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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by 9japride(m): 1:48pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:[color=#006600][/color] I am always not comfortable with that statement that no one owes anyone nothing especially from family members. I hope when the elder brother is sick or having financial problems, he shouldn't expect any help because no one owes anyone nothing? A family that lack loves usually exhibit such traits. 7 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by DeAnonymousGuy(m): 1:48pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: I was waiting for u to ask for his account details 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Faruq987: 1:48pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Had similar experience, send me your acct No. Use the money to prepare delicious food for your elder brother tell him somebody you repaired phone for dashed you money. Do things to please him: ...wash his clothes ...Iron his clothes ...polish his shoes ...clean the house and toilet Do those things and he will definitely feel your impact and he will give you money. Pls don't beg him money for transport or feeding it will provoke him. After all the things I mentioned above, Skip work. If he ask you reason you didn't go to work then tell him you are very very broke and you were about to ask him for money but you don't knw how to beg him for it. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by MrAbufayed: 1:49pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Nazgul:See how foolish you are 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by phemmyfour: 1:49pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Openfortruth:Discuss with him, if he doesn't change, report to your parents. If you have friends in Lagos that can accommodate you and understand your plight....please relocate 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by AllBlack: 1:50pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
weslay: were you there when the elder brother TOLD HIM TO COME? how do you guys jump into conclusions like this? |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by chariisGRACE(m): 1:50pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: Okra 100 Naira? 🤣😂 |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Tokskob2008: 1:51pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Gajagojo: Well you are very right but I hope the elder brother or you his supporters don't say otherwise when it's the junior brother's turn to show him pepper too cos in this life nothing stays the same forever. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by AllBlack: 1:51pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
phemmyfour: you are a small boy. that is why you can only give childish suggestions. Your brain is still in your mother's womb. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by AlphaHakimi: 1:51pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Family is all we've got. Don't let anybody decieve you, once a person is under your roof, you have that responsibility to take care of them. This is why before you take a person under your roof, make sure you are able to carter for his/her basic needs if not, kindly tell them you are not yet ready for that responsibility. It's a different thing if the person expects you to provide luxury for them. OP, your brother owes you accommodation, Healthcare, feeding and transport. People should stop sounding smart by saying nobody owes you nothing. It's dumb, we all owe ourselves some kind of responsibility. Having said that, you also owe your brother respect, running errands without any form of grudge, taking care of the house, wash his clothes, manage his business as if it is your own, obedience, cooking etc. You see, nobody is an island, we all need each other and the paradox of life doesn't work in the theory of "the eldest son/sibling will forever be the wealthiest or the backbone of the house". These days, God can bless anybody and he may choose to bless you over your brother tomorrow. Remember the story of Joseph and David. Shalom 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Cantonese: 1:52pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
GO0DHardDick: Brother, you are still too young. Listen to this very clear advise: While you assist your siblings with what you can, ensure that you are growing. While you assist your siblings, ensure that you are ahead on all fronts. While you are at it, ensuring that your siblings are educated and standing on their feet, ensure that you are educated and standing on your feet too. You’re not Dangote or Elumelu, who are super rich. Do not turn yourself into the family sacrificial lamb. I want to freely inform you that you may train them and ensure all the need in life and they throw you away when they are in better positions. While you are training them and they begin to have children, you will be left behind. There is a difference between Uncle and Daddy. Their children will call you uncle, while you do not have one child of your own. Time waits for no man, as they say. Please help your siblings as much as you are able to. If you are not there, they will stand on their feet. You cannot arrogate the position of God to yourself in their lives. Responsibility of taking care of children falls on parents, not on first sons and first daughters. Many of them suffer what they never expected many years after ensuring that their siblings stand on their feet. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by spy24(m): 1:52pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Mindlog: Omo, the response I am seeing on this thread are terrible... Somebody that is easily swayed by opinions may come here and see this and think that the senior brother is doing nothing wrong. And begin to imbibe all this their poverty/sapa induced mentality A stranger is not supposed to be treated the op is being treated, not to talk of family.. and yes siblings are responsible for the wellbeing of their younger ones.. 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by MisterBanny(m): 1:53pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Openfortruth: He thinks of you as been Lazy, reason he is starving you. I guess you were too spoilt by ur mum while growing up so he wants u to face hard life before he can feed u. I suggest u go to building sites and do some work. Wash cars and do menial jobs to survive. Learning handwork doesn't stop u from making money except u jus want to be lazy |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by phemmyfour: 1:54pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
AllBlack:You are useless ....kí lomode ẹ mọ If you can't be your brother's keeper when your parents are alive, you won't be when they're dead 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 1:54pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
correctguy101: Two things Where did you read that he is learning trade FROM HIM That HE TOOK HIM to the city |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by RelevantSolutio(f): 1:55pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Openfortruth: So Sorry for your present condition. My solid advice for you is not to retaliate. Share Your Garri with him. This should teach him some sense if he has conscience. If He doesn't change, leave him unto God Almighty. Don't Waste Your Time Building HATE for His Unkindness. Just Divert That Energy To Learning How To Sell Cheap DATA Online which is A Passive Income Stream that will be bringing little funds into your pocket almost on a daily basis. Everyone Uses Data. So, Try to Own A VTU Portal that can be earning you money as people patronize you for data. The earnings are substantial. Your Marketing Skills will depend on How You Love and Respect People Offline and Online Too. Gradually; Your Financial Capacity will be changing for good. Also, As you are learning how to repair devices; you can start up an online class right here on Nairaland which you'll be updating frequently. You'll Gradually Get Online Students to train as you build your audience for some fees. Atleast You are already Learning Physically; so you should be enjoying what you do already. So, that little that you know - Teach It. This is how you Grow Financially as You Impact Positively To The Life of Others. You can also learn other online mode of money generation that matches your flair. All in All; Get Digital and Depend on Your Digital Creativities. Don't Depend on Your Brother at all. We can help you setup a VTU Portal very cheaply because of your plight. We will help you create it up on simple payments that you can make on instalments - if you don't have the required amount to start. Don't Feel Sorry for Yourself. Embrace The Challenge. You'll Surely WIN. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by tuzle(m): 1:55pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:some of u sha, so u can't help ur younger ones. If they come and stay with u, they will be on their own abi? People who are stingy to their family but will not find it hard spending on women. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by BarrElChapo(m): 2:01pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: There’s nothing like entitlement here, how can an older brother cook and eat and wash the plate as if nothing happened and watch his brother starve ? Granted he doesn’t owe him anything, why let him leave the village at all only subject him to this kind of treatment ? Is that training or what ? Exactly what training is that. The true show of love is sacrifice. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Nobody: 2:05pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Your brother should be helping you out. How can he cook food and eat without leaving anything for you or pretend like he has not eaten anything? That is pure wickedness. I'm sorry he's being unkind and cruel to you. You're better off leaving his place as soon as you can, because he doesn't care about you or your wellbeing. Can you go back to your parents? 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 2:07pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Tokskob2008: This is not about showing pepper I have been in that same situation before and felt bitter and angry Now I am very grateful that it happened because It was good education that cured me of all sense of entitlement and made me a man. From the story it sounds like the young man just got up in the village and decided to transfer his responsibility to his brother without discussion or negotiation, The brother is not really doing well The brother feels bitter and trapped. At my age I have seen that scenario in Nigeria dozens of times It never ends well Even when the brother struggles to help in future it will still lead to quarrel that he did not do enough. The correct attitude is to be grateful that he even accommodated you in his house When you listen to. Japa. stories from Diaspora you will be shocked People will throw their siblings out of their houses after a while It is only in abundance that we can be generous When times are hard it is every man for himself We should not take that personal. Life is hard 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by newfhace(m): 2:07pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Openfortruth: Bros you can arrange with your boss where you are currently learning how to repair phone that 2 days out of the 6days in a week (apart from Sunday) you won't be coming to work, use this 2 days to find what you can do that will fetch you money so you can use the money to survive. You can even look for job you can do at night e.g security or factory job then in the morning you go to where you are learning work. Na my own little advice be this ooo to be a man no easy oo 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 2:10pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
BarrElChapo:Sentiment do you know the meaning of starve? Why let him leave the village? Did his brother invite him? Ask questions before passing one sided judgment. Let the OP tell us what conversation they had before they started living together Was there any discussion or he just arrived one day with his bag? |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by yemmit90: 2:13pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: Instead of you to ask him if his brother is capable of feeding extra mouth, you are here telling him he owe him nothing. This is the same self centered behaviour that made Nigeria remain backwards. If you can't help your blood brother in time of need, is it total strangers you will have feelings for when you attain position of authority. This is what have been happening with our leaders, they have the same mentality of owning anyone nothing but themselves. Will you say the same thing if the said brother got sick and his junior brother watch him die doing nothing? Do you ever think that the same brother might also need his help in future? Let stop this foolish selfish attitude to make our society works. The only person that should not help those around him are people that don't have the capacity to do so. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by relagze: 2:16pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
I am not surprise about your plight, I faced similar issue too when I was saying with my sister. It was really a bitter experience. She even orchestrated me leaving her house, she thought I didn't know. Know this for real: your family is someone that stay loyal to you through thick and thin; blood is not family. So sorry you had to learn the hard way. Openfortruth: |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Obierika(m): 2:20pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Mindlog: |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Tunde835(m): 2:21pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Your brother is an ass. What about your parents 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Obierika(m): 2:21pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
relagze: Maybe you were just occupying space and not contributing anything hence the reason your sister wanted you out of her house 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by tete7000(m): 2:23pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: This line of reasoning is warped. If he doesn't owe him anything like you think, why did he bring him in in the first instance? The moment he brought him in, he owes him love and care. When I read line of thought like this with all the likes it gathers, I wonder how callous and irresponsible the world has become, it baffles me how dysfunctional families have become that brothers can wickedly turn their back on their siblings when they have power to help claiming they didn't bring them into the world. I grew up in a family where we were told that we owe each other love and care, we share what we have. Your line of thinking is horrendous and alien to a person like me. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by lendahand(m): 2:24pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Openfortruth:he's actually supposed to help you out in terms of feeding but I want to ask two vital questions: did you have a solid arrangement with your brother before setting out for the city 2: Do you respect him very well presently and before now?? |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 2:25pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
tete7000:Did he bring him? |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by SouthSouth1914: 2:26pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Dpen11: Since his brother wakes up first before him, he is as useless as anything! He never stated what he does in the house or anything! I think he lacks discipline or communication skills. We all must consider his elder brother, he needs to tell us what he does everyday especially in the morning to help his elder brother? |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by okoIYAyin(m): 2:29pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
yemmit90:Well said my man! |
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