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halfrica:
Wat do u mean u bliv dis letter For any complaint u av unilag only recieved typed letter and dis is hand written unilag has never accepted any form of hand written letter u just bliv dis no facilitator approving it dsa nt signinh it why are u guys actin like u didnt go to school
If he did dat more girls shd av cum out why is it only 2 girls why why why why she is nt d only one he is supervising her project whr are d oda ones too

Ode!

tartarus:
Exactly!! She's blaming herself for almost being sexually assaulted

There's nothing I wouldn't read on NL

like I said she's one of those girls that have been raped so many times she sees nothing wrong with it. I bet it turns her on

Dem plenty...most of dis lecturers are dogs..

oreos:
Who is the genderless goat?

Thats why dis country never moves forward see it both ways not one side ha

TXRunner:
halfrica, is mr baruwa your dad? why are you so bent on discrediting d gal's story without givin hr d benefit of doubt? nawa 4 some girls o. i hope none of ur friends or loved ones goes thru rape or attempted rape den we will c wat u will say. smh

u said ur almost raped once & u blamed urself, I'm sorry bt u lack self confidence & d feeling of self worth cos no right thinking female will blame hrself for rape. dats if ur even a female & nt a member of d randy lecturer household tryn 2 do damage control cos believe it or not his name has been soiled no matter wat. wat u shld b praying for now is dat he shudnt lose his job cos I don't know if unilag will agree for him 2 continue teaching wit all the controversies surrounding him now. nonsense!

The ‘it' does not identify with any sex hence its confusion and lack of common sense.

Later some mentally derailed and sick people will claim she faked it and is trying to set the man up. May God, Allah, Buddha, and all the gods of human send serial rapists to rape their mom, wives, daughters, sisters and grand-mothers. Nigerians should learn to deal with matters the way it ought to be.

halfrica:
Am female mind u am nt takin any side am blaming both sides i cant just because she is a girl start siding her she is writing an hand written letter and you believe it ?
No serious issue in unilag will address ur letter wiv out it been typed
Doesnt she hav any course adviser no school counsellor wat are u tellin me her first letter shd be directed to either her course adviser or facilitator
I hate cooked up stories

You don't sound like an educated person. The tuition your family paid on you is a total waste. Because you give yourself willingly to every agbero on the road you think we don't have decent women again. Better edit every rubbish you have posted on this topic before the forum descends on you now.

halfrica:
If he did dat more girls shd av cum out why is it only 2 girls why why why why she is nt d only one he is supervising her project whr are d oda ones too

It's still early days yet, more might come out.

halfrica:
Am never saying d lecturer is not guilty bt girls comin out givin out semi truth semi lie story is annoying he myt av grabbed her and all bt wudnt av raped her
Am sayin all dis cos i kno of girls who delibrately give their body out to lecturers wiv out dem askin
Some agrees to it
I av seen and heard a lot in that school cos am a student so wen a girl just wake up sayin dis dey really need to go deep into d matter it was a mutual thing

I don't understand your argument or why you take it so personal.
The fact that there are some girls who seduce lecturers doesn't mean that lecturers too do not harass some other girls who are not as willing.
We all know that it's things that are hard to get that have the most appeal.
The fact that no one has reported a rape does not mean it has not happened. The Nigerian university system and our society in general makes it difficult for people to come out to make complaints of rape.

You've already accepted that he could have sexually harassed and molested the lady, from there it's a small step to räpe. if she had not pretended she had an asmatic attack what do you think would have happened? Or is that your definition of consensual sex?

halfrica:
Thats why dis country never moves forward see it both ways not one side ha

I don't do inferior beings. Quote me once you have self worth

wen d cry of your iniquity finally reach last heaven! e don b for this man. More witnesses on their way.

oreos:
The ‘it' does not identify with any sex hence its confusion and lack of common sense.

Leasten to d part where i said i dressed wildly stop insulting me he is nt my fada bt i stay in girls hostel i hear wat girls do themselves cos she is 18means she is innocent 18yrs old of dis days are worst dan a 24years old lady sef dey do worst like wats hard for her to buy post utme form at a bank by hersef?

Reading the comments here make me realize why girls don't come out to tell on the rapist. Apart from fear of the man haunting them, the society does not believe them and faults them. If I dress in a certain way and you force yourself on me without my consent it is rape. Like Yoruba will say eni to kan lo mo (its only the victim that will understand). Rape is never the victim's fault.

halfrica:
Thats why dis country never moves forward see it both ways not one side ha

Mr baruwa save your energy for the hearings in court!!! shouting on Nairaland won't help you

[size=15pt]Its time to end sexual harassment in our institutions once and for all!!! [/size]

halfrica:
And no extreme church ladies av eva cum out for a rape report u kno dose strongly in christainity
dis is to tell u d girls av equal fault in dis
U talkin of selve control really wen sum ladieds force it on dem some girls wont even attend lectures fail test let broad sheet come out dey score higher dan u dat did over nyt sef
Wel self control myt bee his fault too

Somebody give this woman a beeeer!!!!!!

montestic:
STORY EXCLUSIVE TO STELLA DIMOKO KORKUS BLOG.

Lets call her Lady X....

She called me this Morning and told me a chilling recount of how Mr Akinfolarin Baruwa the lecturer who is presently being held for allegedly raping an 18year old girl also tried same with her in his office.

She recounted how she reported him to the school authorities and nothing was done...Please read her story with proof attached.
If you are a pen pushed with a Daily News and wish to interview her,please call me and i will give you her contact...
She wishes to remain anonymous for now but she is already making moves to re-open the case she filed last year.







MY STORY:-As Told By Lady X

This happened early 2014.
I had finished my project with my supervisor a pleasant middle aged woman but because she retired before I could get time off work to have her sign off my score sheet I had been re-assigned to Mr Akinfolarin Baruwa as my new project supervisor.
I remembered immediately I got off my first call from him my roommate let’s call her K told me “omg! Is that guy your supervisor?hian” it took me a while to get around the meaning of her words.

My first impression about him was he was a no nonsense kinda lecturer. I walked into the office he was at the bus admin complex top floor he seemed to be sharing an office with another lecturer.
It was about 5pm I had a paper that day. He didn’t attend to me till the other man was done, he sent me on silly errands like “make this photocopy”, “go and buy me tom tom” all this continued till about 8pm after waiting for like forever he attended to me, glanced at my work and said it was rubbish and couldn’t believe my former supervisor who happened to be a professor could approve such nonsense I appealed to him that it was exam period I couldn’t possibly work on my project from the scratch and still meet the deadline for submission so I begged him to let me make corrections instead.


He said someone has done the same topic 2/3 years back and he would easily report me to the authorities that I copied which would guarantee I’ve an extra year. He went on and on ,he had me believe the work was so bad assuring me that I couldn’t escape an extra year he even said he would report me for plagiarism because I forgot to site a particular reference. At some point he said I shouldn’t bother with correcting the work that he’s submitting my name to Admin with the batch of students to be carried over next year, I was stoned.


After begging him over and over to make me correct [mostly typographical errors] he finally agreed, my mind was finally at rest and I thanked him, as I made to leave he looked at me and was like ‘is that how to say thank you?’ I then went on both knees thanking him profusely “thank you sir”, “God bless you sir”…. While I was at it he was closing the blinds of the office and he turned off the A/C [the office was very cold] like he was going to wrap up for the day, he was clearing the sofa that had other peoples projects next thing I know he locks the door…


I was stilling trying to wrap my head around him locking the door when he dragged me; Stella I was a size 12 5”4 then, I am big, this guy is strong ,he just grabbed my boobs and my arms to his manhood rubbing it, next thing He was forcefully trying to remove my clothes, when I tried to force myself off his grip he got more aggressive when I tried to scream he got even more aggressive.

That place is isolated and quiet at night [the office is opposite UNILAG guesthouse by the sea side] I figured screaming was a waste of time and being forceful wasn’t getting anywhere so I lay still begging, then I began to cry “I’m asthmatic I can’t breathe” so I pretended to have an attack then he stopped he started apologising he said it was a mistake and he’s usually not like that and he’s sorry then he started again apologising that he’s hard, okay he doesn’t want sex again that I should just give him a hand job, I said I needed air that he should please open the door [acting like I was about to faint], he then finally opened the door apologising, I rushed out and I was still acting like I was short of breath and fainting with plenty tears in my eyes.


He later called me apologising that he doesn’t know what got over him, it was a mistake etc. I told my best friend, i was in complete shock ,all my years in UNILAG I had never experienced such, i was so stunned that day i lost my bag.

He said we should set him up And I am like “no all I want is to just graduate in peace” because when the matter gets to the authorities now it is another thing he would say.... he can even say we are cultists.

I started using different strategies when visiting his office like going with friends, he always says he is not around [because from up he could see people down] he would later call me to say “you think you are smart abi, you are playing with your graduation”.

On another occasion I had to have him sign my score sheet and i thought to my that this was broad daylight and what could possibly happen?

I was wrong!

A lecture was going on the floor before and the noise from the mega phone clouded the office and this man started again. I was furious and I started to insult him when he was trying to pin me down and as we were dragging my shirt tore and as I was shouting he pushed me.

I stormed out and he was shouting “get out of my office”, ”you can’t graduate i promise you”.

This time I had had it and I was going to the authorities, when I got downstairs I met a friend who happened to be a staff and he saw how mad I was and I narrated all that had happened.

we went to faculty of bus admin and reported to some lecturers they then followed me to his office and met with him.

If you see the way this man painted me black, he denied what happened he almost denied knowing me sef in fact he was mumbling my name like we had just met 5min ago. “He said you know how these students can get” the way he turned the story around I know deep down they knew he was lying but they had to be diplomatic they asked me to do my corrections and forget the matter.


Baruwa then started stalking me.

I remember after an exam while hanging with a friend of mine he called my number saying something like “is that your boyfriend? Is it because of him you are doing shakara for me” I was disgusted, I couldn’t see him but obviously he could see me. This happened on 2 separate occasions.


Stella this man frustrated me because it was a finished project before I was assigned to him, he made me redo and retype, photocopy, bind about 3 times over and every given time he says “you just like punishing yourself” with a snare.

I felt bullied.

it was one thing for a lecturer to ask a student out, it was a different thing entirely to manipulate me into sleeping with you and physically and emotionally harassing me in the process.

When he saw I was adamant he held on to my score sheet without which I couldn’t submit my project or do my defence. He was eager to break me but when I had had enough I reported to the authorities and at that point I was introduced to another girl by my class governor who had complained about this same Baruwa man.

I’ve attached a copy of the handwritten letter I submitted to the authorities and I had to keep it short and brief. The other girls he sexually harassed [my roommate and the other girl] didn’t show up on the day of the report and my class governor didn’t want to have anything to do with the case too so i flew solo.

I guess everybody was afraid of the consequences of reporting a lecturer.


The school promised to look into the matter but I think because of lack of concrete evidence or other witnesses the best they could do was stop him from supervising student’s projects.

I’m not saying he raped or didn’t rape the girl but the way he’s going on about it being consensual and sounding all believable made me remember when I had those lecturers go meet him and he turned the tables around and got them all confused.

What I do know for sure is though an 18 year old is an adult one cannot expect her to show any more than the decent level of tact she did to avoid an abuser as experienced as Baruwa. She shouldn’t be expected to know how to use Witt or tact to manoeuvre her way around an experienced molester who obviously emotionally and psychologically abuses his victims and pounces on them through a little perceived window of opportunity.


The other girls Baruwa abused that were too afraid to speak up are way older and more experienced than her. Akinfolarin Baruwa sexually harasses like a tutored glutton, If she gave even a little level of physical resistance then SHE WAS RAPED.

To the victim this is for you!..I am coming out to tell my story because of you!


Many Thanks Stella for giving me this platform and God bless.

LADY X


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Girls been impersonating men since human rights began. If you see the way some of these ladies lurk around lecturers ehh, some girls will give guys hint and at the last moment change their minds some can even change consensual acts to rape especially when Nigga begins to misbehave. I no knw buh I dey make sense so? My talk no be about ds rape issue o.

This man deserves to be "consensually raped" in prison if found guilty

halfrica:
You wrote a letter and it didnt go tru ur course adviser signing it or dsa approving it
I criosly dnt bliv dis trash honestly
Wat of her facilitator he cudnt av approved the letter

. Who as you make you believe? Na person like you dey get carry over for schl,simple comprehension u no sabi

Jaideyone:
Mr baruwa save your energy for the hearings in court!!! shouting on Nairaland won't help you

omokomo when u stay in a girls hostel disguised as a female u will cum bck and change ur mentality unilag girls some wild girls dey dat school o

halfrica:
Wat do u mean u bliv dis letter For any complaint u av unilag only recieved typed letter and dis is hand written unilag has never accepted any form of hand written letter u just bliv dis no facilitator approving it dsa nt signinh it why are u guys actin like u didnt go to school
If he did dat more girls shd av cum out why is it only 2 girls why why why why she is nt d only one he is supervising her project whr are d oda ones too

I know people like you will come online to discredit the victim's story,
you guys need to come clean on ypur relationship with Mr. Baruwa.

I expect you to defend your uncle till your last strength.

Why exactly are you claiming to be a victim ?
Just to sound credible.
hmm.

halfrica:
Leasten to d part where i said i dressed wildly stop insulting me he is nt my fada bt i stay in girls hostel i hear wat girls do themselves cos she is 18means she is innocent 18yrs old of dis days are worst dan a 24years old lady sef dey do worst like wats hard for her to buy post utme form at a bank by hersef?

Wetin you type?

Abugab:
Game on for this man.
E be like say all the demons wey dey worry am from e village combine this season to finish am.
I am sure many more people will come out afterwards.
Serial rapist noni....

Game on or game over?

every girl who needs attention will just shout : "Baruwa raped me" and the whole Nigeria will start commenting.

Enough of all this attention seekers.
They are playing with their future.

Genea:
Now where are dose e-diots analyzing d gals story,them and dis man should b castrated..anyman dat tries dis wit me wud have a taste botulinus toxin

But do you need to be insultive in order to make your point. Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion. Let's be tolerant of one another.

misspicy:
So you mean if a girl dressed waywardly she deserve to be raped? Babe dobu know wat rape entails,do u even know d pain girls who were raped go thru or even d stigma,pls pls tink wif ur head n not advocate for a rapist.dnt lemme pray one prayer for you,cos wat u say with ur mouth is wat will happen to you,like you are seriously defending d rapist?am flabbergasted,now I belive u r male not female.

I was surprised too, coming from a lady.

halfrica:
And who told u av nt been a victim too
Mine was evendurin foundation programme diploma at dat at wat age kwa
he was my course adviser
See i blame my sef cos d first day i went to his office my appearance was wild ok d way u dress is d way u are addressed and u fuckin kno d way unilag girls dress and mind u d girls will never surely tell u ow dey agreed i stay in girls hostel u kno the lecturers myt av done all d sensational part like hugging tryin to do sedusive postioning by nt rape
Bt he didnt rape or anyfin he only told me his plans and i told moi parents
Dat never made me fail diploma he stil lectured me
Its d way d girls handle d situation wen d lecturers post d green lyt dat annoys me ok

Where are your punctuation markz? Had a headache tryn to read ur post.

When you submit a petition to the University Authorities, your copy is STAMPED, SIGNED AND DATED "RECEIVED"!

Maybe l am the only one who noticed that the letter copied here does not have any semblance of being sent to the authorities.
How then am l to believe that it was not written afterwards,...... since we never heard of this other harassment, till there was one that was said to be consensual?

I cannot hold brief for either the lecturer or student since as an ex-Akokite, l know for a fact that some Lecturers attempt such, l also know that female students also fling themselves at some Lecturers in an attempt to get marks they are not qualified for while some, connive with their "empty-head" cult boy-friends to blackmail some Lecturers into awarding marks to them.

Either way, it is only "sheer incontrovertible evidence" that can swing the matter in favor of any of the parties...... not some "tears, sentiments or male chauvinism".

While l will like to give her the benefit of doubt, l also think the Lecturer should be accorded the benefit of "innocent until proven guilty".
How can she convince us that the sexcapade was not by mutual consent afterall, she is not under-age or else l would have called him "Yerima the Zamfara State Governor!



Lastpage!

calebbintus:
Girls been impersonating men since human rights began. If you see the way some of these ladies lurk around lecturers ehh, some girls will give guys hint and at the last moment change their minds some can even change consensual acts to rape especially when Nigga begins to misbehave. I no knw buh I dey make sense so?

Rape = lack of a ‘YES'= No is No

That girl that gave you green light who said no when you touched her but gave in after a while is a RAPE VICTIM. It does not matter whether she has been seduxi g you all this while inasmuch she refuses to go along with it, then no it is.

goody1shoe73:
Where are your punctuation markz? Had a headache tryn to read ur post.

Am typin wiv anger nau

Smooyis:
Game on or game over?

Not over yet as many more could still unfold.
Till he goes to jail and gets sacked we can say it is over for him

Genea:
Now where are dose e-diots analyzing d gals story,them and dis man should b castrated..anyman dat tries dis wit me wud have a taste botulinus toxin

you lack imagination. when she could have set him up and calmed d mumu down she wanted to 'graduate in peace '.now she has put another girl at risk