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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Rinoxy: 10:38pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy:Make dem use logic drive ur mama comot for ur house now! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Munzy14(m): 10:38pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Neweramify:Marriage is between a man and his wife. Anyone coming to equity, must come with clean hands. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by obynokoko: 10:40pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Bro know that many women are very selfish and you need to teach her a lesson else next time she will even do worst. Reject her mum vehemently the way she rejected your own mum Let her learn a lesson from that. I want to advise you since you now know that you married a wicked and unreasonable wife you better gear up to the challenge else one day she will send you packing from your own house.please note that whatever power your wife has,you are the one that gave her that power.be firm and assertive |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Yarimoooh: 10:40pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
This isn't about vengeance but keeping up with standard and laid down principles which shouldn't be broken irrespective of whom and circumstances. She should kindly pay someone to do the needful coz what's good for the geese, is good for the ganders. Your mom ain't coming back to make amends so let the trend roll 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by vanvickie(m): 10:41pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: Na where una dey see all these women marry self You really need to make ur authority known and felt in that house, not saying you should be cruel though..... |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Sunrise258: 10:41pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
If you let her mother come to your house for one day, then you're a bastard! Tell her point black her mother is not welcome and marriage is btw a man and a woman. Period. If she put up a fight, send her away for a week, body go tell her. Remember, your wife's hostility towards your mom cut short her life. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by clockwisereport: 10:41pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
EriMma1: No be when e affect my parents. I no dey carry those people play |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Zupay: 10:41pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Peppysco: I will prefer to end my first marriage before marrying another woman. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by BlessingTee23: 10:42pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
This is not to control your home but since she couldn't accommodate your mum while she was alive then her mum too should be kept in another home. You are the man of the house and you have authority over everything in the home except you do not have authority in your home. You should asked her if she was in your mum's shoes and her son's wife rejected her,how will she feel? Women are callous and selfish until it concerns their flesh and blood, then they'll know the right thing to do. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by SenatePresdo(m): 10:42pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ojun50: The man sent his own mother away for peace to reign, I think the wife should also not allow her mother to come so that peace will reign. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 10:42pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Mrbllymer:ah I see we are operating with the outdated assumption that he’s the sole provider. Do you people not live in the real world where men and women are present in the workforce in almost 50:50 ratios?
Again with the financial assumptions. Ask the OP if his wife is financially dependent on him. This argument fails every time because most of you have never and will never be sole providers 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by emmybobo1: 10:42pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo:I hate weak men like you. You allow your own mother to die of loneliness. One of my brothers who was doing well when my mother was still alive couldn’t allow her to with him because of a fiancée ( wife now). Anytime I see that lady I feel so angry. She can never be accepted in my heart . I pray God mends my heart though |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 10:42pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy: On the contrary, you are being emotional and sentimental cos a woman is involved, and those guys u quoted are being logical. Why and how did you arrive at the conclusion that the op's wife will be the one to cater and nurse his mum. Did the op said anything like that. Remember he paid someone to look after his mum in a different house. Does that not tell you that he is buoyant enough to employ a caregiver for his mom in his house Why did you cook up an assumption that will favour the op's wife. Why. Yet you accuse logically reasoning people of being emotional when you are actually the one guilty of it. Why do u women do this. Can u tell me? |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 10:43pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Rinoxy:Forget that one. She no dey everly get sense once the matter involve woman. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 10:43pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Rinoxy: That’s why you should prepare now and learn how to care for your own parents instead of hoping that one day you’ll marry someone who will do it for you. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 10:44pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Justbehave: I hope you’re putting your ducks in a row. Learning how to care for your mom and dad instead of hoping that after insulting women on the internet, you’ll then marry one and expect them to do it for you 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 10:45pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Samantha124: And yet u are the one ranting. No clear logic, no deductions, no facts, just rallying around this thread and ranting about. Kid steer clear |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by JASONjnr(m): 10:47pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
If you ozalogbo would be too stupid to let her mother to come and stay at your house... Your late mother will never forgive you and I pray that she will stop watching over you. A retired teacher is a honorary person to be hostile to. A woman who made you and your siblings who you are. Do you think your mother deserves what she got from you all because of the wife you married? God, I will divorce any woman that will be hostile to my mother! My mother is too quiet and peaceful for anyone to ride on her! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 10:47pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Samantha124: Why didn't u answer my question. Why did u switch to accusations of being emotional since you have no other tactics |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by poppy83(m): 10:48pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Brother, discuss with your wife and let us know her opinion pls ozalogbo: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Amumaigwe: 10:48pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Mom007: So you ladies are wired for wickedness. What right do you then have to demand kindness? |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by djon78(m): 10:48pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
CSTRR: You can't say it better Weak men have enabled the epidemic we have today And many children are being damaged by these weak men Thank God for the father that raised me He suffered no weak man gladly |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 10:50pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
shantti:I get it. They are men and I’m a woman. So obviously. Biologically they are logical and I’m emotional Just as biologically I’m supposed to meet your mom today and develop the same level of love for her that I have for my mom who sacrificed all her life for me. Very logical I said that’s USUALLY the expectation. Not my personal conclusion. Comprehension is key. OP should feel free to correct that if it doesn’t apply in his case. But based on stats, women are the ones expected to do the caregiving. It’s based on facts. So tell me where my emotion is coming from. 🤨 he paid for someone after his wife said no. Your point? Why did you cook up an assumption that will favour the op's wife. Why. Yet you accuse logically reasoning people of being emotional when you are actually the one guilty of it. Why do u women do this. Can u tell me? Start by telling me why some of you don’t reason past the f behind a moniker? The moment you see f, that means the person is being emotional and all the Ms are being logical. If you know anything about logic you will know that it’s not gender based. But you don’t. You assign logic by gender. Literally defeating the meaning of it 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by SenatePresdo(m): 10:50pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ojun50: You sent a woman that carried you for 9 months away from your house, because your wife didn't want her around? You didn't do that because you want peace, you did that because you are weak, and you never loved your mother as much as you should. I'm the last child to my mum, I'm too close to her, and I love her to death. I don't think I won't slap my wife if she nurtures that thoughts, let alone making it obvious. Now, it's her own turn to bring her mother, and you have the guts to even bring it on Nairaland, meaning that you are confused on what to do? So your wife can have her way and bring her mother, but you can't? If you allow your mother in-law to come and live with you, that means you cheated on your own mother. Her spirit will frown at you. And if I were her, I will never forgive you if you accept your mother in-law. Bro I hate you, no need. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 10:50pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy:You keep disgracing yourself everytime you comment here thinking you re being woke.You can never call a spade a spade. Always trying to blame men even when it's clear that the ops wife is at fault. I don't need all you manipulative bitches to come take care of my parents. Care givers are doing it already. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Amumaigwe: 10:51pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy: Why can't she stay with those 3 older siblings since the OP's wife marriage is strictly between a man and his wife? |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Advocate1810(m): 10:53pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 10:53pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Op abeg answer this question cos some women here want to the form logic. Are you the provider of your home? |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by XTHRONE(m): 10:53pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy: Lol, is all logic girl, what is good for the goose , is also good for the gander. The man is weak and a simp for allowing a woman dictate in the affairs of his Mom, such nonsense can't happen around me, na she go dey beg me to invite my Mom. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by emmanuelbrown26: 10:53pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Neweramify:If u don't hv any other suggestion, that means dis particular one is non and void |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 10:54pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Justbehave: Why can’t you do it? Why caregivers? Are you hands broken? Are you too slow to learn how to do it? What’s the barrier that’s stopping you from doing it? That’s literally the point I’m making. Y’all think the job of caring for your loved ones are beneath you. I’m actually embarrassed for you. You’ll do anything to get out of being responsible loving children to your parents. Some of you marry so you can have wives that will care for your parents. When that’s not available you use caregivers if you can afford it. Because of the assumption that as men you’re too good for it. Imagine having kids like that. Poor old parents 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by akinbodma(m): 10:54pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
frozen70: Best advice Welcome her mom, while you also switch character after 2/3 days of her arrival Let her use her imagination So she can remember it’s a man and woman like she also said before |
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