Beverlyjean:


You don't have to say that about me , I told you that I am still fresh when it comes to relationships , I don't have friends and my mum and dad monitor me a lot , so I don't no much about boys because I am the only child, I don't have brothers or sisters. I stick to myself most times . The other guy wasn't planned for , it just happened. My fear is that my bf that I luv might end up leaving me if he finds out . I don't want to loose them both

naijaboiy:

if you think you Love two people at once,,choose the second.

Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have a second option

Confused set of species

miembamish:
@Op, ur 21, ur boo is 23 and de side dude is 30.

De m u made was not realising u had a bf already being being emotionally attached to de new Man(cause @30 he's a man)

From indications, ur love for ur bf isn't strong enof to stop u from cheating on him.

The devil u knw is beta dan de angel u don't knw.

A bird @hand is beta dan birds in de bush.

Ur too young to be messing around.

Face ur studies and mur parents proud of u.

Ask ur self, what do u really want in a relationship.

Follow de one dat has dat ting u want in a relationship.

All de same, don't forget to use ur brain.

Let ur brain control ur heart.

Tell de new guy abt ur feelings for ur bf and watch his reactions..

Remember, @21 u shouldn't be in a haste to marry.











































Ur still hoping for more ?



































































Be patient and srew down.








































There might be gold @de end of de rainbow.























































But dz time around, de is no gold!!!































Best of luck in ur academics(not in any useless issue)










































Gudnyt....

zaralady:
Hhhmmmmmm...dis one is strong!...my dear my good advice is to stick to ur bf, reason because a guy who is comfortable dating u while u re a relatnship ll someday cheat on u while u datin him,secondly, he is selfish, for him to ask u to dump ur bf for him...gal Dats not a good person to me...my dear u got urself into dis mess....wen I was datin my bf I got a crush on an extremely lovin guy who wouldn't mind datin me while am datin my bf, but I knew wat I wanted...am not a cheat and I cnt leave my bf for someone else...because u love ur bf doesn't mean u wnt love odas....u jst hav to control ur emotionals...don't cheat in a relatnship if u cnt stay, jst leave!...u had better dump d oda guy and stick to ur bf else u ll end up loosin both, I was in dis shoe before and wat I did was dump the distractin guy and focus on my bf tho we re no more but I didn't regret my actions...y not confess to ur bf abt wat has been going on and as him to forgive u, @least dat is a test of love....u don't need to follow ur head without ur heart or heart without ur head all u hav to do is do the right tin....do the right tin gal and it includes not cheatin on ur bf..i cn tell u since Ave been in relatnship I hav neva cheated on my bf before...not even once, be prouud to b among the decent gals

zyzxx:
Hmmm
oga oooo

naijaboiy:

if you think you Love two people at once,,choose the second.

Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have a second option

Confused set of species

ifoundmyperfect:
The odds are against you with your boy -23

you didn't gist us of his plans with you for the future. That is if he has any

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Mere 2 years age difference... By the time he is ready to settle down you may have gotten sore, grey n less attractive (fashy ur virginity)

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you have taken your cheating to another level with man -30 (except you wana make it a perpetual secret)

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In as much as you may wana indulge in self-denial, you can't help but admit you loff man -30. Except you suffer from an uncontrollable pre-konji urge, virgins i've met are always conscious of their body. You loff this man -30. You do!!! For you to allow am give you pre-body action as an acclaimed virgin. Don't try to fool us and yourself. You didn't fail to give us his age, him taking you home and introducing you to his family, the reception and acceptance you got, His present job and readiness to get married. Deductively, you have used your (head) and made up your mind with this man -30 being the perfect candidate.

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I guess the question you really wanna ask us is how to break up with boy -23... and the most perfect get away... Well, to answer that, i'd share with you a simple line - "I'm sorry I cannot continue this relationship anymore" Then for a perfect getaway "I'm carry another man's baby"
End of story!!!

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LAST bULLET,
You may not like this - Boy -23 may fancy you but isnt so crazy about you. Man -30 may just have his interest heightened after discovering your virginity status. Some guys no dey take such status play. Meaning when you are outta that glorified status, what comes next In other words, neither of the guys may just be into you.

zaralady:
Hhhmmmmmm...dis one is strong!...my dear my good advice is to stick to ur bf, reason because a guy who is comfortable dating u while u re a relatnship ll someday cheat on u while u datin him,secondly, he is selfish, for him to ask u to dump ur bf for him...gal Dats not a good person to me...my dear u got urself into dis mess....wen I was datin my bf I got a crush on an extremely lovin guy who wouldn't mind datin me while am datin my bf, but I knew wat I wanted...am not a cheat and I cnt leave my bf for someone else...because u love ur bf doesn't mean u wnt love odas....u jst hav to control ur emotionals...don't cheat in a relatnship if u cnt stay, jst leave!...u had better dump d oda guy and stick to ur bf else u ll end up loosin both, I was in dis shoe before and wat I did was dump the distractin guy and focus on my bf tho we re no more but I didn't regret my actions...y not confess to ur bf abt wat has been going on and as him to forgive u, @least dat is a test of love....u don't need to follow ur head without ur heart or heart without ur head all u hav to do is do the right tin....do the right tin gal and it includes not cheatin on ur bf..i cn tell u since Ave been in relatnship I hav neva cheated on my bf before...not even once, be prouud to b among the decent gals

eurodiva:


Talk is cheap, call me up for real sex
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naijaboiy:
you have already done some things with this other guy.

It just remains sex. Only God knows what those things are.

Please just leave that poor boy in abroad alone.

You clearly do not Love him

ekenzify:


Bro, u av said it all. For her to give guy 30 the pleasure of feeling her up n doing everything except sex. The way she described the attentions guy 30 is giving her. Abegi, she knows her answer already.

Ehm, u supposedly confused her the more with ur last bullet speech.

RicardozRichard:
My dear go and smoke weed and sleep joor

Non of them truly loves u and u don't love any of them

Its obvious u are having ur youthful exorbitance period

Get your serf busy with your holy bible and leave the rest

for the most high God I kW he has ur future already

planned to his best not ur best....





CAN I CONTINUE SMOKING
YES I ALMOST FORGOT DONT LOOK FOR ANSA FROM THE INTERNET OR THIS FORUM BECAUSE TOO MANY ANSWERS NEVA SOLVE THE PROBLEM IT ONLY ADD ANOTHER PROBLEM TO THE OTHER PROBLEM WICH IS PROBLEM CONFUSION

LOOK FOR SOLUTIONS FROM GOD .. HE LL PICK THE ONE BEST ANSA FROM THE MANY THAT HE KWS CAN SOLVE IT AND TELL IT TO YOU... CHIKENA

SO CAN I CONTINUE SMOKING??

OOOH GOSH I ALMOST FORGOT AGAIN ,PLS WHEN I SAY LOOK FOR SOLUTIONS FROM GOD PLS I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU GOING TO PASTORS OR IMAM OR SPIRITUAL WHATEVA BEFORE U COME AND OPEN ANOTHER THREAD TELLING NAIRALANDERS THAT YOU ARE NOW LOVING 3 OR MORE GUYS
BEKO!!! WITH PRAYERS ALONE YOU CAN TALK TO YOUR FATHER IN HEAVEN WITHOUT ROAMING, WITHOUT BORROWING CREDIT, WITHOUT NUMBER BUSY , WITHOUT CALLERS TUNE, WITHOUT CREDIT, EVEN WITHOUT CALL DIVERTS

SO CAN I CONTINUE SMOKING ??

naijaboiy:

if you think you Love two people at once,,choose the second.

Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have a second option

Confused set of species

0malicious:
my advice is this
1. just bear it in mind that you are young, 21 is a young age to talk of marriage.
2. Talk of marriage is not a sign of seriousness, men can talk talk n talk n introduce you to their ancestors but if they're gonna mess u up, they will.
3. Focus on building urself now. this is d most important part of my advice. I swear it can't be over emphasized. as a woman you need to have something going for yourself, have some self worth. forget the love fairy tale bullshit, it doesn't last, what your seeing is jus d welcoming parade. what makes you a real woman is not a mans appreciation but your ability to stand on your own. don't make rships d centre of your life when you ought to focus on harnessing your God given talents.
4. don't take any rship seriously for now unless your ready to get married. stop d activity with d second guy, think about it n realise d guy is selfish in his demands. if you eventually leave ur bf he might lose interest, some men re chasers it would shock you to know what they'd do to get what they want. and no this guy is not too sweet to be like that, open your eyes.
5. sex is just an activity, stop putting too much thought on it. it comes with a lot of baggage that only marriage can handle trust me.
sorry for d long post God bless you.

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

nallypaul:
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