I need serious advice. I grew up an only child, raised by a single mum. My dad abandoned us as when I was a kid and few years later he died in an accident. My mum is the most important person in my life and I love and respect her. She is also a very religious woman and raised me so.

I am settled and ready to get married and I have met the woman I am sure is the one for me. My mum has met her once and although she had her reservations she wasn't opposed to it. But yesterday while going through my fiance's whatsapp status(bacause she has her number), she came across the picture below and because of it, she is now opposed to the marriage. According to her, she can't let her only child get married to a girl that wears bum shorts in public. She says "this sort of dressing is from the devil"

I have tried to explain to her that my girl isn't like that and she only wears clothes like that once in a while. My mum is still adamant. She wants me to end our relationship and find a "responsible woman"

I am currently torn between my mum and the woman I have decided to spend the rest of my life with. I am afraid that if I disobey my mother's instructions, it would lead to serious circumstances as she is also my spiritual mother.

I do not know what to do. Look at the picture below. I really don't see anything wrong. I cropped her face to maintain anonymity.

Your mum is right , she doesn’t want you to bring whores into her home.

your father abandoned you according to your mother have you tried your best as a man to hear his own part of story from people that knows the storyline or did you just believe that ur father left you guys just like that! secondly if ur mother is rejecting this girl which is ur choice of girl just because of this photo then you owe ur late father ab apology for believing the shit ur mother said to you about him .if care is notajen it might be NDI IMO STATE!


IF THAT GIRL IS UR CHOICE GO AHEAD AND MARRY HER BUT TRY AND DO MORE FINDINGS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED BTW UR FATHER AND UR MOM IT WILL HELP YOU SOMUCH IN LIFE ABD ALSO IN DECISION MAKING THANKS 🙏



RIP TO HIM!

peepydelano:
Your mum is right , she doesn’t want you to bring whores into her home.

Watch your words please. Don't use that word to describe my girl.

Evergreen12345:
your father abandoned you according to your mother have you tried your best as a man to hear his own part of story from people that knows the storyline or did you just believe that ur father left you guys just like that! secondly if ur mother is rejecting this girl which is ur choice of girl just because of this photo then you owe ur late father ab apology for believing the shit ur mother said to you about him .if care is notajen it might be NDI IMO STATE!


IF THAT GIRL US UR CHOICE GO AHEAD ABD MARRY HER BUT TRY AND DO MORE FINDINGS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED BTW UR FATHER AND UR MOM IT WILL HELP YOU SOMUCH IN LIFE ABD ALSO IN DECISION MAKING THANKS 🙏



RIP TO HIM!

Wetin concern ndi IMO state and the post

Unknown Gunmen

Your mother saw more than the bum short, she is only using it as an excuse. Listen to the advice of your mother, she can never go wrong on this one because she is of the same gender. It's true that the world is changing but a Nigerian girl that wears that bum short comfortably in public is likely a coded runsgirl. If she is not, a good offer hasn't come her way yet. If you think your mother is wrong, pay a private investigator to follow your girlfriend for just one week to prove her wrong.

Zikonna:
I need serious advice. I grew up an only child, raised by a single mum. My dad abandoned us as when I was a kid and few years later he died in an accident. My mum is the most important person in my life and I love and respect her. She is also a very religious woman and raised me so.

I am settled and ready to get married and I have met the woman I am sure is the one for me. My mum has met her once and although she had her reservations she wasn't opposed to it. But yesterday while going through my fiance's whatsapp status(bacause she has her number), she came across the picture below and because of it, she is now opposed to the marriage. According to her, she can't let her only child get married to a girl that wears bum shorts in public. She says "this sort of dressing is from the devil"

I have tried to explain to her that my girl isn't like that and she only wears clothes like that once in a while. My mum is still adamant. She wants me to end our relationship and find a "responsible woman"

I am currently torn between my mum and the woman I have decided to spend the rest of my life with. I am afraid that if I disobey my mother's instructions, it would lead to serious circumstances as she is also my spiritual mother.

I do not know what to do. Look at the picture below. I really don't see anything wrong. I cropped her face to maintain anonymity.

You get eye sha. I can't tell you what to do.

Thank Goodness I wasn't raised by religious parents.

Anyways, the only advice I can give you is that you should follow your heart.

Marry who you love and not who your mother loves because you may end up being unhappy for the rest of your life in the name of making mama happy.

I'm sure your grandparents also warned her about your father, but she still chose to be with him.

She will be upset at first, but she'll eventually come around because she's your mother and she loves you, but if you want to break up with the love of your life because of mama, then the ball is in your court... Good luck.

Zikonna:


Watch your words please. Don't use that word to describe my girl.

Hhmmmmmm.. You wan beat him !

The only thing I know for sure is that anyone who listens and believes what their mother says 100% will always be held back in life.

When you always do what they say without once taking a stand and going by it, then it becomes a problem.

Ps: this applies to both gender.

Op, your mother being your spiritual mother doesn't sit well with me. As a child/adult, your parent already has that "control" over you. Add spiritual to it, and one can only preconceive what anyone in that position can do. Not that I'm saying you are easily brainwashed this way, but then again, Nigerians are too spiritual and heed more to their spiritual leaders than their own conscience.

At the end of the day, it's not even about your fiancée or her dressing, it's about your mother's approval both ways. So, let the lady go and wait for the woman your spiritual advisor will guide you to. Good luck.

Zikonna:


Watch your words please. Don't use that word to describe my girl.

You brought this insult upon yourself, so enjoy the insult my dear! Yeye boyfriend!!

You need to grow up, you're not a man. Why would you allow your mother dictate for you? ..

Biko, answer my following questions:

Is your girlfriend disrespecting you?

Is she wasteful or lazy?

Is she cheating on you?

Is she neglecting her duties as a wife to be?

So why is you and your mother creating problem were there is none?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with her dressing. Most times I dress like that to salon, market, restaurants, bank and malls.

Biko, don't allow your mother to use her hand to destroy the beautiful relationship you have your girlfriend oo!

Zikonna:


Watch your words please. Don't use that word to describe my girl.

Let me take a wild guess...i hope she doesnt use ankle chain too? Cos the two are like 5 and 6 with babes these days


A girl that wear something close to pant in public place can be a "fantastic wife" ....but ur mama understands a thing or two about risk assessment...

Your mum is sure going to try everything to prove herself right that "this sort of dressing is from the devil", so marrying her will be you choosing between mum and "girl that wears bum shorts in public".

Problem with only male child and only mother is child becomes substitute husband, and him marrying is like husband taking on a second wife. Sometimes, the wives become friends, but often, first wife makes life hell for second wife which is "serious circumstances" for husband.

You are about to share the "important person in my life and I love and respect", or at least divide it between first and second wife. Are you mature enough for this, is a question you need ask.

If you have truly found the "woman I have decided to spend the rest of my life with", and if you and "girl that wears bum shorts in public" are mature enough, you'd table this with her and plan a course of future action on how to deal with your mother together, though I do not advise it if you or "fiance" lack the maturity as it might have the opposite effect of fiance disliking your mother who will do everything to be disliked since religious mum can't like devil. If not, I suggest you remain married to your first wife until she finds you a second wife she likes.

That said, do consider cutting the umbilical cord and grow balls!

Sometimes what an elder sees while lying down an infant can't see while climbing an Iroko tree, nd sometimes God can direct us thro other pple's voices but in cases like this seek God's face b4 taking any decision

JealousCobra:



Hhmmmmmm.. You wan beat him !

No dey murder pidgin english abeg....

Your mum that carried you from -9 months till you were able to fend for yourself. The person who could not sleep on those cold nights you were down. What has she done to deserve this distrust?

Personally, once my parents rejects my relationship with any lady, c'est fini. Whether she be Agbani Darego or Bill gates daughter, she dey waka.

Different day, different stories.

This kain shokoto in a very public place sef, na wa. When no be beach she dey.

Our Nigerian society is not yet ripe for this kind of 'liberal' dressing.

OP, I can't tell you what to do. Use your tongue to count your teeth

peepydelano:
Your mum is right , she doesn’t want you to bring whores into her home.

Are you this daft?

Zikonna:


Watch your words please. Don't use that word to describe my girl.

That big bwess dey enter ya eyes and you're affraid of losing her with her big bwess to another man.

Bwess is about to lead a simp to destruction.
Continue...

I know those boobz are deceiving you but know that a married woman isn't supposed to be wear bumshot in the street.

Just tell her to apologise to the mum and assure her that she won't be wearing it outside

Forget the argument whether she is right or wrong

Nonexisting1:
Your mother saw more than the bum short, she is only using it as an excuse. Listen to the advice of your mother, she can never go wrong on this one because she is of the same gender. It's true that the world is changing but a Nigerian girl that wears that bum short comfortably in public is likely a coded runsgirl. If she is not, a good offer hasn't come her way yet. If you think your mother is wrong, pay a private investigator to follow your girlfriend for just one week to prove her wrong.

What is that she saw on this photo? Mugu

Omoh you dea enjoy oo..
The the kind food you dea wack on a steady

Zikonna:


Watch your words please. Don't use that word to describe my girl.

You never see anything ....na u carry your matter come Nairaland where werey full everywhere....

Lol, bro follow your mum, she is right. She doesn't want you to bring a farm implement home o. a word is enough for the wise.

Listen to your mum, she's trying to save her only child from doom.
Bumshort in public, exposing your dirty chicken pox killed lap (how pathetic)

Your mum is very correct here. If you insist on marrying her then be ready for whatever she dish you.

Don't wife a public material

My babe can't wear this rubbish in oublic though. These are the kinds of pants women wear indoors Nah.

Your bae is dressed like a Prostitute, why are u expecting ur mum to not see her as a coded runs girl...? If you don't listen to ur mother u will suffer the consequences in Life.