If this ur story is true u mess up big time. You have been in a peaceful and lovely marriage for 12 years and all these were happening without ur knowledge but happiness was not hindered and ur husband still perform his duty as husband only for u to now find out that he has been cheating on u and you went ahead to bring unhappiness upon yourself.

Nataliace:
I'm married for twelve years now and my marriage is blessed with two kids all boys, 11 and 9 respectively. Our marriage was also blessed with peace until I discovered my husband dates girls.

The one that pains me most is dating a neighbor who has been my enemy since we relocated to that settlement. My husband has side chicks too numerous to mention and I tried to talk to him but he refused. I left him and went back to my parents house thinking that will make him change and to come and apologize, to my greatest surprise he didn't make a move of putting things in order.

The worst is that the girl in the neighborhood is now living with him sleeping in our Matrimonial bed doing all the house chores and taking my children to school.

I came back and apologized to my husband but he said it's over between us. I love my husband so much that I can't afford to lose him. What should I have done? I expressed my grief of being hurt but it bounced back negatively.

Please advise me on how to restore my marriage.

ObamaMessi:
I have never laughed so hard!! What a funny story 😂😂😂

You left your husband then another woman came in and you rushed back to beg. Na alpha male him be and kudos to him.
Women are always the cause of their problems... you have also been cheating since you got married but you decide to mire your side of the story of how you brought his friends, alot of them to sleep with you in the kitchen, palor and toilet.
Personally I know how many of your type I have flogged either in my mom's bed room or on their matrimonial beds (in rare cases). ..so shut the Bleep up and look for the next street suck. Your husband is gone for good.

Are you not ashamed of yourself to have written this trash?
So you think you are a champion by banging a married woman in her husband house?
It shows you lack self respect.

Available9:


I know those people that advised you to leave the marriage... blessing CEO, Amanda chisom, and the others...

...Ovularia and one Nkechi

DestinedForGrea:

How does Abraham taking another wife prove that polygamy was his nature? Something he simply chose to do?

How do you define nature? If men are polygamous in nature, then every man should die or be deformed for not espousing more than one woman.

Polygamy is not in itself a nature, it's an expression of mankind's insatiability. Insatiability cuts across all areas of life. God's original intention was for A MAN and A WOMAN to come together as one. Not A MAN and WOMEN. How does that even make any sense to you?

Men and women are insatiable. While some can't control that insatiability, others can. It's a matter of choice. If you think polygamy is in your nature, then do as you please. As for me, I am not polygamous in nature. If I cheat, it's my choice, not because I can't help it.

In Africa, Before the coming of the white man's religion, African men had multiple wives.

I can bet that at least 3 generations before yours, your direct lineage included polygamy.

Perhaps they were all sinners.

DSS1335:
Just move on bcs there is nothing you can do about it.

This reminds me during my youthful years immediately after NYSC in 2008. My girlfriend back then whom I have decided to settle down with left me after intense quarreling saying she can't marry a firstborn, that I was too chubby and fair in complexion. That she wanted a dark complexion man that is slim...immediately she left two other beautiful damsel fought to take her place and one of them eventually became my wife today. She has been stalking me on all social media platforms and keep blocking her. Its a pity she would be 40 yrs old April this year and unmarried

Best thing I've read. This story gave me joy

BloomingDale:


Good luck to those whom decide to stay. Only a cheating wife or one with low self esteem/financial dependence will stay.

i think it all boils down to wisdom which is not women forte, the bible was very deliberate about a wise woman builds her home

where are all those over smart single ladies online that expected Annie to leave Tu- face today is their life better or more merrier than Annie, gudluck with your perfect man

Nataliace:
I'm married for twelve years now and my marriage is blessed with two kids all boys, 11 and 9 respectively. Our marriage was also blessed with peace until I discovered my husband dates girls.

The one that pains me most is dating a neighbor who has been my enemy since we relocated to that settlement. My husband has side chicks too numerous to mention and I tried to talk to him but he refused. I left him and went back to my parents house thinking that will make him change and to come and apologize, to my greatest surprise he didn't make a move of putting things in order.

The worst is that the girl in the neighborhood is now living with him sleeping in our Matrimonial bed doing all the house chores and taking my children to school.

I came back and apologized to my husband but he said it's over between us. I love my husband so much that I can't afford to lose him. What should I have done? I expressed my grief of being hurt but it bounced back negatively.

Please advise me on how to restore my marriage.

If the story is true, it means you have no value as a wife.
You are worth nothing, so you left your children?
So he hurts you, and you ran away thinking he will beg, and he didn't you came back and started begging.
You are more disgusting than your husband.
No self value or self worth.
Work on yourself to be a person of worth.

DestinedForGrea:

I am not polygamous in nature.

I don't know if you adopted that nature from your ancestors, but don't generalize it. No human is polygamous in nature.

If a man cheats, it's due to an inert insatiability present in all humans. It's common to both human species, and not a function of gender.

And as for the 'Holy book', call it a delusion however you like. As far as I know, it is the only manual given by the one who created me. I didn't create myself, so it's foolish to live by my own rules.

If you think you came to this life out of nothing, or some accidental 'big bang', then good luck. As for me, I will not wallow in folly.

Once again, men are not polygamous in nature. What makes men so special that they, and not women have to be polygamous in nature?

Shatap with your pontificating.

Your likes are those that sleep with the choiristers then come out to claim holy.

Swear that your great grandfather wasn't polygamous.

Nonsense.

Nataliace:
I'm married for twelve years now and my marriage is blessed with two kids all boys, 11 and 9 respectively. Our marriage was also blessed with peace until I discovered my husband dates girls.

The one that pains me most is dating a neighbor who has been my enemy since we relocated to that settlement. My husband has side chicks too numerous to mention and I tried to talk to him but he refused. I left him and went back to my parents house thinking that will make him change and to come and apologize, to my greatest surprise he didn't make a move of putting things in order.

The worst is that the girl in the neighborhood is now living with him sleeping in our Matrimonial bed doing all the house chores and taking my children to school.

I came back and apologized to my husband but he said it's over between us. I love my husband so much that I can't afford to lose him. What should I have done? I expressed my grief of being hurt but it bounced back negatively.

Please advise me on how to restore my marriage.

Divorce.

He's unrepentant and broke his vows. May karma come to him.
Or did you mess up in the marriage?

DestinedForGrea:

Can't we say that was a function of the beliefs and cultures that were passed on to them? How does that prove polygamy as a natural phenomenon?

All tribes, bar none has polygamy embedded in it.

Western society, leaning on the feminist movement, furthered by Disney and Hollywood made polygamy to be a 'sin'.

It isn't.

DestinedForGrea:

Can't we say that was a function of the beliefs and cultures that were passed on to them? How does that depict polygamy as a natural phenomenon?

There is no such thing as 'white man's religion'. It's called the gospel of Christ, and that is the greatest thing that has happened to mankind.

You are a victim of brainwashing.

DestinedForGrea:

Like I said, if a person decides to have multiple sexual partners, then that's a function of choice, not nature.

If you say it's a function of a polygamous nature, then you're simply looking for a reason to justify your inability to control yourself.
If my great grandfather was polygamous, how does that make me polygamous IN NATURE?

How does it change the fact that before white man's religion, polygamy was acceptable and even the norm?

You are simply brainwashed and you've never taken time to set aside your own idiosyncrasies to analyse issues within your society.

This poster is using nairaland forum to cruise. She wrote on 10/04/23 that she is having issues in her marriage. She claimed that her marriage is 5 years old. In today post, (29/01/24). she is claiming that her marriage is twelve years old. On 21/07/23, she wanted nairalanders to advise her whether to stay with her Mum or boyfriend. Some people may bring serious issues that need advice, but some of us may think that the people is using us to cruise and it's a fallacy and we may give any advice. There's no consistency in her stories.

Nataliace:
I'm married for twelve years now and my marriage is blessed with two kids all boys, 11 and 9 respectively. Our marriage was also blessed with peace until I discovered my husband dates girls.

The one that pains me most is dating a neighbor who has been my enemy since we relocated to that settlement. My husband has side chicks too numerous to mention and I tried to talk to him but he refused. I left him and went back to my parents house thinking that will make him change and to come and apologize, to my greatest surprise he didn't make a move of putting things in order.

The worst is that the girl in the neighborhood is now living with him sleeping in our Matrimonial bed doing all the house chores and taking my children to school.

I came back and apologized to my husband but he said it's over between us. I love my husband so much that I can't afford to lose him. What should I have done? I expressed my grief of being hurt but it bounced back negatively.

Please advise me on how to restore my marriage.

what are you restoring
Has he left you
Is he not paying your bills
You better stay one place before dem collect ya husband

DestinedForGrea:

Oga why is polygamy natural for men, and not for women?

Nature makes it that way.

It is common in many creatures that God himself made.

Are those creatures simply lascivious?

DestinedForGrea:

Your incessant use of the words 'before white man's religion' is characterized by hatred and shallow-mindedness. Anyway, that's not the subject here.

Who is stopping you from being polygamous? Why are you deviating from the main subject?

If a society accepted polygamy as a norm, it's simply because it was ruled by a culture that didn't see it as something wrong. But how does that make it natural?

I know you refuse to accept it but Christianity is the white man's religion.

In fact, China with the highest population on earth cannot understand how you think otherwise.

My forefathers had their own religion and I am curious how anyone thinks their religion was inferior.

How many Chinese, Indians, Bangladeshis, Arabs are Christian?

What percentage of this population do you reckon this is ?

DestinedForGrea:

Nature made men polygamous, and women?

Women were not made polygamous.

Like anything in life, there are outliers.

It doesn't change the fact that one is the predominant way.

chidiokay:



i think it all boils down to wisdom which is not women forte, the bible was very deliberate about a wise woman builds her home

where are all those over smart single ladies online that expected Annie to leave Tu- face today is their life better or more merrier than Annie, gudluck with your perfect man

Oga, go and marry and cheat on your wife. Leave me out of your foolishness. Everyone has their level of morality. Even the Bible gave one condition in which a spouse can leave the marriage, which is infidelity.

Nataliace:
I'm married for twelve years now and my marriage is blessed with two kids all boys, 11 and 9 respectively. Our marriage was also blessed with peace until I discovered my husband dates girls.

The one that pains me most is dating a neighbor who has been my enemy since we relocated to that settlement. My husband has side chicks too numerous to mention and I tried to talk to him but he refused. I left him and went back to my parents house thinking that will make him change and to come and apologize, to my greatest surprise he didn't make a move of putting things in order.

The worst is that the girl in the neighborhood is now living with him sleeping in our Matrimonial bed doing all the house chores and taking my children to school.

I came back and apologized to my husband but he said it's over between us. I love my husband so much that I can't afford to lose him. What should I have done? I expressed my grief of being hurt but it bounced back negatively.

Please advise me on how to restore my marriage.

You left your home for a strange woman....that was a wrong. I hope its not too late to return

BloomingDale:


Oga, go and marry and cheat on your wife. Leave me out of your foolishness. Everyone has their level of morality. Even the Bible gave one condition in which a spouse can leave the marriage, which is infidelity.

You are taken it personal already like i need you to marry or stay in a man's house , typical women response

Happy divorce in advance

chidiokay:



You are taken it personal already like i need you to marry or stay in a man's house , typical women response

Happy divorce in advance

Same to you.

First of all it is absolutely wrong for u to walkout of Ur home, in most places as traditions demand, U won't be welcome back until the husband accept and U will need to do the needful.
What Ur husband did is wrong and is also command amongst men weather married or not.
My advise to U since I already knows he cheat, there is a way U talk to a man calmly probably U make it an issue. All men deserve respect weather they are wrong or right, U need to calmly and respectfully pass Ur point to him and advise him to stop and probably ask him what is that thing he thinks U are nothing doing that his making he wants to go outside, when there is no peace in the house and a man I not happy he goes outside. Pls U need to work on urself, dress well, look sexy for Ur husband and always show d love . Finally build Ur home, is a woman that builds her home not walking away, and pray for God to restore Ur home. I declare restoration to Ur home. God bless u

Your own dey your body
You sef dey do, now you want oga prick again