***Summary*** Bitter truth....

PAINGAIN:
so basically the only things u know about this guy are the things he told? U r not in a relationship yet. U haven't met d guy, u haven't gone out on a date. Sorry urs does not qualify cus u r not in a relationship yet

we comunicate ..video chat talk every day ..were making plans ..bout of us want to b with eachother ..thats why im going to Lagos ... No time to wast ...

Rapmoney:
Distant relationship is an ill wind; the experience is not worth it.

Love ke? I don't venture where I don't make profit.

stay in anyone that works for ya



dazzal!

Rapmoney:
When dem no know wetin to talk for phone again, the guy go dey ask the babe, 'What did you eat this evening?' !!! Hehehe See problem o! Tomorrow, e go still ask the same question! Is it not just so boring?

NiRfreak:
The faith i'm talking about is not faith in their creator.....it is having *faith* that he/she wont cheat.........You know faith does not need evidence......no proof....just faith.

I get your point. That's why I said believe in themselves. Take it or leave it, our personal believe in the creator helps a lot.

Nina4u:
yes oooo Amen to that

Amen ! whether your kinsmen and his female friends like it or not, he must marry you ! shikena .

GahtU:
yes I live in Uyo n he stays in Akure n its going to work whether u like it or not. My parent lived apart for d first 16yrs of deir marriage, now dey r living together happily n till death. So OP its abt wat we want n our determination. So u can go n knock off ur head or neck in fact hit something BT if u think coming here to get supporters to destroy wat we av build is going to make us crack, den I can c how frustrated u r. Mind ur damn biz cos its enough trouble for u. Mtcheew....

hmmmmm.. U remind me of myslf.. I dnt blive in wat d o.p said.. Destinies r diff. Just like u said bout ur mum nd dad.. Distance makes d love more real "in some cases".. Determination to b faithful defies d odds..

PrimeMinisterr:
Amen ! whether your kinsmen and his female friends like it or not, he must marry you ! shikena .

We will ...nobody can break us ... not eaven money can stop us ..cause love dont cost a thing ...

GahtU:
yes I live in Uyo n he stays in Akure n its going to work whether u like it or not. My parent lived apart for d first 16yrs of deir marriage, now dey r living together happily n till death. So OP its abt wat we want n our determination. So u can go n knock off ur head or neck in fact hit something BT if u think coming here to get supporters to destroy wat we av build is going to make us crack, den I can c how frustrated u r. Mind ur damn biz cos its enough trouble for u. Mtcheew....

na wa oo, was there a place in the write up where op called ur name? Abi Watz eating u up? Itz obvious from the way ure ranting that all is not well. Moreover that u too 'might' be getting married is not a guarantee that either side might not be cheating. Op is very right cuz am also viewing his idea from experience. Take it personal @ ur own peril

Rapmoney remind me to buy you groundnut and gala tomorrow for this write up.

ElziLaz:

I get your point. That's why I said believe in themselves. Take it or leave it, our personal believe in the creator helps a lot.

Having faith in your creator that your girl wont cheat?......how does it explain pastors catching their wives on adultery....as in conc.pastor.??

GahtU:
yes I live in Uyo n he stays in Akure n its going to work whether u like it or not. My parent lived apart for d first 16yrs of deir marriage, now dey r living together happily n till death. So OP its abt wat we want n our determination. So u can go n knock off ur head or neck in fact hit something BT if u think coming here to get supporters to destroy wat we av build is going to make us crack, den I can c how frustrated u r. Mind ur damn biz cos its enough trouble for u. Mtcheew....

My sister, that's what you get when everybody is trying to make frontpage. Nobody cares about anybody's feelings anymore and the moderators are not concerned. Don't let this boy derail your relationship with this poo he wrote. Love is a precious thing. Learn when to ignore people who have failed at finding love before.

StephanieEzeh:
Op are you trying to say only girls cheat in distant relationship?

abeg don't mind most naija men

Damnnn tiwa savage just followd me on twitter...sorry i got exited ...Flavour is already following me

GahtU:
yes I live in Uyo n he stays in Akure n its going to work whether u like it or not. My parent lived apart for d first 16yrs of deir marriage, now dey r living together happily n till death. So OP its abt wat we want n our determination. So u can go n knock off ur head or neck in fact hit something BT if u think coming here to get supporters to destroy wat we av build is going to make us crack, den I can c how frustrated u r. Mind ur damn biz cos its enough trouble for u. Mtcheew....

excellent, one thing most naija guys and girls lack is integrity

StephanieEzeh:
Op are you trying to say only girls cheat in distant relationship?

both parties do.....

distant relationship is a big joke.

Rapmoney:
Have you ever dipped your fingers in a pot of Melon Soup (Egusi) without heating or getting it refrigerated? The next day, be sure that your soup will become sour!!! This is possibly what could become of your relationship and emotional feelings when 'distance' is involved, especially, when this 'distance' is not handled with enough maturity!

I personally think it is basically foolish trying to maintain distant relationships when the two persons involve do no wish to get married or are not ready to settle down as husband and wife within the shortest possible time! If your girlfriend lives in Uyo and you live in Akure, the burden and regular emotional pains that distant relationships bring could be better tamed if both of you would be tying the knot as soon as possible. On the other hand, in a situation where both of you are still confused on the future of the relationship or there are no serious plans for marriage on ground, you could both be deceiving yourselves while living in constant emotional torture!!!

'Love', no matter how fake it is, grows when the persons that are involved are physically present with each other to ignite the ingredients of romance in the relationship. When romance leaves through the door in a relationship, affection, care and attention are definitely going to leave through the windows! 'Love' would become a mirage and relationship would be recklessly abandoned and forgotten!

As partners, doing things together such as going to the cinema, shopping, strolling and holding hands in the park, watching movies together at home, cracking jokes and seeing the smiles on the faces of each other go a long way in boosting romance . On the contrary, these things are not present in distant affairs! Relationship needs physical body contact, if truth be told. That's the easiest way to reduce unnecessary tension, jealousy, accusations and counter-accusations, constant cheating and lying and all other funny things that go along with distant affairs!!!

In this world that we live in, where materialism and sex are fast becoming the foundations of most relationships, you should sincerely think about it...whether the one you romantically call 'your love' is fervently sincere with you too . I mean, phone calls and chats are just so boring and useless without physical contact!!!

I am not a misogynist and has never been but experiences and observations have clearly shown that ladies cheat more in distant relationships because they are more prone to romantic pressures from other men; some may be carried away by materialism and the pressure to have sex!!! This explains why you may be in Warri, happy that you have a loving girlfriend that lives in Lagos, not knowing that one sharp banker with slick tongue and posh car is banging her in and out! In no time, her care and attention for you would decrease; she would call and text lesser and discussions on phone would become so boring! You should know it is almost coming to an end! . If you don't have any plans of getting married soonest, don't waste your time on distant affairs! I would even suggest you use the money you spend on regular, boring and long phone calls on online betting because you cold be wasting your resources on a girl someone else is 'eating'

Distant relationship is full of pains, lies, emotional trauma, unnecessary troubles, jealousy and fear all occassioned by lack of physical presence!

well said! Infact u no lie at all. I learnt in a hard way,I wish I read this post before my own tragedy. Utilize this advice if u r considering D-R without marriage in view.

Spot on!

prettythicksme:
Distance relationship rock i am used to it&i will never cheat on my boo even tho i do giv him go ahead to fuvk !!!It's a matter of understanding&trust!

I just couldn't turn a blind eye @bold. It makes me kinda wonder the value you've placed on yourself - giving a guy licence to cheat, gosh!
Your future will require more than your present requires.

very insensitive thread.

you talk as if it is only women who cheat whilst in long distance relationships.

you seem to forget that cheating is a two way thing.

until you wear the shoes and you know where it pinches, stop saying jack about what you don't know.

Rapmoney:
Have you ever dipped your fingers in a pot of Melon Soup (Egusi) without heating or getting it refrigerated? The next day, be sure that your soup will become sour!!! This is possibly what could become of your relationship and emotional feelings when 'distance' is involved, especially, when this 'distance' is not handled with enough maturity!

I personally think it is basically foolish trying to maintain distant relationships when the two persons involve do no wish to get married or are not ready to settle down as husband and wife within the shortest possible time! If your girlfriend lives in Uyo and you live in Akure, the burden and regular emotional pains that distant relationships bring could be better tamed if both of you would be tying the knot as soon as possible. On the other hand, in a situation where both of you are still confused on the future of the relationship or there are no serious plans for marriage on ground, you could both be deceiving yourselves while living in constant emotional torture!!!

'Love', no matter how fake it is, grows when the persons that are involved are physically present with each other to ignite the ingredients of romance in the relationship. When romance leaves through the door in a relationship, affection, care and attention are definitely going to leave through the windows! 'Love' would become a mirage and relationship would be recklessly abandoned and forgotten!

As partners, doing things together such as going to the cinema, shopping, strolling and holding hands in the park, watching movies together at home, cracking jokes and seeing the smiles on the faces of each other go a long way in boosting romance . On the contrary, these things are not present in distant affairs! Relationship needs physical body contact, if truth be told. That's the easiest way to reduce unnecessary tension, jealousy, accusations and counter-accusations, constant cheating and lying and all other funny things that go along with distant affairs!!!

In this world that we live in, where materialism and sex are fast becoming the foundations of most relationships, you should sincerely think about it...whether the one you romantically call 'your love' is fervently sincere with you too . I mean, phone calls and chats are just so boring and useless without physical contact!!!

I am not a misogynist and has never been but experiences and observations have clearly shown that ladies cheat more in distant relationships because they are more prone to romantic pressures from other men; some may be carried away by materialism and the pressure to have sex!!! This explains why you may be in Warri, happy that you have a loving girlfriend that lives in Lagos, not knowing that one sharp banker with slick tongue and posh car is banging her in and out! In no time, her care and attention for you would decrease; she would call and text lesser and discussions on phone would become so boring! You should know it is almost coming to an end! . If you don't have any plans of getting married soonest, don't waste your time on distant affairs! I would even suggest you use the money you spend on regular, boring and long phone calls on online betting because you cold be wasting your resources on a girl someone else is 'eating'

Distant relationship is full of pains, lies, emotional trauma, unnecessary troubles, jealousy and fear all occassioned by lack of physical presence!

Bros for your mind now you done finish work ooooo??

Let me put something straight to you, the reason anyone will cheat in a relationship is the same reason the person will cheat in marriage ....distant relationship isn't just the yard stickz even your babe that you live in the same house with fit still get another boo, fact!! The problem with we youths is a matter of integrity not an issue of distant relationship. Our ladies have lost value for themselves likewise our men who have turn themselves into having sex with anything available. If you can't keep distant relationship how will you cope if you get married and maybe get separated by distance ? If she will cheat she will cheat, distance is not the cause but LACK OF INTEGRITY

To be sincere,men are more laible to cheat in a distance relationship.all the guys hv meet who involve in a distance relationship are cheat.

GahtU:
yes I live in Uyo n he stays in Akure n its going to work whether u like it or not. My parent lived apart for d first 16yrs of deir marriage, now dey r living together happily n till death. So OP its abt wat we want n our determination. So u can go n knock off ur head or neck in fact hit something BT if u think coming here to get supporters to destroy wat we av build is going to make us crack, den I can c how frustrated u r. Mind ur damn biz cos its enough trouble for u. Mtcheew....

don't mind the op.

I am so angry. the dude talks as if all women cheat in long distance relationships.

Rapmoney:
Don't expect me to provide an answer to such worthless question.

gurls with their fish brain.

Gr8amechi:
Bros for your mind now you done finish work ooooo??

Let me put something straight to you, the reason anyone will cheat in a relationship is the same reason the person will cheat in marriage ....distant relationship isn't just the yard stickz even your babe that you live in the same house with fit still get another boo, fact!! The problem with we youths is a matter of integrity not an issue of distant relationship. Our ladies have lost value for themselves likewise our men who have turn themselves into having sex with anything available. If you can't keep distant relationship how will you cope if you get married and maybe get separated by distance ? If she will cheat she will cheat, distance is not the cause but LACK OF INTEGRITY

God bless you.

Yes distant relationship is not good if the couple really intend to take their relationship to the next level i.e marriage. This is because so many irresistible side attractions or some pressures may lead either party to a path of betrayal in the absence of the other. It should not be encouraged.

Nina4u:
Its not nesseserly true ...although i been there done that it ran out in the sand ..however i met someone new..but im in las vegas usa ..hes a musician in Lagos .. We talk every day on the phone ..we video chat ..message eachother ..there has to b trust ...and ofcause make plans to see eachother as soon as possible ...and making plans ..it can work ..but u gotto trust eachother ..and comunicate ...for me is a big issue because he got fans ... Preformans ...can i handle that? I voiced my fears and he has put me to ease ..but we shall see .

na so the yahoo yahoo dey first start..

Only immature guys drive their girls to cheat. Distant relationship is enjoyable if you handle it well. OP probably had a bitter one.

The truth is that distance rship is inevitable at some point in a rship or marriage. You or your partner might go for NYSC, Job transfer, or travel abroad for further study or work. Just that it shouldn't take more than 1 year of distance and you should continually make plans to see each other or one party relocating and giving up his/her life to be with the other party.
If for instance you break up with your bf/gf coz of distance and the next girl you meet that stays in the same area with you goes for NYSC, Job transfer or travel abroad for further study or work so you will break up with that one again. You can't stop anybody from pursuing a better future for themselves.

aktem:
Every relationship will sooner or later bcom a distant relationship, even if u guyz ar in dsame skul,what if u want 2 go 4 ur NYSC&she's still in 200l,300l or 400l,what ar u gonna do abt dat?..or maybe u guyz stay in dsame location @home&she's studying in a different higher institution, wont u guyz eventually go 2 ur respective skuls?.I'm in a long distance relationship(although nt dat long) bt i'm nt passing tru any emotional torment cos "babe wey go Bleep anoda guy go Bleep am,even wen u dey dsame hostel"&even in dis 21st century,most relationship is just like u're playing a game.I have my future 2 focus on than thinking if one babe is cheating on me,if she like,make she cheat&wen i'm ready 2 marry,i knw what 2 do.Guyz,just make sure u ar nt a loser in any relationship u engage in,datz d REAL DEAL.

the right answer...


as a guys stay clear from a deep relationship from a girl you love more than she loves you ..