’s a clear message I’m not dating for abroad
Or how do I solve this issue??

Ps he has been U.S citizen from the beginning of our relationship.
Just didn’t accept cos he might be a serial killer or woman beater or something, I didn’t know him well enough.

Positiveme2020:


Very correct, there is always a plan "B"

Zonefree:
K

Keep on... I will take advantage of it and enjoy it 'til the last.

Shey because it is me, you cannot let go, ba? You wan show yourself but you no really want provoke too much... because when other ladies insult you, you say one or two "Ks" and move on. But you CANNOT resist sparring with me. And I won't stop it. How does it feel being insulted and trolled without being able to respond as you wish? Shey you know how to run your mouth at me before?

Poor, broken beggarly boy with a dysfunctional childhood. :-(

usagee36:
Haha guess you met him online. My dear sister forget him because men from here don't import anymore. Too many bad stories.

begoniaa:


Which feminist do you see running amok, calling men all sort of names and creating denigrating threads about them? What is weird about believing in equality and the humanness of women?

Can you count how many times threads about women get to the front-page and those guys flock to it as usual, talking down on women and using slurs on them?

Iamyemmie:

Thanks for the advice
To answer your questions
-He came to see me last December he left January
-No we did not(we met when he came to visit his parents in Nigeria)
-Yes he comes everywhere and I go to meet him at his parent’s house
-Yes he brings stuffs for me when he comes and he gives me money
-We talk and chat everyday and video calls too
We talk atleast 10hrs a day
-Yes he introduced me to all his family members and they call me too

Our relationship is solid to me ,don’t know where this is coming from

begoniaa:


✏ ✏ Oh, I have also learnt today that if a US-based guy asks for my hand in marriage, three months after our first meeting, accepting it is PRUDENT of me.

That doesn't make me a desperado beech looking for a green card to japa and milk him.

Iamyemmie:
Hi everyone, so me and my bf have been dating for 2years + now, no issues. He’s in the states and I am in Nigeria.

The problem started when I started talking about marriage cos I want to settle down.
Now he told me he feels I want to use him to travel abroad, that statement really pissed me off because at the beginning of the relationship he was the one that wanted to marry like 3months after we started but I told him I wasn’t ready and I didn’t know him enough.

So which one is I want to use him to travel now??

I feel like maybe because I keep talking about the marriage stuff, that’s why he thinks it’s because of traveling.

I’m thinking it’s only break up that can solve the issue. Cos if it comes from me, then that’s a clear message I’m not dating for abroad
Or how do I solve this issue??

Ps he has been U.S citizen from the beginning of our relationship.
Just didn’t accept cos he might be a serial killer or woman beater or something, I didn’t know him well enough.

begoniaa:


Keep on... I will take advantage of it and enjoy it 'til the last.

Shey because it is me, you cannot let go, ba? You wan show yourself but you no really want provoke too much... because when other ladies insult you, you say one or two "Ks" and move on. But you CANNOT resist sparring with me. And I won't stop it. How does it feel being insulted and trolled without being able to respond as you wish? Shey you know how to run your mouth at me before?

Poor, broken beggarly boy with a dysfunctional childhood. :-(