Fhemmmy:


Most of the affected people are caucasians . . . . no matter where there is a law, there is a hole through it that people take advantage of it, and i never said law was perfect, as a matter of fact, except when the man is super duper wealthy and the woman is being irrationally requesting for heaven and earth, i see no reason why a man should be chased to take care of his own child.

By the way, if you know a child is not yours from the start and you adopt that child by marrying her/his mother, if things go sour btw you guys, should you not still care for that child?

The father of the child was alive and probably working like you said when you met the mother and marry her with all that comes with her, so now that things are sour, you have a problem still treating that child as your own?

While so many men on our community are ready and willing to take care of their brother's kids and all that, taking care of kids should not be a big deal, except when the woman is asking for too much or fraud.

mutter:


I just understand why this is hard to understand.

bukatyne:

Good to see me commenting How?

mutter:


I just understand why this is hard to understand.

bukatyne:


The root cause analysis

I hope If the cases are reversed, We will be willing to do RCA.

We are on the same page

pickabeau1:


As in

I expected you to make one or two open ended statements but u r actually answeing questions
Keep it up

bukatyne:


Funny

Open ended statements

My POV s are always clear

Considering the fact you did not answer my questions on This thread, it is strange talking about answering questions.

pickabeau1:

I'm not on the page of rehashing peoples pasts to mock them
This IS A forum...issues are dissected
I wonder why you think issues of females will not be so
You see bias everywhere...

A Nigerian woman named Anastacia Oaikhena Lambert (pictured below) was found dead in her home in Houston, Texas on Monday December 8th and Houston police are now looking for herestranged husband, Achilles Lambert, who has gone missing with the couple's 11 month old baby.

27 year old Anastacia was found stabbed to death and her body stuffed inside a refrigerator in the Houston apartment. The decomposing body was found by maintenance workers after a strong foul odor was perceived coming from the woman's home.

The couple's 11 months old son is now believed to be with 38-year-old Patrick Lambert, who police suspect killed his estranged wife and they have put his face out.

Just two months ago, Anastacia called 911 to report that her husband was threatening her with a knife but when police got there the couple had settled and no charges were ever filed.

According to KHOU, the Achilles has not been seen or heard from in about a week. And that is how long they think Anastacia had been in the refrigerator. The last time she was seen by neighbours walking around the complex was about two weeks ago

An Amber Alert has since been issued for the missing baby...

http://lindaikeji..in/2014/12/nigerian-woman-allegedly-murdered-by.html?m=1

coogar:


hahahaha
this is another nigerian woman murdered by her husband.



did the coven witches not say only bush african men especially nigerian men cannot cope with the laws of the US?

well, her hubby is an american - he's never stepped foot in africa. if nigerian women are getting killed by nigerians, americans, etc then what's the common factor here?

pickabeau1:


I'm not on the page of rehashing peoples pasts to mock them

This IS A forum...issues are dissected

I wonder why you think issues of females will not be so

You see bias everywhere...

bukatyne:


There is bias, all can see

@Rehashing peoples past: there is a difference between mocking people with their pasts and calling them out when they make posts contrary to their initial stance...

If tomorrow I support a working wife getting spousal support, I am sure you will either quote my posts on This thread or never take me as a woman of my words again.

If you quote me to challenge me on my earlier stance, I should be humble enough to acknowledge my stance has changed due to newer experiences.

I don't say A on one thread and say B or advise someone to do C in a similar situation. But again, We are all not the same.

Infact, I like knowing What people stand for, it saves me a lot of roundabout arguments

cococandy:
not on NL. Try are not even allowed to snap and get simply upset

pickabeau1:

You dey mine them
See the õrgy of rants that permeated the thread

A particular poster was just screaming in CAPs
I can imagine her vessels throbbing with her glee to just bastardise naija men

Mutaino7:
I dhey fear to marry a 9ja chick.. So if i offend her she's gonna dig up my past to hurt me.(mutter's case).. Even to enter church pick wife dhey dangerous nowadays.. All things b equal bros J nah u dhey incharge of my life... But some bros no dhey try atall.. 4rming macho ontop dry pocket babes go wash u nah.. I pray dat God will make me meet d woman wey go make me like her pass my mother a d one to call my heart.

coogar:


some of them never had responsible fathers to start with. they still carry the scars of their childhood and they see their deadbeat dads in every nigerian male.

you cannot really blame them.

bukatyne:


I wish someone can pull similar stats of husbands killed by wives to experiment

pickabeau1:


Actually I am tending to believe this more n more

Some of them call all men ràpists

They see men via the lens of their fathers

pickabeau1:


Actually I am tending to believe this more n more

Some of them call all men ràpists

They see men via the lens of their fathers

Fawklicant:


Most Nigerian girls do. Before I date any naija babe, I try to find out about her relationship with her father, because either way she is going to judge me by those standards. If her dad is/was irresponsible, she will watch out for any slightest trait from you. If on the other hand, he is/was a loving and caring father, then you got a lot of work to do.

Fawklicant:


Most Nigerian girls do. Before I date any naija babe, I try to find out about her relationship with her father, because either way she is going to judge me by those standards. If her dad is/was irresponsible, she will watch out for any slightest trait from you. If on the other hand, he is/was a loving and caring father, then you got a lot of work to do.

coogar:


you are still tending to believe?
there are stacks of empirical evidences everywhere if you bother to check. they can never see anything good about nigerian men cos their own fathers were grossly irresponsible.

before you date any nigerian woman, it's imperative to find out her relationship with her dad. if she grew up in an abusive home, there's a higher risk she would be a man-hater. some of the stories their mothers told them about men is forever etched on their hearts.

cococandy:

Oh I remember one thread just a little similar but not akin to this.
About a cheating man who was also maltreating his wife, then died in a car crash and the wife didn't mourn him.
Hell was let loose that she didn't mourn him.

Even pickabeau was among those who didn't think such behavior was enough for the woman to not have been broken by the death of the man who was making her life a miserable one.

I wonder what the case would have been if she killed him herself.
I'm sure anyone who tried to see her reason for snapping would have been damned for life on this forum.

I guess the rules bend whichever way convenient at the moment.

pickabeau1:


Makes sense

Cococandy...be direct
Now you r suddenly defending naija men..you?!
When posters call all men ràpists or pedophiles
What do you do..you laugh...

There must be a reason why a lot of females here hate men

coogar:


his own child?
of course, the long drawn court cases happen because the paternity of the child is questionable. most men would support their kids, why wouldn't they?

coogar:


the men do not know the child isn't theirs till after some years. by then, their name would have been written on the child's birth certificate as the biological father.

why would a woman commit paternity fraud? how responsible are these women? what protection does the system give to men that have been defrauded? these are the issues you should be looking at.

coogar:


i am not sure you read the story properly.
the man was made to believe the child was his. he had his name as the father of the child - years later, the woman confessed to him that the child wasn't his. he kept on paying as he didn't want to upset the boy.

years along the line, the woman opted to marry the father of the child. at this point, the man wanted the biological father to continue supporting the child. the woman disagreed. she went to court & won the case!

if the system isn't flawed - how did the woman win the case? the biological dad is alive & well and he's got a job. how can the court rule that the non-biological father should continue to support the child? if that is not madness, i dunno what else to call it.

coogar:


paternity fraud is the major reason most of these men refuse to pay any child support. why should any man support a child that isn't his......especially when he was lied to initially that the child is his? what kinda nonsense is that?

these women don't even get punished for committing paternity fraud. no law holds them responsible for lying about the father of the child. any man can be hooked and forced to pay child support for 18 years for another man's child and you think the system is fair?

biko, stop reaching.....

bukatyne:


You mean most Nigerian fathers were terrible at some point?


Nigerian men, fear God o!

Fawklicant:


Please read my post again, then yours and tell me the correlation between both posts.

Fhemmmy:
I read it well and i am against such

soulglo:



That first one you spoke about, I believe they had three children. One with special needs and if I'm not mistaken are now in Nigeria. My heart breaks for all of them especially the one with special needs. What's life in Nigeria going to be like for him. Just a senseless waste.

pickabeau1:
Coco


I will call you when it starts


Just saw your rant up ahead

So it is OK for a woman to grieve when her fiancé or boyfriend dies but its forbidden for her to mourn the fada of her kids when he dies because he had An affair at the time

Interesting

bukatyne:


@bold

DidN'T your uncle have any serious relationship when he was abroad?

coogar:


hahahaha
this is another nigerian woman murdered by her husband.



did the coven witches not say only bush african men especially nigerian men cannot cope with the laws of the US?

well, her hubby is an american - he's never stepped foot in africa. if nigerian women are getting killed by nigerians, americans, etc then what's the common factor here?