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psucc:
5years is not 5days or 5 months. Having 'served' you for that long without any glimpse of hope of marriage, she has to move on.

Guy truly you no try at all.

what are you saying wey dey sweet for ur mouth with the 27likes for ur comment. So u actually mean for example,I'm 19 and my gf is 17...5yrs later,I'm 24 while she's 22. It means we should have gotten married abi? #Smh

I will prefer u delete anything about her cos they will keep reminding u I tried dat once and it worked for but at. The beginning it will be tough but strive hard cos she does not deserve ur cry or ur taught cos she will be thinking abt something else not u do y should u think abt her den.....

To be frank with u, I can't console u nor tell u all is well.
You made a very big mistake building someone's life and playing with ur own academics just in the name of love
You suffer yourself just to make someone happy no fulfil at the detriment of ur own even God never tell us to do that.
You paid for her school fees and u were unable to continue yours since 2012, guy it's a pity, didn't u av a guardian or someone that do advise u that make u do all these or u just did it without consulting anyone.
Well it is not too late to move on but never try it again that u want to sponsor a lady through school except u are more above in educational level than what u want to send her.
With the way u explain things love really affect u that make u not to think twice that she might be cheating on u.
I will advice u go to her and allow her to repeat that statement in ur present and if she can say it, is better u move on with ur life.
Try to make fun about it with ur friends and allow them to make jest of u with that u will forget it within a short while
I never see abayaku na only abokoku I dey here

teevodaprinz:
You ve got to move on Bro... Probably u weren't meant for each other... When GOD chooses for a man or woman there wouldn't be anything called heartbreak... If you push and the later part is tragic... Bro it would be difficult to trace back the part... " it's better to be single than to be in a wrong marriage " So pray to GOD to lead you... Moreover, if you are opportune to study, never allow your woman to be ahead of you particularly on the academic ground so my advice for you is " Focus on your studies... Don't even think about another gf now #though that depends on your age and readiness for marriage# when the time comes... I mean the right time. Your partner will surely show up... Be strong bro that's the other side of human love...
Get yourself busy with something valuable and you will look back later and say "Thank GOD it happened that way" that would g the your mind off her... ALL IS WELL BRO

Am still young bro..am in my early twenties

She wanted to get married.. And you probably didn't show any sign of marriage.. Move on.. But you try o.. Me I can't date someone for 1year talk more 5.

Chei!!! 5 WHOLE YEARS

Taaa....her mates wey marry that time don born 2 to 3 children by now oo...Haba, fear God na. U just wan start Hnd which will take 3 to 4 years to finish before looking for job and making enough money to settle down. Meaning she would end up waiting an extra 5 to 6 years...11 years dating? Shuo!!!! Wetin u rub for mouth?
You were servicing her financially and she was servicing you physically...equation don balance. She no owe ur papa.

A beg shift park well make d girl see road go find her life...In all ur long story, u no even talk say we were engaged or I planned to marry her next year...Na make she dey wait for you...You be Jesus? Abi the second coming?

Hi an. ...see dis man o..

nextstep:
Was marriage on the horizon?

No, we are still young

harrysjones:
bro do u ave anybody that is close to her try contact the person tell the person what realy happen .. who know she may change her mind...DO u rely offend her..

I didn't offend her in any way

BrokenHeart2016:
Your right

A real man will never wholeheartedly love a lady

Adeyeancah:
what are you saying wey dey sweet for ur mouth with the 27likes for ur comment. So u actually mean for example,I'm 19 and my gf is 17...5yrs later,I'm 24 while she's 22. It means we should have gotten married abi? #Smh

Yes.. Well for me 22 yes. I should be married by then. You shouldn't date a girl and not give her any sign of the future and expect her to be okay with it. Except she doesn't love you or care about any of that. She even tried. Me.. About 7 months or 8 down the relationship I'll ask him.. "babe where are we going with all of this?" if I see no sign of seriousness.. I'll move on.

BrokenHeart2016:
Ok bro

i feel your pain because i have been there too, if you go through my threads on nairaland you will understands better, mine told me she needed a space to concentrate on her final year project...bla bla, but the truth is out now, she wanted to date her long time crush, but guess what! The guy slept with her and dump her after just 2months, she has been using every avenue to beg me to take her back that she now knows i am the best..but unfortunately the space she gave me had opened my eye, is 6mnths now i'm single enjoying my singlehood, i still sends her money anytime she called and pleaded for my assist just to keep her conscience busy, the truth is that your girl knows your financial status @ the moment & thinks your far from being there, but she don't know how to tell you that, prove her wrong by moving on & work hard to attain a different height. Stop calling her for now, when she calls just pretend all is well & don't remind her about what she did to you, possible don't allow her finish talking just tell her you will call her back you need to attend to something, just end the call & don't call her back, she will be the one doing everything possible to know your new parol, don't lament about it on fb or ur whatsap status, just pretend, the more she is wanting to know your new status, the more u will start feeling better.

hope4nigeria:
Congratulation Op, God has just removoved Badluck from ur destiny! You are expected to go for thanks giving.
I had similar experience, my ex told me to my face that she never knew when I will become a man! OMG. She followed Ready made man! After 9yrs now, I'm happily married with Two boys! I later got info that my Ex got chronic Vibroid and her chances of bearing a child is slim! The already made man abandon her! Till now she never married! We met recently in abuja! I took her to a restaurant! She was crying full of regrets while I'm giving thanks to God because I loved her then more than my live! She was later begging me for money for her fibroid Operation! Which I sent her 50k! Tho my wife must never know of it sha, so Op thank God in Advance.

Scripting...

Doxie69:
What the heck did I just read, if only you had sense and used your head you won't be lamenting now @ Op. You used money for your handouts to buy her foodstuff what sort of nonsense is that.

If only you used the money for her 2 years fees to start up a business or even dash it out to your siblings or mum, instead you chose to be father Christmas so she is happy,see how your kindness has killed u @ Op I have no regrets for what u passing through

you be correct bobo jare... ops mumuness is so annoying and irritating

You don't need an advice bro move on with your life , I also ended 4 years relationship though it hurts so much but I just have to move on . Next time you'll learn to stay off love love and just flings .

BrokenHeart2016:
No, we are still young

guy if i could overcame mine, believe me you will be fine with time, jst try avoid her pics for now it will help you, no girl what to make you sleepless night my guy...ur a man & can easily get a better girl.

BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders

It's time to move on. You have to visualize another woman as the mother of your kids.

hope4nigeria:
Congratulation Op, God has just removoved Badluck from ur destiny! You are expected to go for thanks giving.
I had similar experience, my ex told me to my face that she never knew when I will become a man! OMG. She followed Ready made man! After 9yrs now, I'm happily married with Two boys! I later got info that my Ex got chronic Vibroid and her chances of bearing a child is slim! The already made man abandon her! Till now she never married! We met recently in abuja! I took her to a restaurant! She was crying full of regrets while I'm giving thanks to God because I loved her then more than my live! She was later begging me for money for her fibroid Operation! Which I sent her 50k! Tho my wife must never know of it sha, so Op thank God in Advance.

Hmmm...thank u soo much sir
Have lost appetite I don't eat like before

Those days when i was still having babes, i told myself one thing. Spend money on girls that you won't regret spending if any yawa burst. Contrary to what ladies believe and what they'll argue about claiming it's ok for a guy to spend on a girl. I say, no girl have one single small right. My fianceé cannot demand from me anyhow, na me be her papa? when we're married i can play my role well. What's it with guys showering girls with money and gifts that they don't even have sometimes. If you can shower gifts on a girl you're lusting after then you should be able to do same for others including guys. Bros you haven't found a wife material you can plan future with, as she's not one. Move on.

Could have had no say in this sef, because all these bf and gf thing leads to fornication(sin)

BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders

so sorry for that, bt d major mistake is from you. don't ever think that being faithful to only one lady will make her love you lie lie, girls like rogues that mal handle them and play with their emotions, once u cannot be able to do that sorry, u will always be jilted.

I recommend a book for you to read and know more about real and practical psychology of women. "Art of Seduction" by Robert Green. the big edition. pls get it and develop urself.

Sometimes you just grow out of love. Some of us are battling with that. Don't blame the girl. It's not all about money.

@Ariyike23. Your attention is needed here, abeg make u come help the OP with those your mind digesting advice so he could overcome this..

nokingasgod:
Some of us have passed through that route before and its not a big thing. It is time to move on and you simply have to move on. It's a natural phenomenon and it may even be you at some point wanting a breather.

But what i found disgusting is the idea of lamenting over what you did for her while it lasted forgetting you too must have benefited from her, at least sexually. So Bro, stop whining and be a man.

It's also disgusting to hear you misappropriated money meant for your academic work and used it on frivolities for her sake. Well, think that's not love but stupidity. To compound the issues, she progressed into HND level while you Mr Lover Man is still wielding ND and still hustling. It would have been a different story if you had ''hit it big'', but my friend, still hustling with ND certificate and you expect her to stick by you.....Please wake up.

Going forward, learn to be a man, a real sensible and smart guy. Choose your girl carefully, she's your friend and not your wife yet, so learn to know the limit of your responsibility towards her if any. You don't take advantage of a vulnerable lady, spend few coins on her, enjoy free ''entry'' and free ''exit'' for several years and expect her not to be attracted towards a juicier offer.

Lastly, as it is in most cases, you may end up being the winner cos there's the likelihood of her coming back to you if not now then later. The story does not usually end that way, there's always a comeback, even after marriage. But, it is left to you to shake yourself free, face your studies or hustle harder so that when the time comes she wouldn't have to see you and say thank God i left him.

Lesson well learnt...I appreciate your comment sir

BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders

Bro, it's not my duty to tell you this but your ex is now someone's wife. She was getting married so had to break it off

OP how much is super glue that u are coming to cry for us here


But calling a spade a spoon 5 yrs ain't 5 months neither is it 5 weeks. Bro she never saw a glimpse of marriage with you but you have to move on cos life goes on man.

I feel ur pain tho'

dancok:
Bro sorry, but I know u saw this coming, but u just ignore it because u love her, some girls reluctantly accept your love but they don't really love you, I assume this is the scenario here.

You are right bro, I saw it coming cus the last time I visited her in school I went to sympathize with her because she just lost her mom, I went through her phone and I saw a strange msg in her inbox though she did not reply the msg...but I don't want to raised my voice in that present situation I just let it slide

addictiv:
Op I was in ur shoes few years back and I came to this same forum to seek advice. The enlightened ones advised me to move on and become successful and I did. I am totally grateful that I took that decision. Looking back now I discovered I dodged a bullet by letting go and focusing on developing myself. My drive for success has never been more profound. Being heart broken caused a turning point in my life and I swore I ll never be broke or suffer from any kind of oppression. My advise for you is to live life to the fullest and develop yourself. Life is filled with so much abundance than u can imagine and with great people who re ready to appreciate ur God given potentials. U ll discover that it ll get better with each passing day. But do not for any reason go back to the relationship even if she comes crying and begging cos they usually come crawling esp after you have added a few zeros to your net worth. You ll discover in future that it was probably the best decision for both of you. Dont go hating on her or start treating other women badly because of your experience. You ll be driving away lots of good experiences if you do.... Just wish her well and move on. More grease brah.

Thanks bro your comment is well appreciated

omosefeeguaibor:
This is the part where people will come up with different bashing towards the girl not that I am justifying the fact that she left but hey! Who is looking @ 5 long years, guy if you had engage or married her with more emphasis on marrying her, who knows, we would not be making comment on matters like this. plus it's an avenue to teach yourself a lesson about making your hay while the sun is still blazing in summary 5years is just too much and even dangerous to waste on a relationship it could have been better than that. All in all my heart felt sympathy to you

We are still young that's why...though we always day dream about our future

This is BASIC...
IF SHE CAN LIVE, STAY HAPPY AND MOVE ON WITH HER LIFE WITHOUT YOU.... TAKE IT AS A CHALLENGE, LIVE, STAY HAPPY, AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE WITHOUT HER !

Hnmmm, bra u did all dat doesn't show love, dere is a lot in relationship dan money, u buy her house doesn't guarantee her heart, guess she was unable too see d attributes of a man in u. Do u need to say all u have done for her? It's something a mature guy can do for a girl which his not dating. Bro up u game man

Neyoor:
I feel your pains bro. Considering the sacrifices, your conviction and commitments. May God replenish you in folds



Meanwhile "Broken relationship is better than broken marriage"


God knows best bro. Move on with your live, although it hurts and always tends to be impossible to let go but believe me, God is in control.

Ameen God bless u sir

djojo:
To be frank with u, I can't console u nor tell u all is well.
You made a very big mistake building someone's life and playing with ur own academics just in the name of love
You suffer yourself just to make someone happy no fulfil at the detriment of ur own even God never tell us to do that.
You paid for her school fees and u were unable to continue yours since 2012, guy it's a pity, didn't u av a guardian or someone that do advise u that make u do all these or u just did it without consulting anyone.
Well it is not too late to move on but never try it again that u want to sponsor a lady through school except u are more above in educational level than what u want to send her.
With the way u explain things love really affect u that make u not to think twice that she might be cheating on u.
I will advice u go to her and allow her to repeat that statement in ur present and if she can say it, is better u move on with ur life.
Try to make fun about it with ur friends and allow them to make jest of u with that u will forget it within a short while
I never see abayaku na only abokoku I dey here

Lol you funny oo...thanks a lot