wasak:

Admittedly I emotionally weak, but is that a crime? I mean, I didn't create myself that way. As for my age I'm in my early 20s she's my first love actually. Thanks

that is what we are saying. You will become emotionally stronger as you grow in age, cos by that time you would have accumulated more experiences and you will find it easier to handle a serious emotional circumstance like this. But for now, your emotional weakness is still playing out stronger on you. I leave you with this "goat no dey bite, but e get as you go tek push goat go reach wall and you still the push d goat, the goat no go get any alternative than to learn how to bite"

clears throat... i knw exactly wats wrong.. dis is a perfect example of a girl being a b**ch because of the 7 facts i will list below... id b dead if i was wrong
1. she is a virgin ( u have neva had sex wit her cos trust me its always a deal breaker fr dem... n mkes dem behaveknowing uve seen deir unclothedness).

2. u hve shown her how madly u r in luv wit her and she is even suprised at how gullible u have been fr dat and is treating u like shit now cos there has bin a power shift since she sees u as boring, predictable and a big looser .

3. she doesnt give 2 f**ks about u, probably neva did sef

4. she is interested in oda things and oda pple..(NFA guys most probably).

5. she is young... very young... and probably doesnt know d worth n neida does she appreciate being loved by som1 sincere, kind and loving as u have been n instead tkes u fr granted cos... of d reasons stated previously above.

6. you probably dont bring anytn much to d table apart frm talkn about luv n oda boring lovey n mushy stuff... u have no job n hence no real money to spoil her on fun dates or sweep her off her feet with or buy expensive gifts to awe her... in summary derz probably notin about u dt interests her rite now.. hence d neglect and indifferent attitude towards u

7. she honestly doesnt give a shit about u and all her misbehaviour towards u are signs to ward u off and break up cos she doesnt want to be d one to do it... so she intends to hurt u everyday until u recieve sense and man up and do d needful thing which she wants so she can date d oda guy waiting on hold now since she has already bin meetn wit him but feels she cnt b d one to brk up so as nt to hurt u...not dat it will make any difference cos frustrating u and maneuvering u and manipulating u so u cn brk up with her is actually hurtful... pls brk up.. leave her... so dat u n her and her new guy on d flanks can b happi...thnks

wasak:

I really appreciate this in no small quantity. It's not as if I don't have girls on my radar, to be honest I know I have what it takes to attract any reasonable lady, but what's the essence of bn with someone you aren't attracted to? I'm still with her because I doubt if i can love any other girl like her. Perhaps this is a final conviction to call this thing off. But I've really given so much, I mean so so much

u are still infatuated. clear the cobweb in your eye. free urself from this shameless one-sided love. let me give hint on how to kill the love u have for her. find her fault keep them in your mind. let the two of you have quarel based on her fault dont beg her for forgiveness. look for another girl who the physical attraction u desire from female and devlop the love so the moment u quarel with ur gal you cling to the new gal.

dont do friend because you love her most but also what can i get from the relationship. the gal has discovered that u love her most then it is your onus to approve the love so she has nothing to lose because she Does not love. u force her to be with u may be u tie her with monetary benefit. shine your eye before u commit suicide

You are your problem...

When the one is a peasant, the other invariably becomes an autocrat.

You chose the part you wanna play.

#My2BillionDollars

[quote author=Harbosede02 post=38760512]It's obvious u love her and U've shown it to her too much that shez nw taking it all for granted.... Y nt try the I don't care attitude some time,make her realise ur life doesn't depend on the relationship(even if it does)let her knw u

wasak:

For two days now she has not been replying my messages. Irony of life, a phone I bought for her

Bro, no relationship or love existed between u and the lady in question.
She was just using U.
Check the next bus-stop, good ladies are waiting.

clears throat... i knw exactly wats wrong.. dis is a perfect example of a girl being a b**ch because of the 7 facts i will list below... id b dead if i was wrong
1. she is a virgin ( u have neva had sex wit her cos trust me its always a deal breaker fr dem... n mkes dem behaveknowing uve seen deir unclothedness).

2. u hve shown her how madly u r in luv wit her and she is even suprised at how gullible u have been fr dat and is treating u like poo now cos there has bin a power shift since she sees u as boring, predictable and a big looser .

3. she doesnt give 2 f**ks about u, probably neva did sef

4. she is interested in oda things and oda pple..(NFA guys most probably).

5. she is young... very young... and probably doesnt know d worth n neida does she appreciate being loved by som1 sincere, kind and loving as u have been n instead tkes u fr granted cos... of d reasons stated previously above.

6. you probably dont bring anytn much to d table apart frm talkn about luv n oda boring lovey n mushy stuff... u have no job n hence no real money to spoil her on fun dates or sweep her off her feet with or buy expensive gifts to awe her... in summary derz probably notin about u dt interests her rite now.. hence d neglect and indifferent attitude towards u

7. she honestly doesnt give a poo about u and all her misbehaviour towards u are signs to ward u off and break up cos she doesnt want to be d one to do it... so she intends to hurt u everyday until u recieve sense and man up and do d needful thing which she wants so she can date d oda guy waiting on hold now since she has already bin meetn wit him but feels she cnt b d one to brk up so as nt to hurt u...not dat it will make any difference cos frustrating u and maneuvering u and manipulating u so u cn brk up with her is actually hurtful... pls brk up.. leave her... so dat u n her and her new guy on d flanks can b happi...thnks

How do you know she treats him like poo? I can bet my left hand that if the lady in question opens a thread,she is also going to tell us her man is selfish and blah blah and we would tell her he does'nt deserve her and rain insults on him.
One man's meat is another's poison. Maybe she is just opinionated and bossy or independent,we never can tell but I can assure you that there's a man out there who is looking for a woman just like her(it could be you). As someone said 'the problem is not the problem. The problem is your reaction to the problem.' She is not 'flawed', she just is different. The OP cannot handle her 'selfishness' does'nt mean he has to condemn her now. He should just find the one he can manage. Afterall,there are plenty other girls out there,he should stop bringing himself down.

tophee:
please,what's unique about being in a relationship with a guy for four years n u still treat the guy like poo n u still claim to love him,dts not uniqueness,........dude,just excuse urself from her for a while and watch her reaction,if she comes back begging,tell her all u posted here,if she doesn't, my guy,owoo ti jonaa oo..abeg abeg abeg forget u said that u can't do without her..there are lots of caring and appreciative girls out there...don't tie urself when no one is holding u back.

Try and withdraw from her. If she notices and come to ask you then she belongs to you, but if she doesn't or doesn't put enough effort to find out what the matter is then let her go.
The quote is this "if you love something set it free, if it comes back, it belongs to you but if it doesn't it was never yours"
All the best

bro let me help you out on this, I have been on that part before, you may take my advice or not, simple fact is she doesn't love you enough, she feels she is more than you , I guess she has something that gets into her head may be she is very pretty or something, I once dated a chic like that, because she was always complimented on her beauty she felt she was doing me a favor dating me, her personality was crap, I endured shit to keep the relationship, she appreciates nothing, today she is almost 36 and still single, some ladies will never learn. if you continue I can bet you will die before your ideal time, if I hadn't dated her I would have been better of today, beware some people are destiny killers, I was saved somehow, you better learn from my experience or you die on yours.

KingJB:


Lol, where Ademasta D love master dey.
And old man babatawa
You con dey call we fresh grooms

Madt pipu everywhere

...................
Wasak my brother

People have said it all.

Even if you go to school for four years to study a course
You should have Bsc by now...

You have two things involved

1. You seriously don't want to leave her?
Time to grow some balls

You think she respects you
Whereas she is controlling you
Wait..you even said..after a week you can't go on

Who dey chase who
My brother, are you high?
Me I go talk straight

Look her straight in the face
And tell her,
If you can't learn, then Bleep off
*think later in your room, she will come and knock*
Ignore her...she will chase you
Stop caring...she will cry and beg

If you can't do the above
*looks you straight in the face*
Wasak, you ain't no man
You got no balls
You say you are stubborn? And a lady is schooling you, while you are wailing here, gerrhahie

2. Text her, I can't stand this anymore. It's over









Meanwhile, it is never over. Just do it man

Lol. This man is blessed with lyrics...

Hannysmilez:
How do you know she treats him like poo? I can bet my left hand that if the lady in question opens a thread,she is also going to tell us her man is selfish and blah blah and we would tell her he does'nt deserve her and rain insults on him.
One man's meat is another's poison. Maybe she is just opinionated and bossy or independent,we never can tell but I can assure you that there's a man out there who is looking for a woman just like her(it could be you). As someone said 'the problem is not the problem. The problem is your reaction to the problem.' She is not 'flawed', she just is different. The OP cannot handle her 'selfishness' does'nt mean he has to condemn her now. He should just find the one he can manage. Afterall,there are plenty other girls out there,he should stop bringing himself down.

are you aware some persons cant be managed, or will cost the best managers so much to have them in a relationship?

wasak:

For two days now she has not been replying my messages. Irony of life, a phone I bought for her

. You have really done more than enough for her as it is. You are acting this way cos she is obviously your first love. Take it from a lady, any girl that doesn't appreciate little things will never appreciate anything u do for her- even if u travel to heaven and bring down angel Gabriel as her personal bodyguard. She will end up destroying your self confidence. Your self esteem would just diminish till u av none left. You should end the rltnship and move on with your life cos she is not worth your pains. You sound lie a gud guy, so u shld bear the pain of separation now than bear the pain of a divorce later. D babe's got too much bile in her system jare, dere is nothing you can do to make her happy.

wasak:

Admittedly I emotionally weak, but is that a crime? I mean, I didn't create myself that way. As for my age I'm in my early 20s she's my first love actually. Thanks

Lol i see the problem. She's your 1st and youre scared of letting go. Well we've all been there. News flash though: you'll still survive & get someone far better. For now, end that sorry relationship of yours and move on with your life before that lady kills u with heartache. What youre currently going through in her hands is simply not worth it.

zheroes:
are you aware some persons cant be managed, or will cost the best managers so much to have them in a relationship?

The best managers often may not be the appropriate ones,it's not about being the best. It's more about being 'the one'. If it costs the managers so much,why don't they leave instead of condemning the person?

Ol boy if you no want enter one chance run for future oh!
That girl is like that she will give you hell in marriage if you marry her.
Save yourself while you still have the opportunity now.
It's not your duty to change her, she cannot change its only a rascal who would beat shege out of her that she can respect.
selfishness and satanic pride it the attitude of many modern women.
SAVE YOURSELF FROM MARRIAGE INDUCED HYPERTENSION AND EARLY GRAVE.

Hannysmilez:
The best managers often may not be the appropriate ones,it's not about being the best. It's more about being 'the one'. If it costs the managers so much,why don't they leave instead of condemning the person?

true to that.

wasak:

Talk to her? If i haven't done that I won't come here. I beg, there was a day it got to a point, I cried. When I looked back at how much effort I put into the relationship from the very first day. She has the ability to keep things to herself, she doesn't open up.

Maybe you're just "Mr right now" coz I see no reason y she'll stick around and still not like you.

I'm not going to ruin another relationship by telling you to "man up" I believe experience is the best teacher, hopefully you won't be too late to the class...

I'm pretty sure sure she has a fine face that's why ya still crying for her...lol

Goodluck...

wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

Most women are stubborn these days and nothing you could do about that. Keep to her if you love her because the devil you know is better than the one you don't know.

wasak:

For two days now she has not been replying my messages. Irony of life, a phone I bought for her

Let her go. If you have plans settling with her she would frustrate you eventually. After marriage you might not have as much patience as you do presently and she won't take it from you cos she might be used to your present gentility .
When reality sets in you won't see the physical beauty you might be attracted to presently but character. If after 4 years you not sure of her character and she still treat you as complain, you better move on.

misspicy:

It can help tho...

talking at times doesnt really work. You talk 2 her 2day nxt day she repeat the same tin.

wasak:

For two days now she has not been replying my messages. Irony of life, a phone I bought for her

You've to beat her to the game by using the same behaviour on her so that she can know how it feels to be neglected, you been the considerate and knowledgeable boyfriend will not do her any good, you've to show her you got some BALLS.

PS: Beat in my post is not by battering her.

Last bullet: Don't be surprise if your gf is also cheating, prepare for the worst n grow some BALLS asap!

wasak:

Talk to her? If i haven't done that I won't come here. I beg, there was a day it got to a point, I cried. When I looked back at how much effort I put into the relationship from the very first day. She has the ability to keep things to herself, she doesn't open up.

Gals have low self esteem and are afraid to open up in a relationship and when they discover you truly love them they will maltreat you. Man up Bro, ur a learner and she just added to ur experiences. In simple terms, move ooon.

Ladipodeal:

Let her go. If you have plans settling with her she would frustrate you eventually. After marriage you might not have as much patience as you do presently and she won't take it from you cos she might be used to your present gentility .

Letting her go is not the best way to solve this problem. Women are simply unpredictable, so sometimes you have to take her bullshit.s in order to make her realize she's wrong. If she's a good girl, definitely she will change her attitude unless she does not love the guy anymore.

valencia25:



Last bullet: Don't be surprise if your gf is also cheating, prepare for the worst n grow some BALLS asap!

She might be dating someone else soo she got little or no regard for him.
@wasak you might be a spare boyfriend

Ladipodeal:

She might be dating someone else soo she got little or no regard for him. @wasak you might be a spare boyfriend

An auxiliary boyfriend? Lol.

please call her and have lengthy chat with her, draw your conclusion from your chat.if the emotionally stressed in this relationship then move on.all the best. therpistmrs..com

Wisdom comes with experience. This experience should make you do better in your next relationship with women, thats if you learnt anything at all.
To the matter, the problem is , given your age, you were too naive when u started off with her and she's way ahead of you in the game.This u didn't realise earlier. As a man, your love for a girl shouldn't be the priority to perpetuate in a relationship, it should be the respect you get from the woman and your ability to assert yourself over her /control her. If you fail in either or both aspect, you have lost the game from the beginning. At this stage, since you haven't had enough experience to handle the shits of women i suggest you sharply start reading about women, dating, taking charge and commanding respect in a relationship.
As a matter of fact and rescue, forget about this one completely,it's already a spilled milk. My question is : did you get into her pant at all? if yes , then that's your compensation for all her watery poo and your silly investment, so continue with that with all vehemence before dishing her. But if no, that will definitely add more loss and regret to your painful injury and put you in a delusion to endure it even though it will eventually shatter you without repair one day. so just let go.
To ease your pain at break-up, start seeing other girls and stop calling or doing her any favour whatsoever. She's probably not yours after all cos girls like her are mostly cheats and usually yield for asshole niggas. She's been using you to her selfish gains all the while you whine about love. There is no choice other than a break up cos she will eventually dump you if you don't act faster and you know , that hurts like hell.

[quote author=wasak post=38758961]We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me. But it appears love is not . Marry her if you can now or forget about woman and focus is a long way o .

wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

abeg wetin be the babe name, sound like similar girlfriend I have too, mine name start with FU..., wayahoo, her stubbornness no get part 2,but I think distancing myself has let her show respect a little and gift reduction as let her know I do not cares as before but use that instrument to let her known,you cannot be frustrating and still be expecting to attend to every of your needs, her body don calm a little since then.she is still with me till today but I like this babe, no bi small.infact I like her pass my baby Mama.

Mobuch should quote me this baby mama talks anyway, thunder go fire ham! Chiefokonkwo of igboland.

b0rn2fuck:
abeg wetin be the babe name, sound like similar girlfriend I have too, mine name start with FU..., wayahoo, her stubbornness no get part 2,but I think distancing myself has let her show respect a little and gift reduction as let her know I do not cares as before but use that instrument to let her known,you cannot be frustrating and still be expecting to attend to every of your needs, her body don calm a little since then.she is still with me till today but I like this babe, no bi small.infact I like her pass my baby Mama.

Mobuch should quote me this baby mama talks anyway, thunder go fire ham! Chiefokonkwo of igboland.

With your Alaba Market English, obviously she would be too stubborn to you.