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Samantha124:
If you get into a relationship with her without understanding how demanding her job is, you'd probably end up being the lonely one...

Because that hospital can just call her in the middle of the night while you're on top of her and ask her to quickly come to the hospital...

Calitoscassius:
I have never experienced any of these, maybe co's i was born and bred in London E17.


Op, go to pubs, nighclubs, attend colleagues birthday paties, try wetherspoon pubs, yes it can be lonely in the UK sometimes for people who came to live here. Even the people who were born here experience so much loneliness that is why most drink alchohol daily or smokes something. Some work allday and night just to overcome loneliness, some have kids so as to overcome loneliness, Op if you want to have kids to overcome loneliness i will be happy to hook up with you. I am not looking for relationship but i am desparate to have a chilld or children.. i have met many nigerians doctors, psysiotherapists and nurses here in England they appear to be lonely too, even when i invite them to the pub for drinks they don't turn up., one IGBO man a doctor from Enugu i met in Tescos i gave him my number but everytime i call him he is talking about cooking soup or making garri or working i even wanted to introduce him to one of my white woman colleague from work but he couldn't even be bothered to turn up, he keep saying that he will bring his former girlfriend from nigeria, even his former nigerian girlfriend seems to have moved on, i was like guy women plenty here in our island here, why would you wanna bring a girlfriend from Enugu? He is always on watsaap with his Enugu friends, i said to him mate! Forget dem people and start blending in with people over here, start making new friends even in his work, start forking your doctor friends. Problem also is, he doesn't drink alcohol, more than half of Brits goes to the PUB, Pubs are part of British culture.



He didn't even understand the terms of his 2 years work visa, when he told me he might move to london, his visa is tied to his NHS work on our island he cannot just leave, he even said he might move to America from here, i was like yea! Right! How are you gonna do that with your 2 years UK work visa tied to your NHS job? He complains that the hospital where he works are making him work too hard it feels like slavery. I said to him, well... that is what your visa says, "work visa" so work!!

He tells me he went to church to look for other nigerians, (me i am not religious, i don't believe in God) i even organised white girls for him but he is afraid to fork them saying it is a sin . eventually i deleted his number.


One other nigerian woman i know was so lonely one day i visited her in her room, without notice she just took her cloths off and said Kings would you like to fork me? i was like come on! She has already told her landlord and flat mates that i am her cousin, i cannot fork her now.

There are so many women or men to choose from over here, if you want to be noticed you must put yourself out and be ready for lots of relationships disappointments. No body dey look anybody face, people will not come in your room or house to make friends with you, you have to invite them to come and be ready to be invited too, smile, don't carry your problems on ya head and minds always white people have their own problem which are even more than yours

Don't look forward to christmas day co's christmas day is spent indoors in freezing cold winter with families eating, drinking and watching TV shops are not open, no transportation, everything is shut on christmas day.

Op, i mean it, you and I can hook up and make babies even though i have few children already. Just email me, Good luck.

Omoawoke:
Loneliness will kill all Nigerian girls in Canada , Uk and US

Insha allah

I remember when I first got to UK, no Nigerian girl looked at my face because I was a student. They didn’t give a shittt about me. The female friends I had weren’t Nigerians, not a single one. They were chasing guys already settled and those ones using them to play wayo

I moved to the US and same thing happened, when I finally finished school and became settled, they came like flies everywhere.

Girls should learn one thing, that single guy that you see still trying to get life settled, working hard to make progress will eventually become successful.
The guys in their 40s that you are clinging to went through same phase. Unfortunately many of them aren’t available anymore. They have been taken.
If you want to make it work, find a responsible guy that truly care about you and work together with him to make progress. Work together as a family, not every time you will meet ready made products

FreedomArmy:
She is not serious. Find a guy from Nigeria and hook up and get married again

TemplarLandry:
Go back to Nigeria then.

chenny360:
Honestly I feel your pains reading all of these.. but, that's how it is over there.. nobody give a Bleep about anyone..
But try to attends all this naija afrobeat show once in a while. Lotta Nigerians are over there in UK.
Most importantly, lower yourself.

JC2021:
Say what you know pls. I will choose one Nicki Minaj over 10 Margot Robbie. And I'm sure many blacks would do likewise.

That guy must be high on cheap skunk to think I will pick Margot over Rihanna or Beyonce….

Even Margot won’t pick herself over them

TemplarLandry:
Go back to Nigeria then.

Adesina18111:
Cry me a Rwaiver...you know your way to Nigeria...SEBI all of you na werey...na the same loneliness story all of you dey tell us yet none of you ever come back to Nigeria...you are welcome when you are ready to come back

Omoawoke:
Loneliness will kill all Nigerian girls in Canada , Uk and US

Insha allah

I remember when I first got to UK, no Nigerian girl looked at my face because I was a student. They didn’t give a shittt about me. The female friends I had weren’t Nigerians, not a single one. They were chasing guys already settled and those ones using them to play wayo

I moved to the US and same thing happened, when I finally finished school and became settled, they came like flies everywhere.

Girls should learn one thing, that single guy that you see still trying to get life settled, working hard to make progress will eventually become successful.
The guys in their 40s that you are clinging to went through same phase. Unfortunately many of them aren’t available anymore. They have been taken.
If you want to make it work, find a responsible guy that truly care about you and work together with him to make progress. Work together as a family, not every time you will meet ready made products

mailemy:
My bro,the situation is like a cult. Once you enter,it will be difficult to return to Nigeria to base irrespective of the situation over there. Who no go,no go understand.

Calitoscassius:
I have never experienced any of these, maybe co's i was born and bred in London E17.


Op, go to pubs, nighclubs, attend colleagues birthday paties, try wetherspoon pubs, yes it can be lonely in the UK sometimes for people who came to live here. Even the people who were born here experience so much loneliness that is why most drink alchohol daily or smokes something. Some work allday and night just to overcome loneliness, some have kids so as to overcome loneliness, Op if you want to have kids to overcome loneliness i will be happy to hook up with you. I am not looking for relationship but i am desparate to have a chilld or children.. i have met many nigerians doctors, psysiotherapists and nurses here in England they appear to be lonely too, even when i invite them to the pub for drinks they don't turn up., one IGBO man a doctor from Enugu i met in Tescos i gave him my number but everytime i call him he is talking about cooking soup or making garri or working i even wanted to introduce him to one of my white woman colleague from work but he couldn't even be bothered to turn up, he keep saying that he will bring his former girlfriend from nigeria, even his former nigerian girlfriend seems to have moved on, i was like guy women plenty here in our island here, why would you wanna bring a girlfriend from Enugu? He is always on watsaap with his Enugu friends, i said to him mate! Forget dem people and start blending in with people over here, start making new friends even in his work, start forking your doctor friends. Problem also is, he doesn't drink alcohol, more than half of Brits goes to the PUB, Pubs are part of British culture.



He didn't even understand the terms of his 2 years work visa, when he told me he might move to london, his visa is tied to his NHS work on our island he cannot just leave, he even said he might move to America from here, i was like yea! Right! How are you gonna do that with your 2 years UK work visa tied to your NHS job? He complains that the hospital where he works are making him work too hard it feels like slavery. I said to him, well... that is what your visa says, "work visa" so work!!

He tells me he went to church to look for other nigerians, (me i am not religious, i don't believe in God) i even organised white girls for him but he is afraid to fork them saying it is a sin . eventually i deleted his number.


One other nigerian woman i know was so lonely one day i visited her in her room, without notice she just took her cloths off and said Kings would you like to fork me? i was like come on! She has already told her landlord and flat mates that i am her cousin, i cannot fork her now.

There are so many women or men to choose from over here, if you want to be noticed you must put yourself out and be ready for lots of relationships disappointments. No body dey look anybody face, people will not come in your room or house to make friends with you, you have to invite them to come and be ready to be invited too, smile, don't carry your problems on ya head and minds always white people have their own problem which are even more than yours

Don't look forward to christmas day co's christmas day is spent indoors in freezing cold winter with families eating, drinking and watching TV shops are not open, no transportation, everything is shut on christmas day.

Op, i mean it, you and I can hook up and make babies even though i have few children already. Just email me, Good luck.

CuriousStudent:
Schadenfreude at work.
This is the malice and ill-will you wish women all but for rejecting struggling guys. Why?

Women are getting rejected by the day but they don't wish evil on men. 35+ women, whom men rarely look their way or unattractive women and the rest nko,do they become so hateful and vengeful?

Women are getting used for sex and dumped afterwards,did heaven fall? If women start recounting the heartaches they collect from men that failed them,you may understand that all is fair and many of us will endure one rejection or the other . Such is life.

Those struggling guys in the aforementioned countries that approach naija girls,were almost 80% not just interested in sex only? How about your brothers that get women with papers pregnant then flee away when they have gotten papers? Many mulattos are born this way and you know it.

Wish others well and well will come to you

Omoawoke:
You have a point, same as I have one too..
The dating world has become a jungle, eat or be eaten… and girls are not spared in playing this game, but there are guys with true intentions and a girl will diss him that he’s broke when he’s obviously working to get things right

Ebubu2:
it can be lonely marrying a doctor wife. Even when she’s free at home she might be reading medical books. The good thing marrying female doctors is it gives you time to cheat if you love exploring while she’s busy saving lives at hospital

etrange:
So women should not progress career wise? Are female doctors not getting married in Nigeria? Or you think Nigerian men abroad don't face loneliness as well? Or maybe the non career driven girls abroad are less lonely? What exactly does this have to do with her job? You think the loneliness is just about the absence of a boyfriend? Dude, the western culture makes immigrants lonely regardless of thier careers and gender, and there are many reasons for that.

You guys don't ever miss an opportunity to be sexist even in this century. If women don't do "important jobs" or pursue thier dream career, you say they're useless and that they don't bring anything to the table. When they go out there to hustle or pursue thier dreams, you'd still call it feminism and claim they're not marriable. Nawa

HacheNoire:
UK is better. Canada is worse. That country should be renamed “Boring”

You will run into depression without knowing you are depressed.

uthompson2001:
I have lived in uk and now canada, the issue is Nigerian women have made it difficult for young eligible men to approach them. The solution is being more extroverted, i am sure your routine is home-work-church and mall. This doesnt help when trying to meet new people. even if you are abit introverted, try and create activities for yourself that promote interactions with others and do not limit yourself to only nigerians. Good luck n hope this helps.