Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

Now that u have finished enjoying with ur baby boy, what did u gain? My sister, u cut him of because u needed some time to CHEAT comfortably. mbaise woman.

This is it...

Fahvvy:

... is proof that this is not the first time you have given him the cold shoulder over minor issues such as this

I guess you're right about this...
It is obvious it is not her first time of doing this to him and I want to assume that the husband has been tolerating her over the years and he's obviously tired of her attitude.

Reminderz:
your husband was talking to you, you dey do strong head.. mehn if I was the guy, I might even do worse.. what kind of effrontery is that to hang up on him? abi you think say na your friend dey follow you talk... and he even brought down himself and tried contacting you, you still dey do strong head?

wetin dey worry these women sef? this is what happens when a woman who works and earns money feels she don arrive also and can do whatever she likes... lack of respect begins to creep in...

you better apologize to him and if possible contact those he knows he respects to help you talk to him...

i still dey ontop oda mata that's Why i neva get time. When time reach ehn, i go open file ontop my wife's head

na2016:
Women and this marriage of a thing. God help men so that they don't die early because of some women they married.

Amen!
My friend's wife angrily removed her wedding ring recently and threw it away. My friend picked it up when she had already left and hid it somewhere without his wife's notice.
Today her anger don calm down and her eyes don clear, she now went back to look for her ring but couldn't find it. Now she has been pleading with her spouse to fetch her her ring. Husband claims he never saw the ring. Wife is now persuading him to get her a new one and husband refused blatantly & warned her from getting new one.
This is the 4the month & madam no get wedding ring. Husband don tell her she's free to go out on dates with as many as possible.

Reason for ANGER; minor Baseless issue and not even infidelity matter.
Wife eyes don clear now.

pocohantas:
You and your fellow malice people would learn the hard way.



Very hardened heart. Her type can frustrate someone. They can keep malice for 200 years even when they are dying inside and yearning for peace.

It is so skin scrawling. How can you keep malice for more than two months? When he didn't kill your family member, bikonu. Some women's hearts are stronger than stone

qtguru:
OP has to be lying. Which couple goes without communication for 9 weeks without the man checking up on the children, even in the midst of fight, the man didn't check up on the kids. You didn't even worry that their Father didn't reach-out.

OP must be a man or a blog writer.

learn to read well. they live in different countries. USA & CANADA.
did you even read anything at all?

MrBrownJay1:


nine weeks of silence in some people's mind it is like a break up/divorce... this woman is really not thinking straight. thats why i always say:"COMMUNICATION is the key to a better r/ship"

You keep screaming communication as if we are ignorant not to know how vital it is in human's life. The man really knew the woman he married. It's most likely this wasn't her first time of exhibiting this bullshit behaviour. People like her can't be bowed down to. If the man had been a coward and tried his best to resolve things, the malice wouldn't have happened and everyone will see them as happy couples.

Individuals need to take the bull by the horn. Never let anyone play smart when they shouldn't. People should learn to understand that marriage is a partnership and not some slave-master shit. Most people are used to suffering in marriage all because they want to maintain the aesthetics.

I'm proud of the man. You can't manipulate some men/women like us.

gimakon2:


Aunty, Nothing like that. Women always think they can do what they like to a man. because say na man, he must tolerate. Una go forget say na human being too. Drop phone on the mans ear because of what? Na the highest nonsense be that aunty. Oga get every right to do what he is doing , someone like me , i go marry another woman invite her make she come do brides maid. She like nonsense, she go collect am wotoporously.

I fail to see the correlation between your post and my post, but I understand this might be personal and you just want to rant.

Hmmm that Gender?
1. you hung on while he was still talking.
2. you stopped conversation with him for 12345678 and NINE weeks.
the question is who where you talking to during this period?
you just remember him when your sister got admission and another is about to get married.

do all u can to resolve this oooo otherwise i see some one replacing you in his life.

your husband dey work send you money take care of the kids u get mouth complain foolishly . as per ur sister's fiancee or wedding , dat one no be his concern or wetin ? nigerian women and stupid entitlement over their siblings . u want d man shoulder the finances or wetin be his concern wit her wedding ? he called dem once , das enough na or he can't breath again cos ur sister dey do wedding ? be doing shakara . single beautiful women plenty for Canada , him go find himself another lady in no time if he no get already

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

Woman stop seeking advice here. Get in touch with your husband and apologize to him. A friend of mine cut call on me in our last day of school and that was the end of our friendship till date. All through our Nysc he didn’t call me and I will not call him. when It’s time for him to do his marriage, the day he called me I blocked his number from my life. Nobody hate that nonsense reach me! I don’t do such so if anyone does it to me, it’s the end.

mariahAngel:


The op probably wants to know if the husband isn't taking things "too far".

After 9 weeks OP is interested on if the issues has gone too far. I call fake news on this story. Even a crazy woman will still call the husband immediately within days.

bonnyhope:
This kind of story might not be real

Although marriages these days are breaking away

The STORY is absolutely real.
In Fact, worst things are happening.
I rarely attend weddings these days.
They are no longer worth it.

How can you cut off your husband for 9 weeks and you call him your husband? More like baby daddy... How do you cope sef? Not speaking to someone you claim you love for 9 weeks and you're comfortable? Didn't bother to care about his well being or something... Ma, you're selfish and self centered
Why do you assume you're the only one working and stressing? If you can't take care of your own kids then send them to their daddy... M sure he would take care of his kids even if he have to spend extra cash. You're not on speaking terms and you expect him to care about your sister family that's none of his business? You got to think again
You snub him but you don't want him to do the same to you? E pele ma

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

You disrespected your hubby and from your right up here, you're not remorseful about what you did neither are you are ready to apologise, bravo!!

Wait, what exactly do you want him to do about the unrelated issue you contacted him for ?

Like he should go and testify in church/mosque that you finally contacted him... Lmao.

It's obvious that your husband has been taking this same attitude of yours for years and your cup is now full.


I don't want to assume there's another side dude somewhere oooo

It's well sha...

signature2012:
I just kuku like how truthfully you narrated your story.

A Nigerian woman living in Nigeria will never tell you the truth this far. Oyibo life enter her body small to say the truth to this extent. What she hasn't told us yet is who is banging her mercilessly from back during the 9weeks for her to be so hardened and forgot she had a husband somewhere. Only a long thick jabulani can do that wonders.

Makinaki:
Abeg can somebody check something for me, biko. Is 9 weeks not 2 months + ? I just wan check something.

The thing shock you abi

superCleanworks:


learn to read well. they live in different countries. USA & CANADA.
did you even read anything at all?

So because I'm staying in the US I can't communicate with someone over the internet in Canada ? You didn't make sense at all sir. Nigerians have spouse outside the country, she is not the first and couples communicate.

MALIGNANTGuest:

Amen!
My friend's wife angrily removed her wedding ring recently and threw it away. My friend picked it up when she had already left and hid it somewhere without his wife's notice.
Today her anger don calm down and her eyes don clear, she now went back to look for her ring but couldn't find it. Now she has been pleading with her spouse to fetch her her ring. Husband claims he never saw the ring. Wife is now persuading him to get her a new one and husband refused blatantly & warned her from getting new one.
This is the 4the month & madam no get wedding ring. Husband don tell her she's free to go out on dates with as many as possible.

Reason for ANGER; minor Baseless issue and not even infidelity matter.
Wife eyes don clear now.

Personally, I believe you can never change anybody's character but can only influence the positive/change and it's still up to them to change.

Also, some people are the cause of their misfortune, before you marry your partner, there are some traits they can't hide!

Meteorites,

Everything is wrong with your home and I pray you emerge out of all these unscathed.

1. Marriage in itself is difficult. It is doubly so when couples live apart. Those who counsel that couples should sleep in the same room, bathe together, etc, know what they are saying. No matter the disagreement, seeing each other daily will encourage resolving issues. If by God's mercies, you both sort this out, pack your load and go and stay with that man. How do you leave a man all by himself, without sex or companionship? I pray you have not been replaced.

2. What's this whole idea of your raising the kids by yourself, alone? Those children need their Dad. And the stress of separation is telling on you all.

I wish I could say more but I usually do not like to waste my words on forums like these bc many times they are not heeded. I'll like to have your husband's contacts. DM me if you think I could help.

Some. people saying the husband is not matured blah blah blah...

Maturity with taking shits, simp with depression and disrespectful bah


I'll rather remain a child cuz if a woman do me shit I'll pay back in folds.... fvck maturity!!!

qtguru:


So because I'm staying in the US I can't communicate with someone over the internet in Canada ? You didn't make sense at all sir. Nigerians have spouse outside the country, she is not the first and couples communicate.

You need not to respond to some people. Not everyone is enlightened.

in your next life you'll know how to respect a MAN.

Bleep your qualification and level ! MAN is the Boss , the jefe !

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

I go no advice for you but this;
Use you tongue to count your teeth. Both you and your husband are acting like children. One person has to be an adult cos two adults can't be children with your children. Usually the person that will be the adult is also the person that has to be the fool, the idiot. This life is short

pocohantas:


I fail to see the correlation between your post and my post, but I understand this might be personal and you just want to rant.

Nothing like personal. I no kuku know u before.
See the breed of women we have now, one out of 10 get this same issue. This one bring her own come media, if you hear the one others do, you will even rant even more.

There is one in my area , her husband day england day work, aunty day here day carry man up and down. Man get info, come in naija co incidentally see e wife with another man, them beg am, he forgive , the same woman still day misbehave till now.

If you are to be in that mans shoes how u go feel? Na the same vex i day pour for here. No vex sha.

MufasaLion:
You keep screaming communication as if we are ignorant not to know how vital it is in human's life. The man really knew the woman he married. It's most likely this wasn't her first time of exhibiting this bullshit behaviour. People like her can't be bowed down to. If the man had been a coward and tried his best to resolve things, the malice wouldn't have happened and everyone will see them as happy couples.

Individuals need to take the bull by the horn. Never let anyone play smart when they shouldn't. People should learn to understand that marriage is a partnership and not some slave-master shit. Most people are used to suffering in marriage all because they want to maintain the aesthetics.
I'm proud of the man. You can't manipulate some men/women like us.

Boss13:
I would rather think this may not be the first time and the man wants his wife to grow up. How long would he continue to tolerate the disrespect. If she is not ready to be married, come forth. Please let's stop cutting slacks with these women. We only encourage them to continue in their bad behaviours.

sadly not many people know how to COMMUNICATE and would rather burn their house down, while we all know how irrational some women can be at times. what wifey did is CHILDISH, playing tit for tat with your wife is equally CHILDISH. none of what these people are doing is right, and understanding the type of woman you have is key. your wife gives you the silent treatment, big deal... just understand that this is how childish she is, play hard to get for a few hours and basta. taking this shiiit by the horn and carrying it for months is truly immature. at the end, none of them is winning shiiit, the "family/kids" is who is losing here.

I dey always put extra change for pocket every Sunday to thank God for not allowing me meet your type.

U wicked Sha

MufasaLion:


You need not to respond to some people. Not everyone is enlightened.

As in,

E reach ur turn u call am 9 weeks make easy and simple for ear, e reach him turn u dey call am months make e big and loud for ear. Ur very mischievous

Sureboyy:

It's a typical issue of "you go low, I go lower"
That woman na something else... Imagine not responding to her husband for 9 weeks (approx 2 months and 1 week)
The man wan do him own na... As they say first to do no dae pain, na second to do dae pain pass

And you think this is the 3rd time she has behaved like that? When a man shoulders the burden of the family, it’s a norm, but when a woman does, she becomes a super hero. I get it, it’s not as if this man is outright lazy or not trying his best. But because she contributes more, she felt that he is a nobody to her anymore. I somehow knew this man must have contributed morethan her in the past. But situation of things, tables are turned and she is treating him with a way lot more disrespect. Let’s always tell people when they are wrong. Don’t ever try to justify what they did by outrightly blaming the other party, once someone is wrong, tell them they are wrong simple no two ways about it, wrong is wrong.

If you are still interested in the marriage, go and apologize to your husband and make all necessary amends.

You cut off your husband call and cut him out completely for 9WEEKS. Haba! And you are here looking for people that will give you kudos for acting well.

Some women get mind oo