thegroomspa:
Hi friends...

Can't sleep tonight cos of whole lot of thought going on inside of me.

Let me be brief, please permit me.

I was posted to another state on work related matter, there I meet this pretty lady. I am 35 yr she's 34 so we got along her kind behavior and her openess captivated my heart and after 3 months I said to myself I think I have found my missing rib.

Things were looking good, am actually based in one of the state in the north where am being posted from Abuja and what happens is my company sends personel from Lagos to come assist me and the person sent stays for 2month after which another person comes to replace him.

Anytime I have a colleague sent from Lag and my fiancee visit I do introduce her to my colleague as my person to be...two of my colleagues who have seen her before going back to Lagos have told me she will make a good wife.

I love and cherised her so much even when my job doesn't really pay me that much due to the part of the country where I found myself I still try to squeeze the little I have just to make her happy though she's not too demanding...

A month ago, a personel was sent from Lag on hanging out, my fiancee called me on phone I asked her where she was and told her to come see me where I was with my colleague cooling off after a busy day. She came and I introduced her to this guy they exchanged pleasantry but because we were done as at the time she arrived we dashed out immediately.

She returned back home while I and my colleague took a tricycle to our place of rest.

As we got home I noticed the mood of my guy
changed, on trying to know why he said mehnnn I like your woman she's my kind of woman...I laughed it off.

So we have meet at different places together, until the unusual began happening....my girl will call me up and will be asking after my guy on a daily basis.

She did it to a point one day, she called told me I should tell my friend she asked after him that even if she knows I was not going to tell my friend that I should tell him she's greeting him the same way my guy disturbs me about her.

One day she called me while she was at work and am off, asked me if she could bring food for me of course I accepted though she does that occasionally.

As she arrived we sat in company lodge we discussed for sometime...and only God knows how many times she was asking after my guy.

My guy was not around at the same time I wanted to know what happens when my guy returns from the gym...

Before then I took my laptop and was operating while I wanted to see if my instinct is on point. while on the laptop my guy came in, from the gym they both greeted and on the guy teasing her on what to offer her or to take her out my fiancee was so engrossed that she never knew when she told me openly she missed my guy....

You did the right thing, never you sweep negative relationship signs under the carpet. Na man you be.

Marvyx:
Men sha.. While bashing the female gender, let's not forget that we too have our own issues. I mean what's so hard to respect another man's domain?

Anyways, OP come and finish the story please.

Some men are naturally foolish..

Na that one you want to secure for your kids, they will now want to drag with you while disguising as friends.

I find it awkward getting too friendly with my guy's babe/wife.
Me sef I set the boundaries....

Not everyone will be that confident to tag along..
OP is already insecure with the lady's moves which are obvious..I mean an advanced lady in a serious relationship can just look and pass without acting like a 23yr old that is seeing her crush for the first time...

If it was the OP getting a bit flirty with an admirer, the story will be Men are scum.

Wonders shall never end, in 7 months you only had sex with her twice? She's not a virgin oh. You are a big simp.

Bros take am easy now ehnn. E neva reach like dat

jeromestarks:

I stopped reading when I say these.
There's a reason she's unmarried at 34. There is a reason men avoided her until she clocks 34.
You're a fool to think you've found the one. For this mistake you have done, may you never find peace in your life.

thegroomspa:
Continue...

They had a lot of eye contact, and frankly there was seduction going on underground even when I pretend to be operating on my laptop but was deeply observing things.

On our way out as she was going home I asked her if she likes my guy, immediately she refuted and said no she only likes how he speaks like an American...

I was pained at this point, I dragged her phone and I told her I would gladly give her the contact of my friend so they can connect well...

and she was asking why...as soon as she had gone the whole pictures began playing in my head.

By the time she got to her place of work and she called me I shouted on her and told her never to call my line again that she's a loose girl and I blocked her....

She ran back to my lodge and wanted to see me I was ahome but pretended not to...

Why will you pretend?

Simply tell her you are no longer interested


Every focused man must pay attention to red flags..Over look them and cry later.

Again the age disparity is a concern.. 35 vs 34...Person wey go soon begin tell you reason why she no bleep in few years to come after she don secure one or two kids from you.

Like my friend roz will say, Ashawo dey that lady eye..Only accent o, she don dey dream about the guy..If this her actions are real, she don bleep that your colleague in her head..

Shine ya eye bro..This one fit use you secure Mrs tittle then, piawa gi azu by away match.

Michelle70:
u have not mated kwa? ona be farm animals ni?

Well u could just let her go.

His choice of words is next to hilarious.

Nemesis0147:
Avoid guys or friends that treats other people’s fiancée and girlfriend nicely.

Before Bro goat go chop bro yam..

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

You're actually a simp. Maybe she actually deserves better. That lady possibly had no feeling for that guy, she probably just like him as her boyfriends friend and enjoy his company. If she actually was that engulfed by him she won't be displaying such right in front of you. She would have been discreet and u won't even know. Everything points to the fact that she never meant any harm but you're just an insecured guy who is afraid another dude would win you to your game. What a shame!

Martinez39s:
@thegroomspa

If you know what is good for you, dump her asap. All your friend needs to do to sleep with your girl is to simply show up and meet her in secret. He will scatter and pound her pusśy... and she will enjoy it. If you are faraway in Russia on a one-week trip and your girl meets your friend in one room, you think your girl won't fuçk and ride him? In fact, with the way she has been drooling over him, fuçking him will be the first thought on her mind when you are away.

As for that guy, stop considering him as a friend. A real friend won't flirt with your babe in your presence. A guy that can fùck your babe is not one to keep around.

If you don't dump her, you will regret it; the signs are there, don't ignore it. Don't listen to those telling you that you're insecure or overthinking things. Dump that evening newspaper and shameless hòe.

Laf wan finish me for hear , this white dude beside me thinks am psyco or something .

Basiljoe:

I like how you think, let's be friends in real life?

I would like that too

shege45:
na just time. Dem go still knack behind you

High blood pressure like you

Lol..Mr introducer

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and i have not bleeped her since we met...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever am around her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




Am so pained...

Quit your job?

Inside this economy and the many people that are depending on you... No do am biko

ifihearam:


deal with her how

im already dealing with her as we speak.there are many ways to kill a rat na

Beautiful94:

Lol, why do i find this funny? You want to deal with your wife simply because she is crushing on one actor that she might never get to meet?

if u leave my wife and the mumu guy in one room in less than 20 mins my wife go give her so me go fork my wife up for showing that tendency.i no go gree o

Wow the highest level of insecurity.

They probably knew each other somewhere and might have been communicating in the background.

I would expect that you confront your colleague instead or warn him off, but the coward and insecure that you are would rather destabilise the woman. Smh

You need to work on your insecurity first and foremost, before you start another relationship. Insecurity is unnecessary turbulence and pressure on the innocent other.

I beg you with the whole earth,NEVER try to MARRY that bi*ch.
Don't say we (I) don't tell you.
For the B**tch try knack her like seven hot times and MOVE ON.
Watch well you will see another better spec.

My friend, many of us have gone through this at one point or the other. This mostly happens when a man is still struggling with life, trying to get on his feet. You are going to see some shit but when you are able to stand then, you are taken more seriously. Unfortunately, most women all over the world are like this, no apologies!
I understand you are hurt but I think you could still be a lot more patient. You should grow a lot of toughness from now.

thegroomspa:
Hi friends...

Can't sleep tonight cos of whole lot of thought going on inside of me.

Let me be brief, please permit me.

I was posted to another state on work related matter, there I meet this pretty lady. I am 35 yr she's 34 so we got along her kind behavior and her openess captivated my heart and after 3 months I said to myself I think I have found my missing rib.

Things were looking good, am actually based in one of the state in the north where am being posted from Abuja and what happens is my company sends personel from Lagos to come assist me and the person sent stays for 2month after which another person comes to replace him.

Anytime I have a colleague sent from Lag and my fiancee visit I do introduce her to my colleague as my person to be...two of my colleagues who have seen her before going back to Lagos have told me she will make a good wife.

I love and cherised her so much even when my job doesn't really pay me that much due to the part of the country where I found myself I still try to squeeze the little I have just to make her happy though she's not too demanding...

A month ago, a personel was sent from Lag on hanging out, my fiancee called me on phone I asked her where she was and told her to come see me where I was with my colleague cooling off after a busy day. She came and I introduced her to this guy they exchanged pleasantry but because we were done as at the time she arrived we dashed out immediately.

She returned back home while I and my colleague took a tricycle to our place of rest.

As we got home I noticed the mood of my guy
changed, on trying to know why he said mehnnn I like your woman she's my kind of woman...I laughed it off.

So we have meet at different places together, until the unusual began happening....my girl will call me up and will be asking after my guy on a daily basis.

She did it to a point one day, she called told me I should tell my friend she asked after him that even if she knows I was not going to tell my friend that I should tell him she's greeting him the same way my guy disturbs me about her.

One day she called me while she was at work and am off, asked me if she could bring food for me of course I accepted though she does that occasionally.

As she arrived we sat in company lodge we discussed for sometime...and only God knows how many times she was asking after my guy.

My guy was not around at the same time I wanted to know what happens when my guy returns from the gym...

Before then I took my laptop and was operating while I wanted to see if my instinct is on point. while on the laptop my guy came in, from the gym they both greeted and on the guy teasing her on what to offer her or to take her out my fiancee was so engrossed that she never knew when she told me openly she missed my guy....

You are being naive. You must never mix your family with work colleagues. Unless you have established relationships at work for many years and you know the character of your colleagues very well. Point number 2: never allow any interaction between your colleague who is unmarried with your wife and children. These are common sense things that you should know as an adult. Now, your fiancee is gone. Start looking for another one.

Treasuredgift:
So you are about to quit a serious relationship, not because you caught her cheating, but for fear that she will do so

Dear women, know this and know this for good. Buy AUDACITY. plenty of it. You see a man cheating, you let it slide, but this one right here,is about to dump a woman just because he fears she will cheat. NOT THAT HE CAUGHT HER CHEATING O

Back to the issue @op, go to God first and find out if you are on the right path. First and foremost. Don't lose a good woman because of what your mind is telling you. Some people are very outspoken and generous with admiration. She may be doing it with the clearest of heart.
It may be from the inocence of her heart.

Note: Even married women admire other men too. But if you throw those men close to then, they will happily stay with their husband, but it doesn't stop them from crushing.
THAT IS A FACT. Marriage doesn't end a woman's feeling and admiration for other men, except you the husband wants to deceive your self.
The way some of u married men, see other women and admire them, is the same thing with your wife. Some only look and throway face or control themselves, just to respect you.
If you think I am lying, ask your wives to tell you the honest truth. Some women have even married 20 men in their heart ( that's a discussion for another day)
So if she doesn't go directly cheating with a man, but only commends him IN YOUR PRESENCE, then its almost as nothing. Because we women daydream a lot.
If a woman wants to cheat, she won't leave a clue.....she may even pretend to be his enemy, just to play u.
That is why some women can comfortable date 10 men for ages, with each one thinking they are the only one in her life.

( That lady may not want to cheat on you. I may be wrong or I may be right.)

You may let this one go, and then end up marrying the worst.

The fact that you left the guy out of the equation and decided to see only the lady as the one at fault here, baffles me.

Too much intelligence in one post. Well done

You know the truth. You can never tell a girl is loyal until u bring her in company of other correct guys and she doesn’t Bleep up.
I once had a fiancé. Church girl, she doesn’t give other guys her number. The day a particular Naija guy with American accent met her at work. Like play like play, fiancé started crushing, gave guy her number. Chat every nite.
I scattered the friendship and dumped her sorry ass.

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and i have not bleeped her since we met...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever am around her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




Am so pained...

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

man!! shit happens if u realy love forget about what happened go ahead and marry her don't allow some crazy friend steal ur happiness.
Women are just confused set of people. They always think the one they don't have is better.

ObamaMessi:
Simp I would advise you to knack and knack and knack her again and again and again then dump her sorry arssz in the bin and move on.



Op may thunder fire you for ever thinking of marriage.

Guy i just spilt saliva on my self while bursting out in laughter. You are crazy �� wicked.

thegroomspa:
Hi friends...

Can't sleep tonight cos of whole lot of thought going on inside of me.

Let me be brief, please permit me.

I was posted to another state on work related matter, there I meet this pretty lady. I am 35 yr she's 34 so we got along her kind behavior and her openess captivated my heart and after 3 months I said to myself I think I have found my missing rib.

Things were looking good, am actually based in one of the state in the north where am being posted from Abuja and what happens is my company sends personel from Lagos to come assist me and the person sent stays for 2month after which another person comes to replace him.

Anytime I have a colleague sent from Lag and my fiancee visit I do introduce her to my colleague as my person to be...two of my colleagues who have seen her before going back to Lagos have told me she will make a good wife.

I love and cherised her so much even when my job doesn't really pay me that much due to the part of the country where I found myself I still try to squeeze the little I have just to make her happy though she's not too demanding...

A month ago, a personel was sent from Lag on hanging out, my fiancee called me on phone I asked her where she was and told her to come see me where I was with my colleague cooling off after a busy day. She came and I introduced her to this guy they exchanged pleasantry but because we were done as at the time she arrived we dashed out immediately.

She returned back home while I and my colleague took a tricycle to our place of rest.

As we got home I noticed the mood of my guy
changed, on trying to know why he said mehnnn I like your woman she's my kind of woman...I laughed it off.

So we have meet at different places together, until the unusual began happening....my girl will call me up and will be asking after my guy on a daily basis.

She did it to a point one day, she called told me I should tell my friend she asked after him that even if she knows I was not going to tell my friend that I should tell him she's greeting him the same way my guy disturbs me about her.

One day she called me while she was at work and am off, asked me if she could bring food for me of course I accepted though she does that occasionally.

As she arrived we sat in company lodge we discussed for sometime...and only God knows how many times she was asking after my guy.

My guy was not around at the same time I wanted to know what happens when my guy returns from the gym...

Before then I took my laptop and was operating while I wanted to see if my instinct is on point. while on the laptop my guy came in, from the gym they both greeted and on the guy teasing her on what to offer her or to take her out my fiancee was so engrossed that she never knew when she told me openly she missed my guy....

Bro see I no even read your post finish. At 34yrs she is not married and still want to play games and act like a child, bro dump her fast because is already sleeping with your friend. That the reason she been single, don't waste your precious time wwoth her.

Your friend is also very useless and has no respectfor you,it's time for your friendship to end. He can kill you, I repeat he can kill you

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

there's no subtle way to tell her. Just tell you can continue with her disrespectful behavior and you can't take it anymore that you will like to end things. And please don't fall for sentimental behavior like crying and etc

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I don't bring my guy and my babe together... For no reason....lailai. Female gender are betrayal by nature .. ..never forget garden of Eden when dealing with Dem.

Michelle70:
Chai, wonders have finally ended.

I'll say u acted too quick and insecure, now it will be difficult for her to drop hints again

Exactly. rn, you have no prove!
You cld have pretended and played along until you get a proven fact. Then you don't discharge her ooo but you simply put her in the respective WhatsApp group and continue looking for a real life partner. No dey rush things like that naa boss

I can confirm they've not done anything yet. They're only having a crush on each other buh if you sleep on it, that guy will kn*ck your babe. Shun her deliberately about the guy, block every Access she may have with him, do not allow her visit you when the guys is around, it's either she stops if she regards what you share or breakup if she's not willing to work with you.

You are definitely unsecure and that's what is bringing those thoughts in your head. I think your friend is handsome than you and you think your woman will fall for him. You see relationship is all about trust, if you cant trust your woman there is a big wahala.

riverbird:


Laf wan finish me for hear , this white dude beside me thinks am psyco or something .

Make we dey talk am as we dey see am.

There’s a reason she’s 34 and not married. Could be she gets easily used and dumped by good looking men. There are girls that are just helpless when it comes to handsome men, they must fgck them or they won’t rest

thegroomspa:
Hi friends...

Can't sleep tonight cos of whole lot of thought going on inside of me.

Let me be brief, please permit me.

I was posted to another state on work related matter, there I meet this pretty lady. I am 35 yr she's 34 so we got along her kind behavior and her openess captivated my heart and after 3 months I said to myself I think I have found my missing rib.

Things were looking good, am actually based in one of the state in the north where am being posted from Abuja and what happens is my company sends personel from Lagos to come assist me and the person sent stays for 2month after which another person comes to replace him.

Anytime I have a colleague sent from Lag and my fiancee visit I do introduce her to my colleague as my person to be...two of my colleagues who have seen her before going back to Lagos have told me she will make a good wife.

I love and cherised her so much even when my job doesn't really pay me that much due to the part of the country where I found myself I still try to squeeze the little I have just to make her happy though she's not too demanding...

A month ago, a personel was sent from Lag on hanging out, my fiancee called me on phone I asked her where she was and told her to come see me where I was with my colleague cooling off after a busy day. She came and I introduced her to this guy they exchanged pleasantry but because we were done as at the time she arrived we dashed out immediately.

She returned back home while I and my colleague took a tricycle to our place of rest.

As we got home I noticed the mood of my guy
changed, on trying to know why he said mehnnn I like your woman she's my kind of woman...I laughed it off.

So we have meet at different places together, until the unusual began happening....my girl will call me up and will be asking after my guy on a daily basis.

She did it to a point one day, she called told me I should tell my friend she asked after him that even if she knows I was not going to tell my friend that I should tell him she's greeting him the same way my guy disturbs me about her.

One day she called me while she was at work and am off, asked me if she could bring food for me of course I accepted though she does that occasionally.

As she arrived we sat in company lodge we discussed for sometime...and only God knows how many times she was asking after my guy.

My guy was not around at the same time I wanted to know what happens when my guy returns from the gym...

Before then I took my laptop and was operating while I wanted to see if my instinct is on point. while on the laptop my guy came in, from the gym they both greeted and on the guy teasing her on what to offer her or to take her out my fiancee was so engrossed that she never knew when she told me openly she missed my guy....