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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Benosaks(m): 9:20am On Feb 03, 2015 |
U were d one dat started d relationship so u should knw hw to end it. |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Yehman(m): 9:20am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Date him for additional 10yrs and he will marry u. #Ebonge don swt u die 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Iniotong(m): 9:21am On Feb 03, 2015 |
That's too long ni , abi are you trying to break the Guinness book of record for the longest date? 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by maryhaam(f): 9:22am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:what did u just say.......he doesn't wanna leave u,for ur info, u leave who u waannna leave,n stay where u wanna stay,use ur sixth sense 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 9:22am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04: Give me his phone number lemme talk to him, he is silly for threatening to kill ur future husband. |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by IBRAHEEM8(m): 9:23am On Feb 03, 2015 |
heya... .sorry dear.. D mistak u girl made whil in a relatnsip,was dat u gav out dat important tin part of ur lif"SEX" too cheaply... practically impossibu 4 a man to b datin u 4 10years without sex..he wud b d 1 ask u 1st of marriag...u av simply loose ur dignity by avin sex wit him several tims without numba...just repent of ur sins n pray 2 GOD to show u d way.... don mak mistak of packin to his aoz without marriag cos u wil b thrown out wit smal quarel 1 nit... ALLAH wil see u tru |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 9:23am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04: Yes there are. Even on this forum. But he should have told you earlier in the relationship. How do you date someone for 10 years and you don't know their beliefs? That's strange Don't you guys have conversations and discuss your lives? Or you just meet up and have fun? If the latter is the case then you are probably a side chick, like a poster on the first page said. Anyway, just move on and cut him off totally. Inform his friends/families and yours too. If he does anything funny,get a restraining order. 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Setaje(f): 9:24am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Op you are not telling the truth. Or this story is made up. Number one, within two years I would have known people connected to him. In your story, u did not even mention his family and there is no way his family won't be bothering him about settling down. I can almost bet that those six years u were in school, the guy got married and his family doesn't stay here. Sometimes we women turn a deliberate blind eye just to fulfill our desires and some men are good at covering up. What I also see wiv the guy is obsession. Some married men behave that way to the woman outside so it's not new. Thirdly, is he a christian? Or muslim? Except his is atheist, both faiths frown at keeping concubines wiv out proper documentation and rights. Either way, the guy just wants to ruin your life and re-write your destiny. If truly he is not married and u decide to stay and have children wiv out marrying him, when u begin to have issues, u will be surprised how fast the man will fall in love wiv another woman and get married to her. The same marriage he denied you. You seem not to know men. 4 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 9:24am On Feb 03, 2015 |
op pls do something before you grow old,remember you are a lady,he can have a child anytime,but yours is limited. Or don't you want to have kids,but i do agree don't have kids for him without marriage |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by adbokus(m): 9:30am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:God! You really laughed?! That guy just gave you the hard truth and it sounded like a clownish claptrap to you?! It's ok!... 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Truckpusher(m): 9:31am On Feb 03, 2015 |
3cycle:Misogynist when I run around making jokes with them ladies in the house? Say something else ,I can be different thing to different folks but being a misogynist isn't one of them. How can I be a misogynist when all my life I was raised s by girls. See your mouth like who wey no get life insurance policy. Why are we even fighting?Shey! You Know say I like you. 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 9:32am On Feb 03, 2015 |
...OP...you have gotten enough advice here already...read especially Setaje's comment...right on point..take it from me cos i am a guy. Everyone here is telling you the same thing but in a different way so its all up to you. 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by mkdboy: 9:34am On Feb 03, 2015 |
He is just a selfish man. How long are you prepare to wait for a fool like that? In my own view understanding he is talking about is the marriage and not just for sex. He can stand you being with another man and he is not man enough to do the right thing. And you , I don`t thing you no what love is . Some one that is unfaithful to you can never love you keep up with the love game till you get Aids from him, than the both of you will love each other better in hell. 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 9:35am On Feb 03, 2015 |
adbokus: Lmao 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Rulloor(m): 9:35am On Feb 03, 2015 |
You need some leverage. Make a video recording of his threats, create a new email and send it there. Make a copy available to your lawyer then dump the guy. You are not beholden by him. 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by tabletgirl: 9:38am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04: My dear, i will ask you one question: Do you want to be where you are in another ten years? If yes, stay, if no, do the needful. P.S: We always know the answer to these things. Listen to what is inside of you. How to get rid of him? Continue what you are doing now. When this continues for 5 months he will know you mean business, get tired and stay away. If he decides to commit, it is up to you to decide if you want to marry someone who is already a cheat. Faithful men are still out there but there are few and far between. The decision my dear is yours. Another important thing, dont act undecided, he will only stay around longer. Decide if he is going or staying and ...do the needful! When a woman's mind is made up, nothing on this earth can shake it. I hope you get there, cos though i don't know you but if you haved loved him for 10 years and he does not want to commit, you deserve more and better. I pray you get it dear. Ladies! If you have loved someone for long enough, get the answers to your future. I waited 5 years...now the answer is the heart breaking one. I'd like to believe its God just pointing me in the right direction, so i will be quiet, calm and wait out the storm. Everyday i get less angry, stronger, more thankful for everything... Faceless dear, Remember that rain makes things grow. When you see what the rain has been watering, it will be beautiful. Hugs darling 5 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Tashaamania(f): 9:38am On Feb 03, 2015 |
You made a grave mistake OP, 10years is too much to wait for marriage or know if a guy really wants to settle down with you. Kpatakpata 3years. Do you know what 10years is?? Nawaoo una try sha.. Anyways, like a poster said. Your story is either incomplete or fake. How come for 10years you never met any of his family members to start with? If you do, this would have been alot easier In any case, I'll suggest no matter what, you just have to cut him off totally and dont be scared of whatever he might wanna do. Some people are devils in human clothings, he doesnt wanna marry you, he still doesnt wanna leave you alone. If he threatens you, you either report him to his family- if you know them or involve the law authorities. Dont play baby for him and dont ever give in to his stupiid advances of you moving in and start making babies without marriage rites else you would suffer its consequences later in life.. 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by buoye1(m): 9:39am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Kunu and buns @5a.m?u wont even brush ur teeth!dirty boy flyca: 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 9:48am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Mumu tinz. He been cheating n u still dere looking and loving. Yeye love, finding love in wrong places. U been together 2 years ur eyes nor open, 4 years d eye still nor open, 6 years ur eyes still no wan open. ARE GiRLS THIS STUPIID. Na wen 10years don nak u rememba say u don dey old u come ask am if hin wan marry u. Y dat kind person go marry u? 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by brize(m): 9:54am On Feb 03, 2015 |
my dear run for your life?? but wait o, how old are you cos ten years in a relationship is not moi moi 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by femi4: 9:56am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:The earlier you run, the better, the bolded is the reason why he doesn't want to marry you. You are so blind in love for 10yrs to see that he's selfish. He doesn't love u, when a guy love a woman, he will do everything to keep her. Forget his threat......its an empty threat. Run before its too late......living with a selfish man can be catastrophic 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by faceless04: 9:57am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Tashaamania: I've met his families and friends, he has met mine. But there has neva been any formal introduction. We have attended loads of functions together. |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Tashaamania(f): 9:59am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:Girl, no offence buh are you crazy A dude who did something like this should be your worst enemy.. 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by femi4: 10:03am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:I think I know you |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by repogirl(f): 10:04am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Op, if that guy really truly loves you, he would marry you!! Secondly dating a cheating guy is a no no even if he doesn't flaunt it in your face, but that's just for me anyway, maybe you don't mind.... You can continue the relationship at your own risk 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by faceless04: 10:04am On Feb 03, 2015 |
tabletgirl: Thanks tabletgirl, I'm glad there's someone there who can empathise with me 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by jogsman01(m): 10:04am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:i will urge u to pick his call and hear wat he has to say. tell hi m ur mind in order to clear ur conscience. the devil u ve known for long is beta dan an angel u just met. u might not find another man as LOVABLE as d DOC...... Think twice and pray........ God will come to ur aid |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Tashaamania(f): 10:05am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04: Everything remains invalid as far as he hasnt done anything.. Run for your life bae, well except you dont mind been a babymama that might get kicked out later in life.. ...be wise please 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nuella222(f): 10:07am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Dear run for ur life o, the guy get a marine wife so he can't marry u and he won't tell u the reason cos its a life secret! Even if u tie a heavy stone on his neck to be thrown into the deepest ocean he will not marry u. Just think about it, 10 years and still counting! Gosh! Just run as ur legs cn carry u and don't forget to embark on serious prayer cos as for fight, he meant what he said. He will fight with the last drop of his blood cos that's how jealous his type can be. Please pray hard o cos na abiku chember u come enter so o! 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by ethylene: 10:11am On Feb 03, 2015 |
My scientific advice: If gravitation is responsible for the two of you to fall in love, then u must need a Soyuz rocket to escape the gravitational pull of your partner |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by galapazygalarba: 10:11am On Feb 03, 2015 |
BaebieHot:WORD!!! dont just tell your parents, also make a police report and let him know you have told everyone concerned shuold anything happen to you(God forbid though) if you can, try to get another job outside the state and relocate, although if he is that desperate to hurt might still find you whereever you go, so tell your parent pls. 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 10:12am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Didn't read but I have one advice for you,collect your pension and retire. 1 Like |
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