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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Kylce042(m): 6:11am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Regardless: You’re a jobless foolish man don’t go and join your friend in SA n make your own yahoo money stay there n be looking for marriage to destroy as for the other coward in SA if he couldn’t man up as a broke guy and stand for his child that child is no longer his child and should know there will be consequences for going for the child and possibly destroying somebody’s home 2 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Kamxy: 6:30am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Firstly, the guy tried aborting the baby....and it didn't work meaning....he did not want the baby initially. Allow the little girl have a fulfilled life and use yours to do something else than doing investigation wey dem no send u... I don't think the yahoo guy has claim to a child he wanted to get rid of .....please allow humanity here and leave the child be 1 Like |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Paulianfa(m): 6:36am On Aug 14, 2022 |
No comment 1 Like |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by eazzzy1(m): 7:12am On Aug 14, 2022 |
How can you say you are protecting the girl? 13 years from now, she’s dating someone, having sex maybe get pregnant then discovers she’s been dating her brother or cousin or worse her father. We saw the news of how one nollywood actor was fighting for custody of his step daughter, who says that won’t be the same in this case? You are doing a disservice to the little girl and the two men involved in this case. Of the four party involved only one person benefits from the continuous lies and that is the woman. 3 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by marlow1962(m): 7:26am On Aug 14, 2022 |
bepositive11:I pray another man will be the father of all your child. With that, i believe you will test how it feels to be useless and fatherless to your own (YOUR OWN) child. |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by TMTR: 7:26am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Sotland: You reasoning is archaic,backward and very unenlightened. At the bolded, that's laughable, are you living under a rock , look around you,no one is ever going to jail for impregnating a girl out of wedlock, it happens everyday and it will continue to happen,in fact some girls even desire it. And from your comment, I guess you wouldn't mind being a paternity fraud victim well not everyone is like you,look there is a difference between going to adopt a child knowing the child is not yours and being deceived by a woman that her child is choice and any woman that does this should be ready to face the consequences And as long as the child is yours, you have a right to your child whether you married the mother or not, stop reasoning like a village palm wine tapper 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by advanceDNA: 7:31am On Aug 14, 2022 |
bepositive11: Go and tell politicians they dont deserve their kids....ask politians' kids of they are proud of their fathers and mothers..?? your point of view is flawed... .you dont dialogue based on realities....always fallacies.....so you think he's incapable of being a father....life is not balck and white... You are like all these people on nairaland that judge people by moniker...by looks and what not....even bokoharam have children and care for them....who told you the current father is not stealing in the office ....?? We all sin differently.... Thank God say you no be God...u are always thinking you know what people deserve.....the same ideology u gave laat time i had a chat with you.. 1 Like |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by cedricksly: 7:33am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Blackdeewhy:I not surprised this is coming from a lady, madam u literally telling him to lie to his friend and suppress the truth, where is your moral? Inasmuch As you feel for the little girl, she deserve the right to know the truth at an early age to accept it over the years, not when she is way older, ans the man deserve the truth also to come in agreement that he has been raising someone else's daughter.. Is it when he is old that he will be told and that will break him... You gaining this kind of useless advice go and watch Episodes of Paternity Court(YouTube) and you will think more better and more Rationally if you see certain cases, only then you will know delay and more delay makes the revelation more dreadful and disasterous 1 Like |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Russi: 7:41am On Aug 14, 2022 |
[/size]Let's be very honest here. POINTS. Hmmm, a Yahoo and badguy that cannot locate an intimate partner who he knows the family to their roots sounds like nollywood only. However we analyse,... 1) A child you tried very very hard to KILL (abort) because of your selfishness. 2) A child you didn't offer support to the mother when she was pregnant. 3) A child you didn't support at labour or birth. 4) A child you didn't pat foe pampers, milk, baby food, formula or even golden morn. 5) A child you never supported to nursery and primary school. 6) A child of convenience (only remembered bc you think money is everything) Guy, continue to watch from afar. You can send money for upkeep bc that's what you're good for. Many guys in nairaland will feel pity for the Yahoo irresponsible fellow bc they identify with him.. So If you identify with him consciously or unconsciously realise that there's something wrong with you. 7) Yes the girl claimed the child MAY be yours, but it's only her imagination for now. I really hope they get in touch someday. They can jointly decide on what to do. But it doesn't have to be you in-between. On the other hand TRUTH IS BITTER BUT NECESSARY! The adults ALL deserve to know the truth. How they handle it is another discussion. The Oil guy will likely protect his wife's daughter bc by now he's really fond of her and lives her innocently. This is best handled by A PROFESSIONAL MEDIATOR. He will speak separately with the Yahoo guy and the mother. Then they will meet to agree on some helpful plan. Then the mediator will break the news to the husband in an expertly manner, maybe over weeks drip...drip...drip! There will then be uncertainty. The husband will consult Wise family and friends and maybe religious leaders. These advisors will generally suggest he be wise, careful and sensitive. A few will day he kick the mother out immediately. He will likely not kick her out bc of the other children but the relationship will never be the same and it is perfectly okay if it doesn't return to as usual bc it was built on lies anyway. The next step is for the man to have the others kids DNA tested. The professional colleagues will insist on this because he cannot rely on ger words any more. Even if they are splitting images if him, he'll be suspicious until he gets scientific confirmation. He will no longer trust his emotions. Note that he MIGHT already have known she was "wayward" (but just because she had a bf doesn't conclude she way wayward)... [size=11pt]T 3 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by nokspos: 7:52am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Homeboiy: Lol I swear I would do the same |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Sotland: 8:03am On Aug 14, 2022 |
TMTR: Who gives you such right over the child? You must be a joke.. Perhaps you kept trying such nonsense with a poor family that doesn't know their stand.. Come try such with family who knows their stand and you will wish you were never born.. This is how irresponsible guys goes about making irresponsible families. A lot of abortions, unwanted child and increasing the ratio of baby mamas. I repeat try such with a family that knows their stand and you will wish you were never born. 3 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Ephiks(m): 8:29am On Aug 14, 2022 |
O so simi lenu, o bu iyo si |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by true2god: 8:51am On Aug 14, 2022 |
advanceDNA:You are a fool. In 2011 a girl almost pinned a pregnancy on ME but I was too smart for her. She confessed, after one week of questioning and calculation that her boyfriend in Asaba got her pregnant before she came staying with me in Lagos. Over 90% of Nigerian girls are evil and don't love. They will always go for a more financially stable guy even if he a criminal. |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by advanceDNA: 8:53am On Aug 14, 2022 |
true2god: U are the iďíót here... ordinary sarcasm u cannot identify becos u cant read between the lines....na people like u woman dey easily deceive |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Class01: 8:57am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Don't fool your self. From the moment you called to threaten her, she is already working on (plan B) how to sustain her life outside that marriage not everyone is dump. If you push her to the wall, she may just own up and tell her husband about it her self. Have you asked your self what kind of a child a hardened criminal will probably raise? If he was responsible, the girl wouldn't have opted for that option or you think the girl happily did that? And as for you once she leaves that home because of you, what do you think she will do? Or you think she will just fold her hands and clap for you? Or you are underestimating her thinking she can't do nothing?? Make we de mind our business abeg... 2 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Onyipk: 9:13am On Aug 14, 2022 |
What rubbish do we read about these days? Why do you want to be the official town gossip/whistle blower? You have a friend who seven years ago was not responsible enough to take care of his mess and now that you feel he has blown via yahoo self then you guys now feel entitled to eat your cake and have it? What if the lady aborted/ lost the pregnancy? Please just move on with your lives for the lady moved on years ago and is taking good care of her children. 2 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by bepositive11: 9:49am On Aug 14, 2022 |
marlow1962: Keep praying. Get out of your emotions and reason the situation with logic. The biological father is an armed robber and a yahoo boy. The girl finding out that her father is not her biological father will mess her up. The girl's siblings finding out that their sister is a half sister will affect them. Only God knows what the husband would do to that woman if he finds out -- I'm not talking about the impact on her but how it will affect the kids. Will he k.ill her? Will he take the other 2 kids away from their mother? Will he abandon the woman and the girl? Will he stay with the woman and 2 kids but ask her to give away the daughter? You see? The situation is very complicated. There are so many other people involved. It's extremely selfish to only see things from the perspective of "how it feels to be useless and fatherless to your own (YOUR OWN) child". Only God knows if the biological father will eventually end up in jail. 2 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by bepositive11: 10:12am On Aug 14, 2022 |
It's not about what the biological father deserves. It's about the best interest of the girl. If he wants to take the place of her father, he needs to change his ways first before breaking apart that girl's life and family. What if he ends up in jail and leaves the girl behind to fend for herself? Let's also consider these scenarios. What if she doesn't want to accept him as her father? What if she tells him that she prefers the other man as her father over him? He can't take away the years they've already spent together and the bond they've built together. He should have insisted on taking responsibility from the very beginning when he found out that she was pregnant. advanceDNA: |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Agbebakun22: 10:21am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Sotland: |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Agbebakun22: 10:25am On Aug 14, 2022 |
FuckSilly: u dey mind them since she's a woman now everyone saying minding your business 2 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Untube: 10:26am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Regardless: @op, focus on your life and leave the happy family alone. God will not forgive you if you scatter dah family and that innocent girl life. What do the useless yahoo boi have to offer? The yahoo boi will ruin the little girl life. The story is real and I know about this story. @op this happens in tanke, unilorin days, boy not a girl..lol 2 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by youngprof1999(m): 10:38am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Homeboiy: Naso � |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Agbebakun22: 10:43am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Op if u truly want to help ur friend just give him the husband LinkedIn handle without the wife knowing. Tho u made a mistake of calling her about the issues i'm sure by now she will be at alert either to silent u in order to keep the marriage. My advice for u now is to give the guy the husband SM handles and stay faraway. Women are heartless and evil they can do anything. Women wicked sha, i no dey pity Simple men they will learn in hard way. No be so one happened for my house last three years when this stupid woman(married woman) carry belle for thug and this thug came and told everyone that the baby is for him(among the 5 kids of this man na only this particular child no resemble the man) and the idiot husband family send the wife packing and could u believe this man go carry the woman back and still this thug of a guy stay in the house with them without the man saying anything. The man work everyday to cater for the thug and children. She's a house wife and she doesn't do anything while the thug will stay all day in their house with the woman just only the two of them while the husband and children are away. Some men are just so stupid and weak sometimes i smh for him cux he work his ass out to provide for the family + the thug inclusive. 1 Like |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by HazzanTazzan(m): 1:25pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Mrmakaveli200: There’s no cheating Hoe in this story... 2 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Debest4u: 1:33pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
OGA the truth is that your friend never had a child 7 years ago because he has already aborted his. So he should leave the child and her family alone to enjoy their peace. 2 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Achasew(m): 1:39pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
You should talk to your friend to leave the innocent child alone. You may be the biological father,but you ain’t the real father. You didn’t take responsibility when the need be and now you should move on with your life. 3 Likes |
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Fashdeejay(m): 2:03pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
One question, if you were in the husband's shoes, would you want to know that the daughter you have loved from the day she was birthed is not your child 3 Likes |
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