takimsipho:
She should kill him and see if she won't go to jail. Is it only women who have evil mind? If that guy files for paternity in court and it turns out to be his child nobody will dispute it. People get divorced everyday for various reasons. A biological father always will have rights unless he forfitts it. Women nowadays divorce their husbands for cheating, but a man should keep a woman's secret? Weak men every where

Women's style is subtle they waste little time on fruitless discourse. He didn't marry her neither did he contribute a dime to the child's well-being. The mother owns the child too. I doubt any court will just hand the child to the guy. The girls mom aint a slave or second class citizen

If the lady is smart and fast enough, she should just get rid of the OP and his friend. Send both back to God

That’s the only way she can have everlasting peace.

Homeboiy:
Use this thing cash out

If your guy offer better money
Spill it to him

If the woman offer better money
Lock up the matter.

You don't know that he can be killed over such a thing?

Cooked up story always making front page on nairaland , a yahoo boi can't run a simple search for his baby mama and yet u did that simply going on LinkedIn, I hail una lying capacity on this forum

Please kindly learn to mind your business...watch your back

This is a very tough one. It not only affects that girl child, but also her 2 siblings.

It's too late now. That your yahoo friend should have stopped her earlier when he found out about the pregnancy.

Just remove your hand from the situation. Let the oil guy and girl child find out the truth on their own. Don't be the person who breaks apart those 3 children's lives. The guilt will kill you.

Regardless:
Hey guys,
Pardon the long post.
So when I was still in 200 level staying in school hostel, I had this pre-degree roommate - handsome bad guy. He met a lady at the center he was attending tutorials for Jamb and PD exam. The lady and her mum were living in the town where our school was. They started having sex like mad. They so much had sex to stupor that one day this my guy came back completely drained. We had to arrange Malt and Milk for him to get himself that day. Now this girl was involved with another guy who was already working in all this Oil drilling company and he was alright.

I came back from lectures one day and my former roomie was alone in the room and moody. I asked him what was wrong and he opened up to me that the girl is pregnant and they have tried to abort the baby to no avail. Ha... So wetin wan play like this? He said the girl and her mum had already planned to pin the pregnancy on the working guy's head as this my guy no get shishi plus he couldn't even tell the girl to keep it for him or go and stay with his people because he had stayed at home for like 5 years committing plenty atrocities before his mum managed to send him to school for PD. He was sad because he didn't want another man to take care of his child.

When I asked him about the situation after some time, he said the working guy had already accepted the pregnancy and had already started buying baby things down. lol... The guy didn't gain admission again and went back home. Later he came back and did Diploma... When I asked him of the child, he said the child was a carbon copy of him, that the girl had done intro with the guy but when he has money he would come back for the child..

Last month, I received a friend request from my fomer roomie on FB. Long story cut short, after 7 years, he has blown through yahoo in SA. I asked him about the child and he said he can't trace the baby mama again, her mum had relocated from that town and he has exhausted all means looking for them. I jokingly offered my help and the guy was willing to give me money to help him trace her. I told him I would see what I can do.

It took me a while but I was able to trace the girl on SM and even traced the now husband to LinkedIn. Babe is living well with Oil money and has 3 kids and truly the first girl is my guy's carbon copy.. Damn... I started feeling for the child. Beautiful soft girl-child.

I decided ring the girl and immediately I told her what was happening, she hung up and blocked my number.. lol.. I sent a msg to her with my second line and told her to better call me back before I send a message to her husband... babe called me and was begging.. that my former roomie is not responsible. he was not trying then... she couldn't wait .. blah blah .. that please I should not scatter her marriage... was really crying over the phone... The RP in me wasn't buying it until she mentioned that I should please think about how this would shatter her daughter's life. Omoh the human in me made me pause come begin reason am...

My former roomie's lifestyle isn't really what a child would be proud of.. the guy has done everything from cultism to robbery and still hasn't changed and now to yahoo.......only thing he has now to offer that child is money....He said his mother has been telling him to go and bring the child from another man's house.
I don't care about the babe because ladies always think their hoe-phase would go unrewarded..
I pity for the babe's husband coz he was simp then and has remained so till now oblivious of anything.....
I only sincerely care about the 7y/o child whose life would be turned upside down by this shocking revelation..

Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do anything for now but my guy is very desperate and she better handles it fast and that it's only a mater of time my guy gets to her one way or another... Babe thanked me and hung up. Next day, she wiped her and her husband's SM clean and deleted the accounts.. except the man's LinkedIn of course.. The man don sha accept me as one of his connections.... I've not revealed any findings to my former roomie.. Last time he asked when I want to start tracking her, I just stalled him. I'm sitting on the sidelines for now.. Omoh I weak ..... The good, bad and ugly comments are welcomed.

CSTRR:

So if your biological brother was that husband living in ignorant bliss, you would want him to die without knowing the truth.?

Or you want him to finally realise the truth in old age?

Because that Yahoo boy will come for his kid one day.

If my brother is such a wayward deadbeat like the real dad, I will leave the girl in the loving home where she will have a brighter future. Period.

Mom007:
You are a small boy trying to play God with what you don't know about. That cheating girl you knew 7years ago is no more o, let me tell you. She is now a mother of 3 children and somebody's wife. Remove hand from her and her family matter before something bad happens to you. Or are you jealous her life turned out better than you expected? The small child you claim you are feeling for, what better place do you think she can be aside from where she is? You want to bring a druggy, junkie, armed robber yahoo boy into the small child's life now and you think thats really the best for her? Can your friend take care of the child? What claim does he have on that child besides donating sperm? Leave that family alone if you like yourself. Besides, if you tell the husband, you ruin the whole family. What of he sends her out with the 2 kids who are truly his and they become destitute in the street? Can you have that on your conscience? Whats it to you anyway? You are not connected to them in any way so whats your own? The woman's karma will locate her eventually, never doubt it but it doesn't need to come from you.

He is the woman's karma.

BATified2023:
the op deserves death

I know d room mate is offering him money n that’s y he’s doing fbi on top another person matter

If the girl get sense na to low key get his details n take him out

Try dey reason small na.

advanceDNA:


So the real father doesnt deserve access to his child?? Okay ooo

The real father is an armed robber, a yahoo boy. What kind of influence will he have on that girl? He deserves access to his child, but he should first establish himself financially in legal ways.

Do you think she'll be proud to call him dad right now? Being a father takes more than sperm.

jubrilELsudan:
YOU AND YOUR FRIEND ARE COMPLETE IDIOTS AND YOUR MENTALITY PROVES THAT YOU BOTH ARE NOT FIT TO HABITATE WHERE HUMANS ARE CAUSE YOU BOTH ARE CONFAM IDIOTIC ANIMALS.

SO IN YOUR FLAT BRAIN....YOU THINK YOUR FRIEND CAN CLAIM THAT CHILD? INDEED YOU ARE MOST STUPID.....DID HE MARRY HER THAT HE WILL CLAIM THAT CHILD?.........YOU ARE A COMPLETE FOOL

YOU YOURSELF GO DO A DNA TEST AND YOU WILL FIND OUT THAT YOUR OWN MOTHER DASHED YOU TO YOUR FATHER



IF DEM BORN YOU WELL.....I DARE YOU AND YOUR FRIEND TO CARRY OUT YOUR PLANS AND I WILL PERSONALLY MAKE SURE THAT YOU BOTH SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIVES IN KIRIKIRI


THAT YOUR CRIMINAL FRIEND IN SOUTH AFRICA....I WILL ENSURE THAT HE IS TRACKED DOWN AND ARRESTED FOR FRAUD......I HAVE ALREADY NOTIFIED THE HAWKS AND WE ON HIS TRAIL


THUNDER FIRE YOU INSIDE YOUR ANUS

Would you like to be the innocent husband in this case?

marlow1962:
Some commenters above me are really senseless.
Will you let another man father your child, if yes then you’re a fool for life.
You don’t deserve to have another child.
Wtf

Will that girl be proud to call an armed robber and yahoo boy her father?? He should take care of himself legally first before trying to take care of a child.

Don't be blinded by loyalty. The lives of 3 children are at stake.

The real father is even an armed robber and yahoo boy. Loyalty for what?

TMTR:
Hmmm, what a dicey situation but look at it this way if your former rommie was your brother,will you sit down and watch while he loses his child to another man , if the girl was your sister,will you want her to lose her marriage by revealing the truth, if the husband was your brother , will you watch him be deceived to raise another man's kid

Phew, so many ifs but in all your loyalty should be to your roomie that's if you see him as a friend.

Loyalty is everything, if you can meet someone that is loyal, don't ever joke with that person cause it can't be bought

tochez24:

So you just want to single handedly destroy a 7yr old girls life just like that....

My parents destroyed mine for almost 30yrs now by not making money instead they decided to marry and make children and volla here I am in this cold world all alone suffering, I'm still struggling to meet ends meet. Please that small girl don't deserve a dishonest life her dad is living!!!!


Nothing good can come from that your guy, I advice you to just cash out from the girls side and die the matter... Tell your guy say u no see them simple!!!

You are evil

Op please release the truth to the man. That lady destroyed her marriage years ago by deceit

SKYHIGHfx:


How is the child his? Did he pay her bride price?

Are u saying the child is not his biological daughter?

@Regardless
Life's not fair. To me, the most likely thing to happen is the husband demands the first child be given to her biological father. While he reconciles with the wife after he confirms that the other two kids are his especially if she has been a good wife since he married her, but even at that there will be cracks that will take years to fade. The wife may still give birth to one or two for him to makeup for the first child.

As for the girl, her life will never be the same. Her father will go to jail sooner than later and all his I'll gotten wealth will evaporate. His mother did a poor job raising him and I don't expect her to do a better job with this girl either. However the girl maybe a "destiny" child and may manage to turn out well (that's after several mistakes that may leave scars on her). If your friend is as dangerous as you say, what if his old rivals come back to settle scores using her as a collateral? Abi na wetin make am run commot for naija? Sha she won't thank you for turning her life upside down.

For you, you seem to have a conscience, I think you'll most likely find yourself picking up after that girl when her biological family disappoints her cus you know you put her in that shit yourself. This may put a strain on your own finances or marriage cus your wife may not share the same emotional burden and she no wan hear say woman like her dey shorten her ration.

In all, I still don't see the girl having a father daughter relationship outside her new surname unless the father does a 360° turn around. Your friend asked the girl to abort and they artemped it severally but it didn't work. I don't know how he intends to look that girl in the eye later on. He tried to kill her, that didn't work then he ruined her chances if a bright life, funny how her own father will be her problem.


There was a story of a boy who suspected that his father wasn't his biological father and the father was about to do a DNA on all of them. He opened a thread here praying the father won't do the test. He knew his life will turn upside down, infact he didn't want to go home again. He was barely a graduate and his father already had plans to send him to the USA before the DNA stuff came out. Without his father's support, all his dreams seemed to evaporate.

Just mind your business.

It's well.

Elliotg:
Would you like to be the innocent husband in this case?

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YOU ARE VERY DAFT

SO YOU PREFER THE ASHAWO AND HER YAHOO BOYFRIEND TO GO SCATTER A GOOD HOME

jubrilELsudan:
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YOU ARE VERY DAFT

SO YOU PREFER THE ASHAWO AND HER YAHOO BOYFRIEND TO GO SCATTER A GOOD HOME

This is nothing but karma coming back to take its pound of flesh. And even, do you mean good home built on lies? Have you imagined how many other stunts that woman may have pulled after the first one worked? For seven years, she made other live a reality that was scripted by her. Do you know the opportunities being denied to that man's legitimate children?

TheCongo2:


There is no such thing as someone else's child when it comes to raising a child. That is his or our child. In Africa we say it takes a village to raise a child. So, your child is my child or our child

In every situation, we should look for the best interest of our children

I'm glad we still have wise people like you here

All I see are men too scared that a thing like this may happen to them as the innocent husband who happens to father a child which is not his. They wish to live in the dark about it than experience the heartbreak.

LadyD22:


I'm glad we still have wise people like you here

Thank you

TMTR:


Don't worry, you will be a victim of paternity fraud and if the truth wants to be revealed, this same advice would be given to the person that would reveal the truth to you, no be curse

A child who has grown to know you as father and indeed calls you father, becomes your child automatically. Whether you are the biological father or not.

Do you think you can go about and impregnate someone's daughter without marrying her and later you come back to claim a child you never played a father figure part in her life?

For even impregnating a girl out of marriage, it's a crime..

Elliotg:




Do you know the opportunities being denied to that man's legitimate children?

INDEED YOU ARE MOST STUPID


YOU BETTER CHANGE YOUR NAME FROM ELLIOTG TO IDIOTG

FuckSilly:

Are you mistaken me for your father

I’m sure you’re my father. U just never knew

Sweetplum:

Shey the child no just deserve to know her real father ni. Some women and how they v given black name to females

Question is will OP take responsibility for the girl if things crumble and his friend doesn’t do well in his duties? This same friend let his woman pin his child on someone else.

They better leave that child to grow up without trauma and confusion. They can do whatever reconciliation when the child is an adult. That’s my opinion.

Elliotg:
All I see are men too scared that a thing like this may happen to them as the innocent husband who happens to father a child which is not his. They wish to live in the dark about it than experience the heartbreak.

How do you know the child is his when the mother was sleeping with at least two men at once, one being her husband?

Nonexisting:
I don't have pity for vaginarians. The evil that they do in their hoe phase will always catch up with them one way or another. If you decide not to tell your guy that you found her, you have failed as a friend you claim to be and make no mistakes about it, he will definitely find his daughter. The olosho can not hide for long. She committed crime against humanity by committing paternity fraud and will never go unpunished.

Facts

I think you should mind your business.... How much the guy wan pay you sef? That warrants you destroying the little girls life. Someone she has called daddy for 7yrs plus. Allow the man find out himself.

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I'm an elder and I will strictly advice you to stay away from the matter.
What can make a woman lay generational curses on you, what can make the woman send assassin to you, your life is in danger if you try to carry out the act of your irresponsible friend. Stay away from this matter completely, don't break a home. It's well with you!



Pardon the long post.
So when I was still in 200 level staying in school hostel, I had this pre-degree roommate - handsome bad guy. He met a lady at the center he was attending tutorials for Jamb and PD exam. The lady and her mum were living in the town where our school was. They started having sex like mad. They so much had sex to stupor that one day this my guy came back completely drained. We had to arrange Malt and Milk for him to get himself that day. Now this girl was involved with another guy who was already working in all this Oil drilling company and he was alright.

I came back from lectures one day and my former roomie was alone in the room and moody. I asked him what was wrong and he opened up to me that the girl is pregnant and they have tried to abort the baby to no avail. Ha... So wetin wan play like this? He said the girl and her mum had already planned to pin the pregnancy on the working guy's head as this my guy no get shishi plus he couldn't even tell the girl to keep it for him or go and stay with his people because he had stayed at home for like 5 years committing plenty atrocities before his mum managed to send him to school for PD. He was sad because he didn't want another man to take care of his child.

When I asked him about the situation after some time, he said the working guy had already accepted the pregnancy and had already started buying baby things down. lol... The guy didn't gain admission again and went back home. Later he came back and did Diploma... When I asked him of the child, he said the child was a carbon copy of him, that the girl had done intro with the guy but when he has money he would come back for the child..

Last month, I received a friend request from my fomer roomie on FB. Long story cut short, after 7 years, he has blown through yahoo in SA. I asked him about the child and he said he can't trace the baby mama again, her mum had relocated from that town and he has exhausted all means looking for them. I jokingly offered my help and the guy was willing to give me money to help him trace her. I told him I would see what I can do.

It took me a while but I was able to trace the girl on SM and even traced the now husband to LinkedIn. Babe is living well with Oil money and has 3 kids and truly the first girl is my guy's carbon copy.. Damn... I started feeling for the child. Beautiful soft girl-child.

I decided ring the girl and immediately I told her what was happening, she hung up and blocked my number.. lol.. I sent a msg to her with my second line and told her to better call me back before I send a message to her husband... babe called me and was begging.. that my former roomie is not responsible. he was not trying then... she couldn't wait .. blah blah .. that please I should not scatter her marriage... was really crying over the phone... The RP in me wasn't buying it until she mentioned that I should please think about how this would shatter her daughter's life. Omoh the human in me made me pause come begin reason am...

My former roomie's lifestyle isn't really what a child would be proud of.. the guy has done everything from cultism to robbery and still hasn't changed and now to yahoo.......only thing he has now to offer that child is money....He said his mother has been telling him to go and bring the child from another man's house.
I don't care about the babe because ladies always think their hoe-phase would go unrewarded..
I pity for the babe's husband coz he was simp then and has remained so till now oblivious of anything.....
I only sincerely care about the 7y/o child whose life would be turned upside down by this shocking revelation..

Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do anything for now but my guy is very desperate and she better handles it fast and that it's only a mater of time my guy gets to her one way or another... Babe thanked me and hung up. Next day, she wiped her and her husband's SM clean and deleted the accounts.. except the man's LinkedIn of course.. The man don sha accept me as one of his connections.... I've not revealed any findings to my former roomie.. Last time he asked when I want to start tracking her, I just stalled him. I'm sitting on the sidelines for now.. Omoh I weak ..... The good, bad and ugly comments are welcomed.

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Regardless:
Let me just clarify some things.
1. For those who don't believe me and think I'm seeking clout like Truvelisback and co., you lots are entitled to your opinions. Not everyone seeks clout.
2. For those accusing me of hiding the information from my 'friend' and choosing a hoe over him, I don't consider him a 'friend'. That dude eh, I just don't want to reveal too much to maintain anonymity. Dude is even currently wanted by the authorities in his state.
3. For those accusing me of blackmailing and collecting money from my guy, please I didn't. He wanted to give me the moment I choose to start tracing her. I never told him I had started. I also have no intentions of blackmailing the lady for money. I'm doing well for myself.
4. And for the ladies that feel I posted this to bash female gender, I confess that was the main reason I wanted to post this especially after the big reveal to the husband - to teach men about the nature of women, however I just can't stop thinking about that little girl.

Abeg I weak.. you lots can think what you want.... I really wish I was the one reading this instead of writing it.

Guy fuk off.
You be mumu.
Bros over hoes anytime.

The guyman deserves to know the truth and it is a shame that a fellow man like is you is the one hiding the truth from him.

You're no redpill, you're still bluepilled and a disgrace to manhood.