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Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by omooniyametta(m): 7:20am On Oct 08, 2015
lekankolade:
I wonder why most ladies think and behave like their guy can never find someone like them or better than them, mostly the one u truly love , I don't know who they will put the blame on if at the age of 30somhing they're still single...by then u will be seeing them in every weekend church programmes claiming to be holy and submissive whereas dem don bcom LONDON USED
I just don't undastand girls of nowadays especially one's you love most.meself av tired of these thesame issues. May the LORD help us(boys) sha.
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by mayo47(m): 7:20am On Oct 08, 2015
wasak:

For two days now she has not been replying my messages. Irony of life, a phone I bought for her

She's either with another man or doesnt give 2 bleeps about the relationship. Bros move on......

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Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by ProfEinstein: 7:20am On Oct 08, 2015
johnson232:

Lol... It is a challenge u need to overcome if u really wanna enjoy any relationship with a girl, most especially nigerian girls. Since this is your first love, it's natural for u to act this way. But I employ u to call the relationship a quit, it will seem painful for a while, but will make u a better person in the long run. Sooner or later she will still dump u for a more hardened nigga, why not save yourself some respect and let b!tch go....
U don't need any hoe to live happily as a nigga....
grin Correct man

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Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by d33jy85: 7:22am On Oct 08, 2015
1st u needa get tha d!ck out ya a$s an pull dwn ur skirt an grow a Pair of balls. Ur a man 4 God's sake act like 1 an put her in line
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Nobody: 7:22am On Oct 08, 2015
Bro walk away and don't look back!!
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by fatstan1: 7:23am On Oct 08, 2015
wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

Dude you don't have a girlfriend. She has been punishing you for 1yr of bugging her the past 4yrs. Do the right thing man, for your sake.
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by SleekyPosh(m): 7:26am On Oct 08, 2015
wasak:

For two days now she has not been replying my messages. Irony of life, a phone I bought for her

Really n*gga! angry....gimme her address cool
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by 989900: 7:27am On Oct 08, 2015
Get another 'horse', you can't control this.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by floflo12: 7:28am On Oct 08, 2015
WELL THAT IS WHAT YOU GET FROM A GIRL WHEN YOU GIVE HER THE IMPRESSION THAT SHE OWNS YOU.GOOD THAT YOU LOVE HER AND ALL,BUT STILL YOU NEED TO KEEP A BALANCE IN A RELATIONSHIP,GET OUT THERE AND MINGLE..AM VERY SURE SOON ENOUGH SHE WOULD START ACTING RIGHT WITH THAT.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by omooniyametta(m): 7:29am On Oct 08, 2015
I just don't understand these, and naa the one that you LOVE MOST use to behave in that way. Can you imagine the girl that doesn't even in your heart not to talk of your plan will now be 100%care for you. Am even in thesame case with you brother, even my is getting to five years now. May the LORD help US ooooooooo. But tru all these plenty reasonable comment now,av find the solution.
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Kumson(m): 7:31am On Oct 08, 2015
This is incredible, u cant satisfy a woman as their needs are always unsatisfiable in life. Just show her a rest room or toilet and look for a lady that u guys could share the same beliefs, orientation and ideology in ur home

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Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Blessedboyabove: 7:32am On Oct 08, 2015
The problem with most of the ladies is that they dont know actually what they want in life,bro i adviced you collect chioma Ajunwa now that is stil a relationship.
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Taiye4Christ(m): 7:34am On Oct 08, 2015
After four years, she can't change. Nothing you do will make her change. The decision is yours to make.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by ashmanpolo: 7:36am On Oct 08, 2015
@OP, don't mind them o. Nairaland advice no dey pass "walk away"
"Move on"
"Dump her"
Don't dump anything o. She's not a refuse
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Obiwiz(m): 7:39am On Oct 08, 2015
wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls
Bro, talk to her. Just communicate dis exact same message to her.
In fact, you fit show even show her dis ur post on nairaland. And if derz no improvement afterwards, den just as d oda poster opined, u fit 'drop her like hot yam'. Lol
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by mzpetite(f): 7:40am On Oct 08, 2015
wasak:

I've tried, I've held myself for a whole week without any form of communication with her, but that was d highest I could go, we settled and she promised to adjust, as it is now I perceive she's incorrigible, it's either i accept her that way, or I take a walk. But I'm also scared of her falling into the wrong hands....
she probabaly has someone else. or she doesn't love u. it can't b dat bad if none of does things is happening. if I and my bf have issues and we don't talk for days, no matter ow stubborn I can me I will surely call first. coz I feel so uncomfortable. BTW, am stubborn too. she just don't CARE, I thk
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by sunnysunny(m): 7:44am On Oct 08, 2015
let me tell u d truth. the girl may love you like she said but u have given her too much room to treat you like she doesn't care. You better start behaving like sharp guy.
1. Ignore her for a while
2. if she calls your line out of every 9 pick only 2
3. Don't bother calling her line
4. when she tell u things, act like they are not important.
5. You better start behaving like you can live better without her in the picture

That is how I make girls like that surrender. you will be surprised by the way she will start humbling her self before u if truly she loves u but if u don't see this sign. U better dump her for good that means she is not yours.



And let me correct you that everything that God made are in 2s. believe me there is another lady out their u can live better than her. stop deceiving yourself.
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Slimzjoe(m): 7:44am On Oct 08, 2015
solidade:



Then why are you wasting both her and your time? If communication is not a solution then what is the solution. You've been with her 4 years and never addressed this issue. Now you say she won't listen, I don't understand.


They are some Issues that can be Ironed out by Mere Conversations....But Stubbornness and Selfishness is In_grain.... Its More Like your Original self.... It Can't Change.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Nobody: 7:45am On Oct 08, 2015
wey Oga tai2 o cheesy
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Slimzjoe(m): 7:46am On Oct 08, 2015
hollowpot15684:


If one talk something reasonable, it will work.
Only goat don't hear words, and with even the words u will be able to know if she loves you or not.


As long as she believes she's not Wrong, there's nothing that you'll say that will change her


Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by heatmeup(f): 7:47am On Oct 08, 2015
kosplateau:

when they say don't overinvest to enable logging off easily...u guys won't listen.
badt guy
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Nobody: 7:48am On Oct 08, 2015
Seriously wazak, my heart bleeds for you cos I remember dos days when u were writing abt ur love lyf and ppl were criticising you cos of your over pampering nature, I don't c any reason y someone will take u lyk a pinch of salt and u will reciprocate by carrying her lyk a bag of beans, love is not cruel dear, letting go sometimes is a sign of strength, LET HER BE, u will b fyn, is she not my name sake? If she dtest u, WE LOVE YOU, NOBODY has d ryt to make u miserable, carry yourself well and move on, it ain't worth it mehn
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Nobody: 7:48am On Oct 08, 2015
mzpetite:
she probabaly has someone else. or she doesn't love u. it can't b dat bad if none of does things is happening. if I and my bf have issues and we don't talk for days, no matter ow stubborn I can me I will surely call first. coz I feel so uncomfortable. BTW, am stubborn too. she just don't CARE, I thk
she actually knows the OP cares too much thats y. she know that if they dont talk the op will almost die. the reaso. u call ur bf is cos he too his probably sturborn.
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by KeriBaby(f): 7:53am On Oct 08, 2015
Simple


If you're not HAPPY walk away

See the words u used to describe her doesn't sound like you're referring to someone that makes u happy

wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Nobody: 7:53am On Oct 08, 2015
wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls
You don't have to show the totality of your love to someone before they know you love them, in relationships though..If you show a lady 100% of your love, she'd take it for granted. The lady in question knows your weakness already and she exercising on it..Now, even if u show your anger, she will take it as a joke since she already knows you well..My Advice, let her go..someone better is out dere, made just for you.
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Nobody: 7:54am On Oct 08, 2015
wasak:

Talk to her? If i haven't done that I won't come here. I beg, there was a day it got to a point, I cried. When I looked back at how much effort I put into the relationship from the very first day. She has the ability to keep things to herself, she doesn't open up.
READ THIS MASTER PIECE. IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE AND VIEW OF THINGS. ALSO READ OTHER POST OF THE PERSON. ITS AN INFO U NEED. JUST TAKE YOUR TIME...... www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Nobody: 7:55am On Oct 08, 2015
I have dated several like the op before, truth is, when they finally dump the babe, few months later they realise she is dating someone obviously better, their frustrations take another depressing turn.


Time will heal.

My advice from a stubborn chick like your girl, start playing the same game she is playing.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Nobody: 7:56am On Oct 08, 2015
Sapphire06:
You don't have to show the totality of your love to someone before they know you love them, in relationships though..If you show a lady 100% of your love, she'd take it for granted. The lady in question knows your weakness already and she exercising on it..Now, even if u show your anger, she will take it as a joke since she already knows you well..My Advice, let her go..someone better is out dere, made just for you.
Exactly!


wasak
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by JuicyStar: 7:57am On Oct 08, 2015
wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

Wrong question. The right question is that "seeing that this lady is stubborn, am I crazy to still stay on with her?" I don't think u should stay in a relationship that is making u sad. If you come back here after marriage to make this complain, na delicious flogging u go get. Be wise.
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by Deluxever(m): 8:03am On Oct 08, 2015
I was a victim of this some times ago.......brother u have to move on after 4yes!!!
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by straight2point(m): 8:06am On Oct 08, 2015
wasak:

I've tried, I've held myself for a whole week without any form of communication with her, but that was d highest I could go, we settled and she promised to adjust, as it is now I perceive she's incorrigible, it's either i accept her that way, or I take a walk. But I'm also scared of her falling into the wrong hands....

You are in love, and i understand that you are in your early 20's as well. And I guess I know exactly the kinda woman you are talking about. I call them good-stubborn girls. they are worse than the bitches out there in terms of respecting their man. They may not sleep around with men, but the headache u get is synonymous with that one you get when they sleep around. But I bet you, you will almost commit suicide if you end up with such woman. I am hard nut to break, yet i am still regretting letting one of such have a child for me. (I am not regretting my child) But the woman who he came through....as I believed it could have been from any one else....as the child looks like me 100% and not an iota of semblance to what the mom looks like.
Re: How Do I Handle A Stubborn Girlfriend? by ndigbo: 8:06am On Oct 08, 2015
Harbosede02:
It's obvious u love her and U've shown it to her too much that shez nw taking it all for granted.... Y nt try the I don't care attitude some time,make her realise ur life doesn't depend on the relationship(even if it does)let her knw u av so many options.
Op, please heed to this advice, the above was what I used to reset her to factory setting! It wasn't easy, but I had to use the above mentioned option!

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