ariyike23:


dts where we miss it,d world is advancing,we nigerians tend to trivialise those things that are important to us,karishika or not,she has anger issues and she needs to address dem

OK o
But anger issues or not she is still a karashika and he should not marry her

dahirusuleja:
Man like seriously you love her just marry her maybe by next month she may Bury you or you burying her just think before you do.

mehn, this you advice made me laugh

Inspinia:
I no longer know what to do. We have been together for 8 months and I want to marry her quickly. I have my reasons. She has been my childhood crush for years and now that she gave me a chance I don't want it to slip away. Many guys flock around her so before one asks her to marry him I had to do it first. And she is very responsible and definitely not a fling.

But I have problems with her aggression. A little thing she picks an issue with it and starts dishing out hurtful words to me. I always try to apologise and make her happy even when she is wrong not me just so she will be calm. It was working before now it no longer works. Whenever I try to make her happy she gets more angry and tell me I'm trying to patronise her. If I take her out on shopping she will be so angry that I'm trying to buy her with money that I don't love her.

My fellow brothers, what do I do? There was a day I had to invite my sister to come talk to her as woman to woman talk this lady pulled the belt on her jeans and began to assault my sister I'm grateful to God that I was there even my left eye is still bruised wth the way she hit me too that day. And the worst of it all is everytime she gets more angry and more violent.

I threatened to call off the wedding thinking it will make her rethink but it didn't instead she got angry that day and pushed me against the wall. God saved me beause if there was knife or bottle around that day with the way she was angry sh could have used any on me.

Please I need assistance from matured minds. I love her so much that I don't want to call off the wedding I want her to be wife but her aggression is too much. She get angry easily. She outrightly told me no sex till marriage and I can't do anything about because she seems stronger than I am (Yes she works out alot. Perhaps because she is a model or so i don't know)

I need help.

hahahahhaha hahhaha see this fool ooo



I'm sure I won't type rip when news cones out of her stabbing toy to death



You're just a fool if you marry her

i don't think this story is real but if is true well here is my advice. for the sake of ur future and yet to born children stop dating that girl or u will regret it later. she is too strong for u to handle.

ibile1:
My Brother-man..........Love not, what will kill/destroy you.

Its easier said than done.
You'll get it more hotter when you marry her.......don't forget to check your BP,


The choice is yours, DECIDE.


Pray.....auto-Solutions will come.

Y are u preaching nau...
@Op...pls marry her..its for ur own good.......
and pls prepare ur will before hand sha..
cos ur question to me seems ridiculous...d handwriting is so clear but u dnt want to use ur head..so pls marry her biko..

Honestly, I don't know how old you are. But you need to understand what love is all about. Anyone, either man or woman that has given you a sign of being violent,, please, please run for it. The person that never had any respect for your sister. I wonder what you are still doing with her. Though, marriage is between man and woman, but the family play lots of roles in that institution. Think twice and pray that GOD should give you the one that will give you peace. IT is covenant of Life time. So, shine your eye and think straight. GOOD LUCK

Take a good look at her well from head to toe... thats death standing right infront of you. So if you feel like crossing over there were there is no fuel scarcity, Naira is doing very well and there is no traffic. Then marry her..

in the voice of culture the rasta man , He that has ears let him hear

ibile1:
My Brother-man..........Love not, what will kill/destroy you.

Its easier said than done.
You'll get it more hotter when you marry her.......don't forget to check your BP,


The choice is yours, DECIDE.


Pray.....auto-Solutions will come.

Cc: Inspinia

Guyman02:
MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH AN AGGRESSIVE WIFE

The choice is yours to make. My wife is also aggressive, I used to tolerate her excesses until the day I could not hold it anymore and we ended up damaging many things in the house. I had to leave the house for her and we separated for some period. She abuses me at every turn with unpalatable words and some times in front of my family and friends, I had to learn to retaliate with harsh words too out of frustration, not very pleasant but I needed to get my sanity too.
In my case she covered up those violent aggressive traits from me with her usual apologies any time she flares up until we were fully married and since then my house is like cat and mouse and she hardly takes directives from me. I tried to seek for divorce but family and church intervened and I had to bear the situation and keep hoping that she will change.

The reality is that her violent and aggressive behaviour strains me a lot and causes me stress that I almost developed HBP and I feel freer whenever I am away from home on assignment and to worsen matter she will even harasses me on the phone even when I am hundreds of miles away but at that point I have the liberty of switching off my phone or not picking her calls.

Just like I know you are passing through now, I spend many valuable hours in the day thinking about the situation with her at home and this affects my output at work, spirituality, emotion etc.

You still have a chance of doing what you think is needful. Nobody can advise you to dump her or not, that decision is in your hands.

Dear op, nice job wearing the skirt in your relationship..... Kindly endeavor to post it again on nairaland when she beats your mother to a pulp, i see that happening soonest. Thanks in advance, and pls don't forget to add d pishure

Flee before u are consumed. The case of th lawyer in Ibadan should be a lesson

Guyman02:
MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH AN AGGRESSIVE WIFE

The choice is yours to make. My wife is also aggressive, I used to tolerate her excesses until the day I could not hold it anymore and we ended up damaging many things in the house. I had to leave the house for her and we separated for some period. She abuses me at every turn with unpalatable words and some times in front of my family and friends, I had to learn to retaliate with harsh words too out of frustration, not very pleasant but I needed to get my sanity too.
In my case she covered up those violent aggressive traits from me with her usual apologies any time she flares up until we were fully married and since then my house is like cat and mouse and she hardly takes directives from me. I tried to seek for divorce but family and church intervened and I had to bear the situation and keep hoping that she will change.

The reality is that her violent and aggressive behaviour strains me a lot and causes me stress that I almost developed HBP and I feel freer whenever I am away from home on assignment and to worsen matter she will even harasses me on the phone even when I am hundreds of miles away but at that point I have the liberty of switching off my phone or not picking her calls.

Just like I know you are passing through now, I spend many valuable hours in the day thinking about the situation with her at home and this affects my output at work, spirituality, emotion etc.

You still have a chance of doing what you think is needful. Nobody can advise you to dump her or not, that decision is in your hands.

Speechless.... I think you should divorce her o. @op a word is enough for the wise.

Are you sure no be man or transvestite......

Pls bro, avoid stories that touch the heart when you eventually get wedded to this terror of a girl. So many people pray to see such signs before marriage but you have seen the green light now and you choose to ignore. Wake up brother!

My brother don't go and put yourself in perpetual punishment just in the name of been scared of losing her. How long will u be able to put up with that attitude? If you have the strength to forever cope with it fine but if not, I will advise you have a rethink.

Strahovski1:
Before I read your story you registered Jan 23 and did not say anytin till March 8? U wanted to post it then? But waited to see if she will change but nw it's worse? Right?

I understand. Let me read your story.

Modified- I've read your story.

Now my comment:

All I can say is, she is dangerous and she needs psychological help. From your description, she loves you. If she doesn't she would say No to your proposal and even if she said yes due to the heat of the moment she will later tell you I'm not marrying you. You know why? You can't do sh!t about it. She loves you man.

Sit her down and talk to her. Don't try to play boss with her. She is violent and ready to kill and be killed. Like you said she is stronger than you. She works out. She needs a gentle counsel.

Play this game called trust fall. Tell her to stand behind you on cement floor or don't tell her so she doesn't think it's a game just ensure she is standing at your back. And just fall towards the ground at her direction and see if she catches you. If she doesn't, take her to a doctor, if she does, man she loves you she is only upset about something and you kinda remind her of it so let her tell you what it is and share it with any therapist.

Also stop spending money on her. She clearly doesn't need your money. Only give when she asks. Take her shopping once in a while. And give her space. Don't ask for sex. Let her tell you what she wants and ask her this question 'Why do you hate me?' It works alot. She will break and tell you why If she does hate you because the woman you describe got balls. She can say anything.

Bye.

I see it in another way. Love is trust and I am yet to see someone that loves one you don't trust. Lets forget infatuation.
I think she doesn't have feelings for you. If she does she would have calmed down ages ago. I think she agreed to ur proposal cos she wanted or needed the stability that comes with her having man which doesn't necessarily mean she has to love you.
The only way to tackle this is to look at it in three scenario.
1) Keep quiet and let her have her way. Then watch as she would blossom into a beast, a monster and ur family members will mean nothing to her.
2) Walk away let her go afterall if you love something you let it go but you may loose her forever.
3) You give her fire for fire. Met her madness for.madness. Show her as crazy as she feel say she be na your own way pass. Sometimes they cool down and become sane and funny enough start getting to love you back. I once knew a lady that dropped a guy that was dotting on her for a guy that was giving her hell. Women come in different mixes. You just have to know the one yours is.

Guy its ur call, ur problem, ur solution, ur cross. Whatever decision you make na you go live with am. But then all through my years and what I have seen. I have learnt it pays better to love who loves you rather than spend years trying to keep a one-sided relationship going.

Inspinia:
I no longer know what to do. We have been together for 8 months and I want to marry her quickly. I have my reasons. She has been my childhood crush for years and now that she gave me a chance I don't want it to slip away. Many guys flock around her so before one asks her to marry him I had to do it first. And she is very responsible and definitely not a fling.

But I have problems with her aggression. A little thing she picks an issue with it and starts dishing out hurtful words to me. I always try to apologise and make her happy even when she is wrong not me just so she will be calm. It was working before now it no longer works. Whenever I try to make her happy she gets more angry and tell me I'm trying to patronise her. If I take her out on shopping she will be so angry that I'm trying to buy her with money that I don't love her.

My fellow brothers, what do I do? There was a day I had to invite my sister to come talk to her as woman to woman talk this lady pulled the belt on her jeans and began to assault my sister I'm grateful to God that I was there even my left eye is still bruised wth the way she hit me too that day. And the worst of it all is everytime she gets more angry and more violent.

I threatened to call off the wedding thinking it will make her rethink but it didn't instead she got angry that day and pushed me against the wall. God saved me beause if there was knife or bottle around that day with the way she was angry sh could have used any on me.

Please I need assistance from matured minds. I love her so much that I don't want to call off the wedding I want her to be wife but her aggression is too much. She get angry easily. She outrightly told me no sex till marriage and I can't do anything about because she seems stronger than I am (Yes she works out alot. Perhaps because she is a model or so i don't know)

I need help.

my brother... Man to man.. Run for dear life.... don't you read the news or hear how women kill, burn their husbands?? The case of the lawyer who stabbed her husband is still fresh.. Just yesterday... A woman in Kenya burnt her husband and kids alive... My brother... I say again.. Love is never always enough... If she could use belt on your sister... Imagine what she would use on your mum when she visits to resolve issues... Imagine what she would do to a house help. This is an SOS... to live long... Do not marry that lady.. She would break your family and show you the shortest route to ur grave... A word is enough for the wise...

Greene66:
This Is why I say we should love foreign girls.

Foreign girls are the best. All dis naija no be here

#TeamForeignGirls

Just because a lady is aggressive doesn't means her local counterparts will follow suite. I know that u will definitely marry a 9ja babe and we all know that ur mum is a nigerian.

vani86:
you are the definition of a fuuuck.boy,

excuse my french.

my reason for calling you one is cuz, you are the type that allow girls to ride you, you aint even married and she is this insulting and disrespectful, what happens when you get married,

secondly, you engaged her cuz of fear of someone doing it first even if you are not ready, that shows how desperate you are. sometimes dont let your Dick(you will call it love sha) to rule you, use your head and put her in her place.

on point

Inspinia:
I no longer know what to do. We have been together for 8 months and I want to marry her quickly. I have my reasons. She has been my childhood crush for years and now that she gave me a chance I don't want it to slip away. Many guys flock around her so before one asks her to marry him I had to do it first. And she is very responsible and definitely not a fling.

But I have problems with her aggression. A little thing she picks an issue with it and starts dishing out hurtful words to me. I always try to apologise and make her happy even when she is wrong not me just so she will be calm. It was working before now it no longer works. Whenever I try to make her happy she gets more angry and tell me I'm trying to patronise her. If I take her out on shopping she will be so angry that I'm trying to buy her with money that I don't love her.

My fellow brothers, what do I do? There was a day I had to invite my sister to come talk to her as woman to woman talk this lady pulled the belt on her jeans and began to assault my sister I'm grateful to God that I was there even my left eye is still bruised wth the way she hit me too that day. And the worst of it all is everytime she gets more angry and more violent.

I threatened to call off the wedding thinking it will make her rethink but it didn't instead she got angry that day and pushed me against the wall. God saved me beause if there was knife or bottle around that day with the way she was angry sh could have used any on me.

Please I need assistance from matured minds. I love her so much that I don't want to call off the wedding I want her to be wife but her aggression is too much. She get angry easily. She outrightly told me no sex till marriage and I can't do anything about because she seems stronger than I am (Yes she works out alot. Perhaps because she is a model or so i don't know)

I need help.

I'm sure its a movie script. If not then u are already on a spell to still be in that kinda relationship by now!! Like wtf!!!

Keep on following here. I just hope we don't get to see your graphic fotos of Man batter injuries on Nairaland

wristbangle:


Just because a lady is aggressive doesn't means her local counterparts will follow suite. I know that u will definitely marry a 9ja babe and we all know that ur mum is a nigerian.

No. Don't call his mom out!! Show some respect bro.

Sounds like a demon of anger. Jesus said to cast out devils! Do the needful bro. She sounds like a nice person except when she's yielded to this devil.

My guy sorry eh, you do enter one chance bi that...even some cults will allow you to quite without threat of bodily harm and your financee will not even allow you to cancel the wedding?

I seriously hope this is a joke and fictional or else how can you see all these signs and still want to marry this lady?

If she is wiping your relatives with belt, giving you a black eyes, pushing you against the wall and even (in your own words) would have used a knife on you if one was around, etc now that she is a gf, when she is married, expect the worst.

It is very obvious she is the one that wears the pant (aka trouser) in that relationship. My guy, cloth get size, look for your size. When God created marriage, he clearly says the man should be the head, if you are a lady and are in a relationship which you are the one wearing the pants, that relationship is not of God and if you are a man and it is the lady wearing the pant, check yourself and go look for your size.

Love in a relationship is not everything, the truth is, the word love is abused and made to mean what it is not...Love they say is in the eyes of the beholder, meaning what you call love might be rubish to someone else and if you break it down 'love' is actually gloried sets of likes...you see a lady (or a lady sees a man) and identify sets of things in that person they like, then they 'fall' in love, the more things they find, the move great and romantic the love becomes...look well, there is another lady around the corner that you can fall in love with.

Your situation is also one of the drawbacks in relationships, where sex is forbidden until after marriage. The truth is sometimes men are driven by their small head (the one in between their legs) rather than the big head...ask them and they will swear they are within reason and are in love not knowing that, it is lust...but once the small head is allowed to chop small food and then realize that, that pussy is not any special than the one you have eaten before, the small head will kool down and allow the big head to reason well. I think girls will also benefit from this, becos by giving him pussy, if he went further to propose, it means there is something else he finds attractive in you...by withholding pussy and deep down knowing that it is all the same and on the other end the guy is thinking this is golden, it is a perfect ill storm that will hurt both of you....

I am 99% sure that, if you had had sex with this lady, you would not be this determined to go into this marriage that will obviously lead to your death or severe injury and her getting locked up in the prison, you can see where getting the small head out of the way benefits both of you.

This dude needs a brain format.
If the lady is aggressive, and you cannot tame her before marriage there is no guarantee she will change after marriage.
You either grow some balls and gym up to make sure you are more physically stronger.

Secondly, you need to read her the riot act!!! Fools rush in...don't rush into marriage with this lady as you will lead a miserable life afterwards.
Let her know if you do not see a serious intentions to manage her anger that you will walk.

The hand writing is on the wall boldly written and it seems your emotions is taking the better of your reasoning faculty. If you should go ahead and marry this bae, it is either you kill her or she kills you.

Don't die early bro. Whatever is attracting you to her, you can find it in other girls too.

My woman disrespects me, OK, I can manage with it. My woman disrespects my family member, or close friend, not just ok.com. Atimes I wonder why guys that sucked their mama's breast love stupidly. Op u have inferiority complex. In fact u don't love that lady at all. You are just mumuishly and insecurely scared of losing her cos she was ur childhood crush whom you believed you could never get even in ur wildest dream. But fortunately and unfortunately for u, u used money to buy ur way through, which she already noticed. U can't buy her heart, simple. Her agreeing to marry you doesn't mean she loves you. You better sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her. Be bold enough I know you have a chicken heart. Try to be arrogant and rude for once in this ur life and then watch how it goes. She even deny u sex, u be confirm mumu. Na one chance u wan enter so. Receive sense, receive receive receive sense. I pity u if u marry that lady.

Inspinia:
I no longer know what to do. We have been together for 8 months and I want to marry her quickly. I have my reasons. She has been my childhood crush for years and now that she gave me a chance I don't want it to slip away. Many guys flock around her so before one asks her to marry him I had to do it first. And she is very responsible and definitely not a fling.

But I have problems with her aggression. A little thing she picks an issue with it and starts dishing out hurtful words to me. I always try to apologise and make her happy even when she is wrong not me just so she will be calm. It was working before now it no longer works. Whenever I try to make her happy she gets more angry and tell me I'm trying to patronise her. If I take her out on shopping she will be so angry that I'm trying to buy her with money that I don't love her.

My fellow brothers, what do I do? There was a day I had to invite my sister to come talk to her as woman to woman talk this lady pulled the belt on her jeans and began to assault my sister I'm grateful to God that I was there even my left eye is still bruised wth the way she hit me too that day. And the worst of it all is everytime she gets more angry and more violent.

I threatened to call off the wedding thinking it will make her rethink but it didn't instead she got angry that day and pushed me against the wall. God saved me beause if there was knife or bottle around that day with the way she was angry sh could have used any on me.

Please I need assistance from matured minds. I love her so much that I don't want to call off the wedding I want her to be wife but her aggression is too much. She get angry easily. She outrightly told me no sex till marriage and I can't do anything about because she seems stronger than I am (Yes she works out alot. Perhaps because she is a model or so i don't know)

I need help.

Whatever you see now will be multiplied when she enters your house. A word is enough.

When you say childhood friend,for me that is the no go. Both of you have grown up now and the truth is that both of you are not meant for each other period.Marriage is not friendship that you can just abandon over night,families are involved.And if kids happens to be involved then you are stock.So now is the time to run and run.
You can not change a woman,believe me am talking from experience.God will see you through

Bros,run for ur life.