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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Anguldi(m): 5:02pm On Jan 11

ObaOfYorubaLand:

Don't you know road to the market?

By the time they finish with you, you'll get sense by force.

What's her mother doing in your house by this time when she never deliver?

Red flag

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by oglalasioux(m): 5:30pm On Jan 11

LordIsaac:
A lesson to the unmarried: look before you leap!

The better lesson is to stay away from marriage. Marriage and religion will never work on planet earth no matter how we want to sentimentalise them. You can have children without getting into that fraud called marriage.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by November24(f): 5:43pm On Jan 11

larryUG:
Baba, I spent close to a million for my baby stuff.
What you need to understand is that baby things are generally very costly. Secondly, escalation has taken a toll on the prices of things . It seems a lot of people have not taken into account the effect of the naira losing value in the economy
I gave my wife 350K initially but she bought wasnt substantial.
She added her money and i gave her additional.
BEd alone is 170k-200k depending on the quality. Breast pump (for when your baby my not have the mum around) is 50k in the market. just these 2 items have taken 220-250K out of your 400K. now talk about feeding bottles, diapers, clothes (there are several types your baby will need), Powder/soaps, baby oils, shoes, other stuff, wardrobe alone for kids na 120K. Haba

Relax bro.
All fingers are not equal,I didn't spend 120k to buy baby things for my 1st baby this year.

Someone also used 10 million to buy baby things. All na understanding.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Bukola94: 5:52pm On Jan 11

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now shte’s demanding more

U for give her 200k for baby things

Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Justkatty(f): 6:01pm On Jan 11

Truth be told things are quite expensive but your partner is not helpful.

So many unnecessary things the baby and the ones to come may not use it
Money wey no be you make am, dey sweet to spend.

I'm sorry to say this, if you don't control what is happening now, your in-laws will definitely deal with your sweat.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by ppogba: 6:05pm On Jan 11

You did not provide enough details.

Kindly state your home address so that Nairaland eldes council can send a delegation.

I wonder the type of topics you people bring to this forum.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by GboyegaD(m): 6:05pm On Jan 11

Oga, tell her to get ready tongo with you to the market on Saturday and go get the things the baby needs ooo. Now that you know she can't handle things like this as you would like, learn to have a discussion and reach logical conclusions on how monies will be spent going forward.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Mayzie(m): 6:07pm On Jan 11

100% They're worst than armed robbers lipsrsealed

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by ChybuzzDD(m): 6:08pm On Jan 11

Rokiat:
Go and buy the basic yourself case closed thread closed.

With which money again??

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by femi4: 6:09pm On Jan 11

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Next time, tell her to make a list before going to the market, that way, you can scrutinise it

Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by anslemarinze52(m): 6:09pm On Jan 11

larryUG:
Baba, I spent close to a million for my baby stuff.
What you need to understand is that baby things are generally very costly. Secondly, escalation has taken a toll on the prices of things . It seems a lot of people have not taken into account the effect of the naira losing value in the economy
I gave my wife 350K initially but she bought wasnt substantial.
She added her money and i gave her additional.
BEd alone is 170k-200k depending on the quality. Breast pump (for when your baby my not have the mum around) is 50k in the market. just these 2 items have taken 220-250K out of your 400K. now talk about feeding bottles, diapers, clothes (there are several types your baby will need), Powder/soaps, baby oils, shoes, other stuff, wardrobe alone for kids na 120K. Haba

So how do the less wealthy do theirs and the child still grow up robustly. Must everything 100billion be spent to satisfy a young baby. Their are basic things like cloth and small bed and then the rest, doesn't need extravagant spending.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by emerged01(m): 6:09pm On Jan 11

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Bro,it was a very big mistake on your part,you were suppose to make sure you see the list of baby things she needs to buy before releasing money.
Run your home like a business,you are the MD of your home. How can you release money without having a list or idea of what she wants to buy.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Kingrshd3: 6:10pm On Jan 11

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Get the list and go to the market yourself and get this things ...

Her mum and she herself has seen u as money man and u will always bring moreoney ..

So ignore and told her u don't have and she should provide it herself

Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Kukutente23: 6:11pm On Jan 11

All these Simps
Nothing person nor go hear from there
Op, you never hear say no gree for anybody?

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Mrbenny001: 6:11pm On Jan 11

Women buying baby things require discipline and focus o grin

..write all you need, buy them spend d remaining on others,if you enter some baby store, you go won buy everything inside o..women like to show off with baby's stuff. You need to talk to her..no be her fault..

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Achor1111(m): 6:11pm On Jan 11

LordIsaac:
A lesson to the unmarried: look before you leap!

Aswear

Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by ekelebeXstunner: 6:11pm On Jan 11

Wait till pikin come first. Complaints go plenty then.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by gabicon: 6:12pm On Jan 11

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

This thing no need cause issues. I should have asked for a list of the basic things the baby will need and after which give money for them. Unbudgeted money equals unwarranted spending.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Seylad2009(m): 6:12pm On Jan 11

Bro, things are very expensive this days. Those things they're buying would be very useful now or later. Nobody is doing fast one on you.

Thank God my wife bought some oversize clothes when we're buying baby clothes because babies grow faster than we can imagine.

Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Idaytesj29(m): 6:12pm On Jan 11

larryUG:
Baba, I spent close to a million for my baby stuff.
What you need to understand is that baby things are generally very costly. Secondly, escalation has taken a toll on the prices of things . It seems a lot of people have not taken into account the effect of the naira losing value in the economy
I gave my wife 350K initially but she bought wasnt substantial.
She added her money and i gave her additional.
BEd alone is 170k-200k depending on the quality. Breast pump (for when your baby my not have the mum around) is 50k in the market. just these 2 items have taken 220-250K out of your 400K. now talk about feeding bottles, diapers, clothes (there are several types your baby will need), Powder/soaps, baby oils, shoes, other stuff, wardrobe alone for kids na 120K. Haba

Every father cannot be money 🤑 bag like you. He does not have 1m for baby things. His in-laws should be sensitive

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by carzeem1: 6:12pm On Jan 11

They didn't prioritise their list and just were buying as they see. Ended up exhausting the cash without getting the necessary things. It's a common mistake with new moms.
Make a list of things not purchased and go to the market yourself to get them. It can be exhausting going from one shop to another trying to get a good bargain, be ready to dedicate a full day for it.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Ahnii(f): 6:15pm On Jan 11

Chai dem dey cut your head....Wardrope 120k lolzzz[ cheesy

:Dquote author=larryUG post=127889854]Baba, I spent close to a million for my baby stuff.
What you need to understand is that baby things are generally very costly. Secondly, escalation has taken a toll on the prices of things . It seems a lot of people have not taken into account the effect of the naira losing value in the economy
I gave my wife 350K initially but she bought wasnt substantial.
She added her money and i gave her additional.
BEd alone is 170k-200k depending on the quality. Breast pump (for when your baby my not have the mum around) is 50k in the market. just these 2 items have taken 220-250K out of your 400K. now talk about feeding bottles, diapers, clothes (there are several types your baby will need), Powder/soaps, baby oils, shoes, other stuff, wardrobe alone for kids na 120K. Haba[/quote]

Wardrope wey 25k dey runnam well for onitsha change go come out sef.

Did I just hear you say Breast pump 50k hahahaha

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by gidjah(m): 6:15pm On Jan 11

My dear , it all bouys down to who is who, that same item you bought at 60k can be sold to another at a whooping 600k !people differ,some person's like show up so seriously.That 400k is over enough at this season, it's also likely d parents are from well to do fams hence the quest to wanna buy d whole market because first pikin wan show up !Just like you said ,let the op go to a decent hospital and get a good list for delivery,let him. Jeje just go with a simple experienced person and make d purchase then present such to d wife (not the MIL) and issue her warnings !!"if I hear any complain about this items ,I will blow d roof of this house down "!I bought them for another 400k shikini money ! Then brains will factory re set

Pecoleee345:

Guy baby wardrobe is 60k..

They are just extorting you cos you don't no about those things and you have enough money to spend.

I spent less than 200k to get everything I needed for my 2nd child last year October.

Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Valoromega: 6:15pm On Jan 11

carzeem1:
They didn't prioritise their list and just were buying as they see. Ended up exhausting the cash without getting the necessary things. It's a common mistake with new moms.
Make a list of things not purchased and go to the market yourself to get them. It can be exhausting going from one shop to another trying to get a good bargain, be ready to dedicate a full day for it.

Thats the reason her mom went with her, she's expecting to know the basic things a child needs, i'm sure shes even the one that told her to buy some of those things

Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by harizonal123(m): 6:15pm On Jan 11

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Don't give her any more money. Find a sincere female friend that knows much about giving birth and the basic items needed and go with her to the market to buy all the necessary things. Make sure it does not leak out of your mouth that you took a lady with you or if not Na big wahala you dey

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Difrent: 6:16pm On Jan 11

advanceDNA:

One of the things I hate most is when my supposed partner that should be my number one supporter is the one being inconsiderate about spendings as if them dey pluck money for tree.

This thing dey scatter my brain I swear

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by ukaface(f): 6:16pm On Jan 11

Tor!

Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by delishpot: 6:19pm On Jan 11

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

She is taking this opportunity to chop you Mugu. Are you typically stingy? Do you spend money recklessly and carelessly hence she feels that this is the best way to get some substantial money out of you?Or why would a wife rob her husband so blindly? She need to take things easy o.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by humblespirit: 6:20pm On Jan 11

I had the same issue when God blessed me with my first child. I know it might be annoying but the truth is Parenting skills are garnered on the job.My wife can't make the same mistake again. Most of the things we bought then are non essential but meant for showmanship.......Relax baba baby, she will learn on the job.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by delpee(f): 6:20pm On Jan 11

If you're in Lagos, go to the nursing mother/baby market at Dosunmu/Tom Jones area near Idumota if you want to cut costs. There's usually a wide variety depending on your taste and affordability. I haven't been there in a long while but I know it still exists.

Being a first child, you're likely to spend more on some fixed items which you won't have to buy for a second child e.g. cot and wardrobe.

Let her know that you need to save towards the running costs after delivery which is not always
predictable....but you can estimate. She should learn to be prudent. Child nurturing is expensive but with good management and grace, you'll succeed.

May God grant her safe delivery.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by febble: 6:20pm On Jan 11

Acidosis:

Maybe she spent the money on this baby rocker👇👇😄😄

Advise her to cut her coat according to her size. That money is enough for the essentials.

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Re: My Wife And 1 Are Expecting Our First Child And This Is What Is Happening by Seylad2009(m): 6:21pm On Jan 11

Ahnii:
Chai dem dey cut your head....Wardrope 120k lolzzz[ :Dquote author=larryUG post=127889854]Baba, I spent close to a million for my baby stuff.
What you need to understand is that baby things are generally very costly. Secondly, escalation has taken a toll on the prices of things . It seems a lot of people have not taken into account the effect of the naira losing value in the economy
I gave my wife 350K initially but she bought wasnt substantial.
She added her money and i gave her additional.
BEd alone is 170k-200k depending on the quality. Breast pump (for when your baby my not have the mum around) is 50k in the market. just these 2 items have taken 220-250K out of your 400K. now talk about feeding bottles, diapers, clothes (there are several types your baby will need), Powder/soaps, baby oils, shoes, other stuff, wardrobe alone for kids na 120K. Haba

Wardrope wey 25k dey runnam well for onitsha change go come out sef.

Did I just hear you say Breast pump 50k hahahaha

Quality differs. They might be imported. I bought my baby bath sets (imported ) 65k last year.

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