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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by kunkelhanspeter(m): 8:24pm On Aug 12, 2022

If the guy is really your friend and you don’t want to tell her about his child you are a wicked friend, people do change same way you think the girl has changed think about the boy too his doing well for himself. You already said he was sad when he don’t want another man to raise his child and you have such information you are hiding it from me . like I said If the guy is really your friend and you chose to hide this information from him over a hoe you don’t know .

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by capetownboyz(m): 9:09pm On Aug 12, 2022

Leg don wear canvas huh

Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by gaby(m): 9:20pm On Aug 12, 2022

Serious matter

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by galantjoe(m): 9:57pm On Aug 12, 2022

Keep the secret to your grave

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Savedday: 9:59pm On Aug 12, 2022

9ja girls don't love and dey will never love u.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

Know this and know peace

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by franchasofficia: 10:04pm On Aug 12, 2022*

Being the biological father of a child is not enough to qualify you as the child's father. Whoever raises and takes good care of a child till the child grows up is the father of that child.

Being a father goes beyond ejaculating sperm into a woman to conceive!

Op, your friend have no legal backing to claim the child because its more like he sold the child at birth or even before birth.

Your friend should lick his wounds and move on

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by aorseer: 10:14pm On Aug 12, 2022

The kind of life your friend is living in SA he'll either get arrested or die young. What happens to the 7 year old girl after you succeed in turning her life upside down?

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by slickbak(m): 10:23pm On Aug 12, 2022

jeromestarks:
And let an innocent man suffer?
And also let the innocent girl grow up with knowing her true father? Why are you wicked like this?

Stfu Messiah, couldn’t wait to meet you.

Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by STOICREALIST: 10:46pm On Aug 12, 2022*

If everything we did caught up with us in a horrible way, most of us would have given up on life.

It turns out that for some of our mistakes made while naive and young, they come back with multiple effects and grave consequences. Some escape things easily and some don’t. To everyone his/her karma.

Do not try to be the police of the world or the disciplinarian of the world. Also, do not try to take advantage of her over the matter.

It should and would resolve itself at the appropriate time. Given the chance, the child from the relationship has a better chance with the man she is married to. If we counted the number of Children, especially first kids, not being raised by their biological dads, it would be about 30 to 40 per cent. If you take actions that destroy the Marriage, three (3) children stand to be traumatized from the experience.

If the husband is meant to find out, at the appropriate time he would fine out. An acquaintance did not find out or suspect until he returned to NIGERIA after many years to claim his child to the US. Curiosity let to a DNA POM Test which revealed he wasn’t even the dad.

Things will eventually fall in place but one thing about life is at times you may need to do a little bad or look the other way to protect and guarantee a larger/bigger good. Especially when we classify bad as doing things which we ought not to have done, and not doing things we ought to have done. In this instance, do not do anything about this. And also do remember what Eva Green said in the movie Kingdom of Heaven.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Machalla(m): 11:02pm On Aug 12, 2022

Calling her up and revealing it to her was a wrong move instead it is your friend you ought to report to but anyway since you made a wrong move, She is already on her guild and you left your guy whom even gave you money clueless abiut the sotuation because of your emotions.
Second thing is that your guy/buddy is into Yahoo and cultism dont mean he doest have right to claim his daughter.. Try to approach life more from logical perspective.... Let the man and the woman involved in the matter talk over the phone and iron things out themselves. YOU HAD JUST ONE SIMPLE TASK AND YOU FAILED.

@op it is not in your place to call the woman and start saying all that on phone because it seams you don't value your life. Desperate women can be very dangerous I tell u buddy. They wont think twice before they find a way to eliminate you just to keep their secret .

You have put yourself in a tight spot now. If you had use your brain and not your stupid emotions you won't be telling shit on nairaland at least not at this point.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by TheCongo2: 11:05pm On Aug 12, 2022

STOICREALIST:
If everything we did caught up with us in a horrible way, most of us would have given up on life.

It turns out that for some of our mistakes made while naive and young, they come back with multiple effects and grave consequences. Some escape things easily and some don’t. To everyone his/her karma.

Do not try to be the police of the world or the disciplinarian of the world. Also, do not try to take advantage of her over the matter.

It should and would resolve itself at the appropriate time. Given the chance, the child from the relationship has a better chance with the man she is married to. If we counted the number of Children, especially first kids, not being raised by their biological dads, it would be about 30 to 40 per cent. If you take actions that destroy the Marriage, three (3) children stand to be traumatized from the experience.

If the husband is meant to find out, at the appropriate time he would fine out. An acquaintance did not find out or suspect until he returned to NIGERIA after many years to claim his child to the US. Curiosity let to a DNA POM Test which revealed he wasn’t even the dad.

Things will eventually fall in place but one thing about life is at times you may need to do a little bad or look the other way to protect and guarantee a larger/bigger good. Remember Eva Green in the movie Kingdom of Heaven.

And what did he do after that?

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by AbujaCitiBlog: 11:58pm On Aug 12, 2022

Regardless:
Hey guys,
Pardon the long post.
So when I was still in 200 level staying in school hostel, I had this pre-degree roommate - handsome bad guy. He met a lady at the center he was attending tutorials for Jamb and PD exam. The lady and her mum were living in the town where our school was. They started having sex like mad. They so much had sex to stupor that one day this my guy came back completely drained. We had to arrange Malt and Milk for him to get himself that day. Now this girl was involved with another guy who was already working in all this Oil drilling company and he was alright.

I came back from lectures one day and my former roomie was alone in the room and moody. I asked him what was wrong and he opened up to me that the girl is pregnant and they have tried to abort the baby to no avail. Ha... So wetin wan play like this? He said the girl and her mum had already planned to pin the pregnancy on the working guy's head as this my guy no get shishi plus he couldn't even tell the girl to keep it for him or go and stay with his people because he had stayed at home for like 5 years committing plenty atrocities before his mum managed to send him to school for PD. He was sad because he didn't want another man to take care of his child.

When I asked him about the situation after some time, he said the working guy had already accepted the pregnancy and had already started buying baby things down. lol... The guy didn't gain admission again and went back home. Later he came back and did Diploma... When I asked him of the child, he said the child was a carbon copy of him, that the girl had done intro with the guy but when he has money he would come back for the child..

Last month, I received a friend request from my fomer roomie on FB. Long story cut short, after 7 years, he has blown through yahoo in SA. I asked him about the child and he said he can't trace the baby mama again, her mum had relocated from that town and he has exhausted all means looking for them. I jokingly offered my help and the guy was willing to give me money to help him trace her. I told him I would see what I can do.

It took me a while but I was able to trace the girl on SM and even traced the now husband to LinkedIn. Babe is living well with Oil money and has 3 kids and truly the first girl is my guy's carbon copy.. Damn... I started feeling for the child. Beautiful soft girl-child.

I decided ring the girl and immediately I told her what was happening, she hung up and blocked my number.. lol.. I sent a msg to her with my second line and told her to better call me back before I send a message to her husband... babe called me and was begging.. that my former roomie is not responsible. he was not trying then... she couldn't wait .. blah blah .. that please I should not scatter her marriage... was really crying over the phone... The RP in me wasn't buying it until she mentioned that I should please think about how this would shatter her daughter's life. Omoh the human in me made me pause come begin reason am...

My former roomie's lifestyle isn't really what a child would be proud of.. the guy has done everything from cultism to robbery and still hasn't changed and now to yahoo.......only thing he has now to offer that child is money....He said his mother has been telling him to go and bring the child from another man's house.
I don't care about the babe because ladies always think their hoe-phase would go unrewarded..
I pity for the babe's husband coz he was simp then and has remained so till now oblivious of anything.....
I only sincerely care about the 7y/o child whose life would be turned upside down by this shocking revelation..

Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do anything for now but my guy is very desperate and she better handles it fast and that it's only a mater of time my guy gets to her one way or another... Babe thanked me and hung up. Next day, she wiped her and her husband's SM clean and deleted the accounts.. except the man's LinkedIn of course.. The man don sha accept me as one of his connections.... I've not revealed any findings to my former roomie.. Last time he asked when I want to start tracking her, I just stalled him. I'm sitting on the sidelines for now.. Omoh I weak ..... The good, bad and ugly comments are welcomed.

Men are never loyal to their own gender, they are always bowing down to pussy. Very sad!

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by kemika8989(m): 12:18am On Aug 13, 2022

Regardless:
Hey guys,
Pardon the long post.
So when I was still in 200 level staying in school hostel, I had this pre-degree roommate - handsome bad guy. He met a lady at the center he was attending tutorials for Jamb and PD exam. The lady and her mum were living in the town where our school was. They started having sex like mad. They so much had sex to stupor that one day this my guy came back completely drained. We had to arrange Malt and Milk for him to get himself that day. Now this girl was involved with another guy who was already working in all this Oil drilling company and he was alright.

I came back from lectures one day and my former roomie was alone in the room and moody. I asked him what was wrong and he opened up to me that the girl is pregnant and they have tried to abort the baby to no avail. Ha... So wetin wan play like this? He said the girl and her mum had already planned to pin the pregnancy on the working guy's head as this my guy no get shishi plus he couldn't even tell the girl to keep it for him or go and stay with his people because he had stayed at home for like 5 years committing plenty atrocities before his mum managed to send him to school for PD. He was sad because he didn't want another man to take care of his child.

When I asked him about the situation after some time, he said the working guy had already accepted the pregnancy and had already started buying baby things down. lol... The guy didn't gain admission again and went back home. Later he came back and did Diploma... When I asked him of the child, he said the child was a carbon copy of him, that the girl had done intro with the guy but when he has money he would come back for the child..

Last month, I received a friend request from my fomer roomie on FB. Long story cut short, after 7 years, he has blown through yahoo in SA. I asked him about the child and he said he can't trace the baby mama again, her mum had relocated from that town and he has exhausted all means looking for them. I jokingly offered my help and the guy was willing to give me money to help him trace her. I told him I would see what I can do.

It took me a while but I was able to trace the girl on SM and even traced the now husband to LinkedIn. Babe is living well with Oil money and has 3 kids and truly the first girl is my guy's carbon copy.. Damn... I started feeling for the child. Beautiful soft girl-child.

I decided ring the girl and immediately I told her what was happening, she hung up and blocked my number.. lol.. I sent a msg to her with my second line and told her to better call me back before I send a message to her husband... babe called me and was begging.. that my former roomie is not responsible. he was not trying then... she couldn't wait .. blah blah .. that please I should not scatter her marriage... was really crying over the phone... The RP in me wasn't buying it until she mentioned that I should please think about how this would shatter her daughter's life. Omoh the human in me made me pause come begin reason am...

My former roomie's lifestyle isn't really what a child would be proud of.. the guy has done everything from cultism to robbery and still hasn't changed and now to yahoo.......only thing he has now to offer that child is money....He said his mother has been telling him to go and bring the child from another man's house.
I don't care about the babe because ladies always think their hoe-phase would go unrewarded..
I pity for the babe's husband coz he was simp then and has remained so till now oblivious of anything.....
I only sincerely care about the 7y/o child whose life would be turned upside down by this shocking revelation..

Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do anything for now but my guy is very desperate and she better handles it fast and that it's only a mater of time my guy gets to her one way or another... Babe thanked me and hung up. Next day, she wiped her and her husband's SM clean and deleted the accounts.. except the man's LinkedIn of course.. The man don sha accept me as one of his connections.... I've not revealed any findings to my former roomie.. Last time he asked when I want to start tracking her, I just stalled him. I'm sitting on the sidelines for now.. Omoh I weak ..... The good, bad and ugly comments are welcomed.

Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Csami(m): 12:21am On Aug 13, 2022

Mrmakaveli200:
Really dicey situation. Yahoo guy, simp and a cheating ho0e. I pity the man raising someone else's child and the innocent child too. Just hold on and still observe for now

Damn! This would make a good novel. The yahoo boy, the simp and the cheating hoe.

I don’t think this cheating hoe can escape judgement. It’s only a matter of time before the truth becomes public knowledge.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by wisdomkid: 1:52am On Aug 13, 2022

Blackdeewhy:
That girl deserves happy life and opportunity to grow with her other siblings.
Let the truth reveal it's self.
If you pursue this, the woman in question may organized for your dismissed. And from your analysis she can afford that.
leave that child alone and let God be the judge.
My one cent

My mind dey tell me say u b woman. Both are at fault... That guy wants to see his child and think she'll complete his life.
But his lifestyle may destroy the 7yrs old daughter.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by shege45: 2:11am On Aug 13, 2022

Nonexisting:
I don't have pity for vaginarians. The evil that they do in their hoe phase will always catch up with them one way or another. If you decide not to tell your guy that you found her, you have failed as a friend you claim to be and make no mistakes about it, he will definitely find his daughter. The olosho can not hide for long. She committed crime against humanity by committing paternity fraud and will never go unpunished.

i concur. You don’t expect karma not to turn up. Please tell the guy

Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by shege45: 2:13am On Aug 13, 2022

advanceDNA:
She destroyed her own life when she decietfully pushed someone else's child on another man....
dont come here to make her look like the victim becos the truth has caught up with her years of lies....

the real father deserves access to his child..

Why are we like this in this country??

exactly

Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by shege45: 2:14am On Aug 13, 2022

franchasofficia:
Being the biological father of a child is not enough to qualify you as the child's father. Whoever raises and takes good care of a child till the child grows up is the father of that child.

Op, your friend have no legal backing to claim the child because its more like he sold the child at birth or even before birth.

Your friend should lick his wounds and move on

what are you saying?

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Hizzojay(m): 2:42am On Aug 13, 2022

Best reply yet. Option 2.

Let her come clean to her husband by herself.

thorpido:
I hope you're not just spinning a story to hit front page.

You should stay out of this!

Let your friend find his way....or

Let the lady confess to her husband..... or

Let the husband wake up and let his intuition work.

I don't know how people just accept a pregnancy as their own.My kind of person,the day I had sex with you I will remember and calculate to your EDD.

Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by CHoccolaTE: 3:37am On Aug 13, 2022

I don't know what you people gain from telling lies.
Op just concocted some fairytale in his head when he was bored and decided to post it to get attention/ cure boredom.

And of course he had to make women look bad in his lielie story.

Silly nairaland boys.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by advanceDNA: 3:50am On Aug 13, 2022

CHoccolaTE:
I don't know what you people gain from telling lies.
Op just concocted some fairytale in his head when he was bored and decided to post it to get attention/ cure boredom.

And of course he had to make women look bad in his lielie story.

Silly nairaland boys.

Don't mind those boys....a woman will never do something like get pregnant for someone and give it to another man....lies every where.. just to make women look bad

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by advanceDNA: 3:53am On Aug 13, 2022

shege45:
what are you saying?

In case you no know...Some people no dey alright for this nairaland oooo

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by sisisioge: 3:57am On Aug 13, 2022

Better dont get involved....she might decide to wipe you out too as she is obviously desperate to keep her secret. The wahala humans put themselves in! Tufia!

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by DrinkWater10: 5:14am On Aug 13, 2022

advanceDNA:
Don't mind those boys....a woman will never do something like get pregnant for someone and give it to another man....lies every where.. just to make women look bad

It happens.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Danisaint112(m): 6:04am On Aug 13, 2022

Regardless:
Hey guys,
Pardon the long post.
So when I was still in 200 level staying in school hostel, I had this pre-degree roommate - handsome bad guy. He met a lady at the center he was attending tutorials for Jamb and PD exam. The lady and her mum were living in the town where our school was. They started having sex like mad. They so much had sex to stupor that one day this my guy came back completely drained. We had to arrange Malt and Milk for him to get himself that day. Now this girl was involved with another guy who was already working in all this Oil drilling company and he was alright.

I came back from lectures one day and my former roomie was alone in the room and moody. I asked him what was wrong and he opened up to me that the girl is pregnant and they have tried to abort the baby to no avail. Ha... So wetin wan play like this? He said the girl and her mum had already planned to pin the pregnancy on the working guy's head as this my guy no get shishi plus he couldn't even tell the girl to keep it for him or go and stay with his people because he had stayed at home for like 5 years committing plenty atrocities before his mum managed to send him to school for PD. He was sad because he didn't want another man to take care of his child.

When I asked him about the situation after some time, he said the working guy had already accepted the pregnancy and had already started buying baby things down. lol... The guy didn't gain admission again and went back home. Later he came back and did Diploma... When I asked him of the child, he said the child was a carbon copy of him, that the girl had done intro with the guy but when he has money he would come back for the child..

Last month, I received a friend request from my fomer roomie on FB. Long story cut short, after 7 years, he has blown through yahoo in SA. I asked him about the child and he said he can't trace the baby mama again, her mum had relocated from that town and he has exhausted all means looking for them. I jokingly offered my help and the guy was willing to give me money to help him trace her. I told him I would see what I can do.

It took me a while but I was able to trace the girl on SM and even traced the now husband to LinkedIn. Babe is living well with Oil money and has 3 kids and truly the first girl is my guy's carbon copy.. Damn... I started feeling for the child. Beautiful soft girl-child.

I decided ring the girl and immediately I told her what was happening, she hung up and blocked my number.. lol.. I sent a msg to her with my second line and told her to better call me back before I send a message to her husband... babe called me and was begging.. that my former roomie is not responsible. he was not trying then... she couldn't wait .. blah blah .. that please I should not scatter her marriage... was really crying over the phone... The RP in me wasn't buying it until she mentioned that I should please think about how this would shatter her daughter's life. Omoh the human in me made me pause come begin reason am...

My former roomie's lifestyle isn't really what a child would be proud of.. the guy has done everything from cultism to robbery and still hasn't changed and now to yahoo.......only thing he has now to offer that child is money....He said his mother has been telling him to go and bring the child from another man's house.
I don't care about the babe because ladies always think their hoe-phase would go unrewarded..
I pity for the babe's husband coz he was simp then and has remained so till now oblivious of anything.....
I only sincerely care about the 7y/o child whose life would be turned upside down by this shocking revelation..

Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do anything for now but my guy is very desperate and she better handles it fast and that it's only a mater of time my guy gets to her one way or another... Babe thanked me and hung up. Next day, she wiped her and her husband's SM clean and deleted the accounts.. except the man's LinkedIn of course.. The man don sha accept me as one of his connections.... I've not revealed any findings to my former roomie.. Last time he asked when I want to start tracking her, I just stalled him. I'm sitting on the sidelines for now.. Omoh I weak ..... The good, bad and ugly comments are welcomed.

If you haven't collected your friends money, then simply mind your business. That is my own advice.

A wise man once said;

"There is no way of finding greater peace in life than minding you own business."

I have keyed to this statement ever since I was young and it has been working for me always.

Yes, the girl deserves to know her true father, and the Dad equally, the husband of your friends Ex also deserves to know the truth. Sure I'm not disputing that.

But Bro, it not just about, the poor girls live shattering after the revelation, the poor man's live shattering, the marriage dissolving, but there are other things that would spring up that you wouldn't even expect.

If you collected money from your friends simply save up and kindly return it. If you haven't then mind your business man. That is if you like peace in your life.

We live in a small word so your friend will definitely find out someday, allow everything happen naturally, don't go pleasing your friend and end up displeasing yourself.

You have called her. So if anything happens in the coming months, she knows it definitely you.

Give her your word that; you have made up your mind to stay out of this.

"OP." let me call you the Usual way Nairalanders call.
Mind your business...
This is my advice from experience...

A word they say is enough for the wise...

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Lush100(m): 6:09am On Aug 13, 2022

franchasofficia:
Being the biological father of a child is not enough to qualify you as the child's father. Whoever raises and takes good care of a child till the child grows up is the father of that child.

Op, your friend have no legal backing to claim the child because its more like he sold the child at birth or even before birth.

Your friend should lick his wounds and move on

.

Best quote.
You have spoken like a man of wisdom

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Nobody: 6:22am On Aug 13, 2022

Blackdeewhy:
That girl deserves happy life and opportunity to grow with her other siblings.
Let the truth reveal it's self.
If you pursue this, the woman in question may organized for your dismissed. And from your analysis she can afford that.
leave that child alone and let God be the judge.
My one cent

shut up! Paternity fraud is evil, there's nothing as wicked to a man than raising sweating dying on d hot sun and gnashing teeth for another man's child while d real father is in SA cruising, The man deserves to know the truth, the First daughter deserves to know who her real father is, the man deserves to know what his evil wife did to him, cuckolding is evil, OP for the mere fact that woman after thanking u went ahead and deleted SM footprints means she's going to any length to silence this, If I were u I would've leaked this information long time ago, when u re silent to a crime, it means u endorse it, the woman has manipulated u, thats their tactics, emotional manipulation and u fell for it, u re an emancipated man that can easily be Manipulated for a woman trust me if u ad pressed further she may av even had sex wit u, OP if u can't do it, share me d information let me do it instantly

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by duduade(m): 6:37am On Aug 13, 2022

slickbak:
Very Dread.

Seems like you should mind your business really.

Exactly

OP mind your business

Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Maxxim: 6:55am On Aug 13, 2022

Just send your guy the info, heavens no fit fall. At least you should do the right thing.

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