Ignore him

Let me advice you ma, do not cheat on him or even pretend that you are doing so because you will not like the outcome.

It will be so twisted against you that you will regret ever taking that step. You can't punish him, you have two options... (1) Stay with him, deny him sex (for your own good), and be praying for him to change. (2) move out with your children. Any man that keeps cheating on you doesn't regard, love or respect you. What are you doing with him?

Any other punishment you want to mete out to him will backfire!

angelchinny:
What am I going to do to save him from his friends..His following there foot steps, they r too wayward 4 my liking

Get a new phone with a separate line. Save the name with something romantic "treasure" or something better.

Send different kinds of love messages from both lines(main line and fake line) to the too eachother.
Don't delete the messages, start using security code on your phone and sometimes torment him by calling severally with your other fake phone secretly. he shouldn't know when you call. Like for instance be in the kitchen and keep your real phone where he can access it, call the number incessantly and he will definitely want to check who is calling at such odd time, when he sees something like "my treasure" it will send some shivering down his body.

Don't forget to include in the messages that "I will take good care of your kids and get a good job for you blah blah" one day intentionally leave your phone unlocked and open the message down like you want to reply a message you received then get yourself distracted and leave the phone where he can have access to it. Call the phone again and again till he picks it up to read the message or answer the call. Drop the call immediately

Madam you must be smart about this, don't eff yourself up o.

May God save your marriage

angelchinny:
Am a well dedicated nairalander but I created this new account for this issue. I have been married for 4 years now with 3 children and since the 2nd year of our marriage my husband has been constantly cheating on me.

The way he goes about it is even heartbreaking, he does it like his into a love relationship with them and not just for fun.

There is this particular girl that he calls like 3 times everyday because I check his call log and saw they keep in touch more than twice everyday. I stupidly called the girl and warned her to stay clear off my man and she confessed he didn't tell her he was married, I confronted my hubby and he was forming defensive and was telling me dat am accusing him wrongly and he will soon start cheating. I called the girl back in the evening and she told me that even as am calling that his call is entering her phone, that he called earlier to beg her to give him chance to explain..The next day I left with my children to a far away state and he pleaded that he will change and all that. The issue is that he continued with this shameless behaviour, our live-in nanny later confessed to my cousin last month that he approached her and I was so devastated. He knelt down and begged and I easily forgave him..

Forgive me for my long episode but I really need your help on how to punish him cos I went to his call log yesterday and saw the same girl that made me take the risk to leave with my children to another state calling him again and he is reciprocating the calls..his a very jealous person, he goes crazy when a male friend calls me..I want to make him pass through all the pains I have endured all these years.. What do I do pls?

focus ur energy on getting a job dts ur main prob. as long as u r jobless u cant do shit.

I stumbled on a yoruba movie where the wife had to drug her cheating husband with tea,and made him sleep for 3 days straight. You might wanna try same so the silly boy(not man) would sleep for 6 days a week and hustle for just 1 day. By the time He starts struggling to eat,he'd know how far. Just kidding with the suggestion though. I know it's in the nature of men to cheat but what makes you a man,is your ability to control your excesses. I know it's not easy but it can be achieved. Boys spend time sleeping with anything in skirt but real men spend time building homes. Instead of your hubby to focus on providing for his family and saving up for the rainy day,He's busy spending it on ex-marital affairs. That's the way of a foolish man. I come from a polygamous house but have consciously made efforts to live responsibly and not do anything that would make me polygamous in nature and the first step to achieving that,is to make sure I don't keep more than one partner at a time. It takes a lot of discipline to get to that level. Unfortunately,most men aren't ready to make such efforts. Before you cheat,think of how you'd feel if you're at the receiving end.

MISSNORA:
y r men like dis? Dey r Neva satisfied

I was asking the same question. They amaze me but women are the ones to be quickly called bad names. Imagine that scenario in reverse! Nairaland will go up in flame

Do you always refuse him kpekus before he started going out?

GodblessNig247:


THIS IS REALITY DEAR. IT WILL BE A VERY COLOSSAL PLUNDER IF U APPLY THOSE ILLUSIONS. SHE SHOULD KEEP SHOWING HIM LOVE. AND BACK IT UP WITH PRAYERS. IT IS CRYSTAL CLEAR THAT HE LOVES THE WIFE ACCORDING TO WHAT SHE STATED HERE. SO SHE SHOULD KEEP SHOWING LOVE AND AFFECTION AND PROBABLY SHE SHOULD IMPROVE IN HER SEX STYLES AND PATTERNS. I MEAN SHE SHOULD SPICE UP HER SEX LIFE

look atew. 'She should keep showing him love' I hope you'll take your own advice per adventure you get a promiscuos wife.

whizqueen:

Get a new phone with a separate line. Save the name with something romantic "treasure" or something better.

Send different kinds of love messages from both lines(main line and fake line) to the too eachother.
Don't delete the messages, start using security code on your phone and sometimes torment him by calling severally with your other fake phone secretly. he shouldn't know when you call. Like for instance be in the kitchen and keep your real phone where he can access it, call the number incessantly and he will definitely want to check who is calling at such odd time, when he sees something like "my treasure" it will send some shivering down his body.

Don't forget to include in the messages that "I will take good care of your kids and get a good job for you blah blah" one day intentionally leave your phone unlocked and open the message down like you want to reply a message you received then get yourself distracted and leave the phone where he can have access to it. Call the phone again and again till he picks it up to read the message or answer the call. Drop the call immediately

Madam you must be smart about this, don't eff yourself up o.

May God save your marriage

now this is dramatic but I like it

front247:
Put pepper in his ugbola and anus when he is sleeping

You dont say


OP, protect yourself and get a job, people like your husband can't stand independent women (that's the only way you can really punish him). Hepatitis and other STIs are very REAL. I won't even stay with a man who chases skirts left right center...talk more of marrying one, the minute I find out. .im out for good!! Life is precious

AdaNri1:
now this is dramatic but I like it

That's what ladies are of course. Drama Queens

Mrs there are lots of way to make a man jealous however if u have a pastor he respect take d issue to him for settlement trust me if u talk it to his family they will always protect him, but I must tell u ur kind of man is unrepentant and if he's not careful he will find himself in police custody. U could pretend u talking on phone to and old school mate u recently bump into and do it in a way that will make him fell u have a secret calls mostly at night it could be with a fellow lady and in one of ur fake conversation talk like the guy is taking u on a date

angelchinny:
Am a well dedicated nairalander but I created this new account for this issue. I have been married for 4 years now with 3 children and since the 2nd year of our marriage my husband has been constantly cheating on me.

The way he goes about it is even heartbreaking, he does it like his into a love relationship with them and not just for fun.

There is this particular girl that he calls like 3 times everyday because I check his call log and saw they keep in touch more than twice everyday. I stupidly called the girl and warned her to stay clear off my man and she confessed he didn't tell her he was married, I confronted my hubby and he was forming defensive and was telling me dat am accusing him wrongly and he will soon start cheating. I called the girl back in the evening and she told me that even as am calling that his call is entering her phone, that he called earlier to beg her to give him chance to explain..The next day I left with my children to a far away state and he pleaded that he will change and all that. The issue is that he continued with this shameless behaviour, our live-in nanny later confessed to my cousin last month that he approached her and I was so devastated. He knelt down and begged and I easily forgave him..

Forgive me for my long episode but I really need your help on how to punish him cos I went to his call log yesterday and saw the same girl that made me take the risk to leave with my children to another state calling him again and he is reciprocating the calls..his a very jealous person, he goes crazy when a male friend calls me..I want to make him pass through all the pains I have endured all these years.. What do I do pls?

ugoshevy:
I think there's a way to deal with this, it seems you are too soft. That is why it is very necessary for every Nigerian to spend at least 1month in the land of Warri, the Capital of the world. I have seen such scenarios a lot, if you want my advice, you need to "change" your approach. Your kids are still small, too much pregnancy and lack of sex caused this. Take a sex break with him coz you never can tell where diseases come from, Monitor his movement, Carry your children and follow him until you find out the girl, even if your last born is 2months old...Madame, you are the mother of 3...nobody fit thief your title...tie your wrapper, back your children, buy face cap and turn it to the back.... Go meet them for where they they gist...create a scene with your children crying.... Seize the 2of them.... Tell them somebody must die.....either them or you... My sister, by the time you bring out the pepper, put am for that girl eye...start to lace am with no escape route....ehhhh...... With the highest provocation.... Your husband and that idiot GF....would never remain the same. This thing would stop under 1hour. This is the Warri method. And it is the most effective. Just make sure, you cram the steps and plan it appropriately. Remember, a public disgrace and your Children must be there crying to attract more attention. Your biggest problem maybe you are shy of the public knowledge that's why you even hid your details. You have to own up, wise up and take your husband back. You don't do that by arguing in your house or going to see Inlaws. This is your man and that girl is the Devil. Rebuke it and it will flee. If you like continue Nairalanding after this my advice. Infact you don make me provoke sef....

Are you saying this out of anger (I am angry at the hubby too) or you really think this works all the time?
Well, some couple have same type of problem and wifey created a very big disgrace for her husband (his place of work, the girl friend was a staff in the same place as well!).

The man resigned his job from that place, moved to another house, married the woman (three step marriage that he did not even do for the Madam wey dey form James Bond!) and abandoned the other one and her two kids in the former house.
He continued to give her money for food and other things the kids need but VOWED NEVER TO HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HER AGAIN!

Even his Parents asked him to re-consider and take both women as his wives but he insisted he wont be married to her again.
he said something that caught people's attention: That woman would killed me if she could, that l survived is because of luck! I wont test that luck a second time!

The lesson those of us privy to that issue learnt is that "all situations are not the same, all men/women are not the same and what worked for Mr. A , might not work for Mr.B

All these "dramatic advices: are known to Boomerang back in a very painful manner and those offering those advice wont be there to pick the pieces!


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angelchinny:
Am a well dedicated nairalander but I created this new account for this issue. I have been married for 4 years now with 3 children and since the 2nd year of our marriage my husband has been constantly cheating on me.

The way he goes about it is even heartbreaking, he does it like his into a love relationship with them and not just for fun.

There is this particular girl that he calls like 3 times everyday because I check his call log and saw they keep in touch more than twice everyday. I stupidly called the girl and warned her to stay clear off my man and she confessed he didn't tell her he was married, I confronted my hubby and he was forming defensive and was telling me dat am accusing him wrongly and he will soon start cheating. I called the girl back in the evening and she told me that even as am calling that his call is entering her phone, that he called earlier to beg her to give him chance to explain..The next day I left with my children to a far away state and he pleaded that he will change and all that. The issue is that he continued with this shameless behaviour, our live-in nanny later confessed to my cousin last month that he approached her and I was so devastated. He knelt down and begged and I easily forgave him..

Forgive me for my long episode but I really need your help on how to punish him cos I went to his call log yesterday and saw the same girl that made me take the risk to leave with my children to another state calling him again and he is reciprocating the calls..his a very jealous person, he goes crazy when a male friend calls me..I want to make him pass through all the pains I have endured all these years.. What do I do pls?

Give me your no to be calling you and telling you sweet things, mybe he will be jealous.

I pray the Lord intervene in your matter, the only thing left for him now is prayer,.. Work on ursef too, look more beautiful than you were when he decided to marry you,,... get something doing to earn ur own money and self esteem,,.. dnt start faking calls trying to get him jealous, it's a total wrong move,,... stop checking his phones, what the eyes doesn't see doesn't make the heart go bad/sorrowful... Start shifting your love to your kids, they are your joy for now,,.. Pray hard,, promiscuous men can/do change,, am a living testimony...may the peace of the Lord be with you..

angelchinny:

Okay will do jst dat. What if I fake calls and make him jealous as well cos I told him recently dat my 1st love re-sufaced n he is realy hrtbroken dat am already married cos he came bk 4 us to rekindle our love. He got realy mad n couldn't sleep dat night

you don't need all that, you need to pray for him, you need a job.haven't done that, give him some time, he will come to realization of him self

Mrs0J:
OP i will advice you inform your parents and inlaws to come and talk sense into him. Forgiving him is not an issue but will he stop messing around?
For now ensure you insist on condom before love making as to protect yourself from any STI. Its well, the Lord will resolve it, Amen. Pls be wise.
All the best.

sorry for my curiosity, can u make love to a man ur angry with?

angelchinny:
Am a well dedicated nairalander but I created this new account for this issue. I have been married for 4 years now with 3 children and since the 2nd year of our marriage my husband has been constantly cheating on me.

The way he goes about it is even heartbreaking, he does it like his into a love relationship with them and not just for fun.

There is this particular girl that he calls like 3 times everyday because I check his call log and saw they keep in touch more than twice everyday. I stupidly called the girl and warned her to stay clear off my man and she confessed he didn't tell her he was married, I confronted my hubby and he was forming defensive and was telling me dat am accusing him wrongly and he will soon start cheating. I called the girl back in the evening and she told me that even as am calling that his call is entering her phone, that he called earlier to beg her to give him chance to explain..The next day I left with my children to a far away state and he pleaded that he will change and all that. The issue is that he continued with this shameless behaviour, our live-in nanny later confessed to my cousin last month that he approached her and I was so devastated. He knelt down and begged and I easily forgave him..

Forgive me for my long episode but I really need your help on how to punish him cos I went to his call log yesterday and saw the same girl that made me take the risk to leave with my children to another state calling him again and he is reciprocating the calls..his a very jealous person, he goes crazy when a male friend calls me..I want to make him pass through all the pains I have endured all these years.. What do I do pls?

Dear for the sake of your marriage and your children, let the sleeping Dog be. If he has genuinely changed then forget the issue and move on.

whizqueen:
That's what ladies are of course. Drama Queens

You can say that again, myself included.

GENT95:
wait oooooooh, sista did u said dat u r married 4 4 yrs wit 3 kidz? abeq r u a doq?
:'dia s a probability dat u miqht bear 8 kids in 10 yrs ooooh.........take am easy oooooo

But you knw you wld have done ursef a lot of good if you ddnt comment,, does ur comment even make sense to you.? Pls check

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AdaNri1:

I was asking the same question. They amaze me but women are the ones to be quickly called bad names. Imagine that scenario in reverse! Nairaland will go up in flame

seriously marriage is one of my fears lately

A case of married but living single. Cheating on him is pointless. He might hurt you in rage if he finds out. Divorce him or shoot him between the eyes already.

kandiikane:


You have no self worth, love!

And you, have a very "twisted and misinformed idea" of self worth!

Get Real.



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A case of married but living single. Cheating on him is pointless. He might hurt you in rage if he finds out. Divorce him or shooooot him between the eyes already.

donem:


Nice advice. but I don't think only 4% of married men don't cheat, ain't married yet but have never cheated.

Its rare to see such men. If u are one, Then u are among the 4%

[quote author=player007 post=37674640]When a man cheats, it could be for a variety of reasons
1) the Friends he keeps
2) the woman may be pushing him out without knowing.
3)it could be that the sex isn't as excitn like it used to me
4) your dress sense might have changed etc.
Every man and woman had a sort of preferences of what or how they want their significant other to look like. And if they end up with someone who dosent fall into that category they will definitely cheat.
Did you see traces that he was a cheat before you said Yes but choose to to overlook because you thought he would change over time?
Make him see what he's missing by cheatn on you.
Pray for him always. Because there is NOTHING impossible for God to do.[/quote



Forget that thing my dear,,its so shameful that we at this side of d world give men so much laxity,,we are always quick to pin point reasons men desecrate their home,why is it always d woman to swallow d hard pill 4 the marriage to go on? D day any man sleeps wit another woman other than his wife is d day he tore their marriage certificate & shattered their vows & also insulted God..i'm waiting to hear of d day a man will sit his wife down to see how they can make their home work(Sic)

angelchinny:
Am a well dedicated nairalander but I created this new account for this issue. I have been married for 4 years now with 3 children and since the 2nd year of our marriage my husband has been constantly cheating on me.

The way he goes about it is even heartbreaking, he does it like his into a love relationship with them and not just for fun.

There is this particular girl that he calls like 3 times everyday because I check his call log and saw they keep in touch more than twice everyday. I stupidly called the girl and warned her to stay clear off my man and she confessed he didn't tell her he was married, I confronted my hubby and he was forming defensive and was telling me dat am accusing him wrongly and he will soon start cheating. I called the girl back in the evening and she told me that even as am calling that his call is entering her phone, that he called earlier to beg her to give him chance to explain..The next day I left with my children to a far away state and he pleaded that he will change and all that. The issue is that he continued with this shameless behaviour, our live-in nanny later confessed to my cousin last month that he approached her and I was so devastated. He knelt down and begged and I easily forgave him..

Forgive me for my long episode but I really need your help on how to punish him cos I went to his call log yesterday and saw the same girl that made me take the risk to leave with my children to another state calling him again and he is reciprocating the calls..his a very jealous person, he goes crazy when a male friend calls me..I want to make him pass through all the pains I have endured all these years.. What do I do pls?

[size=28pt]Cheat on him too and break his heart. He will go to hell and back but then pay him no heed. Two can play that game. Just ignore him and begin your hot plan. He will soon pee in his trouser.

Also dont be a silly woman; make sure you are well protected or just leave him alone for now. You dont want to have to contend with HIV do you?[/size]

I understsnd hw u ar feeling rit nw. Dont leav him, as som of my fellow nairalanders said, u hav d following things to do 1. Try and make a earning 4 urself ieda getind a job or enter into a business no mater hw small it is for u to avoid been a liablty on him. 2. Consider d problm to b spiritual and tacle it as spiritual. By so doing u wl save ur husband frm untimely death and enternal condemnation. 3. Dont hate him hate d evil spirit, cos no man wit his rit senses wl cheat on his wife, so love him d more bcs i can see d storm coming to an end. I hav seen worst cases dan dis bt today they ar changed persons so dont leave ur children. Be encouranged and may God be wit u. And we wl b with u in prayers. Tak care

MISSNORA:
seriously marriage is one of my fears lately

It's just a leap of faith, with hope that the lucky man will understand, love and care for you like you will him.

Typical of baboons and monkeys. 'go and see a pastor', 'pray for him', 'have hope'. Thats why You monkeys called nigerians are still in the 4th world 3rd world country. Divorce his ass and marry again. life is too short to mourn. except, ofcourse, you dont think that you can marry again.

lastpage:


Are you saying this out of anger (I am angry at the hubby too) or you really think this works all the time?
Well, some couple have same type of problem and wifey created a very big disgrace for her husband (his place of work, the girl friend was a staff in the same place as well!).

The man resigned his job from that place, moved to another house, married the woman (three step marriage that he did not even do for the Madam wey dey form James Bond!) and abandoned the other one and her two kids in the former house.
He continued to give her money for food and other things the kids need but VOWED NEVER TO HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HER AGAIN!

Even his Parents asked him to re-consider and take both women as his wives but he insisted he wont be married to her again.
he said something that caught people's attention: That woman would killed me if she could, that l survived is because of luck! I wont test that luck a second time!

The lesson those of us privy to that issue learnt is that "all situations are not the same, all men/women are not the same and what worked for Mr. A , might not work for Mr.B

All these "dramatic advices: are known to Boomerang back in a very painful manner and those offering those advice wont be there to pick the pieces!


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Ermm... What is so special about the man sef the stupid woman waters her time and energy on him? He is a self centered bastaard. The woman cared of not she build have kept quiet and slipped a poison in his drink. The fool must have thought he was very special. The children are going to grow up soon and he is going to explain to them how his their mother's actions to face their family though foolish could have led to a divorce. You haven't seen anything yet. If she is a good mother, she will be rewarded for her sacrifice.