MissMeiya:
Insecure men can't handle a woman who outperforms him. So get ready to do a lot of ego-stroking.

now we gonna havta blame da stroking n lickin' dogs for this n not da rains or da damm boggie..

B|tch azz mutherfockerz

Missy89:


Duh.

Because few women are captains of industry and doing well doesn't mean the opportunities are there in abundance. It has nothing to do with the volume of women in the labor force. That doesn't change the fact that women are still the poorest in the continent and there are few laws protecting their rights. You would only be deceiving yourself if you think there is no institutional problem (few laws, social norms etc). Change that then you will see more women competing.

i have hidden potentials? u dont even know me do u?

Pls am curious can you simply mention the institutions in which women are not supported fully, its possible am living in a bubble and mistaking it for the real world. Am yet to see in Nigeria how women are limited, especially in this generation. thanks

vacant06:
ma'am if u are for real I pray u wil one day be president wife in nigeria

President's wify? Is that an office?

WHY CANT SHE BE THE PRESIDENT?

*****oh I forgot, they shackle themselves with Matthew's mentality ( collectors)

after all said and done....
So whats d point of dis thread?

Ilovenigeria:

Yes ooooo even ashawo people dey industrious cos na theit hard earn money them go spend ooo. They are working for their money.

E be like say u dey patronize dem wella.

Ilovenigeria:

Na her hard earned money jooor women are supposed to be richer than men if they use their head well.

its only a lazy woman who depends on people for money, but afterall laziness no be bad thing. most people are

Missy89:
See how the male posters are kissing the OP's A55.


Better go get a job and take care of your family or die trying.
Strong a55 niggahs

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Yes ! Ofcos!

Ilovenigeria:
Women make your own money, add your boyfriend and maga own join. All na independent woman

never book mark this topic, dey laugh 4 there.

Now, some men will be screaming, 'God bless you OP'.

When female folks scream gender equality, you'll see bunch of misogynists.

Hypocrisy of men.

pcguru1:


Pls am curious can you simply mention the institutions in which women are not supported fully, its possible am living in a bubble and mistaking it for the real world. Am yet to see in Nigeria how women are limited, especially in this generation. thanks

You think they have equal rights and opportunities and you were saying i am living in a bubble?

HARDDON:
Never knew id live this long to read such words from a female.......

All along, had tot you guys were structured for collecting , fashioned for begging and accursed with trade by bata.....

Had tot u enjoy sitting at home doing Nada and have him work his a33 out while u go on shopping spree with money u know not whence it came. The next moment, they wano tie d guy down with court wedding tins, so as to have legit right over some vast wealth shld he get fed up n wano roll!

Had tot beeping his phone was ur thingy (never calling, stingy)
Had tot the best u cud ever get for a guy was a pair of second hand briefs for his bday(ONLY!)!

Had tot d only thing u guys got to offer was some punana ( yet they go complaining when he cheats, calling royal guys dogs). Yea sure, he might be so willing to spend on u d first few outings but after hitting it, if that is all u got, he's mos def gon bounce - the next meal awaits

No man is a fool. And we all get worked up when y'all go begging for stuffs when y'all can pull stuffs!

If u must fight for gender equality, then first fight off ur laziness , stinginess n herbalist attitudes( always collecting)

NT: this is by no means saying there ain't this very exceptional group out there(very rare breeds) that supports their men tru good advice n all otherwise

good writeups

Gorgeous58:
Strive to be the kind of woman who, when your man hits rock bottom, when his business fails or he is retrenched from his job, can carry the family through. You must be able to provide what he otherwise would. This thing of women who sit doing nothing, and when a man goes through a difficult period, cannot come through for him, or at least even help him make a plan, is not on.

Let us start hustling with our men. We must stop being liabilities when we have what it takes to be assets.

Ladies, what's your take on this?

There is one on Nairaland, her name is Liability...

Missy89:


You think they have equal rights and opportunities and you were saying i am living in a bubble?

maybe you should re-read my post, i simply asked which institution where the rights of women limited ? and that's its possible am living in a bubble. As far as i know, most women are exposed to the same rights unless in some certain areas such as politics and marital rape. and you said its the social norms and i asked what "Social norms" and the word social norms is quite vague.

Ilovenigeria:

Yes ooooo even ashawo people dey industrious cos na theit hard earn money them go spend ooo. They are working for their money.

Observation: Nigerian women in the past used to be supportive to their husbands...they farm...they engage in petty trading businesses to help feed their children even though their income or contribution might not be too big and visible. The table just got turned during our era after we started copying Oyimbo the wrong way...and Nollywood further worsened the whole issue.

How Nollywood Spoilt Nigerian Women!!!

e.g. Movie Titled: "Pretty World", staring- Emeka Ike and Genevieve Nnaji as his wife, Jim Iyke and Omotola Jalade as his wife....Desmond Elliot and Rita Domnic as his wife.


Now what happens?

Movie Scenes That Spoilt our Girls:
In the movie, Emeka is seen living in a big mansion and drives big cars...he drives to work daily and comes back to blow horn and gateman opens gate and his wife, Genevieve opens door and hugs him- "welcome darling, dinning is set"...they live like kings.

Same way, Jim Iyke lives in another big duplex and works in a big oil firm in the movie and his wife, Omotola sits at home and welcomes him with open arms and good food at the dinning...same with Desmond Elliot and his wife, Rita...

Gradually, our Nigerian women who love these movies and sit at home all day and in their rooms at various school hostels watching these movies gradually form the belief that Emeka Ike, Jim Iyke, and Desmond Elliot's marriages are the ideal marriage and so, they too wants to marry only guys living in big houses and driving big cars.....with gateman and house helps like they do watch in Nollywood movies....this now becomes the dream of every Nigerian girl- to marry a rich guy working in oil firm, living in a duplex and driving exotic cars.

That was the origin of our problem as a nation- NOLLYWOOD!!!

....and for those saying Nigerian men feel insecure with ladies earning bigger than them....sure you ladies are somehow right...all men (Nigerian or not) always want to be the king and on top, any man that says otherwise is a liar, a lazy as$ and a pretender trying to deceive women into believing that he is a wonderful man without a fault!

But I can assure you ladies that most guys don't send how much you have or what you do for a living when they are comfortable and ready to settle down! But I would advice any single lady reading this to please try and get something doing- you mustn't be earning millions or even thousands, just make sure you aren't a liability to any man who isn't your father- be it boyfriend or husband (though husband own is allowed o).

Once again, nice topic and contributions so far

FrancisTony:
Now, some men will be screaming, 'God bless you OP'.

When female folks scream gender equality, you'll see bunch of misogynists.

Hypocrisy of men.

Am all for gender equality just that alot of NL ladies don't know what feminism is all about most are either Misandrist or people who think being a feminist is cool (Hipsters)

DailyNews:
Observation: Nigerian women in the past used to be supportive to their husbands...they farm...they engage in petty trading businesses to help feed their children even though their income or contribution might not be too big and visible. The table just got turned during our era after we started copying Oyimbo the wrong way...and Nollywood further worsened the whole issue.

How Nollywood Spoilt Nigerian Women!!!

e.g. Movie Titled: "Pretty World", staring- Emeka Ike and Genevieve Nnaji as his wife, Jim Iyke and Omotola Jalade as his wife....Desmond Elliot and Rita Domnic as his wife.


Now what happens?

Movie Scenes That Spoilt our Girls:
In the movie, Emeka is seen living in a big mansion and drives big cars...he drives to work daily and comes back to blow horn and gateman opens gate and his wife, Genevieve opens door and hugs him- "welcome darling, dinning is set"...they live like kings.

Same way, Jim Iyke lives in another big duplex and works in a big oil firm in the movie and his wife, Omotola sits at home and welcomes him with open arms and good food at the dinning...same with Desmond Elliot and his wife, Rita...

Gradually, our Nigerian women who love these movies and sit at home all day and in their rooms at various school hostels watching these movies gradually form the belief that Emeka Ike, Jim Iyke, and Desmond Elliot's marriages are the ideal marriage and so, they too wants to marry only guys living in big houses and driving big cars.....with gateman and house helps like they do watch on Nollywood....this now becomes the dream of every Nigerian girl- to marry a rich guy working in oil firm, living in a duplex and driving exotic cars.

That was the origin of our problem as a nation- NOLLYWOOD!!!

....and for those saying Nigerian men feel insecure with ladies earning bigger than them....sure you ladies are somehow right...all men (Nigerian or not) always want to be the king and on top, any man that says otherwise is a liar, a lazy as$ and a pretender trying to deceive women into believing that he is a wonderful man without a fault!

But I can assure you ladies that most guys don't send how much you have or what you do for a living when they are comfortable and ready to settle down! But I would advice any single lady reading this to please try and get something doing- you mustn't be earning millions or even thousands, just make sure you aren't a liability to any man who isn't your father- be it boyfriend or husband (though husband own is allowed o).

Once again, nice topic and contributions so far

Dude i really love the way you analyzed that, yeah nollywood too does affect people's perception on certain things.

Gorgeous58:
Strive to be the kind of woman who, when your man hits rock bottom, when his business fails or he is retrenched from his job, can carry the family through. You must be able to provide what he otherwise would. This thing of women who sit doing nothing, and when a man goes through a difficult period, cannot come through for him, or at least even help him make a plan, is not on.

Let us start hustling with our men. We must stop being liabilities when we have what it takes to be assets.

Ladies, what's your take on this?

@OP:

There is no one size fits all and I am learning to be more open minded.

In some homes, the mqn loves, craves and yearns to be the sole provider. His dignity and respect is tied to that and cannot be compromised. The lesser the wife earns, the more his control over the family/wife

In some, the wife ties her respect for her hubby to money which will fly out of the window once she outearns him or he loses his source of income.

The fact is that not all men like financially empowered wives and not all women will contribute their quota to the finance of the home even if they outearn him.

We have also read/heard stories of men who force their wives to resign or women who find it difficult to juggle home & work.

Also, a lot of women earn money or are trying to. Earning power is already done: it is for women to change from my money is my money &his money is our money to our money is our money and for men to stop tying earning power to leadership.

It is well

pcguru1:

its only a lazy woman who depends on people for money, but afterall laziness no be bad thing. most people are

Ooooh you think say ashawo work de easy?
You fit stay all night they waka for road dey look foe customer?
Ashawo no de easy oooo.

Frankenstein:
Take a poll on this issue exclusively for women and you'll get 90% of them going against the idea.

and 90% of men will goes against the idea of their wives help out financially

FrancisTony:
Now, some men will be screaming, 'God bless you OP'.

When female folks scream gender equality, you'll see bunch of misogynists.

Hypocrisy of men.

LOL!

pcguru1:


Dude i really love the way you analyzed that, yeah nollywood too does affect people's perception on certain things.

Thanks bro...we may not know or agree it here, but I have taken time to research on some of the societal anomalies we are witnessing in Nigeria today; especially those concerning marriage and romance, and I can boldly tell you that Nollywood films caused our predicaments today!

Many girls replicate the lifestyles they watch in movies...knowingly or unknowingly to the detriment of their own future!


Watch this: any girl or lady that sits down all the time watching Nollywood, Bollywood and Hollywood movies always have a very repelling personality and attitude! Observe it from today and see

hensben:
never book mark this topic, dey laugh 4 there.

You wan make I follow you suffer.

Ilovenigeria:

Ooooh you think say ashawo work de easy?
You fit stay all night they waka for road dey look foe customer?
Ashawo no de easy oooo.

I hear you sha, abeg dey use condom and be careful because some clients fit be ritualist, i for talk something else but i no dey judge people anyway

Gorgeous58:
Strive to be the kind of woman who, when your man hits rock bottom, when his business fails or he is retrenched from his job, can carry the family through. You must be able to provide what he otherwise would. This thing of women who sit doing nothing, and when a man goes through a difficult period, cannot come through for him, or at least even help him make a plan, is not on.

Let us start hustling with our men. We must stop being liabilities when we have what it takes to be assets.

Ladies, what's your take on this?

they will say anything on

^^^
Once again your hypocrisy shows in broad daylight.

The same men who today are praising and shouting yes, yes, will tomorrow refuse to adhere to the simple fact that women should be given their equal rights and opportunities.

"We want Assets and not liabilities"
And when the woman ask for her equal opportunities and rights, we will hear
"Men have the sole responsibility to provide and a man is the head of the family".

Is this not the same Nairaland that we read of how a man wants the wife to resign her job and career , because he wants her to take care of the children. As if taking care of kids is solely a responsibility of a woman.

Most Nigerian men are synonymous with hypocrisy.

This isn't new,...

@ op nice one. U knw someone once said 'a lady that cannot help out with little things in the home as trivial as paying the eletric bills, dstv bills etc is just like the furniture in the sitting room' u knw when I heard dis, I couldn't agree less. But for what its worth, I wouldn't fail to recognise the fact that most of d lady folks're beginning to contribute meaningfully with finances @ home. In adherence to d rule of bc, ie constructive criticism, for all u ladies dat are challenged and feel u really want to do sth d@ would enable u contribute financially in d home and u dunno wot exactly, feel free to whatsapp me on 07031607416 btw today and monday next week. Please u must be an open and serious minded individual.

Liability:
i have patent right my name.....take permission before using liability in ur thread.

Sorry, no vex!

abbakacici:
and 90% of men will goes against the idea of their wives help out financially

90% of men , did the gods send you that statistics ?