Adexgentle005:
How is marriage more than responsibilities? Go broke and watch how your wife disrespect you and call you all kind of names. Then you will know marriage is not more than responsibilities.

If you and your wife are matured, been broke isn't the end of the world. Those who complain of disrespect in most cases are those who earned their respect with money.

There is more to marriage than responsibilities.

Adexgentle005:
How is marriage more than responsibilities? Go broke and watch how your wife disrespect you and call you all kind of names. Then you will know marriage is not more than responsibilities.

Don't mind him Jare.. Marriage means taking care of other human beings. Period.

Acidosis:


Yes, definitely. I'm definitely not comparing him or his spending pattern with anyone... But really, 100k in 2 months is 50k in one month.

50k will never be too much for a married anywhere in the current day Nigeria. Okada men spend more. The key word there is "current day Nigeria." By the time you buy cooking gas, pay bills (electricity, waste, security, and data), you're already going over 30k in one month so I'm wondering how he feeds his family.

I was shocked to see the 100k but I restrained myself because fingers are not equal. I am not sure I can do 50k in a month _less than $100. Maybe that is why I am a gold-digger. I wouldn’t like my husband to create thread over 50k a month. 😩

Kobojunkiee:
1. Stop chasing after the majority and find for yourself a woman willing to share with you in marriage. It is that simple.

2. God already informed you long ago that your marriages are of this world of men and not of the Kingdom of God. Stop dragging His name into wetin no concern Him.

Marriage you say is of the world of men? And God created Adam and Eve and made them to be together…..

At this point, I’ve clearly seen what others have seen In you. E no worth am, run along……

Adexgentle005:
minus gas money, inlaw money, nepa bills, security, and other unforeseen bills in that same month? Dey play

You be Heebo ?

Which one be in-law money again ?

Even at that , its not an extravagant spend in this FCK up economy.

Even if you are single you go still buy gas , pay NEPA bills and all.

As a bachelor I had no respect for money or its value but when I got married every cent counts but that doesn't mean I will deny my family good things .

Up your game because every one out there is doing same.

If you are not investing that money then spend it as you make it because everyday it loses value.

Gerrard59:


That is actually more expensive than having children inside a marriage. Also, no responsible family will hand you their daughter in such an arrangement. None whatsoever. Baby-mamaism is expensive.

Are you saying baby-mamaism is more expensive than marriage?

Please add BILLSESSESSSSSSSS

SimpleGuy001:
■ Marriage you say is of the world of men? And God created Adam and Eve and made them to be together….. At this point, I’ve clearly seen what others have seen In you. E no worth am, run along……

Genesis 3 vs 16 and Luke 20 vs 34 - 36.

Akalia:
If na only 100k you spent in 2 months then your expenditure isn't high.

Bro I blow like over 200k every month as a family man. It's a huge responsibility and I am glad shouldering it by God's grace.


I think what we married men need to is to support our wives to start a business or get a job so that they too can contribute. After all the Bible calls a man's wife a help mate. Abi no be so?

His income is not high. That is the issue. However, when the income increases, his expenses will also increase.

JASONjnr:
Marriage is more than responsibilities...


Marriage is far from how you view and understand it.

Responsibilities is just a task. Marriage is a command from God.


I didn't understand marriage untill I planted a tomato at the backyard and I was always going every morning to observe and check for changes an watering it.

My friend thought it was all about watering it. But in real sense, it used to bring joy to me seeing that I was able to grow something and it was wonderful...

Need I say that I was stocking alot of it on the fridge and dashed some out? Later I also included pepper to the family and with eggs at home, I was always sure of a good breakfast....

The beautiful seeds the produced.



Like I said earlier....

Marriage isn't a responsibility.... If you're poor and stingy, you'll always have this mentality.

If you're not, you will enjoy its beauty!

Wetin this one dey talk?

You are right about being about responsibilities and may be you also married a liability as a wife.

Adexgentle005:
That’s just the fact! When I was a bachelor, I know how much I spend and save every month. Fast forward to when I got married, it’s all about bills, bills and bills.

I just checked my OPay transaction history and I couldn’t believe how much I’ve spent in just two months.

This thing called marriage is just responsibility and nothing more. If you are not financially stable or you have other side hustle that bring extra money,please don’t get married.

My 2 cents!

thunderbabs:


Bros, marriage no be like your tomatoes ooo. Shey village people dey haunt tomatoes, abi dey know Emiefele And the cashless policy, abi tomato younger sister dey call for financial help from tomato husband. Abeggiiii

I wasn't relating real life to tomato.... But I was only putting you through other things involved when you raise a family other than circling your thoughts to the financial aspect of it.

Get you a working and industrial lady and you will never regret it ...


A friend of mine, a graduate married a graduate. His wife was selling food stuffs at the market, dude resigned and help her at the market... There's enough sell... His wife sponsored her younger brother through university and also built a house for both of them.

If you plan your home, you will resp it plentifully...

pocohantas:


I was shocked to see the 100k but I restrained myself because fingers are not equal. I am not sure I can do 50k in a month _less than $100. Maybe that is why I am a gold-digger. I wouldn’t like my husband to create thread over 50k a month. 😩

You can never do 50k a month. Never! How much is your salary again? Anyways, I ain’t complaining. Just don’t get married if you are not financially stable. That’s it!

Wrw1r2:
:

payment after winning?

Gerrard59:


His income is not high. That is the issue. However, when the income increases, his expenses will also increase.

I make 200k a month!

Treassured:


True.

But some well Informed Yoruba Men too are Joining the Train now.

Poverty Is not an Option for people who knows what they are doing!!!!

Owing to the fact that I would want to give my kids the best life is one reason not to get married without being financially stable.

Adexgentle005:
You didn’t see when someone was complaining about dating high class women bah? No matter the kind of money women make, it won’t really change anything in marriage. Know this and know peace!

I strongly disagree with the bolded. Not all of them.

GboyegaD:


If you and your wife are matured, been broke isn't the end of the world. Those who complain of disrespect in most cases are those who earned their respect with money.

There is more to marriage than responsibilities.

Tell me what’s more again than responsibilities?

Treassured:


I strongly disagree with the bolded. Not all of them.

majority of them!

LARRYOBRAIN:
You are right about being about responsibilities and may be you also married a liability as a wife.

I swear, I've been trying to clear this notion....

Marrying a woman that's lazy and feels her money is hers while yours is for the home.

Had a girl whom I told I wasn't interested in her money but she was very interested in how I spend my money.

She would send money to her mother monthly but will always come to my house to get money for upkeep and feeding.

Couldn't continue with her... Such a liability.... Who paid tfare for us to the market while I got her a nice dress but babe was very blunt to ask me for the transport money when we got home.

Adexgentle005:
You can never do 50k a month. Never! How much is your salary again? Anyways, I ain’t complaining. Just don’t get married if you are not financially stable. That’s it!

Omo, don’t ask me how much is my salary o. If I tell you, you will say I am lying. At the point when my salary couldn’t carry my responsibilities, I looked for more income. It is common sense not to marry without financially stability. You only think you said something new because you are a man. If a woman said this same thing, NL would be burning.

I don’t complain over my first level recurring expenses, never. It is my responsibility and I shoulder it with my full chest. This thread can’t be by me. My loved ones are worth every single penny I spend on them. This is why I implore women to have jobs and contribute. Wetin be 50k? Toor!

Adexgentle005:
Are you saying baby-mamaism is more expensive than marriage?

Yes. For instance, you will spend extra if the child is taken care by another person instead of the mother (your wife in question). For proper upbringing, the mother is needed to be present. You cannot dictate or have a say where a baby-mama should be in her kid's life. The expense goes beyond money.

Bruno3000:
Stop lying oga. God never commanded everyone to go get married

Never said god commanded everyone to go and get married...

I said it's God's command for those who wish to get married...

Try deh read more often, your brain is blocked with too much of gambling...

Prometheus666:
Marriage is how men become gods. If your wife is not beautiful, I can imagine it will be like living in inescapable bondage, but if you waited, got the financials figured out then pick a beautiful cherry, then you'd be proud of beautiful human beings around you.

Marriage is not for everyone, if you don't figure out the financials, please stay off marriage. Marriage no be your mate. Get a baby mama

pple dey discuss serious money issue for marriage u dey talk of beautiful cherry bla....shey after d wife don fine finish money go come out of her beauty abi

Kobojunkiee:
Genesis 3 vs 16 and Luke 20 vs 34 - 36.

When you always try to use human sense and intelligence to look through the things of God you will be interpreting “nonsense”.

Don’t read the Bible the way you read history books or novels.

pocohantas:


I was shocked to see the 100k but I restrained myself because fingers are not equal. I am not sure I can do 50k in a month _less than $100. Maybe that is why I am a gold-digger. I wouldn’t like my husband to create thread over 50k a month. 😩

You like wahala

jaxxy:


u dated a liability and still went ahead to marry a liability and now u come here to complain??

Do u think everybody will marry a liability with their eyes open? Why would u marry sm1 who can't pay her bills or support u when u need it?

Marriage is not about responsibilities or paying bills that is Bondage not Marriage.

God says a wife is a helpmate if u go and marry a stress mate that's ur cup of tea.

In marriage even if tough times come u both handle it together that no1 feels discouraged. Marriage should add value to u bt we marry the wrong people or have the wrong mindset.

also how u plan ur marriage affects ur future and success even if u marry the right person.

NB: If u date a girl that makes u carry all the whole responsibility or complains too much about money issues while all she brings is pussy or beauty that fades u better run now.

my brother I ain’t complaining about anything. I’m just saying there’s nothing special about marriage. And don’t get married if you are not financially stable. That’s all

Marriage comes with a responsibility despite been a command in a path of fulfilment. You will not notice the numerous bills you have to pay if the economy is stable but frustrating if it is unstable. As a responsible man who live upto his responsibilities makes it even more fulfilling. The joy of nurturing your kids and leaders of tomorrow makes it a greater fulfilment and enjoyable if you had a good wife o!!!

seanwilliam:
God bless you . This shows that you’re a responsible man
Not all men are lucky to have women that ‘support’ financially, even if she does, you should not rely on that 100% .
Hmm. . But ehn 100k in two months as a married man is very fair o.


It’s far more easier to save as a single man.

How? When you’re single, you only spend what you want , you can ignore billings you’re not comfortable with , no one can compel u except you’re generous or a simp. infact you can decide to be extremely thrifty , and it’s more easier to adjust and adapt to any situation. You can decide to suspend morning and afternoon food, you can decide not to sub to cable, you can decide to even sleep if you have little change in your account. It’s easier to take risk and you’re open to different opportunities.

But when you’re married, it’s impossible to do all that. No matter how wicked you are , you can’t watch your own wife and kids go hungry , 90% of time , you’ll have to consider your family before taking any decisions.
Except you’re financial buoyant , you can’t just buy any cloths, shoes, for yourself. You can’t go to expensive restaurant without thinking about what to give your family the next day .


If you have money in your acct, you’ll still be scared , 70% of time you’ll be experiencing heart palpitations, you’ll not want them to lack.

Technically as a man, when you marry, you’ve given up your freedom and comfort for others.









That’s why , a man needs to be smart and ‘prayerful’ while choosing life partner , not all women worth these sacrifices.

My advice to every young man who is lucky to stumble upon this thread. Print this post, make copies and enlarge one. Don’t forget to laminate one too.
Keep them where you will see and read them every day.

Vinnie2000:


I can see You are speaking from ur PERSONAL perspective. 😒

But Generally Speaking, Married Guys/Men without strong Financial (Esp in Nigeria) are NOT happy@All.
All their little earned Income, goes into Family Upkeep/BILLS. :
No Savings/Financial Plans for the Next 5 or 10years!

This is the Point of the OP. 🤨

One of my neighbor work from Monday to Sunday(after church). The man is just working to meet up with family bills and not for saving at all.

pocohantas:


I was shocked to see the 100k but I restrained myself because fingers are not equal. I am not sure I can do 50k in a month _less than $100. Maybe that is why I am a gold-digger. I wouldn’t like my husband to create thread over 50k a month. 😩

See this gold-digger that depends on man to feed her too is talking. You are only looking for well to do man to milk. Tueh!