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ZipporahElla:
Thanx brother I will keep to this advice, but this days u hardly know a serious guy, once they're serious it looks like all they want is sex.

Engineer123:
May God guides them to the straight path. @OP, it is everybody wish to get suitor at early twenty but sometime stories do change along the path. It is either one of the partner is not faithful.
Sometimes the guys are to name for deceiving ladies. I knew of many guys that have deceived many ladies in name of marriage.

Abbykem:
African mentality.
Boyfrnd @18 u be ashewo. Focus on ur studies

Get married @23, too young. Can't she just build a career first?

Single @27 but rich. Career woman/feminist.







I beg! Let everybody live there lives how they want it. Eyin olofofo Amebo

MzPecs:
If only you knew how I hate that word, you wouldn't use it.

Nonsense!

zela:
My dear... That's even a bit to endure.. Than someone telling you "Never Mind" and writing it as 'NVM'... Goshh...always feel like breaking my head.. esp when the person pushed me into inquiring

I so hate such words..
It kinda hurts!



Stephenqueen saw what you've caused

refiner:
pls stop deceiving us,,,,,we ought to be mature before jumping into marriage...I am a living example

a man,,,an army to be precise came to see my parents for my hands in marriage last two yrs,I was 17 den....before den I told him I was nt interested,I Dnt knw Hw he traced me to my house,,,after babbling I refused his request in d presence of my parent nd he went home....he later got married lastyr to a young gal of 20 as I heard....do u knw dis guy almost kill dis gal?beating her day nd nyte...d gal has to run for her life....so my dear u ought to be mature both physically nd in d mind before venturing into life commitment wif sombody....
my opinion......

Aitee1:
Gosh...you be real engineer, see dp

nickydof:
The primary reason why God created the woman was for marriage! If she decides to become a nun, that's a different case all together. God's purpose supercedes individual goals and objectives!

Engineer123:
Wow! You are beautiful.

viickerz:
obviously, u have spent so much time in europe..

Here in Africa, if you dont get married before the age of 25, you are on your own

Fkhalifa:
why you self go one marry army
when you a bit more older, give that cool guy with a less dangerous profession a chance and be convinced about him before finally saying I do.

Aitee1:
Thanks!

MzPecs:
I so hate such words.. It kinda hurts!


Stephenqueen saw what you've caused

lovethchioma:
Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices keeping in mind that marriage is the most important thing.
But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don't teach boys the same?
We teach girls to see themselves as competitors, not for Jobs or accomplishment but for the attention of men.

If the op would come here to blab rubbish about a girl doing what she had to do in order to get married at a young age. Why would not the guys too get married at a young age?
I am so sick of seeing people insulting ladies who are well accomplished just because they arent married yet. People would be like with all the money she never still marry. Like marriage is what? A ticket to happy life or heaven abi? Ah laff
Women were not made for marriage. They were created to fufil purpose on earth. Just like the men.
God will not judge you for not getting married but He is so gonna judge you for giving you brain and yet you didnt accomplish anything with it.

If you have a man who adds value to your life and makes you happy. And you are ready for marriage, both Spiritually, physically, emotionally, financially and otherwise please go ahead and marry. Marriage is a beautiful thing.
If and If, you are not sure for the responsibiities that come with marriage. Please wait.
If you want to get married because you feel time is going or every of your friends have gotten married. Then you are about to make the biggest mistake of your life.
A lot of people have rushed into marriage and now they wish they never did. Trust me
Continue adding value to yourself, get a life, get a job or set up your business, be independent. I am telling you when a true man comes, he will value you.
If you rush into it, you only become a liability. Believe me, no one wants a liability.

Do not allow what the op has written down or what you read on nairaland or any other place dictate how you should live you your life.
Let God be the centre of your decisions. Please!

Marvelency:
You started growing boobs at 13, in some girls puberty occur earlier than that, you are young, fresh, smart and badly or seriously wanted by every guy matured enough to know his dickey isn't only functioning for urinating alone, its hard at that age for you to start having stretch marks, a pimples consumed face, so every guy wants you then.. .

They watch you grow up, you gradually becoming a lady, babe, hotly wanted.. .basically turning into every man's dream.. .ass protruding backwards and you are now sweet 17.. .Oh my_my.. .its like the more you age the more beautiful you become.. .you are fresh you are smart you are shining, you are really beautiful.. .

Day after day night after night and the next morning you woke up its a happy birthday dear you are +1 to ya 24years already in ya basket of existence, you don't have a man who is serious with you in ya life, all you have in that basket are Exs a lot of them.. .Then suddenly it occurred to you that its like you've been sleeping and distracted when the train of ya life was moving during those teenage years.. .

How time flies, you wonder huh?! What were you doing when you had the maximum attention from the male folks?! What did you do to those thousands that asked you out?! How did you responds to his sincere request to marry you then?! You still wanted to enjoy life more, flirt, s*x, trips, shopping, parties was at the top of ya to-do list.. .now ya boobs are sagging and those ass are disappearing, ya face beginning to wrinkle, with stretch marks here and there.. .

I blame you if ya story is like the one I narrated, you can't tell me nobody approached you when you were growing up, and you can't say either that you didn't meet a decent man but you choose those that played with ya heart and you exchanged true love with money, you were catching fun when you should be making a life decision.. .

You should have made the right choice when you where that young, teenagers reading this very write up of mine now.. .should also learn from this too, make hay, while you still very beautiful, attractive, hot & dazzling, select the best from the best when they (Men) are still rushing towards ya direction coz the night comes when ya boobs begin to fall.. .when stretch marks begins to invade ya fair skin, when no man can work/walk with you.. .

The point is when you are still the centre of attraction, when they can still put up with you, pick one with the right qualities you desire and not for ya selfish interest or games and settle down. ..even if nemesis doesn't catch up with you, time will catch up with you and by that time it'll be wrong for you to do what's right or know who's right.. .

It'll be too late to cry as not everyone will want to marry an old woman.. .the traffic would have reduced! When its still at your disposal (Attention) make the best use of it.. .Make the right choice while you can still pick so you don't settle for just anybody.. .you were warned!

MrsPhyno:
First of all, is it ur life

Secondly, how could u as a Man, possibly know more about the stages in a woman's life than a female would. No need to teach us; thanks tho

Thirdly, are u saying girls should marry young? And if so, what's ur definition of young. Cause under age 23/24, most gehs are still in school..... It would be difficult and kinda irresponsible to marry while in school. Just know that education is the biggest thing that keeps females from marrying "young" or whatever....

So during our teenage years... Most of us are still in school, okay. That's your answer If we kept a serious boyfriend now, una would still complain. Lubbish.

Kingsolex1:
E.g me girls have broken ma heart like broken egss, I'll rather remain a bad boy nd have baby mamas lobatan,


Girls ain't worth the trouble.

MrsPhyno:
First of all, is it ur life

Secondly, how could u as a Man, possibly know more about the stages in a woman's life than a female would. No need to teach us; thanks tho

Thirdly, are u saying girls should marry young? And if so, what's ur definition of young. Cause under age 23/24, most gehs are still in school..... It would be difficult and kinda irresponsible to marry while in school. Just know that education is the biggest thing that keeps females from marrying "young" or whatever....

So during our teenage years... Most of us are still in school, okay. That's your answer If we kept a serious boyfriend now, una would still complain. Lubbish.

Marvelency:
You started growing boobs at 13, in some girls puberty occur earlier than that, you are young, fresh, smart and badly or seriously wanted by every guy matured enough to know his dickey isn't only functioning for urinating alone, its hard at that age for you to start having stretch marks, a pimples consumed face, so every guy wants you then.. .

They watch you grow up, you gradually becoming a lady, babe, hotly wanted.. .basically turning into every man's dream.. .ass protruding backwards and you are now sweet 17.. .Oh my_my.. .its like the more you age the more beautiful you become.. .you are fresh you are smart you are shining, you are really beautiful.. .

Day after day night after night and the next morning you woke up its a happy birthday dear you are +1 to ya 24years already in ya basket of existence, you don't have a man who is serious with you in ya life, all you have in that basket are Exs a lot of them.. .Then suddenly it occurred to you that its like you've been sleeping and distracted when the train of ya life was moving during those teenage years.. .

How time flies, you wonder huh?! What were you doing when you had the maximum attention from the male folks?! What did you do to those thousands that asked you out?! How did you responds to his sincere request to marry you then?! You still wanted to enjoy life more, flirt, s*x, trips, shopping, parties was at the top of ya to-do list.. .now ya boobs are sagging and those ass are disappearing, ya face beginning to wrinkle, with stretch marks here and there.. .

I blame you if ya story is like the one I narrated, you can't tell me nobody approached you when you were growing up, and you can't say either that you didn't meet a decent man but you choose those that played with ya heart and you exchanged true love with money, you were catching fun when you should be making a life decision.. .

You should have made the right choice when you where that young, teenagers reading this very write up of mine now.. .should also learn from this too, make hay, while you still very beautiful, attractive, hot & dazzling, select the best from the best when they (Men) are still rushing towards ya direction coz the night comes when ya boobs begin to fall.. .when stretch marks begins to invade ya fair skin, when no man can work/walk with you.. .

The point is when you are still the centre of attraction, when they can still put up with you, pick one with the right qualities you desire and not for ya selfish interest or games and settle down. ..even if nemesis doesn't catch up with you, time will catch up with you and by that time it'll be wrong for you to do what's right or know who's right.. .

It'll be too late to cry as not everyone will want to marry an old woman.. .the traffic would have reduced! When its still at your disposal (Attention) make the best use of it.. .Make the right choice while you can still pick so you don't settle for just anybody.. .you were warned!

Richiy:
Honestly I am very pained with this topic.

Fkhalifa:
The op isnt saying ladies should go and rush ti marry any guy that proposes..

He was just trying to advise you people to make hay while you are in your prime, that responsible, decent and working fearer of God that serously want to marry you maturedly should be given much consideration, because the tendency of having a sweet union is high

Unlike, when you immaturedly play the strong head of let me enjoy my life, you get spent on alot buy the guys after your body,
They use you, sag you, wide you and tarnish your image
.
when you get to your late 20s and 30s you start looking unattractive, your time has passed and the guys you wish to marry have turned back to the new latest chicks on town.
thereby leaving you to reminant men or the married ones.

but like some guys opined above,no need advising these end time girls, they ready to suck the d and cash of willing guys and careless of their future.

stephenqueen:
I'm sorry dear

Its alright..

Niceman4u:
If this is wat u can deduce from the OP write-up am afraid u need to go back to GNS/GS 101 on hw to summarize an article.

MrsPhyno:
First of all, is it ur life

Secondly, how could u as a Man, possibly know more about the stages in a woman's life than a female would. No need to teach us; thanks tho

Thirdly, are u saying girls should marry young? And if so, what's ur definition of young. Cause under age 23/24, most gehs are still in school..... It would be difficult and kinda irresponsible to marry while in school. Just know that education is the biggest thing that keeps females from marrying "young" or whatever....

So during our teenage years... Most of us are still in school, okay. That's your answer If we kept a serious boyfriend now, una would still complain. Lubbish.

craziebone:
i understand how you feel. There is no reason anyone in this world, under the world or above it, should make you feel the way you are feeling right now.

I want you to stand your ground and be stubborn. Be strong and oppose any act of intemidation from men who get rejected by women and they just take their fight against innocent women.

I can tell you the truth: if you stand your ground and attack men who start topics like this, before a page gets completed on this topic, you will uncover the real issues these men face and you will see how vulnerable they are.

Behind the what seems to confidence and vile mouth of these men, is a serious bitterness, frustration, jealousy and regret mostly out of rejection from someone they wanted so much. Notice he tried to shame you for being single. That's what we tell women when they turn our advances down.