You people will travel out to foreign soil and start growing wings and talking like oyinbo people, your eye go clear soon.

This is a man with ego, the way you spoke to him like he's never trying at all, some sort of making him feel the less. so because you're contributing more than he is doing would that make you spit it on his face? this is not right. at this point you've got to throw away pride and reach out by apologizing first, how could you just send him a message after 9weeks of cutting him off without first trashing out the issues that made you guys not communicate that long ?

Men will always shoulder responsibilities without a word but the moment you ladies start contributing a penny , hell is let loose .

Topic says: Complex marriage issue. It shud be foolish and stupid wife.

that you hung up on him isn't an issue one cud understand it was in the heat of the moment

you ignored him for 4 days i,one cud say u were still very pissed.

But for Nine weeks?? At nine weeks a child born already know say Naija ne be am.

U need slap.

Kingzeez10:

You dey craze as you called the man immature. She cut him off for 9 weeks. You didn't see that?

Any person that abuse the man must be mad. The man is human he cant just let go easily without the woman truly feel remorse. Can you imagine she sent him " unrelated message after 9weeks"? She didnt feel remorse at all. The husband sensed that reason he has been ignoring her texts and calls.

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

U ignore ur husband for 9weeks bcis he said smtn about him being more stressed than u? this is equal to divorce in my books. I hate irrational humanbeings and behaviour.

Then he went 3months incommunicado so where is the marriage? There no marriage btwn u guys anymore. Move on!

Poor communication skills destroys marriage more than infidelity.

iLegendd:
You almost made sense, but @bold is just you SIMPing. What makes him childish?

bro, a married couple should look at making sure that their family AND children is the most important thing in their lives... mummy and daddy not talking to one another (for months on end) is highly childish. i understand that the husband is repaying back his wife with her own medicine, but at the end of the day, only the family&kids will suffer.

sometimes women are very childish, irrational and emotionally incoherent, but you have to accept that this is how this gender is, and live with it. giving the silent treatment to your spouse is ok for a few days, but for weeks and/or months is very immature. sometimes you just have to be the bigger person in the room.

lol This gender ehn

For those nine weeks you ignored him, somebody else have him attention, get your pen ready to sign the divorce papers.

I can see you becoming a single mother if you don't act fast by apologizing to your husband. Even if you are the one feeding your husband the fact remains that he is still the husband and the head of the family. Contact his friends or people you know he can listen to to talk to him. Na this Kain opportunity dey make sidechick to become a wife oh. If you know you know.

Neptunium:
Your husband get another woman or is looking for one. He's probably on Match.com looking. My friend in Canada says married Nigerian men plenty for that site

It may not be so.
So many abroad based men now hate the sight of women. I spend time with Guys both white and black. Some go months without inviting a single woman home.
Hence, the reason most abroad ladies purchase dildos. Most abroad based ladies are either single ladies or single mothers.

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

Na wah for this Una abroad lifestyle abi na marriage-style make I call am. How can you deliberately ignore your husband for 9 whole weeks and then expect things to remain normal between you two?? As in, I don't get.

Aunty continue ehn...
Oga will find one smally to fill the gap.

LilMissFavvy:
You need to start aplogising through calls, messages, voice notes.....yes you wronged your husband. Unfortunately he is not mature enough to forgive you and let go easily.

Satan is fighting marriages these days seriously , such that you will see so much ego, anger, unforgiveness over minor issues, how much more serious offense.

Your husband seems all out to embarrass you among your family members and let them know there is a problem in the marriage.

This is the disadvantage of long distance marriage.
Appologise with speed.

So the husband and satan is to be blamed right... wisdom is far from you.. Generally women re not stupid.. but few of them like this one makes me hate the gender... after reading what the OP wrote up there na the husband and devil get blame.. just kill all the whole men in the world na

@Meteroritey Write him an apology letter

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

the truth is u are not a nice person, minus wife aspect now. How can you foolishly type that you sent him a message after 9weeks of an unrelated issue, and u expect him to swiftly reply you? Are u mad Ma? So after 2months and 1 week was when u sent him a message.... If una just enter that abroad 95% of una go just go mad to know good from bad, left from right, bcoz of the Illusion that the government would always support you women against the men anytime any day.. Some of Y'all Need to learn submission as a wife and mutual respect

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

Lack of communication can only lead to more break down in communication. Because the break in transmission can only leave room for assumptions. What you should do is leave Nairaland and don't come back until you have called your husband, preferably go and see Him, and admit that two of you are destroying your marriage and you were the one who started this round. Explain that you were hurt but you didn't plan for it to take this long. Swallow your pride and help Him swallow His own. Good luck!

Is this a real situation? � wow. What's wrong with you poster? It was very disrespectful of you to ignore your husband over slight issues and this has escalated to a break down in communication which may lead to a divorce if you don't apologize to him ASAP.

There is the stress of long distance marriage and communication which should play a huge role in keeping the marriage intact is now a concern.

Madam you are wrong here. Apologize to your husband immediately and get your family together.

LilMissFavvy:
You need to start aplogising through calls, messages, voice notes.....yes you wronged your husband. Unfortunately he is not mature enough to forgive you and let go easily.

Satan is fighting marriages these days seriously , such that you will see so much ego, anger, unforgiveness over minor issues, how much more serious offense.

Your husband seems all out to embarrass you among your family members and let them know there is a problem in the marriage.

This is the disadvantage of long distance marriage.
Appologise with speed.

bia leave Satan and blame your gender Abeg

For a man to ignore you successfully for three months It suggests that this is not your fourth time of being insolent and proud.

If you wait for the next three months, expect a massive development from his desk.

Your marriage is at the brink of a major collapse if you delay your sorries.

abbey621:
My number one concern is how old are the kids? As a father, I can't imagine not speaking to my boy for a week not to talk of months, so what gives? If your kids are old enough to talk, this age of technology they can send voice notes, MMS, recorded videos etc, expressing how much they miss daddy. Sometimes the best way to apologize is to do so through the eyes of innocence. If your kids are still toddlers and unable to speak, then you can see record videos and direct the narrative, apologize and even pray for him.

The vast majority of fathers out there can hold a grudge against their wives but find it very difficult to ignore their children. My advice to you is to forget about your external family issues and focus on your own issues. 9 weeks of not talking, for wetin?

Finally!!!!!

When a lady starts telling you she's the one taking care of the family then just know that the marriage already has k-leg, imagine this one hunging up on her husband and ignoring him for close to 3 months This woman get mind seriously
You better start begging otherwise

Acidosis:
The world does not revolve around you and your sister (family).

Over the past months, how many times have you called to speak to his family? Or...their lives don't matter?

And what is this game you people are playing sef? If I don't talk to my spouse in 2 weeks, then I'll naturally assume that the relationship is dead. You guys go months without talking and all that concerns you is your sister's fiance?

Are you in some kind of open marriage?

My brother/ sister, abeg help me ask them o.

Are they Will Smith and his funny wife?

Ishilove:
How can you cut off your husband for 9weeks?? Aunty, you are the problem. Look inwards. Since you started it, you have to end it.

Hian. Marriages of nowadays

Gbam

LilMissFavvy:
You need to start aplogising through calls, messages, voice notes.....yes you wronged your husband. Unfortunately he is not mature enough to forgive you and let go easily.

Satan is fighting marriages these days seriously , such that you will see so much ego, anger, unforgiveness over minor issues, how much more serious offense.

Your husband seems all out to embarrass you among your family members and let them know there is a problem in the marriage.

This is the disadvantage of long distance marriage.
Appologise with speed.

madam it isn't Satan, make una stop to accuse Satan of such mischievous Atitude of the woman.. Ego, is this woman's problem nothing more, u no reply man calls or messages for 9 weeks(2months and 1 week) and u want his opinion on an unrelated issue so he can pretend like nothing happened? Can you see the woman is a user

MrBrownJay1:
you made a few mistakes (and so did he)...
A) just because you work hard, never assume that others dont (simply because you dont see/feel it)
B) cutting off your husand and giving him the silent treatment for NINE WEEKS is insane. is that not the father of your kids any longer?!?! why such harsh treatment?
C) your husband is as childish as you are and now playing your own game by ignoring you for months... blame y'all childish self, which ultimately will only hurt the children.
D) look within yourself to see what is bothering you so much that you could take such a small statement from your husband, and turn ii into such a big deal... then put your pride aside, get down on your knees and beg him to forgive you (because it is obvious, you aint gonna win at this "childish" game)

It's a typical issue of "you go low, I go lower"
That woman na something else... Imagine not responding to her husband for 9 weeks (approx 2 months and 1 week)
The man wan do him own na... As they say first to do no dae pain, na second to do dae pain pass

This problem is in the fire oh and with care you can bring it out and allow it to cool to its nature temperature.


You have a problem here and if not well hand it will boil over;
step 1
1. trying call him and apologizing telling him you were stress up/ woman period thing/angry boss at the office and you took it out on him.
step 2
2. form sickness (you or the kid) and suggest the children are asking of him
step 3
3.pray like no man business

best of luck sha

LilMissFavvy:
You need to start aplogising through calls, messages, voice notes.....yes you wronged your husband. Unfortunately he is not mature enough to forgive you and let go easily.

Satan is fighting marriages these days seriously , such that you will see so much ego, anger, unforgiveness over minor issues, how much more serious offense.

Your husband seems all out to embarrass you among your family members and let them know there is a problem in the marriage.

This is the disadvantage of long distance marriage.
Appologise with speed.

Women always find ways to blame the man
Smh

Pride they say goes before a fall, your marriage is as good as dead. I see a narcissist, vengeful, bitter, malicious, not virtuous, evil woman.

You are that type of person that can't forgive easily, you are too toxic. God knows I can never marry an evil being like you. Because of a small issue you cut your husband off for weeks. Like the world revolves around you?

Go prepare for a divorce, heartless being, I hope you eat your pride along the way. Getting angry over senseless things. Hope it adds money into your bank account.

Just begin date again because you nor get husband again o. Obinrin so iwa nu, o ni ohun o lori oko.

Lol. Personally if someone ignores my calls and messages for 4 days without solid reason and I get to know the person intentionally ignores it, I swear on almighty God, I will cut of the relationship between us. In your own case, I will never forgive you and you will only have problem if you keep telling people about me ( just like you did here ) . I’m done with you sis. Ignoring me for 9 weeks means two things
1. You’re comfortable and can live without me
2. You have someone else. There is nothin you or any member of your family can tell me wey I go hear. I will torture you emotionally so tey you will use your hand to file for divorce.


My girl purposely ignored my call simultaneously 3 times, I ignored her for 4 days, infact she had to come down to my house to find out.


You’re blessed to have such gentleman , not me.
You want bread? I will give you oven !!

You are not matured for marriage. Your husband deserves a public apology from you, spiced with lots of make up sex to calm him down.

99% blame goes to you