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Rozross:
Solely plan on the 100k first before thinking of what the other person brings to the table. Any man with such “bring to the table” mindset does not go far in life, let’s be realistic for once.

Apparently, you have no objective reason for creating your thread. If you think he wouldn't go far, let him be instead of trying to leech on him.

Rozross:
A thread was created by blessedmercy asking if it would be wise to settle down with a man that earns 100k and all she got was insults and jabs from guys, like seriously?

Should a guy who earns 100k think of marriage or how to double his hustle ? Why are most guys unrealistic, can 100k fend and cater for yourself alone.

Please I’ll want those who think it’s ok to come break it down for us on how the 100k will be managed monthly, I maybe learning a whole lot from this. Thanks

How much was your father's worth when he married your mother?

How much is his current worth?

How much are you worth financially not your body parts,these aren't assets?

How much do you earn?

Rozross:
No sir, my mom didn’t marry a man who will push her out there to hustle like a man to feed a man. My dad never turned my mother into a man but still she has her own money .

Hmmm. So a woman who hustles is seen to be a man in your own eyes? It's men like you that make the average woman in Naija lazy and out their whole needs and wants on a man in this 21st century, and when the man is no more, she runs from pillar to post. For your info, the money she earns is not used to feed the man but her family which includes the children, except she doesn't value them.

boom99:
There is no way 100k can feed a family in this era never! Unless na manage you go dey manage.

No be everybody dey live big man life na, a lot of people dey manage until things better...abi no be Nigeria you dey? When them say Nigeria has the highest population in poverty...where you feel say those people dey, na people you dey see everyday.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Taking good care of a woman is more than giving food and shelter. Hey, don't mind me. Maybe, I'm just a little too self-absorbed. Remember, standards differ. So, good luck.

In a nutshell, the "Yahoo Boy" standard you are trying to make me believe is the best way to take care of a woman is not applicable to me...

Ebubu9:
how much do you bring to the table? He brings 100k

Nothing but Brazilian wig.

sparko1:
It all depends on their location, 80k a month in Lagos is NO NO!

I get it, no amount is enough but you need at least 120k monthly to survive as a couple just for food, except your want to spend more that on drugs and hospitals bills.

This is beside car maintenance, house rent and other emergency from family and relatives.

Let try and analyse it
Total income from the man 960,000
Total income from wife 600,000 (half of this have to go for her upkeep, that leaves 300,000)

Monthly food -120k- 960,000
Car maintenance 6 times a year @ 30,000- 180,000
House rent 350,000(this is the lowest for a room and parlor in Lagos)
Fuel for car - 20,000 monthly - 240,000
Fuel for generator (God help you if you want to use diesel) 10,000 monthly - 120,000

This alone is over 500,000 extra without, clothes, household items, gadgets, electricity, water, other stuff like waste management payment, outings, birthdays, church donation.

I just read your comment finish.
I think some of us need to travel to understand the meaning of living within our means and being contented with it till things improves.
They asked "100k", yes Sir,you went and did an analysis of 500k and still wasn't even a enough for you.
Means people earning 20k monthly should probably die since they have no place with that budget.

PlayMaker14:
In a nutshell, the "Yahoo Boy" standard you are trying to make me believe is the best way to take care of a woman is not applicable to me...

Lol. Believe whatever. Your problem.

Omo this title is annoying.

I didn't even bother to read the article, I mean it's like taking one step forward and 10 steps backwards.

One moment we are promoting feminism and in another case we are saying a different thing entirely.

Ladies in a relationship and not even marriage.

Any babe wey go dey depend on my money inside relationship better think well, of course I'll help when the need arises but trying to depend on my money is a big turn off.

When you no be olosho.

sparko1:
It all depends on their location, 80k a month in Lagos is NO NO!

I get it, no amount is enough but you need at least 120k monthly to survive as a couple just for food, except your want to spend more that on drugs and hospitals bills.

This is beside car maintenance, house rent and other emergency from family and relatives.

Let try and analyse it
Total income from the man 960,000
Total income from wife 600,000 (half of this have to go for her upkeep, that leaves 300,000)

Monthly food -120k- 960,000
Car maintenance 6 times a year @ 30,000- 180,000
House rent 350,000(this is the lowest for a room and parlor in Lagos)
Fuel for car - 20,000 monthly - 240,000
Fuel for generator (God help you if you want to use diesel) 10,000 monthly - 120,000

This alone is over 500,000 extra without, clothes, household items, gadgets, electricity, water, other stuff like waste management payment, outings, birthdays, church donation.

This one wey you analyse here na big man life or i want to be among life

The money you will need is dependent on what kind of lifestyle you want and you are able/ready to work to attain.

The problem i have is someone wanting to leave a certain life style based on someone else's sweat without being personally able to attain such by themselves....

Raph82:
No wonder many ladies still remain in their father's house @ age 33 & above. Men don suffer.

She will only remain in her father's house at 33 and above if she's not an asset, too selective, or just personal choice. Nothing wrong with being unmarried at 33, ok? Some people want a certain standard of living and there's nothing wrong with that.

Shey na relationship?

She no get papa?

Lucrativress:
Wait stop
Monthly food 120k
Yes Sir, whoever earns less should live less and consume less.
They won't die.

For a couple, how much do you spend on food as a lady, not married, I know how much I spend, I spend between 60k and 70k,because I cook! But I don't visit hospital, I don't eat extravagantly, I make everything I eat including bread.

Yeah so 120k for two people is fair.

VERDA:
Very well put, a lot of people getting married these days based on their understanding of what marriage is have no business getting married.

Smile... Aswear

Lucrativress:
I just read your comment finish.
I think some of us need to travel to understand the meaning of living within our means and being contented with it till things improves.
They asked "100k", yes Sir,you went and did an analysis of 500k and still wasn't even a enough for you.
Means people earning 20k monthly should probably die since they have no place with that budget.

NO! I use your analysis, not 500k

I combined the income as you suggested and analyse.

How do you survive with 20k salary as a man in Lagos, even in the village it is not easy, let's stop pretending, my younger sister in school receives 30k monthly, she still come home to pick food stuff.

Rozross:
A thread was created by blessedmercy asking if it would be wise to settle down with a man that earns 100k and all she got was insults and jabs from guys, like seriously?

Should a guy who earns 100k think of marriage or how to double his hustle ? Why are most guys unrealistic, can 100k fend and cater for yourself alone.

Please I’ll want those who think it’s ok to come break it down for us on how the 100k will be managed monthly, I maybe learning a whole lot from this. Thanks

Double hustle in an unstable country, you think most of these guys living large are into 100% legal business?

How much is the lady earning too?

VeryWickedMan:
I'm conflicted on whether to use oraimo cord or 2 by 4

Make you use am wipe him ba...Omo na Kondo me go use ooo

Ebubu9:
you be serious amebo oo. Wetting concern you for how a family wants to spend their income ? This should be very relative. Does it mean whatever she tells you is how another family who earns same income will spend their own ?

It is dependent on the preferences, choices, decisions, priorities, destination, where they live, amongst others. If you’re told based on lagos standard of living, what if they’re living in ebonyi ? There house rent could be cheaper among foodstuff, if who answers you lives in Ebonyi, what if the couple practising it lives in Kano?

What if they don’t like red meat which is cow meat and it’s expensive so they opt for fish? But who answers you loves red meat so can’t exclude cow meat?

I swear you no get sense. I’m sure you will marry wrong ! Don’t go and plan your marriage with your suitor/spouse, be looking for another person’s standard of living to use and live your own.

Your marriage is bound to fail

The girl na idiot, na you get time to lecture her.

JoshuaAkinmi:
.bros. I think u should be caned. My gate man earn 40k and he has 4 children and the wife na full house wife. He his only prudent with spending

What's a gateman doing with a wife and 4 kids? Isn't that eternal suffering ? So because he's a man, he should live his life in the shackles of poverty. Must he get married, when he's aware his finance can't meet up

Rozross:
Solely plan on the 100k first before thinking of what the other person brings to the table. Any man with such “bring to the table” mindset does not go far in life, let’s be realistic for once.

What a mentality.

Ayinke93:
You only have the right to ask this question if you earn up to that or more yourself. What’s wrong with people and planning on other people’s money? In a relationship, everyone should fend for themselves and partners can share occasional gifts and assistance.

Adults should earn their own monies and stop asking stupid questions like this.

QED

In today's generation, the male and female child is educated alike, with the same certificate: meaning same knowledge capacity in their various fields and same purpose: to fend for their self and family and become a better citizen...

But somehow, only the men should work and cater for their family, while the woman either sits at home jobless or find a job to cater for herself only (yours is ours and mine is mine).

This is a deficit in female education.

If female education ain't productive and family responsibilities will continually be subjected to this kind of debate, then female education should be scrapped; it is a waste of resources by the family and such resources should be directed to more productive areas and to train the male child to provide for every aspect of the family.

The major thing that has changed about our females since the last millennium is their fashion, their mentality has barely changed even with more resources spent on educating them.

Even in those days, the female do assist the family in farm works and other aspect of the family finances.

And again I believe the OP must be a woman.. Op nor go hussle, they there dey wait for man wey dey earn 6 figures...for your information, Naija men don wise ooo...no man wants to keep a liability at home...we sef don they find women wey dey work, dey earn well too

Very stupid post.

NOwazobia:
Also with a certificate.

I think parents should stop sending their daughters to school because it is useless.

It hasn't changed their mentality from ages.

LMAO

When I first read your post, I thought maybe you're just here to display a kind of senseless talk but as time goes on, you keep waiting for response despite the insult.
No one will break anything down for you. It all depend on how you're brought up, the kind of woman your mother has brought you up to be and maybe how you've made yourself to be.
I'm earning less than 100k when I got married and we both live happily without any issue.
The truth is that, don't involve yourself in what you can Cope with. If you can't marry man that earn less than 100k, it's not a bad idea. However, don't insult or see girl that does that as fool or any other thing. It's all about their choice and inasmuch they are happy with it, it's good for them.
But, one thing I want you to understand is that no salary is enough to live with, we only need to cut our coat as accordingly.

Rozross:
A thread was created by blessedmercy asking if it would be wise to settle down with a man that earns 100k and all she got was insults and jabs from guys, like seriously?

Should a guy who earns 100k think of marriage or how to double his hustle ? Why are most guys unrealistic, can 100k fend and cater for yourself alone.

Please I’ll want those who think it’s ok to come break it down for us on how the 100k will be managed monthly, I maybe learning a whole lot from this. Thanks

Let us assume he double his hustle and got 500k and then decided to settle down...lol and after 3 years something happened and the the hustle drop back to 50k... Will you advice him to divorce his wife and go back to double the hustle? Since the entire reason for getting married is base on earning above certain amount as a man.

khalids:
This one wey you analyse here na big man life or i want to be among life

The money you will need is dependent on what kind of lifestyle you want and you are able/ready to work to attain.

The problem i have is someone wanting to leave a certain life style based on someone else's sweat without being personally able to attain such by themselves....

This is not big man life, there's no cenima, no birthdays, no party, no donations, no club membership, do you know what big spend money on, birthday alone is about 10 million, every Saturday is cenima, cost 100k weekly, party and donations in church is another 200k month.

When you start to cook at home you will understand, stop eating junk, that is why people spend so much money on hospital and drugs, eat healthy.

Rozross:
Ok, that’s 130k monthly from both of them, please ma can you put us through on how this 130k would comfortably cover all expenses in this era? A breakdown will go a long way ma

Go and attract and marry dangote. Greedy fellows who do not know what building is all about. Economy has classification.

sparko1:
This is not big man life, there's no cenima, no birthdays, no party, no donations, no club membership, do you know what big spend money on, birthday alone is about 10 million, every Saturday is cenima, cost 100k weekly, party and donations in church is another 200k month.

When you start to cook at home you will understand, stop eating junk, that is why people spend so much money on hospital and drugs, eat healthy.

This one wey you add...na bigger man life...

Life is about how you want to live it....

I had my NYSC in a village and in that village there was no light, no transport system, no running tap water...

but yet I had a fantastic time...I ate well (regular pounded yam, with veg, fish and kanda), with palmwine.....I used a bicycle for moving around the village...I hardly spent half of my NYSC allowance.....and it was fun, simple and joyous.

How much you actually need is not based on you needs per say...it has a lot to do with your wants....

If your wants in life are small, your financial needs will be small....if your wants are big, your financial needs will be big.....Its a relativity issue

sparko1:
For a couple, how much do you spend on food as a lady, not married, I know how much I spend, I spend between 60k and 70k,because I cook! But I don't visit hospital, I don't eat extravagantly, I make everything I eat including bread.

Yeah so 120k for two people is fair.

I'm single yes but I don't have a fixed feeding budget
Cause I am good at managing actually
I could have a budget doubling in price cause I'm trying out new recipes on the internet or trying out Canteens or Restaurants.
Doesn't mean I don't know how I've managed a 20k income,a 60k income,an 100k income and others.
Concerning Hospitals, I guess the prayer is to be in good health cause at times,not eating well or eating right might not be the cause for an illness.
The major prayer is to have the fees to pay the bills when needed.
You can't tell me because you earn 100k and want to eat well,you now spend 70k on just feeding as a single man.
For me
Either my income is way above it or I'm not even checking the price.
But this is the point, for a fixed salary like this,it is only sensible to guage your spendings and adjust to your income size.
(I'm impressed with your baking bread)
I got flour since and haven't baked nada

VeryWickedMan:
I'm conflicted on whether to use oraimo cord or 2 by 4

Steady oraimoing to the neck will be ok