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Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Sometimes, it might not be about that. You might just be overreacting. Talk to him about it

thekingisback:
You better start vomiting all the money you have eaten before we start hearing stories that touch. A thread was opened yesterday morning about who witnessed the raping of a girl in his friend's house. Nothing goes for nothing. The girl was equally denying the guy sex the same way you're denying him sex and she was raped. Start calculating everything hour has spent on you and return them back. It's for your own good.

Whoever wants to dine with the devil must do so with a very long spoon. Don't smell a meal you know you won't eat. Be warned.

[color=#2ecc71]That's really disgusting advice
Is that what you would do 2 a woman who denyed you? [/color]

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#2ecc71]That's really disgusting advice
Is that what you would do 2 a woman who denyed you? [/color]

Erm.. But really, in what ways do ladies contribute to a relationship?

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#9999ff]I think this is the 1st time I've seen you comment on a personal issue
......terrible advice you give.
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[color=#00cccc]Is she a proustite that his favors buy sex with her?
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The guy na ATM??

CrazyQuinn:
I really don't understand why girls will allow a guy to take care of your needs financially and emotionally

Miss Independent, r u for real

GIVE AND IT SHALL BE GIVEN UNTO U.
this issue of sex wouldn't b a debate if u have sth tangible to offer him.
The guy has obviously realised u av nth to offer him except sex,if nt he wouldn't pester u.

finalboss:
am nt understanding..op are you alright at all ..
. asuo27 dey ve ban my other Accnt dey said i was encouraging rape....

Lmao encouraging rape
U b Badoo

Afta u dun collect financially and emotionally abi
I cry in Addy for u

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance
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Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

[size=28pt]LIAR![/size]

STAND BY YOUR DECISION GIRL.even if this post is a super story cooked up by you,another girl can still gain from it.but lets just imagine its real,you cant get so attached to a guy,no one is irreplaceable,try to convince him to share your beliefs and if he doesn't change move on,maybe you were not meant to be,what if you marry him and he dies shortly afterwards? shiat happens sis,get ready to let go. I have a similar problem; most girls want to roll in the hay nowadays before marraige or they dont take you serious and I swore an oath to God to refrain from sex years ago and its been so tough but i've discovered i am stronger than i thought.

finalboss:
am nt understanding..op are you alright at all ..
. asuo27 dey ve ban my other Accnt dey said i was encouraging rape....

It must have been the comment you made.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance


There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

LIAR!!!!

THIS IS NOT YOUR FIRST POST ON NL


THIS STORY IS FAKE!!!
YOU ARE FAKE!!!!

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#9999ff]I think this is the 1st time I've seen you comment on a personal issue
......terrible advice you give.
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[color=#00cccc]Is she a proustite that his favors buy sex with her?
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why don't ever your gender want to compromise? is he Santa Claus for supporting her emotionally,physically and financially?

my advise was optional, she either give it to him because from the story the dude is getting sick of her principle or she remain adamant and end up losing him to a girl who can. do not forget she claims she is in love with him, if she chooses the latter she will be at the losing end, she will be heartbroken and loses all his supports.

relationship is a two way context, a balance must be maintained.

Oliviaarims:
If truly you've resolutely decided to abstain, the need to create this thread wouldn't have arisen. Your resolve isn't strong enough, you're having second thoughts and that's where you've begun to lose the battle.

Abstinence is good. Don't allow anyone tell you that because you're no longer a virgin, you must continue indulging in premarital sex.

I vehemently peruse your notion and I didn't
see the part where the nigga has to benefit from the relationship. I'm certain before receiving the guy's support she never said I am a celibate till marriage. ladies don't want to compromise, always want to be at the receiving end.

abstinence is good if you never indulge in pre-marital sex. a man can easily believe a virgin celibacy than a non virgin. mostly guys believe, if I'm not hitting that someone else must be. few trust their babes thou.

lastly, she is having a second thought perhaps her needs is emerging or she feels she isn't equitable to the guy.

Guys would stop demanding for sex if girls stop being emotional and financial burdens.

They expect the bf to recharge their phones, call them, sponsor birthrdays, take them out to movies , eateries, buy shoes, cloth etc whereas all she has to do is be there to enjoy..majority offer nothing.

At a point, the boy realises, if she leaves, money spent is down the drain. And the chances of girls leaving u is very high, especially when they are still young. They rarely pass up the opportunity to upgrade their BFs..

Demand for sex is just a consolation for the guys..a guy that is genuinely in love with u will still hurt when u leave,even when he has slept with u.

So a more balanced relationship is what will dowse the tension for sex..buy him gifts, genuine ones not boxers. Call him up and take him out and be responsible for the cost sometimes. Sponsor his brithdays, yes , it won't kill u. And remind him of how lucky u are to have him in your life..He may still want sex but won't ne angry if u refuse.

Lastly, true love is genuinely unconditional. However, setting conditions ensures no one gets hurt or cheated. Girls want true love, if that is true, sex is an important ingredient of true love. The moment u do not want to do that, then u have accepted reality and stepped out of fantasy land. There is no unconditional love.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

please help me with your number

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage... he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage, he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Before I give you any advice, I'm curious to ask you, in what way(s) has he benefited from you, cos as regard the reddened, the guy has been there for you.

So have you been there for him in the same manner which he has been there for you?

CrazyQuinn:
No I'm not part of those girls I don't need a guy to take care of me financially and emotionally, I can take care of that myself

Isn't that what they all say?

CrazyQuinn:
I really don't understand why girls will allow a guy to take care of your needs financially and emotionally

No be their fault, na hungry cause am. Remember the economy is bad.

JustHere2Observ:
If you are not ready to have sex with him, then dont. He should respect your decision not to have sex until marriage whether you are a virgin or not, so my advice if you dont want to dont do it.

He should respect her decision but she doesn't have to respect his decision. Did you even read the part where the OP said she had been collecting financial, physical and emotional assistance from the guy? You are just a hypocrite. So she can keep the guy as a maga and drain him of his hard earned money abi until she goes to the next victim.

You girls always think you are smart. A girl was bathed with acid some years ago in Kaduna, I really felt sorry for her then, but she could have prevented such irreversible damage to her face if she didn't think she was too smart.

falconey:
I vehemently peruse your notion and I didn't
see the part where the nigga has to benefit from the relationship. I'm certain before receiving the guy's support she never said I am a celibate till marriage.[/b]ladies don't want to compromise, always want to be at the receiving end.

[b]abstinence is good if you never indulge in pre-marital sex. a man can easily believe a virgin celibacy than a non virgin. mostly guys believe, if I'm not hitting that someone else must be. few trust their babes thou.

lastly, she is having a second thought perhaps her needs is emerging or she feels she isn't equitable to the guy.

@the first emboldened. Must everyone go around screaming they are celibate? And by your post, you're insinuating a guy only helps a girl out in whatever way in the hope that she'll return the favour by sleeping with him. Are you for real?

@the second. No one has the right to tell another when or when not to abstain. If a guy doesn't want to believe his gf is truly abstaining, then that's his own cup of tea, he should walk away.

But in all this, the one salient point you've made is that a boy/girl relationship is primarily about sex.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Well, I can't really blame him as lots of guys have been scammed by girls with the no sex thingy while they are steady giving it to another guy.

In this generation where trust is scarce denying him sex may give him reasons not to trust you. besides it may be that his friends are mocking him cause he haven't slept with you (yeah we gossip too)

or he just wants to explore and Leave. or any other reason

if you wish to give it to him, no wahala. just know that whatever happens next (after you give it to him ) was meant to happen

joseph1832:
Before I give you any advice, I'm curious to ask you, in what way(s) has he benefited from you, cos as regard the reddened, the guy has been there for you.

So have you been there for him in the same manner which he has been there for you?

Like most Nigerian girls, she has been worthless to him in the relationship so far. Like a parasite, enjoying everything and contributing nothing.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

OP is a liar. I just had a look at your profile and discovered you are not telling the truth because you have been making posts on Nairaland since March.

How are we to believe this your story sef. It could be another pack of lies concucted by you to gain attention.

stuffs4me:
Like most Nigerian girls, she has been worthless to him in the relationship so far. Like a parasite, enjoying everything and contributing nothing.

LOL. Let's hear from her first.

Oliviaarims:
@the first emboldened. Must everyone go around screaming they are celibate? And by your post, you're insinuating a guy only helps a girl out in whatever in the hope that she'll return the favour by sleeping with him. Are you for real?

@the second. No one has the right to tell another when or when not to abstain. If a guy doesn't want to believe his gf is truly abstaining, then that's his own cup of tea, he should walk away.

But in all this, the one salient point you've made is that a boy/girl relationship is primarily about sex.

first paragraph - ofcourse not, just inform your lover once a while and see if he'll keep assisting. if he does it means it wasn't about sex. how many will do that? knowing it may impair his assistance.

second- no but in boyfriend and girlfriend relationship that's the farthest assumption, isn't receiving from boys the reason girls accept their proposal? and same to guys with the expectation of enjoying intercourse. both are not strangers who met on a subway and the guy chooses to help her pay for the train ticket.


2nd paragraph- whatever principle a lady coddle when a guy approaches her, she need to inform him and constantly remind him, I have been in a no sex relationship ,I stayed for two years, we romance, do all sort but never had sex because I respect her cannon and had other reasons to stay.

a balance must be maintained in a relationship, it is not necessary a lady should offer sex, if a guys sees other benefits he may stay. perhaps her humour,company and assistance. the fact is a lady must give me a reason to STAY.

From the comments so far, it's obvious you guys only want sex as a reward for whatever you give in a relationship yet you still go ahead screaming ladies have nothing to offer in a relationship aside sex...pathetic!

OP, I don't care if this story of yours is true or not because there are lots of ladies facing the same dilemma.

I'd give my church mind, relationship is beyond materials items and sex. It's about bringing out the best in each other, pls, always have that in mind. You should know when to say no to some financial and material gesture. That said, you've made up your mind to stay celibate, try not to compromise it be you a virgin or not. Do not compromise... Sex can not keep a relationship.

Lastking147:
Lmao encouraging rape
U b Badoo

lols.. why u dey call me badoo.. lols... i only typed i love this them give me 3 months ban

Putting the word supermarket bf undermines the guy .abegii, that's how u c him. Compromise should be made if u love him explain to him and show him. But i can say u don't . He's just some maga to u.

KingCheezyPuff:
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you males are hung up on the lack of sex and she has a real issue she needs assistance with.
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[color=#9999ff]You are celibate and you should have told him so early on in the relationship so he'd know what it'd be like in a relationship with you.
Tell yer suitors in future you are celibate and will not engage in sex until marriage.
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[color=#2ecc71]I suggest you find a man with like more nd or 1 who's willing 2 be celibate for the duration of yer relationship together.
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[color=#0099ff]As for the man you are with
There isn't much 2 do .
You've let him know where you stand he will ether stay or go
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If he does go......it's not the end.
There are other men .
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lols ,the fact remains she's a greedy girl she should have told him from the get go that no sex but the love for his money and generosity made her omitt this vital info ...Now I reckon she is now in love with him or his money. cos we can't tell and doesn't wanna loose him and also she doesn't wanna have sex which is totally cool ,in the end she will decide and end up loosing one of the options cos I don't see her having both...

my advice to you is simple pick one before you loose both ,,,




PS.... to the ladies who are advocates of taking guys cash, making em pay your bills and withholding sex under the pretext of i don't wanna have sex and feeling like you scammed the guy saying stuffs like he gave freely ,where the hell do you see a guy that gives freely u must know he is after something ,cos nothing is free not even in free town so stop seeing guys like your personal ATM cos its on this same forum I read about Amokeme God bless her soul she doesn't like taking stuffs from guys anyhow not cos she doesn't like to but cos she doesn't want said guys to make amorous demands of her ...So ladies pls its for your own good not all guys are nice some are animals who can't control themselves its better to be safe than sorry...